Wednesday, June 25, 2014 
Me: Good morning! Happy Wednesday! 8:43 AM
Kris: Same to you! Mwah! 9:13 AM
Me: Busy day? Hugs with groping. 9:26 AM
Kris: Pretty busy…not too bad. You? 11:01 AM
Me: Writing performance reviews for two people. Bleh. But making good progress! Can’t wait for it to be over! Hugs! 11:39 AM
Kris: “Rolling along” as u say…eah? I’m not sure “my performance” 😉 eval by u would be such a good one. (Ok…owe u another quarter.) 12:55 PM
From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Wednesday. June 25, 2014 4:48 PM
Re: Birthday wishes
Hi Sassy!
Thanks again for writing so much.  You have a great capacity for “attention to detail”…in MANY ways 🙂  Looking forward to checking off more items on the list!
Honestly, I’m a little stressed about Wife’s recent high level of suspicion.  I also suspect she’s getting fed crap from kids that’s feeding her suspicion–and now have at least 2 out of 4 of them pissed at me—-maybe 3 out of 4.  Our “talk” (to take place on Friday) is going to include me insisting that she eliminate them as “support” for her gripes against me.  
She’s never been able to “contain anxiety”—which is the main driver of that behavior.  She’s not necessarily trying to directly hurt me.  She just can’t “keep it to herself”—and ends up venting to the wrong people.  I told her if we can’t work things out (mostly around my lying about the bike and money in general)—I’d consider going to a marriage counselor.  But I’m NOT going to admit to having an affair.  I’ll have to get caught red-handed with indisputable evidence.  And I will NEVER “out” you—–EVER!!!!!
Me: Eating grapes. Thinking of you. And a boat. And.. yum. 9:30 PM
Kris: W not responding. Something bad is happening. just went to her work and they asked me to leave. She must have instructed them to not allow me there or quit job. May have been caught, but don’t know how. 9:38 PM
Me: So sorry to hear this. Try to stay calm. Hugs. Delete these texts. 🙂 9:47 PM
·       Jun 25 9:47 PM Kris: You there?
·       Jun 25 9:48 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 25 9:48 PM Kris: been deleting all texts for past few days…moot point since she’s not around to ask to see them
·       Jun 25 9:49 PM Sassy: But she might at any time… better safe than sorry.
·       Jun 25 9:49 PM Sassy: I know it’s a pain.
·       Jun 25 9:50 PM Kris: least of my worries. f I’m caught I don’t know what she’ll do…
·       Jun 25 9:50 PM Sassy: Can you say there is confidential client stuff… better she not look?
·       Jun 25 9:50 PM Sassy: Don’t get ahead of yourself. Stay in the present. Deal with right now.
·       Jun 25 9:51 PM Kris: I am…but I’m pretty sure I’m caught. do you remember when I accidentally sent a text meant for you to my son?
·       Jun 25 9:51 PM Sassy: yes
·       Jun 25 9:52 PM Sassy: what did it say?
·       Jun 25 9:52 PM Kris: it didn’t have a lot of “really juicy” stuff, but enough to incriminate me, and my son told my wife about it, who asked me about it. at first my answer was believed – just a “joke” meant to send to wife but accidentally sent to son. they believed it before, but not now…
·       Jun 25 9:52 PM Sassy: it doesn’t prove anything
·       Jun 25 9:53 PM Kris: no, but given the present circumstances my credibility is zero with my wife, son, and at least one daughter—maybe all if they’re “talking amongst themselves”.
·       Jun 25 9:53 PM Sassy: I’m sorry. I know this is scary.
·       Jun 25 9:54 PM Sassy: Try not to let the “what ifs” get to you
·       Jun 25 9:54 PM Kris: I pretty much know how this is likely to play out, since I’ve been through it before….
·       Jun 25 9:55 PM Sassy: yes?
·       Jun 25 9:55 PM Kris: well, sort of. if she reacts the way she has in the past. but hard to say for sure.
·       Jun 25 9:57 PM Kris: my biggest fear right now (other than losing my wife who I actually still love) is the increased financial stress this puts on me, since I was looking forward to her weekly  contribution to our bills over the next 8 weeks, which is now gone.
·       Jun 25 9:58 PM Sassy: You don’t know that
·       Jun 25 9:59 PM Kris: I know my wife – something very serious is going on. I think my son and one of my daughters have convinced her to “not let me manipulate her” and to separate from me and recruit people to confront me. that’s what she’s done in the past.
·       Jun 25 9:59 PM Sassy: How can I help you? I don’t have money but I’d like to ease your mind somehow
·       Jun 25 9:59 PM Sassy: over a motorcyle?
·       Jun 25 10:01 PM Sassy: Can you tell her you love her? Want to stay? Will do what it takes?
·       Jun 25 10:01 PM Kris: the text I sent my son had your nickname in it….”Sassy girl”…..that doesn’t put you at any risk but it betrays that I’m not talking to my wife..  My son must have shared that with one of my daughters because she texted me and said I was “disgusting”. when I said she didn’t know what was going on she texted back: “HI Sassy girl.”
·       Jun 25 10:01 PM Sassy: Uh oh
·       Jun 25 10:01 PM Sassy: Still doesn’t prove anything
·       Jun 25 10:02 PM Sassy: Take a deep breath.
·       Jun 25 10:02 PM Kris: no, but it’s more than a little suspicious. I just checked my phone bill to see if there was anything incriminating there. the total texting I do is not much more than my son’s and the rare times I talked on the phone to you are buried in hundreds of other calls, mostly to my wife
·       Jun 25 10:03 PM Sassy: Who can see your phone bill? Is it paper or online?
·       Jun 25 10:04 PM Kris: online. my son has access to it but I told him last week that I was taking him off because it was time for him to get his own plan, but he could access it now but there’s nothing incriminating on it
·       Jun 25 10:04 PM Sassy: Will it work for you to get all hurt, offended that they would think such things, etc?
·       Jun 25 10:05 PM Kris: no. screwed up too bad, starting with the bike, then the high speed chase the other night. my “story” is only believable if you’re an idiot, which no one in my family is.
·       Jun 25 10:06 PM Sassy: You can’t whine to them, say she is over-reacting?
·       Jun 25 10:06 PM Kris: no, they’re on her side now. I’m in the dog house and in deep shit.
·       Jun 25 10:06 PM Sassy: You had no idea the bike would be such a big deal, you will sell it… etc?
·       Jun 25 10:07 PM Kris: if I’m caught with you the bike becomes small potatoes.
·       Jun 25 10:07 PM Sassy: What worked last time to get you back in good graces?
·       Jun 25 10:08 PM Kris: it was different – the issue was my drinking. that’s not an issue now. I fixed that by stopping drinking, went to AA, went to marriage counseling.
·       Jun 25 10:08 PM Kris: now I’m just FUCKING CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Jun 25 10:09 PM Sassy: Oh honey…
·       Jun 25 10:09 PM Kris: you’re sweet to call me that…
·       Jun 25 10:09 PM Kris: and I’m also a liar…
·       Jun 25 10:10 PM Kris: and a cheating betrayer of my marriage vows…
·       Jun 25 10:10 PM Sassy: Has anyone said that?
·       Jun 25 10:10 PM Kris: not yet.but I “feel it in the air”
·       Jun 25 10:10 PM Kris: my daughter’s text “HI Sassy girl” pretty much said it
·       Jun 25 10:12 PM Kris: imagine the reaction of devout, conservative Christians. all but one of my kids are in that camp. They will be hurt, angry, indignant, outraged, and completely take my wife’s side for betraying her in such a horrible way.
·       Jun 25 10:13 PM Sassy: How can they know you have done anything?
·       Jun 25 10:13 PM Kris: I don’t know. I’m wondering if my son could hack into my Yahoo email account or yahoo messenger somehow…
·       Jun 25 10:14 PM Kris: I deleted all the conversation history in this chat.
·       Jun 25 10:14 PM Sassy: Good
·       Jun 25 10:15 PM Kris: and I deleted all but the last two emails from you…and ones I sent you…did you read what I wrote today?
·       Jun 25 10:15 PM Sassy: Yes.
·       Jun 25 10:15 PM Kris: so I’ll delete those too…later
·       Jun 25 10:16 PM Sassy: Good. It has to be a constant thing, sadly, the deleting
·       Jun 25 10:16 PM Kris: I know…and I may close the accounts altogether and create new ones.
·       Jun 25 10:16 PM Sassy: Good
·       Jun 25 10:17 PM Sassy: Use a different browser also
·       Jun 25 10:17 PM Sassy: Not the one she uses
·       Jun 25 10:17 PM Kris: but first I need to find out what my wife is actually thinking…and what she knows, that she can prove .I’ll deny anything she can’t prove but if she has hard evidence? I’m screwed.
·       Jun 25 10:18 PM Kris: at least the cops aren’t here to escort me out tonight the way they did the last three times. LOL
·       Jun 25 10:19 PM Sassy: Would any of your kids tell you?
·       Jun 25 10:19 PM Kris: then it was always after a “domestic incident” when I was drunk and intimidated her somehow.
·       Jun 25 10:19 PM Kris: tell me what?
·       Jun 25 10:19 PM Sassy: What’s going on?
·       Jun 25 10:19 PM Kris: no…my son has definitely gone silent.
·       Jun 25 10:20 PM Kris: and one daughter said, “I don’t want to have anything to do with you until you tell mom the truth.” the one who texted: “HI Sassy girl.”
·       Jun 25 10:20 PM Sassy: Wow. Your family is very different from mine.
·       Jun 25 10:20 PM Kris: you think?
·       Jun 25 10:22 PM Sassy: So lay low… stay quiet. Even when they start talking.
·       Jun 25 10:22 PM Sassy: Listen hard.
·       Jun 25 10:23 PM Kris: no one’s talking to me so I’m listening hard to silence right now. but that won’t last. my guess is I’ll get a visit from “ambassadors representing my wife”. maybe someone from the church…not sure.
·       Jun 25 10:24 PM Sassy: Ugh. I can not imagine airing family stuff to other people
·       Jun 25 10:25 PM Kris: I told her I would be willing to go to marriage counseling but that she needed to contain who she talked to. but she fears that by saying that I’m trying to cut her off from support and manipulate her.
·       Jun 25 10:26 PM Kris: the senior pastor she talked to was actually very moderate and reasonable in his advice to her.
·       Jun 25 10:26 PM Sassy: You say you like danger… is it worth all this?
·       Jun 25 10:26 PM Sassy: Oh?
·       Jun 25 10:27 PM Kris: wait…go back to your question. is it worth all this…what do you mean?
·       Jun 25 10:27 PM Sassy: This seems like a bad time for you… I wonder if our good times and the rides on the bike etc. balance it out?
·       Jun 25 10:29 PM Kris: the bike is forgiveable and if I sold it that would go away eventually. An affair is on a completely different level. I don’t want to lose my wife and I never wanted to hurt her either. my plan was to have an affair. not get caught, not lose my wife.
·       Jun 25 10:30 PM Sassy: What did the minister say?
·       Jun 25 10:30 PM Kris: he knew about both the bike and the car chase.
·       Jun 25 10:31 PM Kris: he told her to take a step back. calm down and try to talk to me and see if we could work things out before doing anything drastic.
·       Jun 25 10:31 PM Sassy: That seems very fair.
·       Jun 25 10:31 PM Sassy: Why isn’t she doing that?
·       Jun 25 10:32 PM Sassy: What does she think happened with the car chase?
·       Jun 25 10:33 PM Kris: if it was only about the bike I think she would. but if someone’s been “whispering in her ear” or she has hard evidence that I’ve been having an affair…..she wouldn’t  be able to handle that alone. and I wouldn’t expect her to.  I told her we might not be able to resolve simpler things (like the bike or money in general) and if we came to a stalemate I’d be willing to go to marriage counseling but that she needed to stop talking to “just everyone”…including our kids.
·       Jun 25 10:34 PM Kris: she doesn’t know for sure…but she said she thought she saw someone in the truck and my whole story doesn’t make sense for the way I behaved (which it doesn’t).
·       Jun 25 10:34 PM Sassy: If there is some proof, can you say it’s over, you made a mistake, forgive me?
·       Jun 25 10:35 PM Kris: I would have to. if there was any hope to not end up divorced, but I don’t know if I would or keep trying to get away with it, after a while.
·       Jun 25 10:35 PM Sassy: Did you take the chair out of the closet?
·       Jun 25 10:36 PM Kris: no but I will right now. give me a sec .be right back…
·       Jun 25 10:36 PM Kris: back… chair is gone
·       Jun 25 10:37 PM Kris: hiding stuff is a full-time job
·       Jun 25 10:37 PM Sassy: Yes.
·       Jun 25 10:37 PM Sassy: How did the truck owner react?
·       Jun 25 10:39 PM Kris: not good but not “ballistic” – I’m paying a friend who’s a semi-retired, professional mechanic and auto body man for probably over 50 years to fix it good as new. will return it in better condition than I borrowed it. not sure what it will cost. guessing $400-500. called friend and he was thankful…returning truck to him tomorrow.
·       Jun 25 10:40 PM Sassy: phew
·       Jun 25 10:40 PM Kris: how does this effect how you feel about us?
·       Jun 25 10:41 PM Sassy: I feel like it should but it doesn’t
·       Jun 25 10:41 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Jun 25 10:41 PM Sassy: Are you worried I’ll run screaming?
·       Jun 25 10:41 PM Kris: no…you’re too unflappable
·       Jun 25 10:42 PM Kris: but everyone has their limits. I’ve worked hard to convince you I won’t put you at any risk. if you trust that, that’s most of what should concern you…I think.
·       Jun 25 10:43 PM Kris: if I get caught I know for a fact I will take 100% of the blame…and no one will be remotely interested in who you really are.
·       Jun 25 10:45 PM Sassy: Worry about you.
·       Jun 25 10:46 PM Kris: why?
·       Jun 25 10:46 PM Sassy: I appreciate your reassurances.
·       Jun 25 10:46 PM Kris: what do you mean “worry about you”?
·       Jun 25 10:47 PM Sassy: I worry about you. wish I could do more.
·       Jun 25 10:48 PM Kris: there’s nothing you can do…except what you’re doing. be someone to talk to and be here for me for now. don’t know what’s going to happen for sure…but having a serious feeling it’s not going to be good.
·       Jun 25 10:48 PM Sassy: Might be able to say it was just online flirting… nothing physical… depending on what they know
·       Jun 25 10:49 PM Kris: I’ll lie if I can get away with it…but I’m anticipating a “little game” of “who blinks first” in terms of people telling what they know or don’t know. do you know what I mean?
·       Jun 25 10:50 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 25 10:51 PM Kris: when you say you feel like this should effect us but doesn’t…can you explain that a little more?
·        Jun 25 10:53 PM Sassy: In theory this is messy, not fun, inconvenient, maybe dangerous… a sensible woman might back away
·       Jun 25 10:53 PM Sassy: but I don’t feel like it
·       Jun 25 10:53 PM Sassy: Maybe because my marriage is open, not much risk except they could get nasty
·       Jun 25 10:54 PM Kris: who could get nasty?
·       Jun 25 10:54 PM Sassy: your family
·       Jun 25 10:55 PM Sassy: but I am not really thinking about that… more about you
·       Jun 25 10:55 PM Kris: no…they will NOT care who you are. it will be ALL on me. I know them well enough to say that with 100% confidence. I will sadly, voluntarily “cut you loose” in a second if I thought anyone would do anything vindictive directed at you…NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Jun 25 10:56 PM Sassy: I have a feeling it will work out.
·       Jun 25 10:56 PM Sassy: There will be a rough patch here… but in a bit it will calm down
·       Jun 25 10:57 PM Sassy: You love her. She loves you. You want to be there. She needs you.
·       Jun 25 10:57 PM Sassy: You are human.
·       Jun 25 10:57 PM Sassy: She has forgiven you for worse. She will again?
·       Jun 25 10:57 PM Kris: hope so but you and I also now have some complicating factors. that does change things that we’ll need to deal with.
·       Jun 25 10:57 PM Sassy: Try very hard not to talk much.
·       Jun 25 10:58 PM Kris: ME? “TALK MUCH”? What on earth are you talking about?
·       Jun 25 10:58 PM Sassy: Apply your pro skills here.
·       Jun 25 10:59 PM Kris:  I may simply become “too much work” or “not available enough” or “too dangerous” for you.
·       Jun 25 10:59 PM Sassy: We’ll cross that bridge if we have to
·       Jun 25 10:59 PM Sassy: I haven’t seen Philip since Sept. 2011…
·       Jun 25 10:59 PM Sassy: I am still talking to him every day, listening to him…
·       Jun 25 11:00 PM Kris: that’s different. I know you like me but not like that.
·       Jun 25 11:01 PM Kris: not fishing, but it’s true.
·       Jun 25 11:02 PM Sassy: We have been very sloppy… if things calm down and you want to continue, we can be a lot more circumspect and still have fun
·       Jun 25 11:02 PM Kris: you haven’t been sloppy. how do you think I have?
·       Jun 25 11:03 PM Sassy: We have taken a lot of risks we don’t have to keep taking
·       Jun 25 11:04 PM Kris: like you staying at my house, which led to the “car chase”…and almost getting caught when she came home?
·       Jun 25 11:05 PM Sassy: Let’s not worry about us now. You worry about you and your wife and making peace.
·       Jun 25 11:05 PM Sassy: Lean on me. I’m here.
·       Jun 25 11:06 PM Sassy: You can think about a morning BJ when you need to .  : )
·       Jun 25 11:06 PM Kris: I appreciate that. I’m going to start having “little nightmares” jumping up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night not able to sleep. worrying about money. lack of her income. mind will be racing.
·        Jun 25 11:07 PM Kris: I don’t know, might get “shut down” altogether. although it would be the first time if it happened. since you’re BJs never failed to get me off.
·       Jun 25 11:07 PM Kris: the biggest stressor right now is not knowing…
·       Jun 25 11:08 PM Kris: what she really knows…what she’s thinking…
·       Jun 25 11:08 PM Kris: what she plans on doing…
·       Jun 25 11:08 PM Kris: my guess is a temporary separation with the goal of eventual reconciliation…
·       Jun 25 11:09 PM Kris: if she flat out divorced me right now…that would completely surprise me….after over 30 years of marriage.
·       Jun 25 11:10 PM Kris: and I HAVE been faithful to her for the last 25 years, until you. (though “faithful” and “unfaithful” don’t fit your “world view”).
·       Jun 25 11:11 PM Sassy: I can’t see how I am worth all this angst
·       Jun 25 11:12 PM Kris: I knew what the stakes were. I took the risk .if I have to pay for it that’s my decision, not yours. you’re not the cause of my angst, you’re the source of my “illicit, exciting pleasure”.
·       Jun 25 11:13 PM Kris: I went too far….with risk taking not necessary. liking danger is one thing – being stupid is another. need to be smarter.
·       Jun 25 11:15 PM Sassy: When are you supposed to see her? Tomorrow?
·       Jun 25 11:15 PM Sassy: If she is not at work, where is she?
·       Jun 25 11:17 PM Kris: don’t know. she might have quit…couldn’t handle the stress of her anxiety. or she could be working and asked the director to tell me I couldn’t visit but I doubt that. I think he wouldn’t want her working there under those conditions, since she would be a “liability” to him at that point. she was an idiot and told him some of what was going on.
·       Jun 25 11:18 PM Kris: she could be staying at a friend’s house, but I don’t know whose.
·       Jun 25 11:18 PM Kris: she was supposed to come home tomorrow night and return late Friday or early Saturday.
·       Jun 25 11:19 PM Kris: not happening now I’m 99.99% sure.
·       Jun 25 11:19 PM Kris: want to come over?
·       Jun 25 11:19 PM Sassy: You are so bad.
·       Jun 25 11:19 PM Kris: LOL
·       Jun 25 11:19 PM Sassy: I was wondering if you should come down here.
·       Jun 25 11:20 PM Sassy: Disappear.
·       Jun 25 11:20 PM Sassy: Probably not. Need to stick to the high ground.
·       Jun 25 11:20 PM Kris: I could do whatever I want, but my stress level is going to effect my libido. even your famous BJs may not be enough.
·       Jun 25 11:21 PM Kris: it doesn’t matter where I am. if I’m not with her…or she doesn’t want to be with me.
·       Jun 25 11:21 PM Sassy: It does matter.
·       Jun 25 11:21 PM Kris: at some point I might have to decide. can I keep doing this….or not? if I want to keep my wife.  but as you say, we’ll cross that bridge if we have to if/when we come to it.
·       Jun 25 11:22 PM Kris: why does it matter?
·       Jun 25 11:22 PM Sassy: You need to work on your “How can you THINK THAT?!”
·       Jun 25 11:22 PM Sassy: “I LOVE YOU! I’ve loved you for YEARS! I will always love you!”
·       Jun 25 11:24 PM Kris: Yes. and she’ll say you’ve cheated on me before and now you’ve just replace the craziness of your drinking with acting crazy sober. you’re a “dry drunk” who’s just as crazy as if you were drinking – buy a brand new bike and hide it, listen to loud rock music and dance around the house, grow your hair long, out late all the time with who knows who doing who know what. blah, blah, blah…
·        Jun 25 11:24 PM Sassy: Will she be better off with you or without you? Does she like being alone?
·       Jun 25 11:25 PM Kris: No….she can’t stand being alone but she might consider “replacing me”. but I doubt it.
·       Jun 25 11:26 PM Kris: but she can live separated from me for an extended period of time…if she feels “unsafe” or really hurt…as she does now.
·       Jun 25 11:26 PM Sassy: I don’t see how any of this makes her unsafe. I know women who are unsafe… she’s not in the same galaxy
·       Jun 25 11:27 PM Sassy: But you know her.
·       Jun 25 11:28 PM Sassy: I can’t believe all this woohaa over a motorcycle
·       Jun 25 11:28 PM Kris: emotionally unsafe because a man she thought would always tell her the truth, be sexually faithful to her, love her…has lied to her, been sexually unfaithful to her. not acted in a way that real love acts. that’s in a world that’s not so “unreal”. right or wrong it’s the world most people live in…which is proven by how hard people who have affairs have to work to hide them (who are not in open marriages like you).
·       Jun 25 11:29 PM Kris: if old flame told you the truth about women he was with, you might have been a little hurt…but what hurts more is being lied to…right?
·       Jun 25 11:30 PM Sassy: So you made a mistake. You are very sorry. Why is she at Defcon5 over it?
·       Jun 25 11:31 PM Sassy: Why is she betraying your confidences to the entire family, church and probably the convenience store clerk?
·       Jun 25 11:31 PM Kris: You make me laugh.  I think you pretend to not understand other people just to make the point that you violently disagree with the world they’ve created…that you disagree with. so you make me laugh…
·       Jun 25 11:32 PM Sassy: I was totally horrified by her on Sunday. I wouldn’t stay with someone who yelled at me that way. They could do it exactly once.
·       Jun 25 11:32 PM Kris: I’m laughing again…
·       Jun 25 11:33 PM Sassy: I mean it. I am shocked that you put up with that. Totally disrespectful, mean…
·       Jun 25 11:33 PM Kris: I’m not so calm myself. always nice to you…but give it right back to her…in ways I wouldn’t with you…mainly because you don’t give me any reason to even think about it (plus I still want a BJ). LOL
·       Jun 25 11:34 PM Sassy: I so should not have said any of that. I need to stay out of the middle of this, just be on your side.
·       Jun 25 11:35 PM Kris: I don’t mind. I think it’s amazing you even are willing to invest any time in any of this at all, since you basically just want a good fucking every now and then (which you’re still waiting for).
·       Jun 25 11:35 PM Kris: do I owe you another quarter?
·       Jun 25 11:36 PM Sassy: Does crying work?
·       Jun 25 11:36 PM Kris: ME crying?
·       Jun 25 11:38 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 25 11:38 PM Kris: you mean to elicit sympathy from my wife?
·       Jun 25 11:38 PM Sassy: You may have to break out the big weapons here
·       Jun 25 11:38 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 25 11:39 PM Sassy: Silence. Crying.
·       Jun 25 11:39 PM Sassy: Looking shocked, hurt and offended
·       Jun 25 11:39 PM Kris: omg…it’s never happened…ever. I’m either pissed off or scared and quiet. I don’t do “crying”. she would NEVER believe that and there’s no way I feel like it. I feel genuinely sorry for things, but don’t cry much. very rare…..couldn’t fake it.
·       Jun 25 11:40 PM Kris: no, that would be too much…just quiet denial and lying is as much as I can muster…”stories” I hope she’ll believe…
·       Jun 25 11:40 PM Sassy: You need to react like a wronged man, accused unfairfy
·       Jun 25 11:41 PM Kris: I did a little…but you can “over play” that hand so that it’s obvious…and I need to know what hard evidence she has first.
·       Jun 25 11:41 PM Sassy: RIght
·       Jun 25 11:41 PM Sassy: “Why would you think that?!”
·       Jun 25 11:42 PM Kris: it’s like in MacBeth: “Thou dost protest too much…” familiar with that line?
·       Jun 25 11:42 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Jun 25 11:43 PM
Kris: so no…loud protesting is in itself “suspect” and telling of guilt
·       Jun 25 11:43 PM Sassy: Not loud protesting. Quiet. Shocked looking. About to cry.
·       Jun 25 11:43 PM Kris: can’t do it.
·       Jun 25 11:44 PM Kris: I can deny and lie but not cry.
·       Jun 25 11:44 PM Sassy: It will get them to tell you what they think they know
·       Jun 25 11:45 PM Kris: I’ll do it by asking questions, not faking crying. I’ll say things like, “what are you accusing me of and why? I know it was wrong to buy a bike and hide it for two months but now you’re jumping to all kinds of conclusions about all kinds of other things for no reason” blah, blah, blah….
·       Jun 25 11:46 PM Kris: I’ll keep pressing it…”playing dumb” trying to get it out of them that way.
·       Jun 25 11:47 PM Kris: for example…I know for a fact that my son forwarded the text that was supposed to go to you to my daughter… but I won’t say anything. although if they’re talking to each other (which they probably are) they know I’m smart enough to figure that one out. not exactly “rocket science”…..
·       Jun 25 11:48 PM Kris: I’m sorry you have to engage me in this ridiculously stressful conversation. not what you signed up for.
·       Jun 25 11:49 PM Sassy: Don’t worry about that… I like helping you if I can
·       Jun 25 11:49 PM Sassy: Maybe I’ll learn something!
·       Jun 25 11:49 PM Sassy: And I want things to calm down
·       Jun 25 11:50 PM Kris: omg….you just keep making me laugh. “learn something”? you’re a riot. maybe you don’t undestand my weird sense of humor. are you catching on?
·       Jun 25 11:51 PM Sassy: to what?
·       Jun 25 11:51 PM Kris: my weird sense of humor.
·       Jun 25 11:51 PM Sassy: Glad you can laugh.
·       Jun 25 11:52 PM Sassy: Can you sleep? You’re going to need your wits about you.
·       Jun 25 11:52 PM Kris: probably not well but it’s getting late. should probably let you go. you’re great comfort. thank you.
·       Jun 25 11:52 PM Sassy: You are most welcome. I’m on the edge of my chair wondering what will happen.
·       Jun 25 11:53 PM Kris: you’ll find out soon enough I suspect. nite sweet Sassy. Mwah!
·       Jun 25 11:55 PM Sassy: Mwah!

