·      Jun 15 10:08 PM  Kris: hi. FINALLY! something wrong either with computer or Messenger – took forever to sign on. anyhow tell me about your day  : )

·       Jun 15 10:08 PM Sassy: I had so much fun!

·       Jun 15 10:08 PM Kris: great! tell me about it!

·       Jun 15 10:09 PM Sassy: We drove up to Gloucester, ate at Lobsta Land. It was my dad’s favorite place, and I had his favorite dish. Felt right for Father’s Day!

·       Jun 15 10:09 PM Kris: cool!

·       Jun 15 10:09 PM Kris: stay there till home…or go someplace else after?

·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Sassy: We drove over to the Marshall’s Farm Stand – beautiful flowers and veggies and fruit

·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Kris: nice! my kind of fun!

·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Sassy: then out to Wingaersheek Beach at low tide!

·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Kris: awesome! wanna go for a boat ride with you there!

·       Jun 15 10:10 PM Sassy: I actually got Hubby out of the car for a walk

·       Jun 15 10:11 PM Sassy: It was blissful… 75, breezy, hardly anyone there…

·       Jun 15 10:11 PM Kris: sounds wonderful!

·       Jun 15 10:11 PM Sassy: So perfect

·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Sassy: A fine use of a beautiful day

·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Kris: I’m really glad for you. lots of times you report a struggle to have good times with H like that. glad you had some much fun!

·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Sassy: He was in a good mood today.

·       Jun 15 10:12 PM Kris: great!

·       Jun 15 10:13 PM Sassy: I think the sunshine and some exercise help

·       Jun 15 10:13 PM Kris: definitely!

·       Jun 15 10:13 PM Sassy: You get all your veggies planted?

·       Jun 15 10:14 PM Kris: No, but bought most I need and prepared garden for planting plus put in flower border around it

·       Jun 15 10:15 PM Sassy: I don’t understand any of that… never had a garden etc.

·       Jun 15 10:16 PM Kris: well, by “prepared” I mean I put down three rows of planks to walk on….so I don’t have to walk in the dirt to harvest them, or put down mulch to keep down weeds.

·       Jun 15 10:16 PM Kris: the flower border is something new.  just decided to do it on a whim…while out shopping for veggies.

·       Jun 15 10:17 PM Sassy: Nifty!

·       Jun 15 10:17 PM Sassy: what flowers?

·       Jun 15 10:18 PM Kris: bought 144 petunia plants for three sides of garden and 20 different vegetable plants, plus three hanging baskets of flowers for that “solarium” in the living room and back deck area.

·       Jun 15 10:18 PM Sassy: wow

·       Jun 15 10:19 PM Kris: spaced the petunias 6 inches apart along the 44 foot length of one side of the garden – really pretty colors….bright red, deep purple, hot pink, bright white. I dug the holes and W put the plants in.

·       Jun 15 10:20 PM Kris: still need to put veggie plants in…but that’s easy. hardest part is done now.

·       Jun 15 10:21 PM Kris: I was thinking of buying you a tomato plant to put on your patio. : D

·       Jun 15 10:22 PM Sassy: Hunh

·       Jun 15 10:22 PM Sassy: I’ve been thinking of putting window boxes or something out there

·       Jun 15 10:22 PM Sassy: But I don’t have a clue

·       Jun 15 10:23 PM Kris: window boxes would be nice/pretty. could be attached to railing and you could put whatever flowers you like in them!

·       Jun 15 10:25 PM Sassy: I will be off the grid tomorrow from 9:30 am – 3:30 pm except around 12-1 pm

·       Jun 15 10:25 PM Sassy: Going to a telephone ordering training

·       Jun 15 10:26 PM Sassy: So if I don’t answer, I am not ignoring you!

·       Jun 15 10:28 PM Kris: no problem. I understand that in general you may or may not be free to respond to my “zillion texts” its’ fine but thanks for the heads up about tomorrow specifically. the day you had today with H sounds like a kind of day I’d love to have with you sometime. maybe with slight variation – like boating – if you wanted to.

·       Jun 15 10:31 PM Sassy: Oh yes… that would be very special! Today seemed like a boat day to me.

·       Jun 15 10:32 PM Sassy: It would be fun to combine my favorite spots up there with some boating.

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Kris: computer acting up again. argh….hopefully can get back on. 🙁 10:35 PM

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·       Jun 15 10:35 PM Kris: is this working now…u there?

·       Jun 15 10:36 PM Kris: what r some of your favorite spots?

