It Ain’t All That

Wednesday, September 10, 2014
4:31pm Phil 
How you doing Sass? Hope you had a great day!

7:11pm

Work is sucking… boss… ugh… 
Kris wants to say good bye… again.  Bleh.  
Hope you’re having a better day!

7:21pm Phil 

7:21pm Phil
Geez!
I became a supervisor again today.
Came out and watered Fred’s plants. She’s away, had a beer at our pub and now home and on the bike for a bit. Sometimes it ain’t all that.



Hug from afar

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Kris: Why did u need a hug last nite?  just read this 10:15 AM

Me: Because it was my birthday and the only hug I got was from my little niece and I miss you. 3:27 PM

Kris: Awww…I’m sorry.  We’re just a couple of needy wrecks lately. Hug from afar (know it’s not the same) 3:52 PM

Me: Thanks! That does help! 3:54 PM


Silly gusto

Monday, September 8, 2014
Kris: Ok…now imagine me singing with all my silly gusto: “Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday dear Sassy! Happy Birthday to YOU!!! (Remember–you’re only one day older than you were yesterday!)  Kris 8:09 AM

Me: Now it feels like a true celebration! Greetings from my favorite guy! Thank you Kris! 8:25 AM

Kris: 🙂 !!! 8:25 AM

Me: I took today off from work.  My gift to myself – no evil boss! 8:26 AM

Kris: Good for u. hate to bring this up on your special day but since u r one of very few I can talk to about it…  Wife just left voice mail asking if I used condoms every single time, said she would b tested if i didn’t. I told her the truth. she knows about Herpes Simplex 1 – that u tested positive for that. none of this affects u. she will NEVER know who you are. isn’t asking and doesn’t care. trust me – I’ve known her for years. Continue to enjoy day off celebrating B-day! 1:36 PM

Me: I need a hug. 7:18 PM


Celebration Part 2 Dinner at Dali

Monday, September 8, 2014
My birthday was a REALLY GOOD DAY ™. 
The weather was perfect – another clear, dry, cool 70’s delight! 
The best thing I did was to take off from work!  I still woke up early but enjoyed connecting with all the folks who spread good wishes around my Facebook wall and texted and emailed and called!  
Hubby went out to get breakfast from Dunkin’ Donuts and we watched the light and fun Robin Hood episode of “Doctor Who.”  
I had a short bout of “what am I doing with my life?!” that my birthdays always seem to bring about, but tamped it down with some help from my pals and some project work!  I meant to take a nap, but the greetings kept rolling in and I kept answering until it was time to head out for supper.  

It was so wonderful to be with Sis and her family!  She treated us to a spectacular Spanish tapas dinner at Dali in Somerville.  

We had their back dining room to ourselves, surrounded by the copper ceiling and pots and pans!

I started with a fun non-alcoholic drink: the Oscaritos, which is a refreshing mix of lime juice and mint and fizzy water.  I adore places that have festive drinks for those of us who can’t do liquor!  


We ordered a plethora of small plates and shared.  We got so many dishes I’m not sure I can recall them all!  So many amazing tastes!  The highlights were the 
– gazpacho, so cold, fresh and spicy, 

– the ceviche with it’s protein-rich mix of cold seafood and citrus, 


– deep-fried cheese with honey and sweet onions
– baked goat cheese with tomato and basil 
– beef short ribs in Rioja wine sauce
– duck in berry sauce,
– scallops in saffron cream
– pheasant with bacon and mushrooms
– lamb meatballs with tomato mint sauce
– prunes wrapped in bacon filled with goat cheer and almonds
– grilled baby lamb chops with peach sauce – this was my niece’s choice and definitely the best of the evening with the most tender lamb I’ve ever eaten, marinated in delicious spices and covered in a perfect fruity sauce! 
There were several other dishes I wanted to try – their menu is astonishing! 
For dessert I had their cool and smooth flan, covered in candied clementines!  


The waiters gathered around to sing happy birthday with tambourines and present me with their metal frog candelabra!  My brother-in-law took a fun photo of me giggling at all that!  
Thanks for all the birthday wishes and being part of a wonderful day!