Giddy Kris

Monday, June 16, 2014
Me: Good morning sexy man! 7:47 AM
From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Monday, June 16, 2014 7:53 AM
Subject: like a kid at Christmas
Hi Sassy,
I woke up like a kid at Christmas this morning–since I heard through the grapevine that Santa was going to grant me almost everything on my wish list (or in this case, B-day wish list!)
So here’s the thing…I went to bed last night thinking about “options”–and woke up early doing the same.  I can drive myself crazy imagining the possible “variations.”  So I’ll try to make this simple (if that’s possible).  Any of these have certain “conditions” and “logistics” that would need to be met or worked out.  
“In general” I would love to spend as much time as you think you’d like to with me (or think you could put up with.. :).  For me, that would mean as much as:
1) Pick you up either Wed or Thurs night from work and bring you home that night. 
(Pick you up at 5:00pm?  Leave my house at 10:00pm or 11:00pm to have you home by 11:00pm or 12:00 midnight?).
2)  Pick you up Saturday morning and bring you home Sunday night.  That would include: A) Either having lunch with you and your mom, or B) You not seeing your mom that day—which may not be an option.
3)  Pick you up Saturday after you’re finished lunch with mom and bring you home Sunday night.
The only thing about #1 is that after maybe having dinner with you and you showing me your office (if you wanted to throw those two things in too) you’d be traveling with me round trip about 2 hours for 2-3 hours of sex (assuming we left around 7:00pm–arrived at my house around 8:00pm–and left my house around 10:00pm or 11:00pm for you to arrive home by 11:00pm or 12 midnight.  If we did that, we’d be likely “getting down to business” right away when we got to my house.  Which is fine with me–if that’s what you want to do.  Could give you the “grand tour” of the place during the daytime some other time.
My real preference would be to spend the whole weekend with you and go boating. The weather is forecast to be only “partly cloudy” (which means “mostly sunny”) and in the mid-70s (so like Goldilocks–not too hot and not too cold–almost “just right”).  Boating has the logistical need for me to find a truck–but I now have two friends who potentially will rent me theirs.
There is a little bit of “adventurous drama” that would need to happen on my B-day.  Namely, I would need to take a short break to ride my bike to where my wife is working and “break the news” to her.  You could be the first one I report the results to.  Should only take about an hour to ride over there–show it to her–tell her–and get her reaction (not good at first–but hoping “ok with” later).
ANYHOW….give all this some thought and either shoot back an email or maybe we can chat tonight about the details.  What you want to do–and when–also effects what day or days I ask my wife to take off this week.  That hasn’t been determined yet either–since she’s just starting her first day of work today.  It hasn’t been determined for sure with her employer.  But hopefully they can work with her and have some flexibility.  My request of her day off depends on what YOU want/can do….
So eagerly looking forward to your reply : D ….
Afalfa (running down stairs to open his presents!)
P.S.—Hope this is kinda fun–and doesn’t stress you out too much.  For me it’s a BLAST!
P.P.S.–Thanks for the incognito window tip!  Using it here and going forward.  Whatever might cause the sad ending of our affair (hopefully in the very distant future)–the last thing I want it to be is getting caught!
Kris: Good morning sultry Sass! Just sent u email. Know u have limited time today…but think about and let me know what u think. Maybe chat about details tonite? Mwah! 8:01 AM
From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Monday, June 16, 2014 8:05 AM
Subject: Fw: like a kid at Christmas
Ooops!   Made a big mistake on what I had in mind for a week night–either Wed or Thursday.  I wouldn’t bring you home the same night—you would spend the night and I would bring you to work in the morning!  Makes a big difference.  So change/edit #1 with that in mind!
Kris: Oops! Made a mistake in first email. Just forwarded/resent it with important correction!
 8:07 AM
Kris: hope your training is going well. parts of emails will make u giggle…or if nothing else confirm my craziness. just tryin’ to have some fun…which you’re a LOT of! 12:06 PM
Kris: W left couple hours ago to start work…can’t stand the loneliness. know anyone who might come over and comfort me? 12:18 PM
Me: Awww… you poor fellow! I might be convinced to help you out. I survived training, despite the boss sending me three different nasty emails. Then I jousted with the IRS for my mom… looks like she forgot a quarterly tax payment in 2012. Geesh. Hope you had a good day! 5:30 PM
Kris: Bad day…fight with kid about money…student loans I co-signed that he’s late paying. Dings my credit. Going to gym now. U free to chat later? 5:54 PM
Me: Oh dear. Sorry to hear that. I’d be happy to chat. 5:59 PM
Kris: K…I’ll try not to make it too late. Dying to hear how you’ll be “helping me out” 😉 6:18 PM
Kris: Leaving gym to put bike away…ETA on chat bout 10. 9:33 PM
Me: Yay! 9:38 PM
Kris: At shed…in need of your sweet, positive attitude like “Yay!” One little word picks me up… you’re sweet…thank u. 9:53 PM
Kris: Online 🙂 10:27 PM
From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Monday, June 16, 2014 11:36 AM
Re: 10 Tips 
Hi Sassy,
Interesting article–especially the two big questions to answer “No” to:  “Do you love her?” and “Did you ever have sex with her in our bed?”  Basically the advice is “lie though your teeth” and just answer “no” to both questions–even if it’s not true.  I’m not sure I would handle it that way.  
If I got caught today I’d answer the first question by saying: “She’s a good person and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like her–but I don’t love with her the way I love you.  She’s been saying she’s planning on sticking a vibrator in my ass, or using it on my cock, or sucking on my cock and stroking it and sticking a vibrator in my ass all at the same time–which I think might be fun and feel good–and you won’t.  So, no, I don’t love her the way I love you.”
I’d answer the second question (“Did you ever have sex with her in our bed?) by saying:  “I was planning to–but you ruined my plans by catching me.”  
(hope to never have to even consider using any part of this advice!)  

From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Monday, June 16, 2014 11:52 AM
Re: Fw: like a kid at Christmas
OR…IF YOU WERE A REAL GLUTTON FOR PUNISHMENT–ADD TO #2:  “Drop you off at work Monday morning!!!—would make 2 whole days of “being with Bill”—may be way too much “Bill” for you though!!!

If nothing else, you have to like “being wanted” and “me wanting to spend lots of time with you “even doing “other” (“mundane” as you call them) things…..right?
·       Jun 16 10:24 PM Kris: hi
·       Jun 16 10:28 PM Sassy: hiya
·       Jun 16 10:28 PM Kris: how u doin?
·       Jun 16 10:29 PM Sassy: okay. You?
·       Jun 16 10:29 PM Kris: not so great, but don’t really want to talk about it. will another time. Tired, little down…but happy to be chatting with you!
·       Jun 16 10:30 PM Kris: so how was the training?
·       Jun 16 10:31 PM Sassy: yucky
·       Jun 16 10:31 PM Kris: how come?
·       Jun 16 10:32 PM Sassy: poorly put together
·       Jun 16 10:32 PM Kris: that sucks…feel like a waste of time?
·       Jun 16 10:32 PM Sassy: yup
·       Jun 16 10:32 PM Kris: and boss sent 3 nasty emails?
·       Jun 16 10:32 PM Sassy: yup
·       Jun 16 10:33 PM Sassy: I spent 2 hrs looking at job ads tonight
·       Jun 16 10:33 PM Kris: well when it’s time it’s time and at least your being proactive. find anything?
·       Jun 16 10:34 PM Sassy: 3 that might work
·       Jun 16 10:34 PM Kris: wow!
·       Jun 16 10:34 PM Sassy: I put them into “my cart” to look at more closely tomorrow
·       Jun 16 10:35 PM Kris: isn’t there a time by which your boss might stay or leave?
·       Jun 16 10:35 PM Sassy: Yes. July 1
·       Jun 16 10:35 PM Sassy: Should know either way very soon
·       Jun 16 10:35 PM Kris: if she leaves would you be inclined to stay or still feel like you could use a change either way?
·       Jun 16 10:36 PM Sassy: I’d probably stay awhile… depends on who would take her place
·       Jun 16 10:36 PM Sassy: and whether I could undo some of the mess she’s made
·       Jun 16 10:37 PM Sassy: Did you hear from your wife? Is she okay there?
·       Jun 16 10:37 PM Kris: I always think of the line from The Who that I endlessly hear listening to my “classic rock” music: “Meet the new boss…same as the old boss!”
·       Jun 16 10:37 PM Kris: she’s home tonight
·       Jun 16 10:37 PM Sassy: oh?
·       Jun 16 10:38 PM Kris: she called and left me a voice mail and said…
·       Jun 16 10:38 PM Kris: that she didn’t really start until orientation tomorrow but she brought all her stuff there today…then came home.
·        Jun 16 10:38 PM Kris: she called me and asked if I was going to the gym…said she would meet me there.
·       Jun 16 10:39 PM Kris: but I was on my bike so I didn’t answer her.
·       Jun 16 10:39 PM Sassy: eep
·       Jun 16 10:39 PM Kris: went to the gym assuming she wouldn’t be there, which she wasn’t
·       Jun 16 10:39 PM Sassy: phew
·       Jun 16 10:39 PM Kris: she has “good intentions” but doesn’t actually go as much as me.
·       Jun 16 10:40 PM Kris: so I just show up, cruise the parking lot, look for her car. if it’s not there just go in.
·       Jun 16 10:40 PM Kris: only had one close call.
·       Jun 16 10:40 PM Kris: but Saturday is “Doomsday”…..then it will all be out in the open.
·       Jun 16 10:41 PM Kris: except for YOU. my luscisous, naughty secret….
·       Jun 16 10:42 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Jun 16 10:42 PM Kris: I’d like you to do something for me…
·       Jun 16 10:43 PM Sassy: What?
·       Jun 16 10:44 PM Kris: if you don’t know what you want to do or can do…I’d like you to decide what you want to do, as far as us getting together, either during the week or weekend. my brain is cooked with all my “endless scheming and planning and fantasizing.” what I really want to know is what YOU really want to do. not what I want to do but what YOU want to do…. anything. don’t care what it is. I want to do whatever you want to do. so think about it and tell me soon…if you don’t know right now. ok?
·       Jun 16 10:45 PM Sassy: I have been thinking about it.
·       Jun 16 10:46 PM Kris: ok. just let me know when you know and I really want you to do what you really want. I know I’m repeating myself but sometimes I talk too much and plan too much, so I’m ready to “listen” a little more right now. so tell me when you figure it out…ok?
·       Jun 16 10:48 PM Sassy: I worry about going to your place until you know how your wife’s job is going to work
·       Jun 16 10:49 PM Kris: you mean when I know for sure when my wife is definitely going to be there and what day off she has?
·       Jun 16 10:49 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 16 10:49 PM Sassy: and that she is really going to do it
·       Jun 16 10:49 PM Kris: do what?
·       Jun 16 10:49 PM Sassy: work there
·       Jun 16 10:50 PM Kris: oh…she is DEFINITELY going to be working there. she is contracted by an agency…and she HAS to be there 24 hours a day 6 days a week. her orientation starts tomorrow…
·       Jun 16 10:51 PM Sassy: ooof… I need a hug
·       Jun 16 10:51 PM Kris: how come?
·       Jun 16 10:51 PM Sassy: This stupid work crap… can’t make my brain shut up about it.
·       Jun 16 10:52 PM Sassy: I need my brain for fun with you!
·       Jun 16 10:54 PM Kris: ok….so we need to figure out a way to get together. I just asked my wife and she said she asked for the day off I asked her to.
·       Jun 16 10:55 PM Kris: which is from 5:30pm on Thursday to 9:30pm on Friday.
·       Jun 16 10:55 PM Kris: all the rest of the time she HAS to be there.
·        Jun 16 10:55 PM Sassy: Hunh. I’m betting they tell her she can be off other times
·       Jun 16 10:56 PM Sassy: She will find ways to come home and check on you
·       Jun 16 10:56 PM Kris: I doubt that
·       Jun 16 10:57 PM Sassy: I can’t imagine her staying away for real
·       Jun 16 10:58 PM Kris: wife just said she has to be there all the time
·       Jun 16 10:59 PM Sassy: interesting
·       Jun 16 11:00 PM Sassy: Let me get back to work and look at my calendar. I will figure it out tomorrow.
·       Jun 16 11:00 PM Kris: ok.
·       Jun 16 11:00 PM Sassy: I have a 9 am meeting, then two hours of finance training, then a 2 pm meeting
·       Jun 16 11:00 PM Sassy: Bleh
·       Jun 16 11:00 PM Kris: who are the meetings with?
·       Jun 16 11:01 PM Sassy: First one is with boss, second is with the team running a big conference in August
·       Jun 16 11:01 PM Kris: first one’s obviously “yucky”. what about the second one?
·       Jun 16 11:01 PM Sassy: not sure
·       Jun 16 11:02 PM Sassy: and finance training is awful
·       Jun 16 11:02 PM Sassy: I have to keep thinking… I can do this.
·       Jun 16 11:02 PM Sassy: that which does not kill me makes me stronger
·       Jun 16 11:02 PM Kris: I wish I had some money. I’d just get a room for us and jump your bones but I’m broke.
·       Jun 16 11:02 PM Sassy: Thank you for being the bright light in my life right now!
·       Jun 16 11:03 PM Sassy: Hubby’s chair that he couldn’t figure out how to buy on Saturday?
·       Jun 16 11:03 PM Sassy: It was $200 then… $300 today
·       Jun 16 11:03 PM Kris: what?!
·       Jun 16 11:03 PM Sassy: Yup.
·       Jun 16 11:04 PM Sassy: I had budgeted $100
·       Jun 16 11:04 PM Kris: oh wow!….so just not going to be able to get it?
·       Jun 16 11:04 PM Sassy: No, he bought it anyway
·       Jun 16 11:05 PM Kris: oops! how do you respond/feel when that happens?
·        Jun 16 11:05 PM Sassy: sick to my stomach
·       Jun 16 11:05 PM Kris: money stress really sucks. have a bit of it myself lately. hate it
·       Jun 16 11:06 PM Sassy: so I get work mess, dealing with the IRS mess, and the chair mess… must be MONDAY!
·       Jun 16 11:06 PM Sassy: Tomorrow has to be better on some front.
·       Jun 16 11:06 PM Kris: Let’s hope so! I could use some good news too! speaking of getting together….
·       Jun 16 11:07 PM Kris: I was thinking about your proposal to have dinner with you and H. amazing I would even consider it since just the thought of being with you at your place was almost “inconceivable” not that long ago. but been thinking about it.  might be “interesting”. were you serious?
·       Jun 16 11:08 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 16 11:09 PM Kris: ok…what the hell…set it up… do it
·       Jun 16 11:09 PM Sassy: I pose some interesting challenges for you, don’t I?
·       Jun 16 11:09 PM Kris: more than a little!
·       Jun 16 11:09 PM Sassy: But you like it, mostly?
·       Jun 16 11:10 PM Kris: Definitely! wanted “different”…sure getting it! maybe not exactly as I imagined…but that part of the fun too!
·       Jun 16 11:10 PM Sassy: “What’d you do tonight Kris?” “Oh… I had dinner with my gf and her husband.”
·       Jun 16 11:10 PM Kris: omg…so bizarre!
·       Jun 16 11:11 PM Sassy: “Wait… what? How can your gf have a husband? That you can eat with?” “Um, it just… works”
·       Jun 16 11:13 PM Kris: very strange…. how did I get here?!
·       Jun 16 11:15 PM Sassy: I should go to bed. I wish I could take you with me!
·       Jun 16 11:16 PM Kris: so if we can’t have sex (so sad) we could do some other things. like you could show me where you work or have lunch or dinner or SOMETHING till I know for sure when my wife is definitely not going to be here and you feel comfortable and safe about it OR your H goes out and you can invite me there again!
·       Jun 16 11:16 PM Kris: ok….I wish I could too! hopefully soon. nite nite, sweet sexy Sassy!
·       Jun 16 11:16 PM Sassy: I am working on that
·       Jun 16 11:17 PM Kris: ok…I’ll trust you to figure something out. look at your calendar at work and I may know more definitely about my wife’s schedule after tomorrow.
·       Jun 16 11:17 PM Sassy: Sorry I can’t plan better… juggling too many things. But it will get better.
·       Jun 16 11:17 PM Kris: don’t worry….as you say….we’ll figure it out. when you do…just let me know…in the meantime… love texting and chatting….Mwah!
·       Jun 16 11:18 PM Sassy: Mwah!

His birthday wishes

Sunday, June 15, 2014
Kris: Wait a minute! How come I’m only “pretty” smart?! 😉 Chatting with you later is on my “must do” list (after putting in veggie garden. Good morning! (What “normal” people usually start with. 😉 8:52 AM
Kris: I’m gonna shoot dat kwazy wabbit…buzzin round in holes he don’t belong in! (keep thinkin sexy thoughts bout me…try putting 100.7 fm on low, sit at cum-puter (pun), find something to do to get horny, look at sofa, think of me) 😉 11:34 AM
Kris: sleep well? how’s day goin? 1:56 PM
Me: Slept until noon! Puttering around. You? 1:58 PM
Kris: good. went overboard buying veggies – couldn’t get all in car so running back now to pick up rest then spend rest of day putting in garden but going to stop early enough so not too late to chat, if you’re free and want to later. 🙂 2:03 PM
Me: I am shocked that you bought too much. 😉 What veggies? Hubby and I are off on an adventure. Will ping when we return. 2:17 PM
Kris: i KNEW u’d think that! Enjoy! later gator! 🙂 2:22 PM
Kris: give u list later…it’s LOOOONNNG! 2:23 PM
Kris: still out & about? 8:28 PM
Me: Home now! 9:24 PM
Kris: k. gimme 10 🙂 9:42 PM
Kris: having trouble signing in. u? 10:05 PM
Kris: argh! 10:05 PM
Me: Sorry to hear that. No worries. I’m not going anywhere. 🙂 10:07 PM