·       Jun 15 10:37 PM Sassy: Nichols Candy House, Lobsta Land, Good Harbor Beach, Wingaersheek Beech, Rockport

·       Jun 15 10:38 PM Sassy: I am always finding new spots – today I discovered the Jones River Salt Marsh

·       Jun 15 10:38 PM Sassy: Can’t believe I still find places after so many years of going up there

·       Jun 15 10:38 PM Sassy: I first went in 1984!

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Kris: i keep getting an annoying “spinning wheel” like when computer’s TRYING to work, but isn’t….or slow…ARGH!!!!!. sorry. 🙁 will keep trying 10:41 PM

Kris: rebooting computer…to see if that will help…hopefully b back on shortly 10:45 PM

Me: Okay. Ah technology! 10:47 PM

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·       Jun 15 10:46 PM Sassy: Did you fall asleep?

·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Kris: ok…hope this stops giving me trouble.

·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Sassy: Woohoo!

·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Sassy: What was the last thing you saw from me?

·       Jun 15 10:50 PM Kris: did u ask me if I fell asleep? lol

·       Jun 15 10:51 PM Kris: the last message was: “I first went in 1984!”

·       Jun 15 10:52 PM Sassy: Did you hear from your kids for Fathers Day?

·       Jun 15 10:52 PM Kris:  Yes – all but one

·       Jun 15 10:53 PM Sassy: They in good spirits?

·       Jun 15 10:54 PM Kris: yes, all doing well. have great relationship with all of them. A little more “distant” from oldest…don’t communicate with her as much…but still positive. I know the one had to work today…but got out a while ago. love it when they screw up so I can continue what I’ve always been good at… mercilessly teasing!!! ; )

·       Jun 15 10:55 PM Kris: I’ll tell him, “Thanks a lot…couldn’t even call me on Father’s Day?!”

·       Jun 15 10:55 PM Sassy: Careful… he could spill the beans about the bike!

·       Jun 15 10:55 PM Kris: No…but he’ll be extremely relieved to not have to “keep the big secret” he reminded me I said I would tell on my birthday…I think I told you that…

·       Jun 15 10:56 PM Sassy: Why on your b-day?

·       Jun 15 10:56 PM Kris: hoping to use it to leverage more “forgiveness”. (deceitful, crafty man that I am). “beguiling” ; )

·       Jun 15 10:57 PM Kris: W said something interesting today…

·       Jun 15 10:58 PM Kris: she said, “I bet you’re going to have a great time with me gone for 8 weeks. I’m worried about what you’ll be up to.”

·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Sassy: Hunh

·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Sassy: Did you tell her you’re going to have your girlfriend over?

·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Kris: Of course!

·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Kris: I asked her, “What do you think I’ll be doing?”

·       Jun 15 10:59 PM Kris: She said…

·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: maybe start drinking again or

·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: go to concerts.

·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: or go boating all the time…

·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: or womanize.

·       Jun 15 11:00 PM Kris: she was only half right. ; )

·       Jun 15 11:01 PM Kris: no drinking or concerts….

·       Jun 15 11:01 PM Sassy: ha ha

·       Jun 15 11:01 PM Sassy: why are concerts bad?

·       Jun 15 11:03 PM Sassy: Sad that she worries about you drinking, after all this time

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Kris: if I don’t reply my computer is giving me trouble….will keep trying…ARGHH!!!!! 11:04 PM

Me: Mwah! 11:08 PM

Kris: kiss goodnite? or just kiss? tired? 11:10 PM

Me: Just a kiss to bolster you in jousting with Yahoo! 11:12 PM

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·       Jun 15 11:12 PM Kris: it’s ridiculous. don’t think she really does.  think she’s just fishing to see if I’ll miss her or not. nothing wrong with concerts. think she was just “talking”….nonsense.

·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Sassy: Ah

·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Sassy: Is there anything you want for your birthday (other than the usual BJ) that I could give you that someone else won’t?

·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Sassy: Think about it.

·       Jun 15 11:13 PM Kris: already did!

