It’s time

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November 30, 2017 Thursday

From Facebook

“Photograph of Helen Mirren by Robert G. Zuckerman, 
copyright (c) The Walt Disney Company, ALL RIGHTS RESERVED”

”I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear: I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.
Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever.
Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.”
~ Brené Brown
Dr. Brené Brown (born November 18, 1965) is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation – Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past sixteen years studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of four #1 New York Times bestsellers – The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring GreatlyRising Strong, and Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and The Courage to Stand Alone.  Brown’s TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 30 million views. Brené lives in Houston, Texas with her husband, Steve, and their children.

Sargent’s Women

August 22, 2017 Tuesday

6:15 PM Sassy
Dinner at Posto in Davis Square, one of the best places we go. Deserve a treat after all the work I’ve already done and all the work left to do this week!

8:15 PM Sassy
Where Boston history and art history intersect – book review of a new look at the society women who were painted by John Singer Sargent.

Isabella Stewart Gardner : The famous Bostonian 
was captured  in an eerie watercolor, just before her death.


The women who captured John Singer Sargent’s attention

“Sargent’s Women: Four Lives Behind the Canvas” consists of four novella-length biographies of women who sat for the painter. Lucey’s prose can be breathless, even gossipy. But for the most part she delivers the goods, disclosing the unhappy or colorful lives that Sargent sometimes hinted at but didn’t spell out. Her sources are the voluminous diaries and correspondence that these women kept.

Mermaids Inside

November 29, 2016 Tuesday
8:28AM Sassy
Good morning!

[photo of me at my desk at work]

8:45PM Sassy
from Ravenous Butterflies Facebook page
“there are people all over the world who carry the mermaid inside them, that otherworldly beauty and longing and desire that made her reach for heaven when she lived in the darkness of the sea.” 
Carolyn Turgeon

Ilya Repin – Sadko in the a Underwater Kingdom 1872 
(It depicts Sadko in the Sea Tsar’s kingdom, chosing a new wife from amongst the Tsar’s maidens).

Sound of Silence by Disturbed

Not a word from the Usual Man since midday yesterday.  No answer to three messages.  No response to the perfect blow job video?  Hmmm…

Why wouldn’t he write?  He’s traveling.  Driving.  Busy with family.  Right?

No time for a quick text?  He can’t pop into the men’s room and send a sentence?  Nothing?  Really?  He managed to keep in touch last weekend…

I am not panicking.  It’s only been 24 hours.

Okay… I am panicking… a little.  Okay… a lot.  He wouldn’t just go silent after telling me our time on Monday was spectacular and writing every day since?  Would he?  The universe wouldn’t take away two men in less than a month, men I thought I had a special connection with?  Right?

I’ll wait to really panic.  There’s plenty of time over the weekend to panic.  *sigh

Argh… I hate silence.


Disturbed – The Sound Of Silence


Meet a Big Fish?

Dear Readers,

Here’s my question for today: Can I “fish in my own pond?”

I’ve faced so many questions – seems like every time I get approached by a guy there is some issue or kink or something that has to be pondered.  Can I deal with that?  or this other thing?  Is sex worth dealing with it?  Beyond the whole “being with a married man” thing that I talked myself through in the first weeks chatting with Philip, I’ve run into so many wrinkles!  Most of which most people say are a bad idea.  Or I haven’t done them and don’t know if I want to start!  What matters?  What doesn’t?

A guy who smokes weed all the time?
The guy who is into olive oil massage?
A guy who is a sub?
A guy who is a dom?
A guy who wants to listen to me poop?
A traveling man?
A single man?
A guy wearing women’s underwear?
The guy who wants me to ride his motorcycle?
The guy who only wants to write to set up meets?
The guy who wants me to visit his house?
The guy who can’t spell?

I’ve crossed a lot of lines, tried a lot of sexy stuff, broken rules, contradicted conventional wisdom… but I have never dated anyone I worked with.  Never had an offer to do so!

So can I meet someone who works where I work?  I keep thinking of course I can.  And then thinking I absolutely can’t!  Help!

It’s not a pond exactly… more like a Great Lake!  And he is on the far shore.  Not in my office, not a supervisor or even in my chain of command.

But still… is it worth the risk?  What can happen?  Could I lose my job?  What if I break it off and he’s mean and tells people?  It’s usually the woman who gets canned when these things come out.  Ugh.  That would really suck.

Okay… I admit it… I googled him.  My Google fu is strong.  If you give me two or three pieces of information about you?  I can usually find you.  So I know his first name, probably, and where he works.  And what he does.  It didn’t take me long to find a guy who could be him, and then find enough info to know it was the same guy.

Oh my… he’s a BIG FISH!  Yikes! Does that change the question? Can I meet a Big Fish?

I had a moment of pride that I managed to attract someone so distinguished!  Then I had a moment of terror imagining what might happen to him or to me if we were discovered.  I usually have to worry about a guy’s wife finding out, but this is much bigger.  If I am going to stop, I should stop now, right?

I realize I am getting ahead of myself.  We may not even click in person.  I should at least see what he looks like, listen to him… right?  I have a special feeling about him.. a kindred spirit.  *sigh*  We can work this out, right?

What should I do?!!!



300,000… that is a BIG NUMBER!  I don’t see that number very often but I saw it this evening because my humble blog reached a major milestone sometime today.  It blows my mind.  While I was having a wacky day at work, someone clicked on my blog for 300,000th time!  Wowie zowie!  Was that you?  Thank you!

I so appreciate you reading and commenting, celebrating my best days with me, sticking with me when life is not great, and coming back to find out what wild adventure I get up to next!

I can’t tell anyone in my real life, so I hope you will celebrate with me! I’m doing the Sassy Happy Dance! 

It took me a long time (over two years) to get to 100,000 hits on March 3, 2014… 27 months.  And then another 17 months to get to 200,000!  It’s been just over a year since I hit 250,000.  

Here’s a fun graph from Blogger that shows my blog’s hits by month from December 2011 to now.  Nothing like a great graph!   Hard to believe it’s been almost six years since I discovered Riff Dawg’s sexy blog!  I spent the entire Thanksgiving weekend reading it and realizing I had to start sharing the story of my sex life with the entire internet!

Same Sassy Girl  ·  Stats  ›  Overview 

Many thanks to the top six sexy blogs that refer people to my blog.  These fantastic bloggers help me find my way in this corner of the blog world: 
Please pop in again soon for more Sassy shenanigans!  After quite a few months with very little action, the end of August will be more exciting with new men in my life!  Where will I go next?!  Will the Universe be kind?  Stay tuned!