·      Jun 15 10:08 PM  Kris: hi. FINALLY! something wrong either with computer or Messenger – took forever to sign on. anyhow tell me about your day  : )
·       Jun 15 10:08 PM Sassy: I had so much fun!
·       Jun 15 10:08 PM Kris: great! tell me about it!
·       Jun 15 10:09 PM Sassy: We drove up to Gloucester, ate at Lobsta Land. It was my dad’s favorite place, and I had his favorite dish. Felt right for Father’s Day!
·       Jun 15 10:09 PM Kris: cool!
·       Jun 15 10:09 PM Kris: stay there till home…or go someplace else after?
·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Sassy: We drove over to the Marshall’s Farm Stand – beautiful flowers and veggies and fruit
·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Kris: nice! my kind of fun!
·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Sassy: then out to Wingaersheek Beach at low tide!
·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Kris: awesome! wanna go for a boat ride with you there!
·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Sassy: I actually got Hubby out of the car for a walk
·       Jun 15 10:11 PM Sassy: It was blissful… 75, breezy, hardly anyone there…
·       Jun 15 10:11 PM Kris: sounds wonderful!
·       Jun 15 10:11 PM Sassy: So perfect
·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Sassy: A fine use of a beautiful day
·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Kris: I’m really glad for you. lots of times you report a struggle to have good times with H like that. glad you had some much fun!
·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Sassy: He was in a good mood today.
·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Kris: great!
·       Jun 15 10:13 PM Sassy: I think the sunshine and some exercise help
·       Jun 15 10:13 PM Kris: definitely!
·       Jun 15 10:13 PM Sassy: You get all your veggies planted?
·       Jun 15 10:14 PM Kris: No, but bought most I need and prepared garden for planting plus put in flower border around it
·       Jun 15 10:15 PM Sassy: I don’t understand any of that… never had a garden etc.
·       Jun 15 10:16 PM Kris: well, by “prepared” I mean I put down three rows of planks to walk on….so I don’t have to walk in the dirt to harvest them, or put down mulch to keep down weeds.
·       Jun 15 10:16 PM Kris: the flower border is something new.  just decided to do it on a whim…while out shopping for veggies.
·       Jun 15 10:17 PM Sassy: Nifty!
·       Jun 15 10:17 PM Sassy: what flowers?
·       Jun 15 10:18 PM Kris: bought 144 petunia plants for three sides of garden and 20 different vegetable plants, plus three hanging baskets of flowers for that “solarium” in the living room and back deck area.
·       Jun 15 10:18 PM Sassy: wow
·       Jun 15 10:19 PM Kris: spaced the petunias 6 inches apart along the 44 foot length of one side of the garden – really pretty colors….bright red, deep purple, hot pink, bright white. I dug the holes and W put the plants in.
·       Jun 15 10:20 PM Kris: still need to put veggie plants in…but that’s easy. hardest part is done now.
·       Jun 15 10:21 PM Kris: I was thinking of buying you a tomato plant to put on your patio. : D
·       Jun 15 10:22 PM Sassy: Hunh
·       Jun 15 10:22 PM Sassy: I’ve been thinking of putting window boxes or something out there
·       Jun 15 10:22 PM Sassy: But I don’t have a clue
·       Jun 15 10:23 PM Kris: window boxes would be nice/pretty. could be attached to railing and you could put whatever flowers you like in them!
·       Jun 15 10:25 PM Sassy: I will be off the grid tomorrow from 9:30 am – 3:30 pm except around 12-1 pm
·       Jun 15 10:25 PM Sassy: Going to a telephone ordering training
·       Jun 15 10:26 PM Sassy: So if I don’t answer, I am not ignoring you!
·       Jun 15 10:28 PM Kris: no problem. I understand that in general you may or may not be free to respond to my “zillion texts” its’ fine but thanks for the heads up about tomorrow specifically. the day you had today with H sounds like a kind of day I’d love to have with you sometime. maybe with slight variation – like boating – if you wanted to.
·       Jun 15 10:31 PM Sassy: Oh yes… that would be very special! Today seemed like a boat day to me.
·       Jun 15 10:32 PM Sassy: It would be fun to combine my favorite spots up there with some boating.
Kris: computer acting up again. argh….hopefully can get back on. 🙁 10:35 PM
·       Jun 15 10:35 PM Kris: is this working now…u there?
·       Jun 15 10:36 PM Kris: what r some of your favorite spots?
·       Jun 15 10:37 PM Sassy: Nichols Candy House, Lobsta Land, Good Harbor Beach, Wingaersheek Beech, Rockport
·       Jun 15 10:38 PM Sassy: I am always finding new spots – today I discovered the Jones River Salt Marsh
·       Jun 15 10:38 PM Sassy: Can’t believe I still find places after so many years of going up there
·       Jun 15 10:38 PM Sassy: I first went in 1984!
Kris: i keep getting an annoying “spinning wheel” like when computer’s TRYING to work, but isn’t….or slow…ARGH!!!!!. sorry. 🙁 will keep trying 10:41 PM
Kris: rebooting computer…to see if that will help…hopefully b back on shortly 10:45 PM
Me: Okay. Ah technology! 10:47 PM
·       Jun 15 10:46 PM Sassy: Did you fall asleep?
·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Kris: ok…hope this stops giving me trouble.
·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Sassy: Woohoo!
·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Sassy: What was the last thing you saw from me?
·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Kris: did u ask me if I fell asleep? lol
·       Jun 15 10:51 PM Kris: the last message was: “I first went in 1984!”
·       Jun 15 10:52 PM Sassy: Did you hear from your kids for Fathers Day?
·       Jun 15 10:52 PM Kris:  Yes – all but one
·       Jun 15 10:53 PM Sassy: They in good spirits?
·       Jun 15 10:54 PM Kris: yes, all doing well. have great relationship with all of them. A little more “distant” from oldest…don’t communicate with her as much…but still positive. I know the one had to work today…but got out a while ago. love it when they screw up so I can continue what I’ve always been good at… mercilessly teasing!!! ; )
·       Jun 15 10:55 PM Kris: I’ll tell him, “Thanks a lot…couldn’t even call me on Father’s Day?!”
·       Jun 15 10:55 PM Sassy: Careful… he could spill the beans about the bike!
·       Jun 15 10:55 PM Kris: No…but he’ll be extremely relieved to not have to “keep the big secret” he reminded me I said I would tell on my birthday…I think I told you that…
·       Jun 15 10:56 PM Sassy: Why on your b-day?
·       Jun 15 10:56 PM Kris: hoping to use it to leverage more “forgiveness”. (deceitful, crafty man that I am). “beguiling” ; )
·       Jun 15 10:57 PM Kris: W said something interesting today…
·       Jun 15 10:58 PM Kris: she said, “I bet you’re going to have a great time with me gone for 8 weeks. I’m worried about what you’ll be up to.”
·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Sassy: Hunh
·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Sassy: Did you tell her you’re going to have your girlfriend over?
·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Kris: Of course!
·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Kris: I asked her, “What do you think I’ll be doing?”
·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Kris: She said…
·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: maybe start drinking again or
·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: go to concerts.
·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: or go boating all the time…
·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: or womanize.
·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: she was only half right. ; )
·       Jun 15 11:01 PM Kris: no drinking or concerts….
·       Jun 15 11:01 PM Sassy: ha ha
·       Jun 15 11:01 PM Sassy: why are concerts bad?
·       Jun 15 11:03 PM Sassy: Sad that she worries about you drinking, after all this time
Kris: if I don’t reply my computer is giving me trouble….will keep trying…ARGHH!!!!! 11:04 PM
Me: Mwah! 11:08 PM
Kris: kiss goodnite? or just kiss? tired? 11:10 PM
Me: Just a kiss to bolster you in jousting with Yahoo! 11:12 PM
·       Jun 15 11:12 PM Kris: it’s ridiculous. don’t think she really does.  think she’s just fishing to see if I’ll miss her or not. nothing wrong with concerts. think she was just “talking”….nonsense.
·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Sassy: Ah
·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Sassy: Is there anything you want for your birthday (other than the usual BJ) that I could give you that someone else won’t?
·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Sassy: Think about it.
·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Kris: already did!
·       Jun 15 11:14 PM Kris: here’s a list…pick one:
·       Jun 15 11:16 PM Kris: I’ll tell you when I run out of ideas – let me list some. 😀
·       Jun 15 11:16 PM Kris: 1) Spend the nite with me at my house
·       Jun 15 11:17 PM Kris: 2) Let me take you for a short, gentle ride on a quiet country road when you spend the nite with me at my house
·       Jun 15 11:17 PM Kris: 3) Have lunch with you and your mom
·       Jun 15 11:17 PM Kris: 4) Buy me that coffee cup you sent me a picture of
·       Jun 15 11:18 PM Kris: 5) Show me where you work
·       Jun 15 11:18 PM Kris: 6) Invite me to one of your project events sometime
·       Jun 15 11:18 PM Kris: 7) Go boating and to your fav places around Gloucester–combined with spending the nite with me at my house
·       Jun 15 11:19 PM Kris: In case it wasn’t obvious…#2 was
·       Jun 15 11:19 PM Kris: was on my bike…
·       Jun 15 11:19 PM Kris: not done yet…hold on…
·       Jun 15 11:20 PM Kris: 8) Tell me a restaurant you haven’t tried yet that we could go to together
·       Jun 15 11:21 PM Kris: 9) Give me a BJ in my boat (random request–based on “inspiration from your chat buddies”)
·       Jun 15 11:21 PM Kris: 10) Have 20 orgasms the next time we have sex
·       Jun 15 11:21 PM Kris: That’s it! Pick one!
·       Jun 15 11:23 PM Kris: When’s you’re b-day?
·       Jun 15 11:26 PM Kris: still there?
·       Jun 15 11:26 PM Kris: fall asleep?
Kris: r u getting Yahoo messages? 11:28 PM
·       Jun 15 11:29 PM Sassy: Sorry… had a phone call
·       Jun 15 11:29 PM Sassy: My goodness what a list!
·       Jun 15 11:30 PM Sassy: I think I can do most of those.
·       Jun 15 11:30 PM Kris: So then you can just tell me which is my b-day gift!
·       Jun 15 11:30 PM Kris: When’s your b-day?
·       Jun 15 11:31 PM Kris: can’t think of a reason why you wouldn’t want me to know.  at this point in your “loss of anonymity” but if you’d rather not that’s fine…
·       Jun 15 11:33 PM Sassy: September
·       Jun 15 11:33 PM Sassy: Think you’ll still be talking to me?
·       Jun 15 11:33 PM Kris: hope so…you?
·       Jun 15 11:35 PM Sassy: Hope so.
·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Kris: what would cause us to stop?
·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Sassy: Dunno
·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Sassy: Don’t want to think about it!
·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Kris: not the best question….would just be a list of “negatives” that might happen. not much point in listing them.
·       Jun 15 11:37 PM Sassy: I am tossing salt over my shoulder to ward them all off!
·       Jun 15 11:37 PM Kris: you’re funny!
·       Jun 15 11:39 PM Kris: so I’m trying to figure out how much we can “plan” things going forward here as we chip away at my “birthday wish list” anything “jump out at you” for first in line? potential dates/times/etc? oh, let me tell you my “devious designs” in reference to my wife’s work schedule, while you’re thinking….
·       Jun 15 11:40 PM Kris: she has basically about a little over one full day off from her 24 hour/day 6 days a week job.
·       Jun 15 11:40 PM Kris: I asked her to take off from Thursday night through Friday night.
·       Jun 15 11:40 PM Kris: which leaves me free and available to you all the rest of the time.
·       Jun 15 11:41 PM Kris: from Saturday morning through Wednesday nites – take your pick(s), places, times, days, events, etc.
·       Jun 15 11:41 PM Sassy: Wow
·       Jun 15 11:42 PM Kris: one more “fantasy” – I could pick you up at your work, bring you to my house and bring you back to your work in the morning any day of the week.
·       Jun 15 11:43 PM Kris: might not be your preference, if it was too tiring and too much…cuz I know there are days you’re probably exhausted from the b.s. you’ve had to put up with lately and may just want to go home and chill, but it’s an option… if you wanted to sometime.
·       Jun 15 11:44 PM Kris: now that you’re not a stranger anymore to sleeping next to me. : D
·       Jun 15 11:44 PM Kris: but you might not get enough sleep, especially if I got horny at about 4:00 a.m.  Devil Kris. 
·       Jun 15 11:45 PM Kris: ok…your turn and it’s getting late. I don’t have to get up early but probably will and you do. let me know if it’s time to go.
·       Jun 15 11:46 PM Sassy: It could work to leave work with you. Let me think more about the logistics
·       Jun 15 11:46 PM Kris: ok
·       Jun 15 11:47 PM Kris: gave you lots to think about….let me know what you want to do first…next…when…etc.
·       Jun 15 11:47 PM Sassy: MIght be able to go to dinner, tour my office, then head out.
·       Jun 15 11:47 PM Kris: sounds wonderful!
·       Jun 15 11:48 PM Kris: just would need to fit with my schedule. have some nights I work later. some I can move, others not – depends on day
·       Jun 15 11:48 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Jun 15 11:49 PM Kris: when are you thinking? for me this week it could be Wed or Thurs.
·       Jun 15 11:49 PM Sassy: Need to check with Hubby
·       Jun 15 11:49 PM Kris: k
·       Jun 15 11:50 PM Kris: will he be ok with idea…in general?
·       Jun 15 11:50 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Jun 15 11:50 PM Kris: k
·       Jun 15 11:51 PM Kris: know he depends on you a lot…but assuming he can manage a night alone here and there
·       Jun 15 11:52 PM Sassy: Yes. I think he likes a little break now and then
·       Jun 15 11:52 PM Sassy: He invites his ladies over sometimes
·       Jun 15 11:53 PM Kris: does he ask you to just find something to do? to go someplace for awhile?
·       Jun 15 11:53 PM Kris: or wait for when you’re naturally out and about?
·       Jun 15 11:54 PM Sassy: the latter
·       Jun 15 11:54 PM Kris: so from his point of view it’s just an opportunity to have someone over
·       Jun 15 11:55 PM Sassy: Or just be able to sleep late, not ferry me to work
·       Jun 15 11:55 PM Kris: does he “verbalize” times he enjoyed being with you like today?
·       Jun 15 11:57 PM Kris: sorry if I seem so nosy…your relationship fascinates me, different than any I’ve encountered before.
·       Jun 15 11:58 PM Sassy: Sometimes
·       Jun 15 11:58 PM Sassy: It’s okay. I know we’re odd.
·       Jun 16 12:00 AM Sassy: Maybe you’ll have dinner with us sometime.
·       Jun 16 12:02 AM Kris: I started writing this long thing…before you typed “have dinner with us” That would be REALLY different…are you teasing me? You’re not “odd” but very different and from my perspective as your “boyfriend/AM man/lover/whatever”, the side of you that you don’t see as so Sexy is sexy to me in a certain way because I admire the qualities of character that make you so devoted, caring, and unselfish. those things might not fit your idea of being Sexy Sassy, but they attract me to you in a way that translates into my sexual attraction to you as well…which I suppose makes me a little “different” in my own weird way.
·       Jun 16 12:04 AM Sassy: I am not teasing about dinner with us. He has made me meet his women… seems only fair!
·       Jun 16 12:05 AM Kris: So you didn’t want to, but had to….so you want to “get back at him”? (teasing!)
·       Jun 16 12:05 AM Sassy: Although he will get the better end of the deal… his woman are mostly icky.
·       Jun 16 12:05 AM Kris: Why will he get the better end of the deal…because I’ll be nice to him and not “icky?”
·       Jun 16 12:08 AM Sassy: Yes. You are much better.
·       Jun 16 12:09 AM Kris: Well…thank you for thinking so but he may not appreciate that! LOL!
·       Jun 16 12:10 AM Kris: Meaning he may not recognize it in any way, may not think “Gee…how come I only get these “icky” women and my wife manages to get this nice guy.” YOU may be thinking that…but that point may not even occur to him…
·        Jun 16 12:11 AM Sassy: He is not like that… he is much further along the “polyamorous” scale than I am
·       Jun 16 12:11 AM Sassy: And he has very low self-esteem, so it would make sense to him that I attract better people
·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Kris: but will he actually judge me as “better” in any, or some way?
·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Sassy: I think so. He knows the women were icky
·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Sassy: It usually took him awhile to figure it out
·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Sassy: but he got there
·       Jun 16 12:13 AM Kris: so how does my above statement not fit his polyamorous view…what part of what I said doesn’t “fit” his way of thinking?
·       Jun 16 12:14 AM Kris: I may be taxing you brain right now…if so, let me know. LOL!
·       Jun 16 12:14 AM Kris: plus it’s getting late…don’t want to keep you up too late. work tomorrow (hate to remind u).
·       Jun 16 12:14 AM Sassy: He would evaluate you as a person
·       Jun 16 12:15 AM Sassy: not particularly mixed up in what you’re doing with me, other than he is glad I have someone to be nice to me
·       Jun 16 12:15 AM Sassy: I should go… don’t want to…
·       Jun 16 12:15 AM Kris: understand…need sleep….
·       Jun 16 12:16 AM Sassy: It is soooo good to talk with you!
·       Jun 16 12:16 AM Kris: Big kiss on the mouth…some tongue….big hug….nite!
·       Jun 16 12:16 AMSassy: Mmm… sweet dreams sweetie peteetie

·       Jun 16 12:16 AM Kris: : D

Incognito Browsing Lesson

Saturday, June 14, 2014
Me: Good morning Mr Hanky Panky Spanky! 9:24 AM
Me: Who were you rooting for in the Stanley Cup? I keep an eye on baseball and figure skating. 9:27 AM
Kris: Good morning! 9:44 AM
Kris: Didn’t really care that much who won…it was “do or die” for NY Rangers so leaning toward them as “underdogs”. Just checked and LA Kings beat them in double overtime…won Stanley Cup. baseball and figure skating. we’ll see if I can remember! ANYHOW on with the day. Smooch! 9:55 AM
Me: Hiya beguiling smiling man! How’re you doing this fine evening? 8:04 PM
Kris: Frustrated…dealing with paying bills…providing info to company to refinance mortgage but both computer and printer/scanner acting up. Arrgh! Was thinking of texting u one second before u texted me! Wanted to chat with u BADL .but now have to do work till midnight. 🙁 How u doin? 8:14 PM
Me: Sorry to hear you aren’t having fun! Hope it resolves easily. I’m good – had a little excursion to Stoughton, searching for new desk chair for Hubby. Tried the Smokey Bones BBQ place -YUM! 8:16 PM
Kris: Smiling again. your enjoyment is so “out there” makes me laugh. smile. wish I could continue… but have to force myself to work now. 12 is prob too late to chat? 8:21 PM
Kris: Will u still b up at 12…or too late to chat then? 8:29 PM
Me: Not sure. I’ll leave the chat window open until I go to bed. 8:34 PM
Kris: Ok. if u go to bed text me so i can tuck u in. 😉 “beguiling” is an interesting word. one brief dictionary gives this: “cheating, charming”. THAT made me laugh for sure…in THIS context especially. 8:41 PM
Me: I’ve never got the cheating part. Google define says “charm or enchant (someone), sometimes in a deceptive way. Charm, attract, enchant, entrance, win over, woo, captivate, bewitch, spellbind, dazzle, hypnotize, mesmerize, seduce” which is certainly you! 8:52 PM
Kris: Ah shucks! (this is so painful…want to chat so badly. have to pull myself away. maybe tomorrow if u can’t stay up tonite). 9:00 PM
Kris: Cant resist. no YOU dont get the cheating part. W does…ok REALLY have to resist YOUR charms for awhile. Feel free to respond (or not) but next “check in” for me will b 12. text if/when u go nite nite. so i can tuck u in. 🙂 9:08 PM
Kris: shouldnt b on here but quickly….ask old flame exactly which Harley he’s buying? Wondering if his is more of a “cool, stripped-down bike” than mine. His sounds like it is for tooling around town. Mine is for long distance and comfort (especially back seats…wink!). go to www.harley-davidson.com.  10:29 PM
Kris: Done! still up? chat? 11:47 PM