·       Jun 15 11:14 PM Kris: here’s a list…pick one:

·       Jun 15 11:16 PM Kris: I’ll tell you when I run out of ideas – let me list some. 😀

·       Jun 15 11:16 PM Kris: 1) Spend the nite with me at my house

·       Jun 15 11:17 PM Kris: 2) Let me take you for a short, gentle ride on a quiet country road when you spend the nite with me at my house

·       Jun 15 11:17 PM Kris: 3) Have lunch with you and your mom

·       Jun 15 11:17 PM Kris: 4) Buy me that coffee cup you sent me a picture of

·       Jun 15 11:18 PM Kris: 5) Show me where you work

·       Jun 15 11:18 PM Kris: 6) Invite me to one of your project events sometime

·       Jun 15 11:18 PM Kris: 7) Go boating and to your fav places around Gloucester–combined with spending the nite with me at my house

·       Jun 15 11:19 PM Kris: In case it wasn’t obvious…#2 was

·       Jun 15 11:19 PM Kris: was on my bike…

·       Jun 15 11:19 PM Kris: not done yet…hold on…

·       Jun 15 11:20 PM Kris: 8) Tell me a restaurant you haven’t tried yet that we could go to together

·       Jun 15 11:21 PM Kris: 9) Give me a BJ in my boat (random request–based on “inspiration from your chat buddies”)

·       Jun 15 11:21 PM Kris: 10) Have 20 orgasms the next time we have sex

·       Jun 15 11:21 PM Kris: That’s it! Pick one!

·       Jun 15 11:23 PM Kris: When’s you’re b-day?

·       Jun 15 11:26 PM Kris: still there?

·       Jun 15 11:26 PM Kris: fall asleep?

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Kris: r u getting Yahoo messages? 11:28 PM

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·       Jun 15 11:29 PM Sassy: Sorry… had a phone call

·       Jun 15 11:29 PM Sassy: My goodness what a list!

·       Jun 15 11:30 PM Sassy: I think I can do most of those.

·       Jun 15 11:30 PM Kris: So then you can just tell me which is my b-day gift!

·       Jun 15 11:30 PM Kris: When’s your b-day?

·       Jun 15 11:31 PM Kris: can’t think of a reason why you wouldn’t want me to know.  at this point in your “loss of anonymity” but if you’d rather not that’s fine…

·       Jun 15 11:33 PM Sassy: September

·       Jun 15 11:33 PM Sassy: Think you’ll still be talking to me?

·       Jun 15 11:33 PM Kris: hope so…you?

·       Jun 15 11:35 PM Sassy: Hope so.

·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Kris: what would cause us to stop?

·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Sassy: Dunno

·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Sassy: Don’t want to think about it!

·       Jun 15 11:36 PM Kris: not the best question….would just be a list of “negatives” that might happen. not much point in listing them.

·       Jun 15 11:37 PM Sassy: I am tossing salt over my shoulder to ward them all off!

·       Jun 15 11:37 PM Kris: you’re funny!

·       Jun 15 11:39 PM Kris: so I’m trying to figure out how much we can “plan” things going forward here as we chip away at my “birthday wish list” anything “jump out at you” for first in line? potential dates/times/etc? oh, let me tell you my “devious designs” in reference to my wife’s work schedule, while you’re thinking….

·       Jun 15 11:40 PM Kris: she has basically about a little over one full day off from her 24 hour/day 6 days a week job.

·       Jun 15 11:40 PM Kris: I asked her to take off from Thursday night through Friday night.

·       Jun 15 11:40 PM Kris: which leaves me free and available to you all the rest of the time.

·       Jun 15 11:41 PM Kris: from Saturday morning through Wednesday nites – take your pick(s), places, times, days, events, etc.

·       Jun 15 11:41 PM Sassy: Wow

·       Jun 15 11:42 PM Kris: one more “fantasy” – I could pick you up at your work, bring you to my house and bring you back to your work in the morning any day of the week.

·       Jun 15 11:43 PM Kris: might not be your preference, if it was too tiring and too much…cuz I know there are days you’re probably exhausted from the b.s. you’ve had to put up with lately and may just want to go home and chill, but it’s an option… if you wanted to sometime.

·       Jun 15 11:44 PM Kris: now that you’re not a stranger anymore to sleeping next to me. : D

·       Jun 15 11:44 PM Kris: but you might not get enough sleep, especially if I got horny at about 4:00 a.m.  Devil Kris. 

·       Jun 15 11:45 PM Kris: ok…your turn and it’s getting late. I don’t have to get up early but probably will and you do. let me know if it’s time to go.

·       Jun 15 11:46 PM Sassy: It could work to leave work with you. Let me think more about the logistics

·       Jun 15 11:46 PM Kris: ok

·       Jun 15 11:47 PM Kris: gave you lots to think about….let me know what you want to do first…next…when…etc.

·       Jun 15 11:47 PM Sassy: MIght be able to go to dinner, tour my office, then head out.

·       Jun 15 11:47 PM Kris: sounds wonderful!

·       Jun 15 11:48 PM Kris: just would need to fit with my schedule. have some nights I work later. some I can move, others not – depends on day

·       Jun 15 11:48 PM Sassy: Sure

·       Jun 15 11:49 PM Kris: when are you thinking? for me this week it could be Wed or Thurs.