Smarty pants

Sunday, September 7, 2014
Me: Good morning! Hope you’re enjoying this fine day! Mwah! 10:45 AM

Kris: R u getting treated to your b-day dinner today? 10:56 AM

Me: Having a lunch and dinner! And beach! Sooo wish you were with me. We must pop down here soon! 12:28 PM

Me: What’s on your agenda for this beautiful day? 12:35 PM

Kris: I’m sitting in Panera’s working…Ugh! So u celebrating b-day….with family? What beach? 12:42 PM

Me: Ooh…I adore Panera! Hubby and I are lunching at Quito’s overlooking Bristol Harbor, South Beach in Little Compton, then the Boat House for sunset supper. 12:47 PM

Me: I sent my photo album from last time to your new email. 12:48 PM

Kris: Wow! Sounds great! Other family with u….or joining later? Birthday girl getting a cake? 😉 12:52 PM

Me: Just us today. Sister’s family tomorrow night for Spanish tapas. 1:03 PM

Kris: Wow! Lucky girl! 1:07 PM

Me: Everyone forgot two years ago, so they’ve gone overboard since 1:09 PM

Kris: Well…works out for u! 🙂 1:11 PM

Me: Would rather be holding your hand! 1:12 PM

Kris: Ah shucks…I’m bogged down working. Enjoy yourself! 🙂 1:17 PM

Me: Thanks! Be productive! Don’t think of my boobs! 1:44 PM

Kris: Incorrigible! 1:44 PM

Me: I knew you’d type that. 🙂 1:45 PM

Kris: Smarty pants! 1:51 PM

Me: Made it home. Good day for you? 9:25 PM

Kris: Working…talked to wife – no hope of reconciliation.  Frightened, lonely, sad, lost both wife and whole family…children not talking to me. sorry. but genuinely glad u had a good day. u deserve it! 9:29 PM

Me: Aww, Kris, so sorry. I’m so wishing I could hold you and rub your head.  I thought of you so often today! 9:33 PM

Kris: Ty but some things we really have to do ourselves, like grieve losses or repair relationships…. like with kids…..but i appreciate that. you’re sweet 9:36 PM


Celebration Part I RI Day

Sunday, September 7, 2014
Birthday celebration Part I
I started celebrating early with a Sunday adventure to the state next door to the south – Rhode Island!
The weather was perfect – clear with a few high clouds now and then, breezy, 70… it looked like the opening of “The Simpsons!”  The sun made everything look so crisp and beautiful!  It was especially appreciated after the muggy 90’s and fierce thunderstorms of Saturday.
Hubby and I made a day of it, heading out early!  I had planned to only go down for dinner, but Hubby suggested enjoying the whole day!  Whee!  

I have never seen the roads so empty!  It was glorious to sail down I-93 and Rte 24.  
Lunch at Quito’s
We started the day in Bristol with a parking spot right out front of Quito’s, a fun seafood restaurant with a covered deck right on the harbor!  


We shared a flight of chowders!  We got a great table right at the front looking out over the big boats and beautiful water.  It was great to compare the Manhattan, New England and Rhode Island versions of this classic.  I liked the tomatoey Manhattan more than I thought I might, did not really care for the clear broth briny RI and adore their New England.  

Hubby had the grilled chili lime shrimp which I found tough, dry and hard to get off the skewers.  The stuffed quahog was not great either… the stuffing was packed down and dry even after a liberal dosing of lemon juice.  


Our second course was better with crunchy clam fritters and coconut mango shrimp.  Hubby’s fish and chips had two huge squares of perfect fish.  

South Beach wading
We motored on along the little roads of Tiverton and Little Compton, past the cow pastures and wineries and beautiful bays to the fantastic secret South Beach.  Hubby played “I’m All About the Bass” for me until we crossed into the area were there is no cell signal or wifi, so we went off the grid!  They’ve stopped charging for parking!  We pulled most of the way down and got a beachfront parking spot. I took a bunch of photos and a video!  