·       Jun 14 11:47 PM Kris: Done! Finally! U still up? “chattable” for a bit?
·       Jun 14 11:47 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Jun 14 11:48 PM Kris: Got a little life left in ya?
·       Jun 14 11:48 PM Sassy: A little
·       Jun 14 11:49 PM Sassy: What did you want to talk about?
·       Jun 14 11:49 PM Kris: didn’t have anything in particular in mind, just missed chatting with you
·       Jun 14 11:49 PM Sassy: Awww
·       Jun 14 11:49 PM Kris: anything on your mind?
·       Jun 14 11:50 PM Sassy: amazingly brainless!
·       Jun 14 11:51 PM Kris: tired. it’s late…
·       Jun 14 11:53 PM Kris: meant “tired”? asking u
·       Jun 14 11:54 PM Sassy: Yeah…not sure why… I slept a lot
·       Jun 14 11:54 PM Kris: when did you sleep?
·       Jun 14 11:55 PM Sassy: from 11 pm – 5:30 am, then from 8 am to about 11:30 am
·       Jun 14 11:55 PM Sassy: then went to pharmacy, post office, IKEA, Staples and Smokey Bones!
·       Jun 14 11:58 PM Kris: laughing and smiling again at “Smokey Bones” I will never stop enjoying and smiling at your “lusty enjoyment” of food and sex. : )
·       Jun 14 11:58 PM Sassy: I like trying new places, and new dishes
·       Jun 14 11:58 PM Sassy: I had the most evil, delicious dessert
·       Jun 14 11:59 PM Kris: what was it?
·       Jun 14 11:59 PM Sassy: they took little bites of chocolate cake, fried them in donut batter, dusted them with cinnamon and served them with a raspberry dipping sauce
·       Jun 15 12:00 AM Kris: wow! your description alone is “tantalizing”…sounds yummy!
·       Jun 15 12:00 AM Kris: find an office chair for H?
·       Jun 15 12:01 AM Sassy: I think so… we didn’t come home with one, but he saw one he thinks he can order online
·       Jun 15 12:01 AM Kris: from ikea or staples?
·       Jun 15 12:01 AM Sassy: Staples
·       Jun 15 12:01 AM Sassy: Very tricky because he is heavy and broad
·       Jun 15 12:02 AM Sassy: and tall
·       Jun 15 12:03 AM Kris: yeah….most office chairs aren’t built all that sturdy. I bought one from staples and the cheap, plastic wheels had to be replaced in less than a year. metal would be better for bases and wheels but everything’s plastic these days.
·       Jun 15 12:03 AM Sassy: We found a metal one
·       Jun 15 12:03 AM Sassy: He has broken a lot of plastic ones
·       Jun 15 12:03 AM Sassy: and the seats go down and won’t come back up
·       Jun 15 12:04 AM Kris: know what you mean – happens for even average-sized people.  a big guy would probably wear a cheap one out fast. hope the one he has his eye on works out for him.
·       Jun 15 12:05 AM Kris: how far is stoughton?
·       Jun 15 12:05 AM Sassy: He had an old one that was okay. I brought a new one home from the office, told him not to trash his old one until he knew the new one was okay
·       Jun 15 12:05 AM Sassy: Of course he didn’t listen to me
·       Jun 15 12:05 AM Sassy: About 45 min
·       Jun 15 12:05 AM Kris: so what happened…go on…
·       Jun 15 12:06 AM Sassy: new one sucks
·       Jun 15 12:06 AM Kris: not comfortable?
·       Jun 15 12:06 AM Sassy: hurts his legs, it’s too low
·       Jun 15 12:06 AM Sassy: he added a pillow but it doesn’t work
·       Jun 15 12:06 AM Kris: how long’s he been using it?
·       Jun 15 12:07 AM Sassy: a couple of months
·       Jun 15 12:07 AM Kris: was the trip there and back relatively enjoyable/ok?
·       Jun 15 12:07 AM Sassy: Nice to get out and about
·       Jun 15 12:07 AM Kris: no “incidents’ or meltdowns?
·       Jun 15 12:08 AM Sassy: not this time
·       Jun 15 12:08 AM Sassy: there was a little glitch. We went to Staples, then IKEA
·       Jun 15 12:08 AM Kris: well, that’s good….glad you got to get out…it was a nice day.
·       Jun 15 12:08 AM Sassy: IKEA had nothing so we went back to Staples to get the chair, or order one
·       Jun 15 12:09 AM Sassy: I let him go in alone
·       Jun 15 12:09 AM Sassy: He came back out, said he couldn’t get anyone to help him
·       Jun 15 12:09 AM Sassy: *sigh
·       Jun 15 12:09 AM Kris: do you think that’s true…or he isn’t assertive enough?
·       Jun 15 12:09 AM Sassy: He is completely unassertive
·       Jun 15 12:10 AM Kris: so he’d just passively wander around and if no one approached him he wouldn’t ask for help?
·       Jun 15 12:10 AM Sassy: If it involves interrupting someone or asking for help, not happening
·       Jun 15 12:10 AM Kris: Hmmmm. so did you offer to go back in with him?
·       Jun 15 12:11 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 15 12:11 AM Sassy: Or go myself
·       Jun 15 12:11 AM Kris: what did he say?
·       Jun 15 12:11 AM Sassy: He just wanted to go home
·       Jun 15 12:11 AM Sassy: Said he’d deal with it online
·       Jun 15 12:11 AM Kris: hard to know the quality of something online though
·       Jun 15 12:12 AM Sassy: He will order the one he sat in there
·       Jun 15 12:12 AM Kris: at staples?
·       Jun 15 12:12 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 15 12:12 AM Kris: well that makes sense
·       Jun 15 12:12 AM Kris: would you have been able to fit it in your car?
·       Jun 15 12:13 AM Sassy: I think so
·       Jun 15 12:13 AM Sassy: the back folds down
·       Jun 15 12:13 AM Kris: probably would have.
·       Jun 15 12:13 AM Kris: have any plans for tomorrow?
·       Jun 15 12:13 AM Sassy: Nope.
·       Jun 15 12:14 AM Sassy: You?
·       Jun 15 12:14 AM Kris: I should probably finally put the garden in…didn’t get to it last weekend and now it’s late. will probably buy veggie plants instead of starting so much from seed. growing season short now.
·       Jun 15 12:14 AM Kris: I’d like to chat with you tomorrow. if you’re free before it gets too late.
·       Jun 15 12:15 AM Sassy: Sounds good
·       Jun 15 12:16 AM Sassy: I like chatting with you.
·       Jun 15 12:16 AM Sassy: And touching you
·       Jun 15 12:16 AM Sassy: And you touching me
·       Jun 15 12:16 AM Sassy: etc
·       Jun 15 12:17 AM Kris: ok. have to insert this in the front. ME TOO! now this is what I started to write: Saturday nights are probably best for chatting cuz don’t have to get up for work next day. should try to get work done ahead of time. have a “preferred” frame of time for tomorrow that would work better than another?
·       Jun 15 12:19 AM Kris: meant Saturday nights but not so late….
·       Jun 15 12:19 AM Sassy: not sure what I’ll get up to
·       Jun 15 12:19 AM Sassy: Probably just be here
·       Jun 15 12:19 AM Sassy: Hubby has to work on a project
·       Jun 15 12:20 AM Kris: there at home?
·       Jun 15 12:20 AM Sassy: yes
·       Jun 15 12:21 AM Kris: just going to put this out there – I think about you…A LOT.
·       Jun 15 12:22 AM Kris: fantasize – some sexual…some just being with you doing stuff.
·       Jun 15 12:24 AM Sassy: Really?
·       Jun 15 12:24 AM Sassy: I hope it brightens your day
·       Jun 15 12:25 AM Kris: yes. it does brighten my day! does that surprise you? that I think about you a lot? wish I had more money…will have a little more in a couple of weeks to do more things, go some place, get a room if your place isn’t available. you can come to my place soon but week days may not work for you and weekends you have lunch with mom but been fantasizing about that – you coming here
·       Jun 15 12:25 AM Kris: or boating. or visiting your work…
·       Jun 15 12:26 AM Kris: or visiting some of your favorite places.
·       Jun 15 12:26 AM Kris: or HAVING LUNCH WITH YOU AND YOUR MOM!!!! ; D
·       Jun 15 12:26 AM Sassy: Hee
·       Jun 15 12:27 AM Kris: I was intrigued at what you actually said to your mom about buying batteries.
·       Jun 15 12:27 AM Sassy: Oh?
·       Jun 15 12:28 AM Sassy: That is very rare for me. I am usually the good girl 100%
·       Jun 15 12:28 AM Kris: You didn’t lie to her. you just told her “don’t ask”. found that “interesting”
·       Jun 15 12:28 AM Kris: You WERE the good girl 100%. you didn’t lie to her.
·       Jun 15 12:29 AM Sassy: yeah but usually I am not so stupid to buy something that will cause questions without an excuse!
·       Jun 15 12:29 AM Kris: lol!
·       Jun 15 12:29 AM Kris: so who could I be.? that you could live with?
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Kris: as far as what you would tell your mom and we had lunch together?
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Sassy: I should’ve gone to another line and paid myself but she was tossing all my stuff on the counter. couldn’t resist letting her pay!
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Kris: you’re funny!
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Sassy: I’ve been mulling that over.
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Kris: come up with anything?
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Sassy: Wondering if the truth will work
·       Jun 15 12:30 AM Sassy: “This is my friend Kris”
·       Jun 15 12:31 AM Sassy: “from NH”
·       Jun 15 12:31 AM Sassy: “How did you two meet?”
·       Jun 15 12:31 AM Sassy: Online
·       Jun 15 12:31 AM Sassy: Oh… are you married Kris? have children?
·        Jun 15 12:31 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 15 12:32 AM Kris: And! will she be ok with all of that?
·       Jun 15 12:32 AM Sassy: I dunno
·       Jun 15 12:32 AM Sassy: Trying to anticipate what she will say is tricky!
·       Jun 15 12:32 AM Sassy: Like the day we went to the same sex wedding
·       Jun 15 12:33 AM Sassy: and she said she didn’t go for these modern weddings and I was like… How come?
·       Jun 15 12:33 AM Sassy: “They were clapping!” she says
·       Jun 15 12:33 AM Kris: you told me that…that’s hysterical!
·       Jun 15 12:33 AM Sassy: Typical
·       Jun 15 12:34 AM Kris: maybe you could tell her I’m interested in your project…which I am.
·       Jun 15 12:34 AM Sassy: I thought of that
·       Jun 15 12:35 AM Kris: I think she would connect with me more than usual, if I told her what I did for a living before this job
·       Jun 15 12:35 AM Sassy: oh?
·       Jun 15 12:35 AM Kris: very likely
·       Jun 15 12:35 AM Sassy: what did you do before?
·       Jun 15 12:36 AM Kris: you’ll have to wait until I tell her at lunch. I want to get laid a few more times first. don’t want to blow your mind and scare you off so soon.
·       Jun 15 12:37 AM Sassy: Oh please…
·       Jun 15 12:37 AM Sassy: Unless you were a Republican fund raiser, it’s fine
·       Jun 15 12:38 AM Kris: come on now. you’re losing your characteristic “low level of curiosity” becoming a little “flappable” here.
·       Jun 15 12:38 AM Kris: nope…not a Republican fund raiser
·       Jun 15 12:38 AM Sassy: I have a low level of curiosity? Nosy Sassy?
·       Jun 15 12:39 AM Sassy: I am always poking around in your head!
·       Jun 15 12:39 AM Sassy: And many parts of your body.  : )
·       Jun 15 12:39 AM Kris: poking around with your head is more like it.
·       Jun 15 12:40 AM Kris: I’ll tell you something I shouldn’t (again).
·       Jun 15 12:40 AM Kris: I almost got caught by W today…
·       Jun 15 12:40 AM Sassy: Caught doing what?
·       Jun 15 12:40 AM Kris: forgot to clear the internet browser.
·       Jun 15 12:41 AM Sassy: What would she have seen?
·       Jun 15 12:41 AM Kris: all of our emails on Yahoo
·       Jun 15 12:42 AM Kris: she was logging into her email account and my mischief user name showed up in the drop-down menu.
·       Jun 15 12:42 AM Kris: she asked me if I created an account with that name
·       Jun 15 12:42 AM Sassy: yikes
·       Jun 15 12:42 AM Kris: I said, no…have no idea what you’re talking about.
·       Jun 15 12:43 AM Kris: fortunately she didn’t open it…and I acted calmly and let her continue until she was done.
·       Jun 15 12:43 AM Sassy: eep
·       Jun 15 12:43 AM Kris: then I cleared the browsing history and reset it so that even the usernames don’t get repopulated.
·       Jun 15 12:43 AM Sassy: do you know how to browse incognito?
·       Jun 15 12:44 AM Kris: not sure what you mean?
·       Jun 15 12:44 AM Sassy: there is a way to browse so it doesn’t leave any history
·       Jun 15 12:44 AM Kris: no…I only know how to clear it when I’m done.
·       Jun 15 12:44 AM Sassy: which browser do you use?
·       Jun 15 12:45 AM Kris: mostly Google Chrome, sometimes IE.
·       Jun 15 12:46 AM Sassy: Okay. In Chrome – go to FILE at the upper left. 3rd option down is “new incognito window”
·       Jun 15 12:46 AM Sassy: It won’t track anything you do there
·       Jun 15 12:47 AM Kris: just did. give a description of how it works…just like you’re saying…cool!
·       Jun 15 12:47 AM Sassy: It’s a little odd as it won’t remember other stuff you may be used to a browser saving… but it is so much safer!
·       Jun 15 12:47 AM Sassy: I think it’s funny how it says “watch out for people standing behind you!”
·       Jun 15 12:48 AM Kris: right…I’ll take “safer” any day in this situation!
·       Jun 15 12:48 AM Sassy: I think all the browsers have something similar these days
·       Jun 15 12:48 AM Kris: just read the “people standing behind you” warning – that IS funny!
·       Jun 15 12:49 AM Sassy: You can tell in Chrome because the upper border is blue
·       Jun 15 12:49 AM Sassy: and there’s a little secret guy on the upper right
·       Jun 15 12:49 AM Sassy: There… you learned something!
·       Jun 15 12:50 AM Kris: THANKS!
·       Jun 15 12:52 AM Sassy:  ; )
·       Jun 15 12:53 AM Kris: If keeping me around a little longer is something you’d want to do, helping me not get caught could be in your self-interest. ; ) but remember that if I get caught you will NOT be harmed in any way. your true identity will NOT be disclosed (even if my wife was curious–which I highly doubt she would be) and NO ONE will “come after you” to hurt you. you’ll just lose an “ok fuck buddy”…
·       Jun 15 12:54 AM Kris: I, on the other hand, will be in deep doo doo, which I’m going to do everything in my power to avoid!
·       Jun 15 12:54 AM Sassy: Usually if you lie low, wait about 3 weeks, we could start up again
·       Jun 15 12:54 AM Kris: r u serious?
·       Jun 15 12:54 AM Sassy: That’s the usual pattern
·       Jun 15 12:55 AM Sassy: It feels like the end of the world but then… it isn’t
·       Jun 15 12:55 AM Sassy: Remind me to give you the 10 tips on what to do and not do if you get caught.
·       Jun 15 12:55 AM Sassy: A blogger wrote a very perceptive post about it
·       Jun 15 12:56 AM Kris: ok….you could email it to me
·       Jun 15 12:56 AM Kris: hope to never have to use it, but might be interesting to read.
·       Jun 15 12:58 AM Sassy: Definitely want to be prepared, so you don’t ever need it. : )
·       Jun 15 12:58 AM Kris: u were tired when we started over an hour ago. how u doing?
·       Jun 15 12:58 AM Sassy: You energize me
·       Jun 15 12:58 AM Kris: same here  : )
·       Jun 15 12:58 AM Kris: r u finished “talking to me” about my “low self-esteem”? LOL!
·       Jun 15 1:00 AM Sassy: Are you finished being self-deprecatory?
·       Jun 15 1:00 AM Kris: do you want me to be finished? Sometimes I think it’s fun… hmmm
·       Jun 15 1:01 AM Sassy: You thought about this affair thing for awhile right?
·       Jun 15 1:01 AM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Jun 15 1:02 AM Sassy: You planned and plotted and wrote a profile and dreamed?
·       Jun 15 1:02 AM Kris: yes
·       Jun 15 1:02 AM Sassy: and you did it!
·       Jun 15 1:03 AM Kris: well….”sort of” but not the way I’d like it to be in every aspect
·       Jun 15 1:03 AM Sassy: Of course… but you have a lot
·       Jun 15 1:03 AM Sassy: you are pretty smart
·       Jun 15 1:04 AM Sassy: And you have a very savvy sassy woman in your clutches
·       Jun 15 1:04 AM Sassy: And you are (mostly) fooling your wife
·       Jun 15 1:05 AM Kris: what do you mean by “I have a lot”?
·       Jun 15 1:07 AM Sassy: You have a sexy smart woman who makes you smile and has fun with you in lots of ways, right?
·       Jun 15 1:07 AM Sassy: And you know how tough that is but you are special. Many guys never make it work. But you have!
·       Jun 15 1:07 AM Kris: yes, but you’re not the problem
·       Jun 15 1:11 AM Sassy: Give yourself credit.
·       Jun 15 1:11 AM Sassy: See what I see.
·       Jun 15 1:11 AM Kris: I haven’t figured it out yet…but there’s something slightly blocking me when we have sex. it’s not you. you’re great. something in my head that I need to figure out how to “clear out” so I can give you a “proper fucking”. I will stop talking about it if you are really sick of hearing it (which I won’t blame you if you are) but it bothers me. but there is a LOT of good things about “you and me” and as time goes on I feel even better about all of that. so what you have said is true… and I am very thankful to have a savvy sassy woman to be with.
·        Jun 15 1:12 AM Sassy: Like with any new thing, you can’t expect it to jump in and have it be perfect and know how to deal.
·       Jun 15 1:12 AM Sassy: It takes time and practice and a lot of thinking
·       Jun 15 1:12 AM Sassy: (even though less thinking might be better but never mind, I know better than to ask that of you!)
·       Jun 15 1:13 AM Kris: ha ha
·       Jun 15 1:13 AM Kris: I like it when you get REALLY sassy with me. like when you gave me the finger on the sofa. that was so “unlike you”. it really made me laugh.
·       Jun 15 1:14 AM Kris: but the coffee cup rebuke scared me a little, like “oh shit” she’s actually pissed off at me.
·       Jun 15 1:16 AM Sassy: What coffee cup rebuke?
·       Jun 15 1:16 AM Kris: you’re teasing me now…right?
·       Jun 15 1:17 AM Sassy: no. I don’t know what you are referring to
·       Jun 15 1:17 AM Kris: seriously?!
·       Jun 15 1:19 AM Sassy: Yes. I don’t think I’ve ever rebuked anyone
·       Jun 15 1:21 AM Kris: you sent me a pic of a coffee cup and I said I thought it was going to be something sexual and you said,”should I be miffed? does everything have to be sexual?” maybe “rebuke” is too strong but you ”’chided”me a little and you had never done that before…AT ALL EVER. so I took it seriously and apologized…maybe I read into it too much (since I “overthink” everything. ; )
·       Jun 15 1:23 AM Sassy: Ah! Right… no I was just noticing, wondering
·       Jun 15 1:25 AM Kris: well I don’t want to stop having fun talking about sex with you but it seems like we’ve moved into a slightly “more comfortable” (but NOT boring) stage of not having to have it dominate EVERY sentence of conversation between us. which is a nice segue into——so if we’re going to do any of these “other things” I’ve been dreaming of (and some you’ve suggested”) we should put some on the calendar, if that’s possible, to plan ahead a little.  maybe think about some things if we can chat tomorrow. the “window of opportunity” during the few weeks of my wife being gone is one I’d like to take advantage of….with YOU!
·       Jun 15 1:26 AM Sassy: Sounds good
·       Jun 15 1:28 AM Kris: so it’s almost 1:30 and I perked you up and you me…. but ready for bed? or still up? I can go either way.
·       Jun 15 1:28 AM Sassy: I still want to talk about sex a lot.  : )
·       Jun 15 1:28 AM Sassy: But It does not have to be tonight.
·       Jun 15 1:29 AM Kris: I would wonder if you stopped wanting to. lol!
·       Jun 15 1:29 AM Kris: me too!…want to.
·       Jun 15 1:30 AM Kris: go ahead
·       Jun 15 1:31 AM Sassy: Hee hee
·       Jun 15 1:31 AM Sassy: I keep thinking about THE SOFA!
·       Jun 15 1:31 AM Sassy: And I get all tingly
·       Jun 15 1:31 AM Sassy: kinda of pulsing right now
·       Jun 15 1:31 AM Sassy: thinking of you
·       Jun 15 1:32 AM Sassy: methodically figuring out how to make that little vibe work wonders on me!
·       Jun 15 1:32 AM Kris: me figuring it out?
·       Jun 15 1:32 AM Sassy: trying different things
·       Jun 15 1:33 AM Sassy: until BOOM
·       Jun 15 1:33 AM Kris: I was surprised – you not being a “clit girl” and all
·       Jun 15 1:33 AM Sassy: Me too!
·       Jun 15 1:33 AM Sassy: I want to find the magic spots on you
·       Jun 15 1:33 AM Sassy: Been thinking about that
·       Jun 15 1:35 AM Kris: you do find them. you explore all over…but men are pretty “simple” it’s really in one main place which doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out or find and you know EXACTLY where it is and skillfully work it till I come every time….other than me selfishly fucking you to come inside you.
·       Jun 15 1:36 AM Kris: not to question your reporting (again!) but not sure about that “boom”
·       Jun 15 1:36 AM Sassy: I want to try that sensitive spot, and around your ass, and at the top, where your gorgeous cock comes out of your body
·       Jun 15 1:37 AM Kris: I promise I won’t stop you. lol
·       Jun 15 1:37 AM Sassy: I hope some of that feels really good
·       Jun 15 1:37 AM Kris: I don’t see how I COULDN’T but it will be fun to find out!
·       Jun 15 1:38 AM Sassy: Anticipation is a good thing
·       Jun 15 1:38 AM Kris: yes…but you know something else I was thinking about
·       Jun 15 1:39 AM Sassy: what?
·       Jun 15 1:39 AM Kris: we had this “plan” the last time but it kind of got “reversed” where I got to “do you” first and I really like that…..then later you did me…..but not what we planned but that was fine.
·       Jun 15 1:41 AM Sassy: I worried that you’d be disappointed
·       Jun 15 1:42 AM Sassy: I wish I knew exactly what worked… the music, the naked/not dynamic, the sofa, the vibe, talking…
·       Jun 15 1:42 AM Kris: NO. it goes back to wanting to be able to give you pleasure. that disappoints me more than not receiving it…..receiving it (especially from YOU) is the easy part and one way or the other you ALWAYS “give it to me”….no disappointment.
·       Jun 15 1:43 AM Kris: I was thinking about that too. it’s tempting to try and “duplicate” experiences but it doesn’t always work that way.
·       Jun 15 1:43 AM Kris: sometimes “things just happen” even an “overly-analytical” guy like me has to accept that reality once in a while. lol
·       Jun 15 1:44 AM Sassy: I’m hoping now that I’ve been able to cum, I can do it again and again
·       Jun 15 1:44 AM Kris: I want to believe you did cum. don’t get mad at me.
·       Jun 15 1:46 AM Kris: not to change the subject…but I have to laugh at the two of us.
·       Jun 15 1:46 AM Sassy: oh?
·       Jun 15 1:46 AM Kris: we say we don’t have to talk about sex tonight then launch right into it. that amuses me…but it’s fun!
·       Jun 15 1:47 AM Kris: sorry – weird sense of humor…case you haven’t figured that out yet.
·       Jun 15 1:48 AM Kris: so I want to believe you did cum. don’t get mad at me (deja vu all over again)
·       Jun 15 1:49 AM Kris: sorry. you must feel like you’re in the twilight zone chatting with me sometimes. jump from one thing to another.
·       Jun 15 1:50 AM Kris: your turn (if you’re still awake)….almost 2 am
·       Jun 15 1:51 AM Sassy: I am trying to figure out how not to clobber you for doubting
·       Jun 15 1:51 AM Kris: now I’m REALLY laughing…but probably shouldn’t be.
·       Jun 15 1:51 AM Sassy: Hubby is wondering why I am giggling
·       Jun 15 1:51 AM Kris: really?
·       Jun 15 1:52 AM Sassy: Why am I giggling? Hmm…
·       Jun 15 1:52 AM Kris: no…is he really wondering?
·       Jun 15 1:52 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 15 1:53 AM Sassy: He is sitting in the recliner reading
·       Jun 15 1:53 AM Kris: by looking at you…”askingly”?
·       Jun 15 1:54 AM Sassy: yes
·       Jun 15 1:55 AM Kris: asking?…..or just looking with that “what’s going on over there” look on his face?
·       Jun 15 1:55 AM Sassy: at least it is giggling and not heavy breathing or moaning!
·       Jun 15 1:55 AM Kris: have you done that with him in the room?!
·       Jun 15 1:55 AM Sassy: He said “Hmmm? What’s so funny?”
·       Jun 15 1:55 AM Kris: what did you say?
·       Jun 15 1:56 AM Sassy: Yeah… bad Sassy
·       Jun 15 1:56 AM Sassy: It just slipped out during a hot cyber session
·       Jun 15 1:56 AM Sassy: I didn’t answer
·       Jun 15 1:57 AM Kris: the heavy breathing and moaning just slipped out?
·       Jun 15 1:57 AM Sassy: yeah
·       Jun 15 1:57 AM Sassy: that was a long time ago
·       Jun 15 1:57 AM Sassy: I should get to bed
·       Jun 15 1:58 AM Sassy: You should too!
·       Jun 15 1:58 AM Kris: me too. night sexy Sassy. I’d really like to chat tomorrow…maybe make some plans.
·       Jun 15 1:58 AM Sassy: but this is so fun!
·       Jun 15 1:58 AM Sassy: okay
·       Jun 15 1:58 AM Sassy: Sleep well!

·       Jun 15 1:58 AM Kris: sweet dreams!