·       Jun 15 11:49 PM Sassy: Need to check with Hubby

·       Jun 15 11:49 PM Kris: k

·       Jun 15 11:50 PM Kris: will he be ok with idea…in general?

·       Jun 15 11:50 PM Sassy: Sure

·       Jun 15 11:50 PM Kris: k

·       Jun 15 11:51 PM Kris: know he depends on you a lot…but assuming he can manage a night alone here and there

·       Jun 15 11:52 PM Sassy: Yes. I think he likes a little break now and then

·       Jun 15 11:52 PM Sassy: He invites his ladies over sometimes

·       Jun 15 11:53 PM Kris: does he ask you to just find something to do? to go someplace for awhile?

·       Jun 15 11:53 PM Kris: or wait for when you’re naturally out and about?

·       Jun 15 11:54 PM Sassy: the latter

·       Jun 15 11:54 PM Kris: so from his point of view it’s just an opportunity to have someone over

·       Jun 15 11:55 PM Sassy: Or just be able to sleep late, not ferry me to work

·       Jun 15 11:55 PM Kris: does he “verbalize” times he enjoyed being with you like today?

·       Jun 15 11:57 PM Kris: sorry if I seem so nosy…your relationship fascinates me, different than any I’ve encountered before.

·       Jun 15 11:58 PM Sassy: Sometimes

·       Jun 15 11:58 PM Sassy: It’s okay. I know we’re odd.

·       Jun 16 12:00 AM Sassy: Maybe you’ll have dinner with us sometime.

·       Jun 16 12:02 AM Kris: I started writing this long thing…before you typed “have dinner with us” That would be REALLY different…are you teasing me? You’re not “odd” but very different and from my perspective as your “boyfriend/AM man/lover/whatever”, the side of you that you don’t see as so Sexy is sexy to me in a certain way because I admire the qualities of character that make you so devoted, caring, and unselfish. those things might not fit your idea of being Sexy Sassy, but they attract me to you in a way that translates into my sexual attraction to you as well…which I suppose makes me a little “different” in my own weird way.

·       Jun 16 12:04 AM Sassy: I am not teasing about dinner with us. He has made me meet his women… seems only fair!

·       Jun 16 12:05 AM Kris: So you didn’t want to, but had to….so you want to “get back at him”? (teasing!)

·       Jun 16 12:05 AM Sassy: Although he will get the better end of the deal… his woman are mostly icky.

·       Jun 16 12:05 AM Kris: Why will he get the better end of the deal…because I’ll be nice to him and not “icky?”

·       Jun 16 12:08 AM Sassy: Yes. You are much better.

·       Jun 16 12:09 AM Kris: Well…thank you for thinking so but he may not appreciate that! LOL!

·       Jun 16 12:10 AM Kris: Meaning he may not recognize it in any way, may not think “Gee…how come I only get these “icky” women and my wife manages to get this nice guy.” YOU may be thinking that…but that point may not even occur to him…

·        Jun 16 12:11 AM Sassy: He is not like that… he is much further along the “polyamorous” scale than I am

·       Jun 16 12:11 AM Sassy: And he has very low self-esteem, so it would make sense to him that I attract better people

·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Kris: but will he actually judge me as “better” in any, or some way?

·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Sassy: I think so. He knows the women were icky

·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Sassy: It usually took him awhile to figure it out

·       Jun 16 12:12 AM Sassy: but he got there

·       Jun 16 12:13 AM Kris: so how does my above statement not fit his polyamorous view…what part of what I said doesn’t “fit” his way of thinking?

·       Jun 16 12:14 AM Kris: I may be taxing you brain right now…if so, let me know. LOL!

·       Jun 16 12:14 AM Kris: plus it’s getting late…don’t want to keep you up too late. work tomorrow (hate to remind u).

·       Jun 16 12:14 AM Sassy: He would evaluate you as a person

·       Jun 16 12:15 AM Sassy: not particularly mixed up in what you’re doing with me, other than he is glad I have someone to be nice to me

·       Jun 16 12:15 AM Sassy: I should go… don’t want to…

·       Jun 16 12:15 AM Kris: understand…need sleep….

·       Jun 16 12:16 AM Sassy: It is soooo good to talk with you!

·       Jun 16 12:16 AM Kris: Big kiss on the mouth…some tongue….big hug….nite!

·       Jun 16 12:16 AMSassy: Mmm… sweet dreams sweetie peteetie

·       Jun 16 12:16 AM Kris: : D