Vows of an affair

Saturday, June 7, 2014
Kris: U up? wanna chat? 11:04 PM
Me: Sure 11:05 PM

·       Jun 07 11:06 PM Kris: Hi

·       Jun 07 11:06 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Jun 07 11:07 PM Kris: watcha been up to? having any fun this weekend?
·       Jun 07 11:08 PM Sassy: Spent most of the day with Mom, watched the Belmont Stakes horse race, ate cookies
·       Jun 07 11:08 PM Sassy: Then went out for Mexican with a theater pal we owed a favor
·       Jun 07 11:08 PM Sassy: You?
·       Jun 07 11:08 PM Kris: not so much…kinda down lately
·       Jun 07 11:09 PM Sassy: Oh?
·       Jun 07 11:10 PM Kris: oh well. Life can’t be a thrill a minute all the time…eh?
·       Jun 07 11:10 PM Sassy: Probably true.
·       Jun 07 11:12 PM Kris: I had to laugh at your response to my email…in which you said I’m a “strange and wonderful man,” was curious about the “strange” part, how you saw that.
·       Jun 07 11:13 PM Sassy: quoting to me from diagnostic textbooks has to count as strange!
·       Jun 07 11:13 PM Kris: lol…really? how come?
·       Jun 07 11:15 PM Sassy: Trust me… quite strange
·       Jun 07 11:15 PM Sassy: That I understood it and the sentiment? Wonderful!
·       Jun 07 11:16 PM Kris: surely you’ve encountered “much stranger” things. ; )
·       Jun 07 11:16 PM Sassy: It’s pretty out there… especially when combined with hitting on me when you’re 80
·       Jun 07 11:17 PM Kris: ok…lol…I guess I’m in my own strange world sometimes. will try to come back to earth…beam me back Sassy!
·       Jun 07 11:18 PM Sassy: It is fun! Don’t stop being you.
·       Jun 07 11:19 PM Kris: well…would be pretty hard to be someone else…not worth the effort!
·       Jun 07 11:20 PM Kris: speaking of “who we are”…I was thinking a lot today about how much of a mystery you are to me. that I still don’t really know or “get you” in many ways…and am very curious.
·       Jun 07 11:20 PM Sassy: Hunh. I feel like I’ve shared more with you than any other AM man!
·       Jun 07 11:21 PM Kris: I don’t doubt that…but there’s more I’m curious about, or trying to make sense of, or figuring out how to respond to.
·       Jun 07 11:24 PM Sassy: You can ask? I will tell.
·       Jun 07 11:27 PM Kris: I know… it’s not something I need to “hurry up”. I’m sure eventually I will and you’ll tell. it’s mostly about how you understand and experience sexual relationships. You say we’re similar – in some ways we may be but in some ways we’re different. sometimes I find it exciting….and other times not sure how I feel about it. but that also is part of what makes this whole thing “interesting”. want to have good sex, but there’s more….for me anyhow and figuring out “what it is” is very “different” for me. this is my first affair in 25 years. so there are some feelings to sort out. don’t know if that happened to you at first or not.
·       Jun 07 11:28 PM Sassy: Of course
·       Jun 07 11:29 PM Kris: such as?
·       Jun 07 11:31 PM Sassy: I spent forever figuring out how to make the switch from linear “normal” relationships (meet, date, love, sex, marriage etc) to non-linnear (meet, sex, more sex)
·       Jun 07 11:31 PM Sassy: Beat myself up a lot
·       Jun 07 11:31 PM Sassy: Then got over it
·       Jun 07 11:31 PM Sassy: I don’t ever want to squash your feelings
·       Jun 07 11:32 PM Kris: you’re not…why would you say that?
·       Jun 07 11:33 PM Sassy: Just want to be sure you know you don’t have to be afraid to talk about them or not talk about them… whatever works. Just because I am trying “not to be serious” doesn’t mean you have to match that
·       Jun 07 11:36 PM Kris: I understand that…and for the most part feel pretty free to talk to you about things. I “kind of” know what you mean by “not to be serious”but explain a little more. this is the “different” part. I’m not interested in you being someone else or me trying to be like you. accepting differences is ok. I just have a very “high level of curiosity” (which you have a lot of patience with–but some people find very annoying). lol
·       Jun 07 11:40 PM Sassy: You are wondering how I can be so casual?
·       Jun 07 11:41 PM Kris: yes…if that’s what you mean by “not to be serious”….
·       Jun 07 11:42 PM Sassy: I don’t want to sound pitiful… but you can only kick a puppy so many times before he will stop running to you
·       Jun 07 11:43 PM Kris: meaning you have low expectations in terms of how much people really care….other than just having the pleasure of sex for its own sake, based on painful experiences?
·       Jun 07 11:45 PM Sassy: I came into this a very trusting, open, loving person and I got lied to, stomped on, tossed aside… over and over and over and over again.
·       Jun 07 11:45 PM Kris: into this meaning having sex, hoping for more, being disappointed?
·       Jun 07 11:47 PM Sassy: Talking to men online… trying to figure out if there’s a connection… starting to feel one… maybe meeting… thinking that went really well or was at least worth exploring and… slience.
·       Jun 07 11:50 PM Kris: so now you’ve make an “adjustment” to something else. which is what I’m trying to understand .I hope it’s ok that I’m asking you this. I want to have good sex with you but I want to know you. I probably have greater “intimacy” needs then most men you’re used to. I don’t want to get “too heavy” or “scare you away” but I can’t make myself be someone I’m not and you telling me who you really are – all parts – matters to me and effects having sex with you for me too, which is probably the opposite of what many people are looking for in affairs. though you would know better than me, since this is much newer to me.
·       Jun 07 11:52 PM Sassy: My first affair I went super deep – with old flame… pinning lots of dreams and hopes and love and…it turns out even Mr. Honorable military man lies… so many lies… and being told I’m great but there is someone else who is right for him… two other women in fact… who are young and athletic and fun and cook and… of course he’s right and I am an idiot but wow it makes trusting tough.
·       Jun 07 11:54 PM Sassy: I want to believe that you are different.
·       Jun 07 11:54 PM Kris: thank you for telling me that. I was struggling with some trust things today between you and me, which is mostly about our differences… that I need to accept and am trying to figure out how to get used to
·       Jun 07 11:55 PM Kris: I want to tell you something that is a little embarrassing… but illustrates the “difference”
·       Jun 07 11:55 PM Kris: between how you’ve learned to “settle” and be “casual” and where I am really at emotionally in this right now.
·       Jun 07 11:56 PM Kris: it’s a little embarrassing, but I’ll tell you. I think it’s “to the point” of this conversation.
·       Jun 07 11:57 PM Kris: so I haven’t been on AM since I met you, except for maybe once or twice and not recently, but I still get messages from the site sent to my Yahoo email account.
·       Jun 07 11:58 PM Kris: I get notified when a new woman is added to AM, which as you know is a “big deal” to men since the ratio is so disproportionate between men and women.
·       Jun 07 11:58 PM Kris: when I got that notice I thought of going on the site to see what was going on.
·       Jun 07 11:59 PM Kris: but as soon as I thought that I couldn’t because in my mind that would be the equivalent of “cheating” on the affair I’m having with you.
·       Jun 07 11:59 PM Kris: which is “very weird” since I’m cheating on my wife who I really still love.
·       Jun 07 11:59 PM Kris: but I couldn’t do it….
·       Jun 08 12:00 AM Kris: because I don’t think I can do “really casual sex” with several people.
·       Jun 08 12:00 AM Kris: frankly, I’m not particularly interested in even trying.
·       Jun 08 12:01 AM Kris: so for now, you’re it. but you’re “different” than me in that way… and I need to adjust to that and figure out how to manage it and I don’t want you to be someone you’re not either….but you telling me that you’ve adjusted to being hurt and lied to is sad. but also creates trust and intimacy
·       Jun 08 12:02 AM Sassy: Why do you consider that embarrassing? How is focusing on me bad?
·       Jun 08 12:03 AM Kris: well… you’re different than me in that way….so it’s a little embarrassing.
·       Jun 08 12:04 AM Sassy: I am not focusing on anyone else.
·       Jun 08 12:05 AM Sassy: You are the first AM man who has made me stop looking.
·       Jun 08 12:05 AM Kris: I know…but you have “other” sexual experiences that I couldn’t have even if you’re only “physically” with me and even those are something I couldn’t do, if that makes any sense to you.
·       Jun 08 12:06 AM Sassy: What are you referring to?
·       Jun 08 12:08 AM Kris: well… like the last meet when you said you could call the guy you had phone sex with so I could watch you get off – that’s VERY different for me… and forces me to try to figure stuff out in ways I’m not used to.
·       Jun 08 12:09 AM Sassy: I don’t remember it being phrased quite that way… more of a joke… I cannot see that actually happening.
·       Jun 08 12:11 AM Kris: I know….”sort of” a joke… but also part of who you really are…..and your return to talking about your hurt and being lied to by old flame, and now learning to “not trust” and have “casual sex” because that’s what you expect.
·       Jun 08 12:11 AM Sassy: I do recall when I would have thought all of this was totally impossible and bizarre.
·       Jun 08 12:12 AM Sassy: But… it just happens. And it doesn’t feel wrong or bad… in fact mostly good. And the men seem to find it helpful and I like helping.
·       Jun 08 12:13 AM Sassy: But it does not feel connected to you, or a reflection of my feeling for you and a judgment of the quality of “us”
·       Jun 08 12:13 AM Kris: so that’s the part that is VERY different for me…that you can disconnect it in that way. if I were getting off with other women on the phone I would feel like I was cheating on both my wife AND you. but that’s just me.
·       Jun 08 12:15 AM Kris: kind of goes back to your definition of “cheating” i.e., anything you would have to hide from a husband or wife
·       Jun 08 12:15 AM Sassy: So it feels like I am cheating on you?
·       Jun 08 12:16 AM Kris: no….because in your mind you’re not but in my mind I’m jealous. but don’t expect you to do something else and part of it is also wanting to get you off and not being successful so far, so it’s all kind of “mixed up” right now.
·       Jun 08 12:17 AM Kris: I don’t have ANY claims on you in any way…so technically it’s impossible for you to “cheat” on me. again…..part of “figuring this all out” for me.
·       Jun 08 12:18 AM Sassy: So you can have sex with your wife, and me… but it bugs you when I talk on the phone or computer with other men?
·       Jun 08 12:18 AM Kris: touche!
·       Jun 08 12:19 AM Sassy: Fascinating to poke around in your mind…
·       Jun 08 12:19 AM Kris: do you think about that…me having sex with my wife?
·       Jun 08 12:19 AM Sassy: I am curious about it but only in the “learning another facet of you” way
·       Jun 08 12:20 AM Sassy: and figuring out your needs and how to fit in to “what she give” and “what I provide” etc.
·       Jun 08 12:20 AM Kris: let me answer your other question with brutal honesty….yes, it “bugs me” to think of you talking on the phone or computer with other men… but your point is fair. I’m having sex with my wife and you but that’s it… not that the “number” really matters.
·       Jun 08 12:21 AM Kris: it “bugs me” because there’s a big part of me that I’m actually violating by “cheating”… but obviously don’t value it enough to not, because I’m selfish and want pleasure.
·       Jun 08 12:22 AM Sassy: It’s interesting because I have never had anyone who cared enough about me to care if I cheat.
·       Jun 08 12:22 AM Sassy: The men who in theory love me push me to “cheat”
·       Jun 08 12:23 AM Sassy: Actually tell me to get my needs met elsewhere
·       Jun 08 12:26 AM Kris: it’s complicated for me because sex for me by its very nature is a form of intimacy that I kind of want a certain level of “exclusiveness” with, but the whole “affair” thing makes that a lie in and of itself because I’m lying to my wife who I claim to love… so where does that put the whole “trust” thing with a “lover” I’m cheating WITH? very confusing to me on a number of levels, but apparently not enough to stop cuz I want to keep going….at least so far…..you?
·       Jun 08 12:29 AM Sassy: I remember very clearly when I crossed the line from “sex is what I do with people I love” to “sex is something I need, want… can get from a man I like… even if I don’t know what it means or if it will happen again”. Not ideal… not where I want to be… just… where I’ve ended up… and hopefully a means to get to a better place.
·       Jun 08 12:30 AM Kris: so when did you cross the line…that you remember very clearly?
·       Jun 08 12:31 AM Sassy: February 2012
·       Jun 08 12:32 AM Kris: after being hurt/betrayed/disappointed by old flame?
·       Jun 08 12:33 AM Sassy: no. That was May 2012
·       Jun 08 12:33 AM Kris: what happened in Feb that caused it?
·       Jun 08 12:34 AM Kris: you probably already told me…but we’ve told each other a TON of stuff….
·       Jun 08 12:34 AM Sassy: S’okay
·       Jun 08 12:34 AM Kris: meaning?
·       Jun 08 12:35 AM Sassy: It’s okay if you don’t remember everything I’ve told you. : )
·       Jun 08 12:36 AM Kris: oh good. maybe I should start printing out these conversations and reviewing them in case there’s a test at some point. but sounds like you’re not going to flunk me. : )
·       Jun 08 12:37 AM Sassy: You give me hope that you are really different… more honest… more caring.
·       Jun 08 12:37 AM Kris: ok…curious about that…but go back to what happened in Feb first….
·       Jun 08 12:38 AM Sassy: A man I knew from chat came to Boston for a business meeting
·       Jun 08 12:38 AM Kris: k…and?
·       Jun 08 12:39 AM Sassy: He was lonely, sad, horny, needing a boost. He wanted to meet, take me out for dinner.
·       Jun 08 12:40 AM Sassy: I was pretty sure he would balk at curvy old me, curious to see him after talking for 3 months…
·       Jun 08 12:41 AM Sassy: We helped each other out.
·       Jun 08 12:42 AM Kris: but why was that the line? what was the context….of what was happening just before that, that caused that to be the “line”?
·       Jun 08 12:43 AM Sassy: I did not love him.
·       Jun 08 12:43 AM Kris: before that you thought you had to….or were supposed to?
·       Jun 08 12:43 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 08 12:44 AM Kris: so just the experience of sex without love caused you to feel like that was worth having….and it was ok….pleasurable….”good enough”?
·       Jun 08 12:45 AM Sassy: Here was a young (30-something), fit, trim, handsome, wealthy man who wanted to touch me
·       Jun 08 12:45 AM Sassy: Was interested in making me feel good
·       Jun 08 12:46 AM Sassy: and said I had “mad skillz” that made him feel good
·       Jun 08 12:47 AM Kris: no doubt! I can “testify” to them myself?
·        Jun 08 12:47 AM Kris: I meant myself!!!
·       Jun 08 12:47 AM Sassy: I had no confidence in any of that before him
·       Jun 08 12:47 AM Sassy: Pretty heady stuff for a frumpy old married lady
·       Jun 08 12:48 AM Kris: that was only 2 years ago! You’re a pretty “quick learner”!
·       Jun 08 12:48 AM Sassy: He had been with pros – professional sex workers… and he thought I was BETTER!
·       Jun 08 12:48 AM Kris: he’d been with prostitutes?
·       Jun 08 12:49 AM Sassy: That’s what wealthy men do when their wives lock them out of the bedroom
·       Jun 08 12:50 AM Kris: but old flame deeply hurt/betrayed you several months later…..so what was your relationship with old flame when you had that “defining moment” of casual sex?
·       Jun 08 12:50 AM Sassy: and no one on AM or Craigslist replies
·       Jun 08 12:50 AM Kris: no one replied to him?
·       Jun 08 12:51 AM Sassy: Flame was far away, military (not visitable), very married… and encouraging me to find someone else to meet my needs because he had no idea when or if he could see me again
·       Jun 08 12:52 AM Kris: but what happened in May that caused you feel betrayed…his confession of being with another woman?
·       Jun 08 12:53 AM Sassy: When he approached me he said he had never cheated, never had a BJ, that I was “the one” he had gotten off on all his life…
·       Jun 08 12:54 AM Sassy: then I find out he had lived with another woman for 6 mos, while he was separated from his wife… less than year before he found me
·       Jun 08 12:54 AM Sassy: and that if he left his wife, she would be “the one”
·       Jun 08 12:55 AM Sassy: Do you know the song “Diary” by Bread from the 1970s?
·       Jun 08 12:55 AM Kris: no
·       Jun 08 12:55 AM Sassy: The guy finds his gf’s diary
·       Jun 08 12:55 AM Sassy: She writes about finding “the man she’s waited for”
·       Jun 08 12:55 AM Sassy: Goes on and on about how special he is…
·       Jun 08 12:56 AM Sassy: But he’s a little flummoxed because she’s never said any of it to him
·       Jun 08 12:56 AM Sassy: Of course, as he reads further, he realizes… she is not talking about him
·       Jun 08 12:57 AM Sassy: So I had been dreaming… of him leaving his wife, “rescuing” me, loving me
·       Jun 08 12:57 AM Sassy: Got way ahead of myself
·       Jun 08 12:58 AM Sassy: Somehow transferred responsibility to make my life better from me to him
·       Jun 08 12:58 AM Sassy: Without any promises from him. He was very honest about that… just passion, a confidante
·       Jun 08 1:00 AM Kris: Maybe so but at the end of the day a lie is a lie… that he told you all the things he did that simply weren’t true and not so “honorable” after all plus…
·       Jun 08 1:01 AM Kris: I seriously doubt the part of you that is so intensely loyal and “taking care of others” (i.e., H) would actually allow you to fulfill your fantasy. What do you think?
·       Jun 08 1:04 AM Sassy: You mean leaving H?
·       Jun 08 1:04 AM Kris: yes
·       Jun 08 1:05 AM Sassy: Yeah… that was odd. One part of me was totally committed to never leaving H. While the other was making elaborate plans to leave him, not have to deal with my awful job anymore, run away… or have flame move here… help me with H, love me.
·       Jun 08 1:07 AM Kris: Wow! That really IS some fantasy!  a lover who helps you take care of your H! That man doesn’t exist! ( in case you haven’t figured that out yet).
·       Jun 08 1:07 AM Kris: You really do belong to the “cake club”…don’t you? LOL
·       Jun 08 1:09 AM Sassy: Cake?
·       Jun 08 1:09 AM Sassy: I told you I was an idiot about him
·       Jun 08 1:09 AM Kris: Yes….have your cake and eat it too!
·       Jun 08 1:09 AM Sassy: Problem is I don’t have any cake at home
·       Jun 08 1:10 AM Kris: No…you were in love with him…not an idiot……I think you still are to some degree….and that it still hurts.
·       Jun 08 1:11 AM Kris: It bewilders me how you maintain an intimate friendship with him…and would even have sex again with him….if he were available….which would be more than “casual sex” for sure….whether you wanted it to be only that or not…..would definitely be “more” for you.
·       Jun 08 1:11 AM Sassy: I had to make a decision
·       Jun 08 1:11 AM Sassy: Whether to hold his lies against him and push him away, to feel good
·       Jun 08 1:12 AM Sassy: Or to forgive and forget and be his friend and enjoy hearing from him and feel good
·       Jun 08 1:13 AM Kris: I have some more questions about us…but it’s getting late…r u tired?
·       Jun 08 1:13 AM Sassy: Heh… wow… didn’t notice the time at all!
·       Jun 08 1:13 AM Sassy: No… not tired. You? Have to get up early?
·       Jun 08 1:14 AM Sassy: He does feel like the past to me.
·       Jun 08 1:14 AM Kris: no…I’m not tired…and don’t have to get up early…can chat some more if you like
·       Jun 08 1:14 AM Kris: that’s a good sign of healing.
·       Jun 08 1:14 AM Sassy: Is any of this helping you?
·       Jun 08 1:14 AM Kris: in what way?
·       Jun 08 1:15 AM Sassy: Just trying to figure out why you want to know this stuff?
·       Jun 08 1:16 AM Kris: for me it’s part of what I want in an affair…to know you. I don’t have any “agenda” other than I want to be with you as a whole person… not just a body to fuck once in a while.
·       Jun 08 1:17 AM Sassy: Okay
·       Jun 08 1:17 AM Kris: I know that’s not what most people want. they advertise NSA in bold font…to be clear they want “just good hot sex”….period
·       Jun 08 1:18 AM Sassy: Yes. I can say that my theories or rules or whatever… not set in stone. Always evolving…
·       Jun 08 1:18 AM Kris: meaning?
·       Jun 08 1:20 AM Sassy: What has gone on with other men… does not determine how we are
·       Jun 08 1:20 AM Sassy: It influences how I started out but not where I can end up
·       Jun 08 1:21 AM Kris: ok…I understand…
·       Jun 08 1:21 AM Kris: so question…
·       Jun 08 1:21 AM Kris: when you say you hope I’m more “honest and caring” then other men you’ve met on AM …what do you mean by that….”honest” especially?
·       Jun 08 1:24 AM Sassy: that you tell me the truth
·       Jun 08 1:24 AM Kris: what would be something I might lie about….more than other things?
·       Jun 08 1:25 AM Sassy: that you are with other women, that you will disappear without a word, that you want more than sex.
·       Jun 08 1:26 AM Kris: I might tell you I want more than sex…but really I just want sex and not “more”?
·       Jun 08 1:26 AM Sassy: right
·       Jun 08 1:27 AM Kris: ok….we’re getting to what was bothering me today…so I’m glad we’re reviewing what really matters in this…..for both of us.
·       Jun 08 1:27 AM Sassy: thank you for talking about, not just stewing
·       Jun 08 1:28 AM Kris: I have a confession to make. I was stewing for awhile and didn’t text you because I was “sulking a little”, but then felt guilty. so here’s your list, which is also mine. dnumber one: we both need to just do what we already agreed to, which is tell each other ahead of time if we plan to have sex with someone else.
·       Jun 08 1:28 AM Sassy: You frightened me pretty hard today so I am glad to know what it was about
·       Jun 08 1:29 AM Kris: frightened because I didn’t text?
·       Jun 08 1:29 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 08 1:30 AM Kris: I’m sorry. I was sulking…playing a game….I’m really sorry…..now I’m telling you the honest truth….forgive me and don’t hold it against me. it was childish and unkind, but I was also highly pissed at my wife and depressed and took it out on you a little. I’m really sorry
·       Jun 08 1:30 AM Kris: can I go back to the list?
·       Jun 08 1:30 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 08 1:32 AM Kris: ok .number one: I PROMISE if for some strange reason I suddenly became “someone else” and decided I wanted to have sex with another woman while with you… I will keep my word and risk telling you ahead of time. if you will renew your promise to do the same, just tell me…..knowing I will HATE the thought of it….but that we told each other we would do this.
·       Jun 08 1:33 AM Sassy: Okay
·       Jun 08 1:33 AM Kris: I know that doesn’t take all the risk out, because I could say that now and then just try to hide it.  but I’m telling you again – I will tell you…..I promise.  and I want you to tell me…..even though I will hate it.
·       Jun 08 1:34 AM Kris: the other part of that is the risk we’re both taking in having sex
·       Jun 08 1:35 AM Kris: if I lied I could expose you to other people’s STDs….and you would be doing the same to me. I wouldn’t do that to you….and I’m trusting you to not do that to me.
·       Jun 08 1:35 AM Sassy: Right
·       Jun 08 1:36 AM Kris: ok…enough of that….number two…..
·       Jun 08 1:36 AM Kris: I will never disappear without a word.
·       Jun 08 1:37 AM Kris: I couldn’t even sulk for a whole day without feeling guilty about not texting you.
·       Jun 08 1:37 AM Kris: there’s no way I will do that to you. I’m not capable of it….
·       Jun 08 1:37 AM Kris: I will tell you clearly if something changes, just as you have promised to do for me.
·       Jun 08 1:37 AM Kris: this is getting like “vows of an affair” LOL!
·       Jun 08 1:37 AM Sassy: The same for me
·       Jun 08 1:38 AM Sassy: It may suck but it is better to know if things change, not be left wondering
·       Jun 08 1:39 AM Kris: right. one day it will happen and it will suck and one of us will be the one who initiates it and the other one will be the “receiver” and it will suck and will happen but we will at least have done it with some level of courage and “integrity” so no “cowardly disappearing without a word”
·       Jun 08 1:41 AM Kris: I want to say a little about “wanting more than sex”
·       Jun 08 1:43 AM Kris: to begin with – I’m a little “preoccupied” with wanting the sex to be better for you but trying to not “obsess” about it….but as far as wanting “more than sex”
·       Jun 08 1:46 AM Kris: I honestly spend a lot of time fantasizing as much or more about just being with you doing things that I thing are fun as having sex with you.  of course, they are somewhat “selfish” fantasies because they’re what I think are fun, which you may not. but my point is I actually enjoy being with you so it amazed me when you said you were surprised when we went boating that I would be interested in doing “mundane” things with you, or spending “hour after hour” with you. I really like being with you! that’s “more”……isn’t it?
·       Jun 08 1:47 AM Sassy: Definitely
·       Jun 08 1:47 AM Sassy: And you have been very good about doing other things with me
·       Jun 08 1:48 Kris: I’m not trying to be good. I’m trying to have fun and wanting you to have fun. have “other things” been fun for you?
·       Jun 08 1:48 AM Sassy: Very
·       Jun 08 1:49 AM Kris: ok…good…..and I’ve appreciated it when you’ve told me what you like and what you like, so we can find things we both would consider fun. so far my bike is not on that list, but I’m still going to work on that. LOL
·       Jun 08 1:49 AM Sassy: I’m surprised that you were mad at w and depressed and didn’t think “Oh… Sassy will make me feel better… I should contact her.”
·       Jun 08 1:50 AM Sassy: I saw a beautiful black Classic Harley today at lunch… very similar to your bike
·       Jun 08 1:50 AM Kris: I was having bad thoughts about you too (now this is being TOO honest)…..
·       Jun 08 1:51 AM Kris: did you think…Hmmmm…. maybe I should gently force myself to go for a ride on one?
·       Jun 08 1:51 AM Sassy: Ha ha. Nope.
·       Jun 08 1:51 AM Kris: Oh well. one can always hope….lol.
·       Jun 08 1:55 AM Sassy: Did we cover the list? Are you thinking better thoughts about me?
·       Jun 08 1:56 AM Kris: Yes…we covered the list…I thought, “She’s probably fucking someone else” same “trust” issues. we have the same ones.  on to a different subject – I had a fantasy of watching BSO at Symphony Hall with you, boating from Essex to Gloucester, going to Cape for a whole weekend (maybe camping but more likely hotel), having you spend the night with me at my house – the list goes on and on….tell me something YOU would consider REALLY FUN (other than sex—that’s a given)
·       Jun 08 2:00 AM Sassy: I’ve thought of you seeing one of my projects, showing you where I work, going on my favorite day trips to places along the coast…
·       Jun 08 2:01 AM Kris: ok…if you trust me (which I’m thinking you do)…we can do those things! I’d love to see what your real world is like…and what you enjoy – that would be fun! so if you trust me to show me, let’s do them sometime!
·       Jun 08 2:02 AM Sassy: I was even thinking of you having lunch with me and Mom. Probably a bad idea but… I was poking at it
·       Jun 08 2:03 AM Kris: wouldn’t matter to me….but who would I be? just a friend…from the projects? (tough to lie to a mom though, eh?)
·       Jun 08 2:04 AM Sassy: Good question
·       Jun 08 2:07 AM Kris: well…if you think of a good answer you can live with…let me know.  I’m open to whatever you want to do…..any more ideas? I like these so far!
·       Jun 08 2:07 AM Sassy: It is very tough for me to think ahead. Feels like tempting fate.
·       Jun 08 2:08 AM Kris: why?
·       Jun 08 2:08 AM Kris: you planning on writing me a “Dear Kris” email sometime soon?
·       Jun 08 2:08 AM Sassy: noooo
·       Jun 08 2:09 AM Kris: so why tempting fate?
·       Jun 08 2:09 AM Sassy: every time I let my guard down, start to dream and plan… poof
·       Jun 08 2:09 AM Kris: not gonna happen with me
·       Jun 08 2:09 AM Sassy: they all said that
·       Jun 08 2:10 AM Sassy: I’m so sorry you have to deal with their crappiness
·       Jun 08 2:11 AM Kris: I’m not saying we’re going to be together forever….we’re not going to be…but I’m not going to quickly lose interest and go away. we’ll have time to do everything we both want to do to have fun….everything on both our lists doesn’t even take us to the end of the summer….can’t dare to “tempt fate” at least THAT much?
·       Jun 08 2:11 AM Kris: speaking of which…
·       Jun 08 2:12 AM Kris: my wife is going to be gone a lot starting soon. so start clearing your calendar for “more Kris than you can really take”. : D
·       Jun 08 2:12 AM Sassy: Do you have nosy neighbors?
·       Jun 08 2:13 AM Sassy: Or children who “stop by”?
·       Jun 08 2:13 AM Kris: NO….I NEVER see or hear from ANY of my neighbors!
·       Jun 08 2:13 AM Kris: NO KIDS….NEVER!
·       Jun 08 2:13 AM Sassy: Does your wife?
·       Jun 08 2:14 AM Kris: NO! They don’t just “drop in”and she only has one or two and they’ll know she’s not here and won’t just “drop by” doesn’t happen…
·       Jun 08 2:14 AM Sassy: They won’t ask her about that car from MA that was there all night?
·       Jun 08 2:15 AM Kris: We could park it someplace else safe nearby, or I could drive you back and forth.
·       Jun 08 2:15 AM Kris: But no…nobody will notice.
·       Jun 08 2:15 AM Kris: You’d have to see my property to understand – it’s very private and people can’t even see where we normally park our cars.
·       Jun 08 2:15 AM Sassy: Okay… just want to think it through. I do not want to get you in trouble!
·       Jun 08 2:16 AM Sassy: But you seem to be very good at that
·       Jun 08 2:16 AM Kris: all our neighbors have the same amount of large property as ours – minimum of two acre lots, practically a “whole city block” where you live.
·       Jun 08 2:16 AM Kris: good at what…getting in trouble….or avoiding it?
·       Jun 08 2:16 AM Sassy: Avoiding it, looking ahead…
·       Jun 08 2:17 AM Sassy: I was worried today that you’d been caught
·       Jun 08 2:18 AM Kris: ABSOLUTELY! I really care about my wife. I love her. I don’t want to just “avoid getting in trouble” – I really don’t want to hurt her above all else. I don’t want to say that to take away from you and me…but it’s true….in the same way you are loyal and committed to your H and would probably not want to intentionally or unintentionally hurt him.
·       Jun 08 2:19 AM Kris: No….I was sulking. I’m sorry. please forgive me. I was thinking…”I’m going to wait for her to text me”. it was childish.
·       Jun 08 2:20 AM Sassy: I was going to but you told me to shoo, so I felt like I had to wait
·       Jun 08 2:21 AM Kris: I thought about that. how I was kidding, but that you might take it seriously – my twisted sense of humor.  back to “security plans” I even was fantasizing where I would hide you on the outside chance there was an absolutely “emergency/unusual” situation where you would need to.  chance is almost non-existent, but kind of like having a “fire drill” in mind even though you may not need one…and probably never willl.
·       Jun 08 2:21 AM Sassy: wow… that is so cool
·       Jun 08 2:22 AM Kris: don’t hold this against me…..but I was thinking of where you would….and wouldn’t “fit”
·       Jun 08 2:23 AM Kris: some closets you would, others you wouldn’t….thought of the specific “escape route”….and how I would “delay a visitor”
·       Jun 08 2:24 AM Kris: I was also thinking that you “fit” against me on the back of my bike (sorry—can’t fault a guy for trying…like my “mission” to learn you first name. : )
·       Jun 08 2:24 AM Sassy: Heh… very good. That’s one of the main safety advice items I hear… have a plan, like if you meet someone you know in a restaurant… have a story ready
·       Jun 08 2:25 AM Kris: Yup…I’m always “scheming.” How does that fare with our   “trust” thing though…when you watch someone consistently lie to a person they claim to love…for me that’s a “conundrum” (not sure that’s the right word)…
·       Jun 08 2:26 AM Sassy: I try not to think about it
·       Jun 08 2:27 AM Sassy: I know that’s dopey but it mostly works
·       Jun 08 2:27 AM Kris: no…it probably just save a lot of energy.
·       Jun 08 2:27 AMSassy: You have to lie to her. There’s no reason to lie to me
·       Jun 08 2:27 AM Kris: true!
·       Jun 08 2:27 AM Sassy: One of the women in chat has “the perfect guy”
·       Jun 08 2:28 AM Kris: except for the same reason – fear of how you might react but we’ve already agreed to tell the truth.
·       Jun 08 2:28 AM Kris: oh?
·       Jun 08 2:28 AM Sassy: She goes on and on about him… the presents, the trips, the thoughtfulness
·       Jun 08 2:28 AM Sassy: Finally someone said, “Is there anything wrong with this guy?”
·       Jun 08 2:28 AM Sassy: She didn’t miss a beat… “He cheats on his wife.”
·       Jun 08 2:29 AMKris: Ha ha….just a “minor fault” eh?
·       Jun 08 2:29 AM Kris: I mean…if you’re going to have a “character flaw” make it count (and feel really good!).
·       Jun 08 2:30 AM Sassy: I can usually justify being the “other woman” because the w withholds, or is a bitch or something..
·       Jun 08 2:30 AM Sassy: But it is trickier with you
·       Jun 08 2:30 AM Kris: Oops…not the case here.
·       Jun 08 2:30 AM Kris: so?
·       Jun 08 2:30 AM Sassy: I don’t think about it. It’s your business.
·       Jun 08 2:31 AM Kris: but it does bring up something you want to know quite a bit….
·       Jun 08 2:31 AM Sassy: I did not drag out. You stepped out. If it wasn’t me, it would be someone else
·       Jun 08 2:31 AM Sassy: And I am not trying to get you away from her.
·       Jun 08 2:31 AM Kris: true. definitely NOT your responsibility….and, no, you’re not.
·       Jun 08 2:31 AM Sassy: You like my rationale?  : )
·       Jun 08 2:32 AM Sassy: I like to think I might even make you a better husband.
·       Jun 08 2:32 AM Kris: you don’t need a “rationale”. from your point of view there’s nothing “wrong” about any of this, if I understand your thinking correctly. you know that many people consider it “wrong” (including me, strangely)…but I’m not sure you do.
·       Jun 08 2:33 AM Kris: but you bring up a point that is important…
·       Jun 08 2:34 AM Kris: what IS it I’m wanting…that you’re looking to give?
·       Jun 08 2:34 AM Kris: honestly, I don’t really know, which is a mystery to me. I can’t define it even for myself so that it makes a lot of sense.
·       Jun 08 2:35 AM Sassy: Different… new… another perspective… fun without pressure
·       Jun 08 2:35 AM Sassy: a toy up your ass?
·       Jun 08 2:35 AM Kris: Ha ha yeah…and someone who even quotes sources about exactly how to do it!
·       Jun 08 2:36 AM Kris: wouldn’t want to be guilty of “plagiarism” (spelling?)….ha ha
·       Jun 08 2:37 AM Sassy: Any of that sound worth trying?
·       Jun 08 2:37 AM Kris: Definitely!
·       Jun 08 2:39 AM Kris: There are some things that are kind of “obvious”…like a vibrator pressed against the most sensitive part of my cock is going to get me off or you sucking my cock or using your hand and a vibrator in my ass at the same time might feel good. but never did it before. your finger in my ass was hard to judge cuz it needed to be lubed a little more, but I’m game.
·       Jun 08 2:40 AM Kris: as I said before – wish we could find the “magic for you” too. sigh
·       Jun 08 2:41 AM Kris: I think I told you this fantasy before…but now that I understand what you really need, not sure it would work for you…but I’ll repeat it anyhow.
·       Jun 08 2:42 AM Kris: if I could put my cock in your ass and you could play with yourself with a toy and get off that way, I could feel you cum with my cock in your ass but there’s some pretty big “IFs” in that scenario…as we’ve learned from past 10 milling sexual encounters…..oy vey!
·       Jun 08 2:43 AM Kris: 10 million (you have the actual number written down someplace I’m pretty sure….lol).
·       Jun 08 2:43 AM Sassy: What do I really need?
·       Jun 08 2:44 AM Kris: a good hard cock pounding you deep and hard long enough for you to cum
·       Jun 08 2:44 AM Kris: correct me if I’m wrong…I’m all ears
·       Jun 08 2:45 AM Sassy: Could be… I don’t know. I was surprised the stunt cock was… eh
·       Jun 08 2:45 AM Kris: and I was a little surprised that vibrating ball at least “started you a little” given in was mostly pressing you near or on your clit.
·       Jun 08 2:46 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 08 2:46 AM Kris: yes…you were a little surprised too?
·       Jun 08 2:46 AM Sassy: very
·       Jun 08 2:47 AM Sassy: I thought either all of them, or especially the vaginal ones, would be good… or all bad
·       Jun 08 2:47 AM Sassy: I have not played with them without you BTW
·       Jun 08 2:47 AM Sassy: In case you were worrying about being replaced
·       Jun 08 2:48 AM Kris: lol…not at all. I think you SHOULD try playing with them without me (just don’t tell me who’s on the phone or computer at the same time….”jealous guy” can’t handle that….yet)
·       Jun 08 2:48 AM Sassy: though I have some thought of trying to figure out what works and then showing you…
·       Jun 08 2:49 AM Kris: ABSOLUTELY! GO FOR IT (plus I need all the “help” I can get!)
·       Jun 08 2:49 AM Sassy: We’ll see…
·       Jun 08 2:50 AM Kris: you make me laugh…you always say that when you have some degree of hesitation.  why are u hesitant?
·       Jun 08 2:52 AM Sassy: I really think of all that as sex and that’s something I do with a guy
·       Jun 08 2:53 AM Kris: your depriving yourself of the joy of masturbation….if I didn’t masturbate I’d be missing about 90% of the sex I’ve had since I was 13 years old. that’s half a century of beating off….something I wouldn’t want to miss! : D
·       Jun 08 2:54 AM Sassy: It makes me feel… lonely
·       Jun 08 2:55 AM Kris: use your imagination then you can be with someone temporarily, or think about how you’ll be teaching me what makes you feel good so I can do it right/better.
·        Jun 08 2:56 AM Sassy: It’s tricky to do with H here
·       Jun 08 2:56 AM Kris: maybe we should try phone sex with you using the toy and telling me what you’re doing and how it feels? that would be VERY different, especially for me!
·       Jun 08 2:56 AM Kris: do it in your car. call me on the phone.  tell me what you’re doing and how it’s feeling.
·       Jun 08 2:56 AM Sassy: Can’t plug them in car
·       Jun 08 2:57 AM Kris: lame excuse. double AA batteries…..remember?
·       Jun 08 2:57 AM Sassy: Oops… right!
·       Jun 08 2:57 AM Kris: gotcha!
·       Jun 08 2:57 AM Sassy: Duh
·       Jun 08 2:57 AM Sassy: Where am I going to park?
·       Jun 08 2:58 AM Sassy: I will mull this over…
·       Jun 08 2:58 AM Kris: if you could grope me in a public garage near the entrance on a first date! I’m sure you can find a place.
·       Jun 08 2:58 AM Sassy: Ha ha
·       Jun 08 2:58 AM Sassy: Who was that woman?
·       Jun 08 2:59 AM Kris: I don’t know… pretty “Bodaciously Sassy!” though!!!
·       Jun 08 2:59 AM Sassy: Shameless hussy
·       Jun 08 2:59 AM Kris: no shame at all – complete hussy
·       Jun 08 3:00 AM Sassy: But damn that was fun
·       Jun 08 3:00 AM Kris: snake charmer…mesmerized her “victim”
·       Jun 08 3:01 AM Sassy: I’ve taken it much further in my mind… so bad
·       Jun 08 3:01 AM Kris: but he didn’t mind at all – felt so good – was taken by surprise. loved it! THAT was different!!
·       Jun 08 3:01 AM Kris: no…so GOOD…want to tell me?
·       Jun 08 3:02 AM Sassy: the details don’t quite work but I gloss over that.  end up sitting on the trunk with you inside me
·       Jun 08 3:02 AM Sassy: or kneeling, sucking
·       Jun 08 3:03 AM Sassy: trying to keep quiet, hide it, but doing it
·       Jun 08 3:03 AM Kris: omg! think of all the traumatized children with parents trying to get to their cars. passing by, on their cell phones calling the police.
·       Jun 08 3:03 AM Kris: what’s that man doing to that lady, mommy?
·       Jun 08 3:04 AM Sassy: I wish we could get over making sex a secret, scary thing
·       Jun 08 3:05 AM Kris: well, yes…but there’s such a thing as “age appropriate” disclosure of information too, but I know what you mean.
·       Jun 08 3:05 AM Kris: too many people are taught that “sex is dirty”… which interesting as a “two-edged” sword.
·       Jun 08 3:06 AM Sassy: Indeed
·       Jun 08 3:06 AM Kris: because adults then use that to actually get off….
·       Jun 08 3:06 AM Kris: they enjoy being able to “do the forbidden”…. makes it more fun…dangerous…taboo….adds to the excitement.
·       Jun 08 3:06 AM Sassy: I was wondering today if I am less exciting because it’s okay with H
·       Jun 08 3:07 AM Kris: you mean to him?
·       Jun 08 3:07 AM Sassy: No, to AM men who are looking for someone to be taboo with
·       Jun 08 3:08 AM Kris: who knows? everyone’s different. I can tell you a secret little part of my “dirty mind” about that if you want though.
·       Jun 08 3:12 AM Kris: is this connection slow….or r u nodding off….it’s getting late..
·       Jun 08 3:12 AM Sassy: oooh… I got musing about your dirty mind!
·       Jun 08 3:13 AM Kris: yes?
·       Jun 08 3:13 AM Sassy: Do tell!
·       Jun 08 3:14 AM Kris: yes…there is something exciting about the explicit thought “I’m fucking another man’s wife” having the forbidden…taboo. but then the whole nature of having an affair lends itself to that. as far as you being ‘less exciting” because H is ok with it, I doubt anyone would really care….either they would want you or they wouldn’t….but I can only speak for myself. who knows?
·       Jun 08 3:16 AM Kris: as you know…I was pretty “weirded out” by H being ok with it (and you with his GFs). but didn’t make you “less exciting” to me, just something out of my sphere of experience (and now I’ve politely said “Hi” to him… by accident!) LOL
·       Jun 08 3:17 AM Sassy: And nothing bad came of it.
·       Jun 08 3:17 AM Sassy: another of those “OMG! I CAN’T DO THAT” type things that just happens and is fine and you move along
·       Jun 08 3:18 AM Kris: guess so… weird. hope I don’t become something unknown to myself. lol
·       Jun 08 3:19 AM Kris: although my wife is convinced I’m already there….nagging me daily to cut my hair…which I’m resisting and letting grow.  one of your earrings is next.
·       Jun 08 3:20 AM Kris: had a fantasy I know for sure you would never do…but which means that my personal is less “play acting” and more “just what I’m like and enjoy”….want to hear it?
·       Jun 08 3:20 AM Sassy: hee!
·       Jun 08 3:20 AM Kris: I meant “persona”
·       Jun 08 3:20 AM Sassy: Sure
·       Jun 08 3:21 AM Kris: I went to my mother’s house today. unfortunately had to borrow more money – part of depression and fight with wife.
·       Jun 08 3:21 AM Kris: as I was driving home from my mother’s I had an urge to go get my bike.
·       Jun 08 3:21 AM Kris: I fantasized having you ride on it with me.
·       Jun 08 3:21 AM Kris: and going to the outer burbs and finding whichever bar the “badest boys in town” drank at.
·       Jun 08 3:22 AM Kris: would be there in leather with you….
·       Jun 08 3:22 AM Kris: they would all greet me…and it wouldn’t be “play acting”
·       Jun 08 3:22 AM Kris: my real nickname was “Wild Kris”
·       Jun 08 3:22 AM Kris: because then I really was not “play acting”
·       Jun 08 3:23 AM Kris: I would go in, say hi, buy some drinks for old drinking buddies, buy a coke for myself and whatever non-alcoholic drink you wanted, hang out for awhile and leave.
·       Jun 08 3:23 AM Kris: that was it…..
·       Jun 08 3:23 AM Kris: those days were REALLY wild and dangerous
·       Jun 08 3:24 AM Sassy: How long ago was that?
·       Jun 08 3:24 AM Kris: a little bit of what I’m trying to “recapture” in my “dotage”
·       Jun 08 3:24 AM Kris: last time was probably 25 years ago.
·       Jun 08 3:25 AM Sassy: One of my online pals talks about how he is a serious businessman, father, husband, and then silly and funny and sexy with his gf… and he begins to wonder which is him
·       Jun 08 3:25 AM Sassy: same with Sassy and DL
·       Jun 08 3:25 AM Kris: probably both, at different times, like DL and S…both real but different times expressing selves
·       Jun 08 3:26 AM Kris: Wow! Has the same thought at the same time…scary!
·       Jun 08 3:26 AM Kris: can’t wait for the first mutual Os together…
·       Jun 08 3:26 AM Sassy: Okay… we should probably sleep… even though I feel this magic and I won’t want it to end
·       Jun 08 3:27 AM Sassy: Hope it will be worth waiting for
·       Jun 08 3:27 AM Kris: meaning?
·       Jun 08 3:27 AM Sassy: The O’s
·       Jun 08 3:28 AM Kris: yes, but hope won’t have to wait too much longer either. one last thing then I’ll let you go.
·       Jun 08 3:29 AM Kris: I’m really sorry for scaring you by not texting. I won’t do that again. sleep well. Mwah!
·       Jun 08 3:29 AM Sassy: Thank you. Sweet sexy dreams Kris.

Super frisky

 Tuesday, June 3, 2014
Kris: Hope your day is going well 11:20 AM
Kris: No need to reply- know u need to focus. maybe chat tonight. meet tomorrow! 🙂 11:22 AM
Me: Hiya hot stuff! Thank you! You make me smile through a tough day – spent 2 hours training to do financial work. SUCKS! I hope your day is going well. Going to Mom’s – will look for you online later in the evening! And your smiling face tomorrow! 12:09 PM
Kris: Sorry they’re making you do stuff u hate.  Working out before work so wont b home so late…leaving work round 8:00…on to chat by 9:30. Glad to put smile on your face, but working toward “grimace of climactic pleasure” accompsnied by loud moaning. Trying to keep my “performance anxiety” about all that at “reasonable level” which you’re so good at helping with. (Hope that made u smile too!) 😉 Alfalfa 12:42 PM
Kris: I probably shouldn’t distract u with this at work, but watching some “squirting”/outside sex/bondage all in one. Girl’s not my type, bondage not my thing, and “squirting” seems fake, but listening to her cum is fun… 😉 
Kris: sent from naughty Spanky and the gang… 😉 3:48 PM
Kris: out early, sitting on bike listening to Stones “Cant Always Get What You Want”. gonna make quick stop at gym then rush home to chat with Sassy Girl. feeling naughty…let’s do something different (for us). watch some same porn clips together. sure u have a vast “treasure trove” to draw from.  7:37 PM
Me: You are super frisky! Great idea! Sadly, I am worn out, with a wicked headache. Going to bed. Sorry! 8:14 PM
Me: Wondering about supper tomorrow – maybe meet at Shaws, get veggies together? Or whatever you’re in the mood for? 8:17 PM
Kris: ok. sounds good…just entered NH on 93. stopped to take F’in helmut off. (“Live Free or Die” state–more “bad boy” friendly). still goin to gym…but makin short to get on w. U!  🙂 !!! 8:30 PM
Kris: sorry im runnin late. 🙁 just dropped off bike. hope u have enough life left for short chat. b on in about 25 10:03 PM
·       Jun 03 10:28 PM Kris: sorry i’m on late…u still up?
Kris: On if you’re still up 10:29 PM
Kris: Fall asleep at desk? Go to bed? If so, I’ll be with you in 19 hours! 10:38 PM
·       Jun 03 10:41 PM Kris: Guess is you went to bed…or fell asleep at desk. Either way sleep well and I’ll see you tomorrow. I’ll leave this open a little while longer–in case you fell asleep at your desk, wake up, and want to just say good night. Kiss & Hug. Kris
·       Jun 03 10:46 PM Kris: You may not read this…but I just had a delicious thought/memory. If you’re asleep right now…..and I was there…..I could wake you up and “bother” you. But, alas, I’m here and you’re there. But I’ll be there soon!  : D
·       Jun 03 11:05 PM Kris: 11:05 p.m Guess not tonight. : ( but tomorrow will be here soon. : ) sleep well Sass. can’t wait to get my paws on you. Mwah!

Kris: I’m going to bed. sleep well Sass. be with u soon. Kiss & hug with groping. 
Mmmmmm! 11:09 PM

More intense

Sunday, June 1, 2014
Me: Good morning hot stuff! 9:44 AM
Kris: Morning sexy Sass! Sat in church fantasizing more adventures…like early morning breakfast at your fave place in Laconia…then long, SLOW ride in boat around whole shoreline of all of Lake W….and of course….somehow/somewhere (in boat? room? TENT?)…..”try again”. (“Oh my, Mr. Kris,” she says ever so sultry and coyly…”Whatever r u talking about?”) 11:43 AM
Me: Fantasies in church? Naughty! I’m hiding in the bathroom at the barbecue, peopled out, hope to go home soon. Hope you’re having a nice Sunday! 3:27 PM
Kris: Kind of like Michael Corleone at Baptism in church…while people were simultaneously being murdered by his orders. But I’m only plotting adultery. Good thing I don’t live in ancient Israel… where adultery was a sin punishable by stoning to death. Off to get my bike…to ride to gym to work out…then little more gardening. Pretty active for an old man, yeah?! 😉 4:46 PM
Me: Just got home. Need to do stuff but nap is calling… you are pretty spritely for a man in his dotage. 4:48 PM
Kris: have to look up dotage. guess is old guy? lol. if u nap….let me in a dream… 🙂 4:53 PM
Kris: u up? 9:49 PM
Me: Yes. 9:50 PM
Kris: watchupto? 9:50 PM
Me: Bopping around the net. You? 9:52 PM
Kris: watchin movie…”Labor Day” with Kate Winslet…not usual “flesh and fucking” she usually does in movies….but sensual in subtle way…. u gonna b up for a while? 9:56 PM
Me: You know it is very tough to be with someone for 27 hours and then not be with them again for days. 9:57 PM
Kris: r u talking bout me?!? 9:59 PM
Me: I hope to stay up until sometime between 11 pm and midnight. But bed is calling me… 10:00 PM
Kris: can’t chat now, but could when movie is over. not sure how much longer though – would think hour at most, but not sure. 10:03 PM
Me: that’s fine. Check in when you can. I’ll leave my Yahoo chat open. If I go off to bed I will text you. 10:15 PM
Kris: k. curious about what u meant about spending 27 hours…then hard not to see for days. understand “sort of”…want to understand better. don’t try to explain here. save for chat. tomorrow if need b. let u know when movie ends. if you’re still up. sleep if u need to. hug & kiss….Kris 10:25 PM

Kris: movie’s over…going on chat 10:55 PM
·       Jun 01 11:00 PM Kris: Hi!
·       Jun 01 11:00 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Jun 01 11:00 PM Kris: Tired?
·       Jun 01 11:02 PM Sassy: Not too bad
·       Jun 01 11:02 PM Sassy: You?
·       Jun 01 11:02 PM Kris: Same…glad to be chatting with you… : )
·       Jun 01 11:03 PM Sassy: : )
·       Jun 01 11:04 PM Kris: So what did you mean by hard to be with someone 27 hours…then not see for days? Sorry you did? Or wish you could see me sooner than “days”?
·       Jun 01 11:04 PM Sassy: Tough to be so connected and then… disconnected.
·       Jun 01 11:06 PM Kris: So would you rather not be “so connected”? Not spend so much time together at once?
·       Jun 01 11:07 PM Sassy: Oh no… not at all.
·       Jun 01 11:07 PM Sassy: Just a bit of emotional whiplash
·       Jun 01 11:07 PM Sassy: to be so close and then so far
·       Jun 01 11:07 PM Kris: is that new/different…than other relationships?
·       Jun 01 11:08 PM Sassy: Seems more intense… and I haven’t spent the night with other AM men… probably something to do with that
·       Jun 01 11:09 PM Kris: but not something you don’t want to do again….just a different experience…not used to?
·       Jun 01 11:10 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Jun 01 11:10 PM Sassy: A bit of a roller coaster
·       Jun 01 11:10 PM Sassy: You feeling anything like that?
·       Jun 01 11:11 PM Kris: no. not any sense of disconnectedness or it being too intense- only positive feelings of being close to you and getting to spend a lot of time with you. I do “intense” a lot in general anyhow (case you haven’t noticed). lol
·       Jun 01 11:12 PM Kris: but it can scare people. I understand that. or cause strange feelings after. I understand that but I don’t experience it that way.
·       Jun 01 11:13 PM Sassy: It was so fun, so spoiled and now I am back to having to shoulder everything
·       Jun 01 11:13 PM Kris: and not to bring up a sore subject….but facing work tomorrow is a big downer for you sure.
·       Jun 01 11:15 PM Sassy: I am mostly holding it off, telling myself it won’t be as bad as I thought
·       Jun 01 11:17 PM Kris: maybe it won’t be. I’m glad you experienced our time together as fun and being spoiled. for me that means “mission accomplished” : D hope you’ll let me do it more. and not “protect yourself” against the “back to reality” part by not letting me cook up other ways I hope we can have fun and I can try to spoil you.
·       Jun 01 11:18 PM Kris: I’m a little surprised you enjoyed it as much as you say. I believe you…just a little surprised….thought it might have all been
·       Jun 01 11:18 PM Kris: might have been “a bit much”
·       Jun 01 11:20 PM Sassy: I was surprised you didn’t get sick of me, and wanted to do all that mundane stuff… but it seemed quite intimate in a fun way
·       Jun 01 11:26 PM Kris: why would I get sick of you? “intimate in a fun way” can be to me what “fast, casual sex” is to many people – turns me on. it’s kind of “slow extended foreplay” because when I get to fuck YOU, I’m fucking a real person I’m getting to know more intimately and the fucking is better for me that way. that’s when I get turned on. not just “use you” like when you fucked me for the first time. that was very intimate and real and brought the “trust thing” to a different level… but mundane stuff puts sex with you on a “different level” for me. that might make me a little “weird” or “different” or “whatever”. sometimes I like “fast and casual”…but honestly probably more in fantasy sex than real sex.
·       Jun 01 11:30 PM Sassy: Wow… you explained that really well. I get it.
·       Jun 01 11:32 PM Sassy: I really needed it this week. I can’t get over how you are here now…
·       Jun 01 11:33 PM Kris: what do you mean “how I am here now”?
·       Jun 01 11:33 PM Sassy: When other stuff in my life is so heavy, you are giving me breaks and helping me bear it
·       Jun 01 11:34 PM Kris: good! glad to help! I’m having plenty of fun myself! : D
·       Jun 01 11:35 PM Kris: have some more “intense” fantasies/ plans I was thinking of for spending more time together during the week if you want to….after my wife starts working and is gone most of the time.
·       Jun 01 11:36 PM Sassy: I had to giggle at you cooking up stuff like that in church!
·       Jun 01 11:37 PM Sassy: I’ve been watching naughty videos… but thinking of us doing the stuff
·       Jun 01 11:37 PM Kris: Oh good! we should watch it together sometime.  here are some more “fantasy plans” I could pick you up when you get out of work… since I’m not that far away in the course of my work anyhow. then bring you to my house and fuck you. sleep with you and bring you to work in the morning.
·       Jun 01 11:38 PM Kris: after my wife starts work in a couple of weeks
·       Jun 01 11:38 PM Kris: when she’s gone 24/7 with only one day home.
·       Jun 01 11:41 PM Kris: don’t have to answer… got time to think about it…but you’re more adventurous than you let on to be, so I’m getting VERY HOPEFUL. with all my crazy schemes! LOL
·       Jun 01 11:41 PM Sassy: I think about each one you tell me about
·       Jun 01 11:41 PM Sassy: Try to imagine doing them
·       Jun 01 11:43 PM Kris: ok….so “in general” do they seem “scary?” or “not that fun” or “might be fun” or”fun or “not sure what I think”?
·       Jun 01 11:44 PM Sassy: It varies.  : )
·       Jun 01 11:45 PM Kris: makes sense. let’s find the one(s) with the best shot at being really fun. you’ll have to tell me what you prefer.
·       Jun 01 11:45 PM Sassy: Sure.
·       Jun 01 11:46 PM Kris: anything else on your mind as we approach “turning into pumpkins” time?
·       Jun 01 11:46 PM Sassy: sex.
·       Jun 01 11:46 PM Kris: be specific
·       Jun 01 11:47 PM Kris: what was on the naughty videos you were watching?
·       Jun 01 11:48 PM Sassy: I was thinking about 4 am Friday
·       Jun 01 11:49 PM Kris: what about it?
·       Jun 01 11:49 PM Sassy: Feeling the rhythm of your tongue on my nipple, matching the movement of your fingers and then your cock inside me… with it dark I was focusing on the feeling… the sounds.
·       Jun 01 11:50 PM Kris: did it feel good?
·       Jun 01 11:50 PM Sassy: Very.
·       Jun 01 11:50 PM Kris: for me too
·       Jun 01 11:51 PM Sassy: Makes my inside woggle thinking about it now
·       Jun 01 11:51 PM Kris: good!
·       Jun 01 11:51 PM Kris: we’ll have to do it again sometime!
·       Jun 01 11:52 PM Kris: what sounds in particular?
·       Jun 01 11:52 PM Sassy: your moans
·       Jun 01 11:52 PM Kris: just before cumming and during?
·       Jun 01 11:52 PM Sassy: yes
·       Jun 01 11:54 PM Kris: I know you want me to talk more during sex….but you should be encouraged to know that I am much more expressive with you when I cum than “other times” I feel free to make sounds and that you’ll like it too… so that’s VERY different for me…and very fun!
·       Jun 01 11:56 PM Sassy: I find it odd that you are so talkative and then just shut down… I suppose you are focusing on what’s going on, harder to think, talk?
·       Jun 01 11:58 PM Kris: yes. I’m focusing on feeling…talking distracts me rather than turns me on. but that’s not to say I don’t want to try new things and need to find what turns you on. I’m willing to experiment and learn and do different things. part of it is that when you’ve been doing the same thing for so long in the same way there’s a bit of a “learning curve” but I’m willing to be a teachable student if you’ll keep being a patient teacher. : D
·       Jun 01 11:59 PM Sassy: Sounds perfect!
·       Jun 01 11:59 PM Sassy: I am so happy that you get that it isn’t perfect right off the bat, that it is worth working on
·       Jun 02 12:00 AM Kris: I just hope it keeps moving in the right direction. I worry a lot about you not being satisfied, not cumming, giving up.
·       Jun 02 12:02 AM Sassy: Not likely
·       Jun 02 12:03 AM Kris: you seem to have a great capacity for “relishing what you DO get pleasure out of” and making that “enough” {for the moment)
·       Jun 02 12:03 AM Kris: enough to keep going, trying new things… not giving up.
·       Jun 02 12:04 AM Sassy: I get zilch at home, so it all seems to good to me!
·       Jun 02 12:05 AM Kris: what do you mean by “zilch?”
·       Jun 02 12:05 AM Sassy: I get nothing physical from Hubby
·       Jun 02 12:06 AM Sassy: So holding your hand in Uno’s sticks out to me
·       Jun 02 12:06 AM Kris: yes I know it means nothing…but with who? hubby….or “anyone for that matter”…..?
·       Jun 02 12:07 AM Sassy: I am getting nothing from no one
·       Jun 02 12:07 AM Sassy: Except all the wonderful attention from you!
·       Jun 02 12:09 AM Kris: ok. just gotta get that sex thing really hot and satisfying for you. all my “extra-curricular” fantasies are all well and good….but need to keep the “main thing the main thing”… which I know for a fact YOU will not let us slip too far away from (even if it escapes me temporarily in my “dotage”). ; )
·       Jun 02 12:10 AM Kris: tell me what you watched in the naughty video then I should let you go to sleep…as fun as it is to talk about sex with you.
·       Jun 02 12:11 AM Sassy: They were pretty gross actually… if I find a good one, I will send it to you.
·       Jun 02 12:11 AM Sassy: About squirting mostly
·       Jun 02 12:12 AM Kris: I know we talked about this a little…but is that really squirting “v” juice? just find that hard to believe/imagine. think they’re actually pissing and saying it v-juice. LOL
·       Jun 02 12:13 AM Sassy: I don’t know… was not pee from me!
·       Jun 02 12:13 AM Kris: you’ve squirted?
·       Jun 02 12:13 AM Sassy: Yes… you made it happen twice in the hotel in Salem
·       Jun 02 12:14 AM Kris: that was squirting? I thought it was like an actual gush of v-juice that came out in a stream. did you experience it that way in Salem?
·       Jun 02 12:15 AM Sassy: yes
·       Jun 02 12:15 AM Kris: I don’t remember it in Salem. was that when the sheets were really wet? I though that was the first time in the hotel in Woburn after first lunch at the 99. but don’
·       Jun 02 12:16 AM Kris: don’t trust my memory (I’m not keeping a journal)
·       Jun 02 12:16 AM Sassy: The hotel in Woburn was where I got carried away and made it tough for you to sit down for awhile.
·       Jun 02 12:17 AM Kris: not the sheets being drenching wet after?
·       Jun 02 12:17 AM Sassy: No. that was Salem
·       Jun 02 12:17 AM Sassy: with shrimp
·       Jun 02 12:17 AM Sassy: it was an S day…Salem.  Shrimp.  Squirting!
·       Jun 02 12:17 AM Kris: hee hee (as you would say)!
·       Jun 02 12:18 AM Sassy: I should go to bed. But I don’t want to. Don’t want to leave you… and if I go to sleep I have to wake up and go to work. : (
·       Jun 02 12:19 AM Kris: ok….but first tell me one thing you want me to do that we haven’t yet and then we’ll say goodnight.
·       Jun 02 12:20 AM Sassy: mark me
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Kris: other than pee with the bathroom door open… or send you a pic of my feet.
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Kris: explain “mark me”
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Sassy: leave a mark on my breast
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Kris: how?
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Sassy: with your mouth
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Kris: bite you and suck hard enough to leave a mark?
·       Jun 02 12:21 AM Sassy: Or you could draw it with a pen, I suppose
·       Jun 02 12:22 AM Sassy: yes
·       Jun 02 12:22 AM Sassy: something I can feel at the time, then look at when you’re gone and smile
·       Jun 02 12:23 AM Kris: ok. I can do that…and will! hopefully soon. invite me to “cordially fuck you” when hubby has a date some time. if I can, i’ll be there.
·       Jun 02 12:23 AM Sassy: Yes… I am working with him on this week’s calendar.
·       Jun 02 12:23 AM Sassy: I am busy Tu with Mom and project meeting Thursday
·       Jun 02 12:24 AM Sassy: More info as I get it!
·       Jun 02 12:25 AM Kris: ok. Whenever.  I’ll look forward to it. in the meantime can still bug you with texts and chatting. now time to say goodnight. Nite SEXY SASSY!!!
·       Jun 02 12:25 AM Sassy: Good night dear man.
·       Jun 02 12:25 AM Sassy: I may be quiet during work hours. Do not take it personally.
·       Jun 02 12:26 AM Kris: Won’t. thanks for heads up….may restrain myself knowing that. understand. Nite!

Sick Sassy

Tuesday, May 27, 2014
Kris: How r those sniffles? Forget if u have seasonal allergy to pollen (aka: “hay fever). Could it be that? Anyhow…whatever u want to do is fine. By chance we picked best day for boating this week. Cool & possible rain today & tomorrow. THURSDAY MOSTLY SUNNY & WARMER! Whoopee! (high 70–but dress warm as can be cooler on water). Finishing a little yard work…putting stuff in boat…waiting to hear from you… 🙂 5:48 AM

Me: Good morning honey bunny funny man! I am sniffling, coughing a little, sore throat. Going to take a hot shower and see. Never had allergies. Could use TLC but really don’t want you sick! Torn… 8:08 AM

Kris: Ok…I’m not worried about getting sick…but ran into snag in renting truck to tow boat. Guy I was supposed to rent from backed out…so now I’m scrambling to find another. So let’s pass on visit today…so I can focus on trying to find a truck…and you can rest. I don’t have to work until 3:30 today. If you’d be at computer could chat up to around 2:00…to update you and see how you’re feeling. Hope u feel better…Mwah! 8:23 AM

Kris: How u feeling? 9:48 AM

Me: A little better.. had some breakfast, popping around the internet. How’s your day going? 9:49 AM

Kris: Bummed about truck…trying to find another. 9:51 AM

Kris: Woke up thinking of you…fantasizing…horny…wanted to be with you today…now scrambling to keep plans for Thursday alive…Arghh!!! 9:56 AM

Kris: Have 3 possibilities for renting truck…waiting to hear back from a friend…good chance will be able to keep boating on for Thurs…worst case I still have a room reserved at Red Roof for Thurs…so you’re not off the hook either way…lucky you, eh?…(try not to have more fun online than if I had been able to “do you” today)… 😉 11:24 AM

Me: No fun here! Miserable actually. 12:27 PM

Kris: Sorry…what’s wrong? 2:00 PM

Kris: Sick? 2:04 PM

Me: The triad of being sick, during the only week I take off a year, plus my brain won’t shut up about work, plus missing a meet with you… has me feeling pretty cursed! 2:05 PM

Kris: I was thinking the same thing about you being sick on vacation…had to be now, right? Couldn’t be during a work day…for legitimate reason to take work day off. Don’t worry about missing meet…only missing mediocre sex at best (sorry, couldn’t resist–trying to stop). If you’re well I hope to be a fun distraction on Thurs…one way or another. May be time to start channeling “angst” into search for new job–if it’s going to keep messing with your head that badly. Off to work. Touch base later. Try to rest…gentle hug light kiss…Kris. 2:31 PM

Kris: Good news!…got a truck to pull boat. Just need healthy Sassy girl now…to out in it! 2:57 PM

Kris: …meant to put in it! 2:57 PM

Me: Hooray! 2:59 PM

Kris: 🙂 !!! 3:03 PM

Kris: I’m making lunch for us on Thurs…grilling on portable grill i’m bringing…what meat would you like? (OTHER than that…SASSY!…that one’s too easy…don’t even… 😉 4:31 PM


Kris: U up/there? How r u feeling? 7:17 PM

Me: Hiya! Thanks for asking. I’m a little better, sniffling and and coughing less 7:19 PM

Me: Hubby is out until after 10, so it’s quiet 7:19 PM

Me: How was your day? 7:20 PM

Kris: Low key. on way home from work…just pulled over…can u chat for a few minutes…pulled over…have laptop… 7:26 PM

Me: Sure. Too late to head this way? 7:28 PM


·       May 27 7:29 PM Sassy: Hiya dear darling delightful man!
Kris: you’re seriously tempting me…need to food shop a little for lunch i’m making on thursday…r u well enough to help me…go to shaw’s…i ‘ll meet u there…pay for stuff…go to your house after… 7:34 PM

Me: I’d better not go out. I’m kinda a mess… probably best not too come tonight. Can chat. 7:35 PM

Kris: ok…but i forgot my jetpack for intetnet, so have to chat later, but need your help with food ideas…starting with meat to grill…burgers, chicken (which parts), steak, sausage, ribs…or none of the above and something else altogether? 7:43 PM

Kris: may b hard to think about eating…lost appetite cuz sick…but need to do now. 7:48 PM

Kris: won’t have much time tomorrow.. 7:49 PM

Kris: I’ll keep driving…waiting…tap, tap, tap… 7:51 PM

Kris: …TEASING! 7:51 PM

Me: I like burgers, white meat chicken, sausage the best. Corn on the cob is yummy grilled. Tomato, cucumber, beets… what other questions? 7:53 PM

Kris: More…other things…desserts…sorry…should write down…u’ve told me bfor 7:58 PM

Me: Go for easy stuff like fruit? Banana? Raspberries? Apples? Whatever look fresh and good and you want too. Do not get all! Keep it simple! 8:01 PM

Kris: Lol…now why would u say THAT? 😉 8:04 PM

Me: Because I have EIGHT kinds of chocolate under my desk? 🙂 8:09 PM

Kris: I have no idea what you’re talking about dear… bring some with u… for later “dessert” 8:15 PM

Me: Will do. Let me know what else I should bring. 8:23 PM

Kris: Toys…your most bodacious self…sense of adventure…trust that you’ll be safe boating…consider spending night with me (just think about it…don’t answer here)… 8:27 PM

Me: Are you picking me up here? 8:28 PM

Kris: Can…then to room at Red Roof…then back home…if that’s what u want to do. 8:31 PM

Kris: I’m spending night at Red Roof…will bring u home any time u want. 8:32 PM

Kris: Meaning…pick you up in morning on way to boat launch…”at your service”…including all needed transportation…by land and sea…ALL DAY (and night?)…WHEE! (as u would say). 8:38 PM

Me: Ah good. Pretty sure H needs the car at some point during all that. Thank you! 8:44 PM

Kris: Wonder what I could have been doing right now…instead of shopping? 😉 8:45 PM

Me: Listen to me sniffle? 8:45 PM

Kris: Lol 8:46 PM

Kris: At walmart now…leaving phone in car to try and make short work of this (and try not to “go overboard”…wink)…think u’ll b up an hour from now to chat a little…or too tired? off to shop…will check back later…9:08 PM

Me: I am still awake. Hope you didn’t have to drive in the pouring rain! 10:06 PM

Kris: No…rained…but not on bike…so don’t care…just leaving walmart…tried to restrain myself…only partly successful. ;). can b online in 30…short chat…to say nite? 10:46 PM

Me: Okay… will try to stay awake. 10:47 PM

Kris: Don’t if you’re tired…tomorrow’s another day…want you to heal…sleep if u need it. 10:49 PM

Kris: You’re sweet…but sleep…i should too. Nite Sass…Mwah! Kris. 10:58 PM


·       May 27 11:32 PM Kris: You still up? I texted to say goodnight, so hope you’re asleep…but just in case…couldn’t resist checking…Mwah!

Overnight sex

Sunday, May 25, 2014
Kris: I woke up in the middle of the night and saw that there was a lady laying next to me… 7:27 AM
Kris: I didn’t know her, but I could tell it was a female cuz she was lying on her back and had really big boobs! 7:29 AM
Kris: instead of being scared I started wondering what it would be like to have sex with her. 7:31 AM

Kris: I was a little nervous…but I reached over and started caressing her tits, gently rubbing, feeling, pulling a little on her nipples. 7:35 AM

Kris: her nipples got hard… 7:36 AM

Kris: she started to wake up… 7:37 AM

Kris: I got scared for a minute thinking she might beat me up…when she realized what I was doing… 7:38 AM

Kris: instead…she started humming when I moved over to lick her nipples  7:40 AM

Kris: …first one…then the other…back and forth…she kept humming and moaning quietly…made little “body jerks”…groaned “oohh” and spasmed quickly…body jerked a little. 7:46 AM

Kris: I wondered what was between her legs…in the movies I had seen it was always covered up… never watched much porn. 7:49 AM

Kris: So I took a chance…reached down to feel it… 7:49 AM

Kris: felt really good… 7:50 AM

Kris: slipped two fingers inside…she was already really wet, tight…thrust my fingers in and out…deeply…steady rhythm…in and out…she moaned… 7:54 AM

Kris: she rolled on her side, lifted one leg, as if inviting me inside her. she grunted something 8:00 AM
Kris: I thought “who cares?…i’ll just go in from behind and give her a good fucking that way…lying here on our sides” 8:03 AM

Kris: so I slipped my hard cock in her…from behind 8:05 AM

Kris: I was a little nervous about what she would do if she didn’t like it…maybe try to bite my cock off or something (though i couldn’t really see her teeth in the darkness). 8:10 AM

Kris: anyhow…I kept thrusting in and out from behind…she groaned and seemed to really like it… 8:12 AM

Kris: she was building in excitement…then suddenly exploded into orgasm…made loud noises and scared the shit out of me…never saw anything like it before (but always wanted to… 😉  8:16 AM

Kris: after she finished cumming I kept thrusting…then I came…it felt SO GOOD!…and then I thought of the words to an old pop song… 8:20 AM

Kris: …”We did the Mash, we did the Monster-Mash. We did the Mash, it was a graveyard smash!”… 8:23 AM

Kris: Alfalfa… 😉 8:23 AM

Kris: Boat fired right up! WHOOPEE!!! ROCK ‘N ROLL BABY! 1:45 PM

Me: Yay! I’m having lunch in the park with my niece. 1:46 PM

Kris: Sounds nice. My silly “story” was an effort to “normalize” your feelings about the whole sleeping with me all night thing.  Hope I didn’t offend or hurt your feelings in any way. 1:51 PM

Kris: Tell me if I did…even a little…so I can apologize. Never want to hurt you in any way. 1:55 PM

Me: Awww…You’re so sweet. The story was a little odd but the funny and sexy parts were hot! Thank you! ! 1:59 PM

Kris: Ok…long as it didn’t offend. “Odd” makes me laugh…be curious to hear you explain how so a little. 2:02 PM

Kris: Beautiful, sunny day…off to roto-till garden and cut huge lawn. Be fun to have you see it…which will be completely possible after June 16th…when wife is gone full-time. Maybe even an overnight or two…if u decide to venture out of your comfort zone. 2:09 PM

Kris: Off to gym for a bit…enjoying your day? 3:44 PM

Me: There’s something about a little girl that makes everything fun! 4:27 PM

Kris: Good! we all need fun…glad you’re having some! 6:28 PM

Kris: …and I bet you’re a fun aunt!…”Ahnty Sassy”… 😉 6:43 PM

Me: You betcha! Done with niece, heading out for supper. Chat later? 6:48 PM

Kris: Sure…had big ambitions for lots of chores…but not the strength today…so just “chillin” rest of night. Love to chat!…’bout what time? 6:53 PM

Kris: Text me when you’re home & ready to chat… 🙂 8:40 PM

Me: I am home and ready to chat. 🙂 9:13 PM

Kris: K. 🙂 9:15 PM
·       May 25 9:18 PM Kris: Hi!
·       May 25 9:18 PM Sassy: Hiya Kris sweetie honey darling dear
·       May 25 9:18 PM Kris:  : ) 
·       May 25 9:19 PM Kris: you make me laugh!
·       May 25 9:19 PM Sassy:  : ) 
·       May 25 9:19 PM Kris: wassup?
·       May 25 9:20 PM Sassy: Very quiet. How’s your chillin going?
·       May 25 9:20 PM Kris: ok…watching a movie and chatting with you!
·       May 25 9:20 PM Sassy: I wish you were here so I could fish your beautiful cock out of your plaid boxers.
·       May 25 9:20 PM Sassy: What movie?
·       May 25 9:20 PM Kris: wait let me back up…my my…you’re Sassy tonight!
·       May 25 9:21 PM Kris: Gettysburg
·       May 25 9:22 PM Kris: just checked…boxers ARE plaid again…I think once they were solid
·       May 25 9:22 PM Sassy: There was some big anniversary this year.
·       May 25 9:22 PM Sassy: They were light blue/gray once
·       May 25 9:22 PM Kris: you’re too funny!
·       May 25 9:23 PM Sassy: But not the night I attacked your belt buckle and sucked on you within the first 3 minutes you were in my room
·       May 25 9:23 PM Kris: Mmmmm…you Sassay girl!
·       May 25 9:24 PM Sassy: I am not funny. I am Sassy!
·       May 25 9:24 PM Kris: Right!
·       May 25 9:24 PM Sassy: and sexy
·       May 25 9:24 PM Kris: right again!
·       May 25 9:24 PM Sassy: and sultry
·       May 25 9:24 PM Kris: Mmmmm!
·       May 25 9:24 PM Sassy: and a lot of other S words!
·       May 25 9:24 PM Kris: like what?
·       May 25 9:24 PM Sassy: Smart
·       May 25 9:25 PM Kris: yes!
·       May 25 9:26 PM Kris: whatcha thinking lately?
·       May 25 9:27 PM Sassy: trying not to. Except for you and me and BOOM!
·       May 25 9:27 PM Kris: OK!
·       May 25 9:27 PM Sassy: Did you get the back 40 mowed?
·       May 25 9:27 PM Kris: no…just went to gym, came home, covered boat, ate…nothing more
·       May 25 9:28 PM Kris: tomorrow wife’s going to mow while I roto-till the garden
·       May 25 9:28 PM Sassy: I had so much fun with my niece. She is so amazing!
·       May 25 9:28 PM Kris: watcha do?
·       May 25 9:29 PM Sassy: We picked up lunch from McD’s and sat in the park to eat
·       May 25 9:30 PM Kris: what was so amazing and fun…like what?
·       May 25 9:30 PM Sassy: She showed me how the various playground equipment works
·       May 25 9:31 PM Sassy: She has taken gymnastics and gone rock climbing so she was explaining how what she learned from that applies to this
·       May 25 9:31 PM Kris: did that make you laugh…because she’s so smart?
·       May 25 9:31 PM Sassy: I try to take her seriously… she is so grown up sounding.
·       May 25 9:32 PM Sassy: Then we went to RiteAid and I let her buy stuff!
·       May 25 9:32 PM Sassy: We got a bead kit to make jewelry and CANDY and… a Hula hoop!
·       May 25 9:32 PM Kris: Wow! You really ARE a fun aunt!
·       May 25 9:33 PM Kris: Does she call you “aunt” or “auntie”?
·       May 25 9:33 PM Sassy: No. Just my name
·       May 25 9:33 PM Kris: Just your first name?
·       May 25 9:33 PM Sassy: yes
·       May 25 9:34 PM Sassy: She made a necklace with her name. 
·       May 25 9:40 PM Sassy: Hubby came out and showed niece how to play with kitties… it was very fun
·       May 25 9:40 PM Kris: came out to where?
·       May 25 9:41 PM Sassy: of his office to the living room
·       May 25 9:42 PM Kris: gotcha…was that a little different…or something he would normally do?
·       May 25 9:42 PM Sassy: very different. He usually hides when I have company
·       May 25 9:42 PM Kris: well…that was nice then!
·       May 25 9:42 PM Sassy: She bought three bags of candy, and she carefully opened them and took three pieces from each and went in to share with him
·       May 25 9:43 PM Kris: did that help lure him out?
·       May 25 9:44 PM Sassy: Yep
·       May 25 9:44 PM Kris: cool!
·       May 25 9:45 PM Sassy: He was “talking for the cats”
·       May 25 9:45 PM Sassy: It was hysterical
·       May 25 9:45 PM Kris: I bet!
·       May 25 9:45 PM Kris: was she really amused?
·       May 25 9:45 PM Sassy: Yes. She was giggling and talking back “to the cats”
·       May 25 9:46 PM Kris: had she played with the cats before?
·       May 25 9:46 PM Sassy: not like this. Last time she sat and petted them, but she had them jumping and chasing string and really interacting this time
·       May 25 9:47 PM Kris: sounds like lots of fun…and nice that hubby joined in…
·       May 25 9:48 PM Sassy: I was sitting in the recliner
·       May 25 9:49 PM Sassy: Remembering your kissing me there
·       May 25 9:49 PM Kris: when were you remembering it?
·       May 25 9:49 PM Sassy: this afternoon
·       May 25 9:49 PM Kris: when your niece was there…and hubby was playing with her?
·       May 25 9:50 PM Sassy: She was in the room, working on her necklace
·       May 25 9:50 PM Kris: hope it’s a nice memory…sexy memory…
·       May 25 9:50 PM Sassy: Very
·       May 25 9:50 PM Kris: good!
·       May 25 9:50 PM  Sassy: sensual
·       May 25 9:51 PM Sassy: Kind of astonishing for a man who was like… kissing… eh… when we started talking
·       May 25 9:51 PM Kris: workin on it…lol
·       May 25 9:52 PM Sassy: yum. adore helping you practice. 
·       May 25 9:52 PM Kris: I think you converted me within about a couple of hours of the very first lunch meeting.
·       May 25 9:53 PM Kris: starting when you kissed me right outside the restaurant…completely took me by surprise…mesmerized…in a trance…you’re a snake charmer!
·       May 25 9:54 PM Kris: then got hotter in the parking garage…can’t believe I did that…but glad I did!
·       May 25 9:54 PM Sassy: me too
·       May 25 9:56 PM Kris: glad you like helping me practice…more “practice”…Tuesday…then day together Thursday…been thinking about that
·       May 25 9:57 PM Kris: sure you want to use up so much of your vacation time with me?
·       May 25 9:57 PM Sassy: Definitely!
·       May 25 9:57 PM Kris: alrighty then!
·       May 25 9:57 PM  Sassy: Did you read the story I sent?
·       May 25 9:59 PM Kris: not yet…but I will…do you want me to now…or later?
·       May 25 10:00 PM Sassy: whenever
·       May 25 10:00 PM Kris: give me a couple of minutes. I’ll go read it right now…hold on…
·       May 25 10:08 PM Sassy: Took a bathroom break… be back soon… keep typing if you like and I will catch up
·       May 25 10:10 PM Kris: Wow! You’re a great writer and that was a really sexy story. It was fun to see “some parts of you I’m starting to know” in the story…as well as looking for “little clues” about what turns you on…what you might like to do when we’re together…the only thing is that the pics didn’t display…maybe if I copy and paste them separately into my browser…yummm!
·       May 25 10:11 PM Kris: the woman in the story got herself off…something I’d still like to see you do…which so far you’ve still replied with “we’ll see”
·       May 25 10:13 PM Kris: when we were in the shower together…and you started to…you stopped…you said it was because “you didn’t want to fall”…but I think you got self-conscious…maybe you won’t be at some point.
·       May 25 10:14 PM Kris: then there’s me “telling you a story” or “talking to you”…while we’re lying together naked on the bed…kind of weird to have you “write a script” for me…but could use at least a LITTLE help…with what would turn you on…you’d want to hear.
·       May 25 10:15 PM Kris: ok…I’ll wait for you to get back…read this…and reply…
·       May 25 10:18 PM Kris: Oh goodie!…tried again and the photos DID display…very sexy…sensual…whole setting…leads me to think again about Thursday…know how the boating part will go…just wondering about sex that day…how/when/where…
·       May 25 10:18 PM Kris: lots of content above…don’t miss anything! LOL
·       May 25 10:19 PM Kris: ok…I’ll really wait now…for you to reply…
·       May 25 10:20 PM Sassy: I’m baaaaack!
·       May 25 10:21 PM Kris: great!…plenty to catch up on.
·       May 25 10:21 PM Sassy: You are so fun… I disappear for a few minutes and you bring up 6 different ideas!
·       May 25 10:22 PM Kris: because you’re smart enough to not miss any…except any you might want to avoid…then you’re really good at “subtly dodging”…wink!
·       May 25 10:22 PM Sassy: thank you for reading my story, and liking it
·       May 25 10:22 PM Kris: it was GREAT!
·       May 25 10:23 PM Sassy: I don’t know where these things come from… they just pour out of my head
·       May 25 10:23 PM Kris: and maybe some other parts?
·       May 25 10:23 PM Sassy: Ha ha. Naughty man
·       May 25 10:23 PM Kris: so you get turned on thinking/writing it?
·       May 25 10:23 PM Sassy: I will try to help you with talking more
·       May 25 10:23 PM Sassy: Yes
·       May 25 10:24 PM Kris: do you get off?
·       May 25 10:24 PM Sassy: tingle a bit
·       May 25 10:24 PM Kris: not to orgasm?
·       May 25 10:24 PM Sassy: Not usually
·       May 25 10:25 PM Sassy: It’s a little short and cute for that
·       May 25 10:25 PM Kris: but you can get off just using your imagination…right…without even touching yourself?
·       May 25 10:25 PM Sassy: Oh yes
·       May 25 10:26 PM Sassy: Sometimes videos help
·       May 25 10:27 PM Kris: I just can’t imagine that…I was actually thinking about how you could do that when I was taking a shower today…amazes me…no way I could do that…without at least SOME physical stimulation.  I can get a little “pre-cum” flowing…but not all the way to an orgasm without some kind of touching.
·       May 25 10:27 PM Sassy: What do you think about, when you’re taking care of yourself.?
·       May 25 10:28 PM Kris: women I’d like to fuck…sometimes from the past…sometimes from the present…usually someone I know well…but I’ve also looked at porn in the past…not so much recently.
·       May 25 10:29 PM Kris: sometimes past sexual experiences…like with wife from years ago…when we were younger…a variety of things…
·       May 25 10:29 PM Sassy: Cool
·       May 25 10:29 PM Kris: now…sometimes YOU!
·       May 25 10:29 PM Sassy: Really?
·       May 25 10:29 PM Kris: Sure!…why would that surprise you?
·       May 25 10:30 PM Sassy: I like to inspire you
·       May 25 10:30 PM Kris: you do!
·       May 25 10:30 PM Kris: you do more than that too…up close and personal!
·       May 25 10:31 PM Kris: what kind of videos help you?
·       May 25 10:32 PM Sassy: It depends. Sometimes snippets from TV shows of people kissing… very tame. Other times, very raunchy outdoor sex or BDSM with ropes and stuff…
·       May 25 10:33 PM Kris: would watching something with me be fun…or not?
·       May 25 10:34 PM Sassy: Could be… never done that.
·       May 25 10:34 PM Sassy: I’ve shared videos and emailed comments back and forth, but never watched with a man
·       May 25 10:35 PM Kris: why watch a video when you can grab the real thing, eh?…but might be fun…something different…
·       May 25 10:36 PM Sassy: Have you watched with a woman?
·       May 25 10:38 PM Kris: years ago with my wife…we watched porn…like rented a movie in a hotel room…when we were just staying someplace…and porn was something you could buy there.
·       May 25 10:38 PM Sassy: As foreplay?
·       May 25 10:39 PM Kris: yes…not during…would naturally fuck after…but not during or to get off while watching…actually helped make the sex hotter…but then she’d always “feel guilty” after…oh well…
·       May 25 10:39 PM Sassy: guilty for what?
·       May 25 10:40 PM Kris: good girl “stop it I like it” syndrome…like how the demure lady might feel…if she was too much in charge at a given moment…suppressing Sassy.
·       May 25 10:40 PM Kris: that make any sense?
·       May 25 10:40 PM Sassy: Yes
·       May 25 10:41 PM Sassy: I talk with a lot of guys in chat who have very repressed wives
·       May 25 10:41 PM Kris: my wife actually LOVES sex…what’s weird is…she doesn’t like to talk about it or admit it…and I tease her mercilessly about that…
·       May 25 10:42 PM Sassy: I like all three… sex, talking, admitting!
·       May 25 10:42 PM Kris: I’ve noticed
·       May 25 10:43 PM Kris: I like talking here…but not used to talking “during”…which you’ll need to help me with a little…and I’ll have to get used to…just not used to it…but willing to learn…grin!
·       May 25 10:44 PM Sassy: Maybe we can try sex during talking. 
·       May 25 10:44 PM Kris: talking about what?
·       May 25 10:45 PM Sassy: probably… the weather?
·       May 25 10:45 PM Sassy: 😀
·       May 25 10:45 PM Kris: now you’re teasing me!
·       May 25 10:45 PM Sassy: ayup
·       May 25 10:45 PM Kris: ok…so back to something we said we were going to do…
·       May 25 10:46 PM Kris: I’m going to put my cock in your mouth as your head is over the side of the bed and lick your nipples while you suck on me and grab me…how’s that sound?
·       May 25 10:48 PM Sassy: Yummy
·       May 25 10:48 PM Kris: but only as foreplay (hopefully)…
·       May 25 10:48 PM Sassy: right
·       May 25 10:49 PM Kris: I had a little fantasy about using one of the toys at the same time…
·       May 25 10:49 PM Sassy: I am just too good at bj?
·       May 25 10:49 PM Sassy: OH my… you have good ideas
·       May 25 10:49 PM Kris: yes…I might not want you to stop…but then I’ll be “done”…and don’t want to be that soon.
·       May 25 10:49 PM Kris: my “recovery” time is much longer than the guy in your story…lol
·       May 25 10:50 PM Kris: I was thinking the fake cock in you might be fun to try…since you’re a “vagina girl” (that word you don’t like)…
·       May 25 10:51 PM Sassy: Interesting. Remind me to get it out, with the lube, so it’s there if you want to grab it
·       May 25 10:52 PM Kris: ok…in your story there was “front and back”…was back anus?
·       May 25 10:52 PM Kris: ass…hole…whatever!
·       May 25 10:53 PM Kris: language is funny sometimes
·       May 25 10:53 PM Sassy: don’t think so… where was that?
·       May 25 10:54 PM Sassy: Wait… I see it.
·       May 25 10:55 PM Kris: a few sentences above the last picture…
·       May 25 10:56 PM Kris: “added my fingers inside her front and back”
·       May 25 10:56 PM Sassy: Yeah
·       May 25 10:57 PM Sassy: You do catch the sassy details
·       May 25 10:57 PM Kris: “until she came again” (AGAIN!  I’m still waiting for once!…not your fault…combination teasing…”self-deprecatory” you told me to stop)
·       May 25 10:58 PM Kris: so I was thinking of putting my finger in your ass sometime…but know you had a bad experience…and with me it will be gentle and not hurt…lots of lube…slow…in there without hurting…if you want to try it…could do me again too…but need more lube next time…or not…whatever
·       May 25 10:59 PM Sassy: sure
·       May 25 11:01 PM Sassy: check in first… I am having… um… intestinal problems today but I hope they’ll be healed soon
·       May 25 11:02 PM Kris: ok…will check in first…on a different subject… I may have to wait till Tues…to get this out of you…but any thoughts about sex on Thursday?during… after… boating… when/where? We could “fool around” just about anyplace…but would like more comfort for “full sex” than I can picture on boat…and thoughts about that?
·       May 25 11:02 PM Sassy: What would you consider ideal?
·       May 25 11:03 PM Kris: a comfy bed someplace
·       May 25 11:04 PM Kris: one option would be get a room after boating…but you go home after…if you’re not comfortable spending the night.
·       May 25 11:06 PM Kris: just a thought…money’s tight…but this is going to be a “really fun fantasy” for me…so trying to play it all out in a certain way would be worth it for me.
·       May 25 11:07 PM Sassy: I am worrying about money. And it being commencement weekend down here, will have to get far away to even find a room
·       May 25 11:07 PM Sassy: Let me think some more
·       May 25 11:08 PM Kris: I’m strapped for cash right now…but get paid next Friday…if you could afford to put a room on a credit card I could reimburse you as soon as next Saturday.
·       May 25 11:09 PM Sassy: Sure
·       May 25 11:09 PM Kris: Do you want to stay near Boston?…go on the Charles River…out to Boston Harbor…or go to the Cape?
·       May 25 11:10 PM Sassy: in the boat?
·       May 25 11:10 PM Kris: yes
·       May 25 11:11 PM Sassy: It’s very hard for me to decide
·       May 25 11:11 PM Kris: why?
·       May 25 11:11 PM Sassy: I don’t know anything about this
·       May 25 11:12 PM Kris: what’s to know? where would you prefer to go…see…be…to see things? if you haven’t been to either (which you haven’t),,,,both would probably be equally fun for you.
·       May 25 11:13 PM Kris: I would prefer the Cape…but you might like to cruise the Charles… seeing the city from the river is very different…fun.
·       May 25 11:13 PM Sassy: I think up here. Would be fun to see places I know from a different perspective
·       May 25 11:14 PM Sassy: I’ve never been to the cape
·       May 25 11:15 PM Kris: ok…we’ll stay up here…and you’re right!…it’s fun to see places you know from a different perspective.  I think you’d love the Cape…very beautiful…but we can do that another time (hopefully).
·       May 25 11:15 PM Sassy: Sure
·       May 25 11:15 PM Sassy: If I survive this trip. 
·       May 25 11:15 PM Kris: You mean live…as in not die?
·       May 25 11:16 PM Sassy: Right… or get horribly sunburnt or seasick…
·       May 25 11:16 PM Sassy: What I am supposed to wear? I don’t think I have any boating clothes.
·       May 25 11:18 PM Kris: Whatever you’re comfortable in…just for being outside in general…nothing special for “boating” per se…cover up if that helps with concern about sun…plus I don’t think it’s going to be too hot…so you can probably cover up and be comfortable.
·       May 25 11:18 PM Kris: have you been on any kind of boat before at all?
·       May 25 11:19 PM Kris: you mentioned concern about getting sea sick…that”s why I asked if you’ve been on a boat before.
·       May 25 11:21 PM Sassy: Here and there… whale watch, ferries, glass-bottom boat in the Keys
·       May 25 11:22 PM Sassy: The Lake W tour boats
·       May 25 11:22 PM Sassy: Attempting to water ski with cousins in NC as a teenager
·       May 25 11:23 PM Kris: ever get sea sick any of those times?
·       May 25 11:24 PM Sassy: Yes
·       May 25 11:24 PM Kris: easily…sometimes? a lot?
·       May 25 11:24 PM Sassy: sometimes
·       May 25 11:24 PM Sassy: If I stay above decks where I can see the horizon, I’m usually fine
·       May 25 11:25 PM Kris: there’s no “below deck” on my boat…in fact, you’ll probably be sitting on the front bow…out in the open…
·       May 25 11:26 PM Kris: I want this to be fun for you…if it’s not…we’ll turn around and do something else…don’t worry…no point otherwise.
·       May 25 11:26 PM Sassy: I plan to be fine. 
·       May 25 11:26 PM Kris: I want you to suck on my cock…not throw up on me…LOL
·       May 25 11:27 PM Kris: I don’t know what’s gotten into me tonight…some “Sassy” wearing off maybe?
·       May 25 11:28 PM Sassy: Hope so!
·       May 25 11:28 PM Kris: how u doin…getting tired?
·       May 25 11:28 PM Sassy: Yeah…
·       May 25 11:28 PM Sassy: didn’t sleep much again
·       May 25 11:28 PM Kris: ok…let’s say goodnight…Mwah!
·       May 25 11:29 PM Sassy: So good talking! Sweet dreams!
·       May 25 11:29 PM Kris: Same…you too!

Lots of choices

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Kris: Would Thursday instead of Friday work for you for boating? (With or without spending night in room together on Thurs night). Can still do Fri…just a little shorter time available Fri night. Has to do with logistics of renting truck. Will explain details later. 9:48 AM

Me: Good morning hot stuff! Thursday is fine, maybe even a little better. Mwah! Thank you for dealing with details – I am usually the one doing all that! 9:51 AM

Kris: Ok. Waiting to hear back from truck owner to see if it’s available Thurs. If it is do you want to spend night in room Thurs…or go home that night. Or we could still get a room Thurs night…and you could go home “after”. (“After?”…”After what?” she asks coyly). 9:59 AM

Me: Cool. Standing by! Let’s talk more about the room and overnight part. Mwah! 10:08 AM

Kris: Ok! Let you know. Some things to think about while waiting to hear from truck owner. 10:13 AM

Kris: If the weather forecast holds up for next Thurs it’s supposed to be “Partly cloudy…highs in the mid 60s.” On the water it could be a little cool and not sure about comfort of “sex outdoors”. But we’ve got a meet on Tues…so if it was “just” boating on Thurs, that would be ok with me. Whatever you want/decide is fine! 10:20 AM

Kris: Ok…I rented the truck from 8:30 pm Wed thru 8:30 pm on Fri. Thursday boating all day…then you go home that night…or we spend the night together. We could boat again Fri too if you wanted to…since I’ll still have the truck. But rented for 2 days to avoid logistic pressure of having to return truck Fri night. Your choice…lots of options…and whatever you decide/want to do is fine! 11:00 AM

Kris: I meant avoid pressure of having to return truck Thurs night…by keeping till Fri…even if we’re not together Friday. ball’s in your court (and some others will soon be in your hands…wink!) 11:08 AM

Kris: OR…if you want to spend two days boating And overnight Thurs I could take you to my favorite place to boat on Cape…launch in Orleans…on to Fisherman’s Pier in Chatham and back. I know…I’m crazy. But I would SO do it…if you wanted to…OR…to REALLY “freak you out”…let’s throw in a night of camping in my huge luxury tent at a cape campground…instead of a hotel room. Spanky. 11:24 AM

Kris: OR…just a day trip to Cape on Thurs 12:05 PM

Kris: lots of choices! Got all that?! Try to keep up 😉 12:19 PM


Kris: Just finished working out…caught in heavy downpour riding bike from gym to shed. I’m alive! Wanna go for ride in the rain?! Whoohoo!…ride ’em cowboy! 😉 6:33 PM

Me: Hunh – we’re in Framingham and it’s beautiful! Done with a huge Walmart run, waiting for a table at Olive Garden. I adore their sausages! 😉 6:37 PM

Kris: Hmmm…”sausages” eah? I bet! What’s “Hunh”? 6:41 PM

Me: That it’s raining there and nice here. 6:42 PM

Kris: Did you mean “huh” as in “oh”? 6:44 PM
Me: Hunh as in “weird.” 6:47 PM

Kris: Ok…never seen it before…maybe if i heard it…secretly hoping it meant “hun” as in short for “honey”…bein’ as where we have this naked thing goin’ on and all… 6:51 PM

Kris: TEASING! Alfalfa 6:51 PM

Kris: Enjoy dinner…only half done work…ugh…maybe chat later? 6:53 PM

Me: Pomegranate citrus acqua fresca. 7:08 PM

Me: Can you see photo? I forget if your phone can do that. 7:08 PM

Kris: Not sure…u could try. 7:12 PM

Me: I just did. 🙂 7:13 PM

Kris: With text that asked if i can see it?…i can access internet…and maybe open pics attached to emails ( though never tried)…home now and about to go on laptop to do work…could u attach to email?…i think i know u well enough to guess what it is 😉 7:20 PM

Kris: R u still up/online? 11:29 PM

Me: Yes. 11:29 PM

Kris: Have a question…b on in minute. 11:30 PM

·       May 24 11:34 PM Kris: Hi!
·       May 24 11:35 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       May 24 11:36 PM Kris: question about herpes cold sores
·       May 24 11:36 PM Kris: have you ever had one on your gums?
·       May 24 11:36 PM Sassy: no
·       May 24 11:36 PM Kris: where have they been?
·       May 24 11:37 PM Sassy: lips mostly, once between my upper lip and my nose
·       May 24 11:37 PM Sassy: after I had a bad cold and had been blowing my nose a lot
·       May 24 11:39 PM Kris: I’m probably just being paranoid…but my wife has a really sore bulge on her gums that looks like a cold sore
·       May 24 11:39 PM Sassy: Oh dear. Sorry to hear that.
·       May 24 11:39 PM Sassy: She’s never had that before?
·       May 24 11:40 PM Kris: I don’t think so
·       May 24 11:40 PM Sassy: Never heard of them inside the mouth
·       May 24 11:41 PM Kris: I thought they were inside the mouth…like inside cheeks or lips
·       May 24 11:41 PM Sassy: not on me
·       May 24 11:41 PM Kris: you mean on outside?
·       May 24 11:43 PM Sassy: I only get them outside.
·       May 24 11:43 PM Sassy: Canker sores show up inside. Not contagious. http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/ss/slideshow-mouth-problems
·       May 24 11:45 PM Kris: ok…probably worrying for nothing.
·       May 24 11:45 PM Kris: so wassup?
·       May 24 11:45 PM Sassy: Very quiet.
·       May 24 11:45 PM Kris: what…online stuff?
·       May 24 11:46 PM Sassy: Yes
·       May 24 11:46 PM Sassy: You finish your work?
·       May 24 11:46 PM Kris: meaning not a lot of people showing up
·       May 24 11:46 PM Kris: in chat?
·       May 24 11:47 PM Sassy: There was one guy for about 10 min.
·       May 24 11:47 PM Sassy: It’s raining buckets there
·       May 24 11:47 PM Sassy: 4.5 inches in an hour
·       May 24 11:47 PM Kris: wow
·       May 24 11:49 PM Kris: to answer your question…yes finished work. almost went to bed right after but then wife showed me that…glad I’m on here for a little bit with you.
·       May 24 11:49 PM Sassy: It is a lovely way to end the day.
·       May 24 11:50 PM Sassy: Sweetie honey sugar pie.
·       May 24 11:50 PM Kris: ha ha
·       May 24 11:51 PM Kris: I should have done this before going off the deep end with boating plans and renting truck…but pray the frigin boat starts up and runs ok. didn’t start it yet…but will tomorrow.
·       May 24 11:51 PM Sassy: Good thought.
·       May 24 11:51 PM Sassy: I bought sunblock. 
·       May 24 11:52 PM Kris: hopefully it starts.  if it doesn’t…the whole thing is off…but hope it starts…it should.  I have it winterized by a Marina every fall…so it should…but one year I had a problem…hopefully ok…I’ll find out tomorrow after church.
·       May 24 11:53 PM Sassy: I’ll send “start up vibes”
·       May 24 11:53 PM Kris: ok…lol
·       May 24 11:54 PM Kris: I didn’t check…did you email the pic you tried to text me…I bet I can guess what it was.
·       May 24 11:54 PM Sassy: I bet you can’t. It didn’t seem important
·       May 24 11:55 PM Kris: I bet it was a pic of a sausage you were eating at the Olive Garden…
·       May 24 11:55 PM Sassy: That is a very good guess!
·       May 24 11:55 PM Sassy: I never got to eat it… it’s in my fridge.
·       May 24 11:55 PM Kris: was that it?
·       May 24 11:55 PM Sassy: The photo was of a tall glass with a pomegranate citrus acqua Fresca drink, no alcohol
·       May 24 11:56 PM Kris: that you had at the Olive Garden?
·       May 24 11:56 PM Sassy: Yes
·       May 24 11:56 PM Kris: did you email it to me?
·       May 24 11:56 PM Sassy: No
·       May 24 11:57 PM Kris: ok…well I’ll just use my imagination…sounds yummie…have a good visit with your mom?
·       May 24 11:57 PM Sassy: I’ll email it right now
From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: May 24, 2014 11:58 pm 
Subject: Pretty fruity drink
·       May 24 11:57 PM Kris: ok
·       May 24 11:58 PM Sassy: Didn’t see Mom today
·       May 24 11:58 PM Sassy: She had my niece with her overnight. That was enough excitement
·       May 24 11:59 PM Kris: whist did you do then?
·       May 25 12:00 AM Sassy: I had a weird night last night.. stayed up until 3 am doing stuff around the house, opened the mail that had piled up since Feb., balanced my checkbook
·       May 25 12:00 AM Sassy: then I woke up at 6:30 am and couldn’t fall back to sleep fretting about job crap
·       May 25 12:00 AM Sassy: So I got up and did more stuff until about 11 am, then went back to bed until 3 PM
·       May 25 12:01 AM Sassy: then Hubby and I went out to Framingham to stock up on stuff from Walmart
·       May 25 12:01 AM Sassy: and go to Olive Garden
·       May 25 12:01 AM Sassy: He had a meltdown midway thru dinner, so we packed up the entrees and came home
·       May 25 12:03 AM Kris: meltdown as in just got upset for no apparent reason and announced he wanted to go home?
·       May 25 12:03 AM Sassy: He realized he forgot a project meeting.
·       May 25 12:04 AM Sassy: He was castigating himself, getting very upset
·       May 25 12:04 AM Kris: was the meeting today?
·       May 25 12:04 AM Sassy: 7 PM
·       May 25 12:04 AM Kris: did he call the person?
·       May 25 12:04 AM Sassy: He tried. no answer. So he texted.
·       May 25 12:04 AM Kris: will it be ok?
·       May 25 12:05 AM Sassy: Yes
·       May 25 12:05 AM Kris: but he went on and on…not like you…when you forget me some day and say “oh well, he’ll get over it”
·       May 25 12:06 AM Sassy: He got completely silent
·       May 25 12:06 AM Sassy: Stopped eating
·       May 25 12:06 AM Sassy: texted his GF
·       May 25 12:07 AM Sassy: I was mostly full from the breadsticks and soup and salad, and I didn’t want to sit there watching him text. So I suggested we pack up the food and leave and he jumped on that.
·       May 25 12:07 AM Kris: that doesn’t sound like what I would call a “meltdown”…sounds like a normal reaction to forgetting something important
·       May 25 12:08 AM Sassy: He completely shuts down.  It is not fun
·       May 25 12:08 AM Kris: shuts down as in you can’t talk to him at all?
·       May 25 12:08 AM Sassy: Right
·       May 25 12:08 AM Kris: do you bother trying…to talk to him?
·       May 25 12:08 AM Sassy: Yes
·       May 25 12:09 AM Kris: he just doesn’t answer?
·       May 25 12:09 AM Sassy: He just stares into space
·       May 25 12:09 AM Kris: you say he’s a little “spacy” in general…has he forgotten meets like that before?
·       May 25 12:10 AM Sassy: No. He is scrupulous about his calendar.
·       May 25 12:10 AM Kris: so forgetting must have REALLY upset him
·       May 25 12:11 AM Sassy: Yes. It was not on his calendar, or I would have planned around it, reminded him
·       May 25 12:11 AM Sassy: I do not understand who told them it was okay to meet on a Saturday night of a holiday weekend…
·       May 25 12:11 AM Kris: why?
·       May 25 12:12 AM Sassy: People go away, have dates, it’s not the time for a working meeting
·       May 25 12:14 AM Kris: by “people” you mean “married couples” and by “working meeting” you mean affair meets?
·       May 25 12:16 AM Sassy: No. Anyone. and I mean a meeting of the people working together on a project to go over details
·       May 25 12:16 AM Kris: oh…so it was a business meeting…not a date?
·       May 25 12:17 AM Sassy: right
·       May 25 12:17 AM Kris: oh…but it was his GF?
·       May 25 12:17 AM Sassy: no, he was texting her to blow off steam
·       May 25 12:18 AM Kris: oh…gotcha
·       May 25 12:18 AM Kris: anyhow…what was so upsetting at work that had you going even into today?
·       May 25 12:18 AM Sassy: I’m trying to forget about it
·       May 25 12:18 AM Kris: ok…we can talk about something else
·       May 25 12:19 AM Sassy: There were about a dozen things but the two bigs ones are she changed my job description, piling on accounting tasks that I am not trained for, don’t want to do and am not good at
·       May 25 12:19 AM Sassy: And she is taking away the partition at the front of my desk that gives me a modicum of privacy
·       May 25 12:20 AM Sassy: It means I desperately need a new job
·       May 25 12:20 AM Kris: uh oh…not good
·       May 25 12:20 AM Sassy: She is setting me up to fail
·       May 25 12:20 AM Kris: do you think she understands that at all?
·       May 25 12:21 AM Sassy: Oh yes.  I told her
·       May 25 12:21 AM Kris: what she say?
·       May 25 12:22 AM Sassy: And she sprang all of on me right before I leave for 9 days
·       May 25 12:22 AM Sassy: Too bad
·       May 25 12:22 AM Kris: what exactly did you say…how did you say it?
·       May 25 12:24 AM Kris: we don’t have to talk about it if you don’t want to…sometimes it helps to be able to vent…sometimes better not to…up to you…I’m here…
·       May 25 12:25 AM Sassy: Thank you. I can’t think about it right now or I won’t sleep again. You are very good to try to help.
·       May 25 12:25 AM Kris: ok…let’s not talk about it now then…maybe another time…when you don’t have to sleep right away…
·       May 25 12:26 AM Sassy: Yes.
·       May 25 12:26 AM Kris: are u tired?
·       May 25 12:26 AM Sassy: Oddly not
·       May 25 12:26 AM Kris: maybe cuz you slept earlier?
·       May 25 12:26 AM Sassy: Only got 3 hrs and then another 3 hours… should be a wreck
·       May 25 12:27 AM Sassy: and dragged groceries around and drove a lot in the rain…
·       May 25 12:27 AM Sassy: But I’ve been writing, that helps
·       May 25 12:27 AM Kris: bout what?
·       May 25 12:28 AM Sassy: SEX!
·       May 25 12:28 AM Kris: fantasies…stories…like the one you sent me before?
·       May 25 12:29 AM Sassy: yes. Should I sent it for you to read later?
·       May 25 12:29 AM Kris: sure!…anything I can learn from it?…other than how rich your imagination is?
·       May 25 12:30 AM Sassy: I don’t know… maybe
·       May 25 12:30 AM Sassy: It’s about a man and a woman on a mountain.
·       May 25 12:30 AM Sassy: It has photos!
·       May 25 12:31 AM Kris: naked ones?
·       May 25 12:31 AM Sassy: Maybe
·       May 25 12:32 AM Kris: meaning I’ll have to open it to see?
·       May 25 12:32 AM Sassy: Ayup
·       May 25 12:32 AM Kris: k!
·       May 25 1:11 AM Sassy: I should try to go back to sleep.
·       May 25 1:12 AM Kris: Sleep well “hun” 
·       May 25 1:12 AM Sassy: Sweet sexy dreams!