The ocean water is usually way too cold to wade, but there were a lot of people in the water, so I decided to be brave.  I rolled up my pant legs, shucked my socks and clogs and waded in!  It was lovely! Hubby went in too!  It was a little hairy getting back to the car through the stones and getting our feet cleaned off and back into our shoes, but we managed together.  

After a quick look at the peaceful Tuniper Pond across the road, we headed back North. 


Farmstand colors
We pulled in at Walker’s Farm Stand.  I hadn’t been there before.  It’s a quintessential family farm with a mix of their homegrown veggies and stuff from elsewhere, with some cheeses and milk and goodies for the tourists.  I got a couple ears of corn, then popped in to Wilma’s Bakery for walnut pumpkin bread and a fresh lemonade!  

The displays in the farm stand were so pretty, I dashed back to the car for my phone and snapped a few photos, then walked down to the fields to look out over the bay and take some more! 





Grinnell’s Beach Beauty
They’ve locked the gate and the bathrooms.  Bleh!  But the views of the little island and the big house and the boats and the water are still spectacular.  



General Store Treats

We went on to Fall River to find the Sky Beverage General Store.  It’s a beautiful rehab of an old factory building with a convenience store, frozen yogurt shop, candy store and cigar shop!  

We got a few Jelly Belly Beans with odd flavors like “Movie Popcorn” and made use of their strong wifi signal to upload photos.  

Dinner Delights
Then it was time to go back to Tiverton for an incredible dinner overlooking Mount Hope Bay at The Boat House.  


We had the corner table overlooking the bay!  Sarah was our waitress – a bubbly geeky enthusiastic server with a passion for a clean table.  

We started with their warm sourdough rolls and whipped butter in the cute little paper bag.  Hubby  had their Hall of Fame spicy corn chowder with chorizo, while I tried their clam chowder.  Both are delicious!  


We shared the field greens with goat cheese and pecans in a champagne vinaigrette and then splurged on the raw bar sampler with 4 cocktail shrimp, 4 Point Judith Oysters and 4 Little Neck clams.  



I gloried in the baked stuffed lobster with bay scallop and shrimp stuffing… so divine!  He had their sirloin steak with fried parmesan gnocchi and the fries. 


The impossibly young looking handsome manager with the braces stopped by to wish me a happy birthday.  He got a little verkelmpt when we told him this is our “go-to place” for special days.  We watched the sunset over the bay as they brought me a little dessert with a candle – the dark chocolate budino (mousse) with hazelnuts and whipped cream, which was free!  They didn’t have hot chocolate so I had an ice cold glass of skim milk.  Such a special place!  


There was heavier traffic going back, but it moved along and I managed to “make a pocket” away from cars most of the way.  We made it home in record time – just 66 minutes!  Whee! 
I uploaded way too many photos to Facebook.  The sunshine made everything look spectacular! 
This is the life!!!!

Incorrigible Me

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Good morning!  Usually back about 2 pm. Mwah! 9:45 AM

Kris: ok…I’ll have to see how far I get. hope enough to pick you up…but realistically aim for 4:00 SHARP. Humid with T-storms later. Good news: Reprieve from my relentless pressure for bike ride (for now). Bad news: Hot, humid, windy, noisy ride in my car again. Sure u really up for that (again)!? 9:57 AM

Me: Sounds good if I’m with you 9:59 AM

Kris: unflappable…incorrigible, adj. 1. bad beyond reform: “an incorrigible liar”. 2. unruly; uncontrollable: “an incorrigible child”. 3. firmly fixed; not easily changed: “an incorrigible habit” or “her incorrigible lust for sex and food”. 4. not easily influenced: “an incorrigible optimist”. You fit 3 & 4. I, on the other hand, fit 1 & 2.  Strange & Wonderful Alfalfa. 🙂 10:17 AM

Kris: struggling to focus. trying but slow going. I could come to your apt, but would need to just keep working. way behind in everything. stressed out. wish I were free just to go someplace fun but really need to work. UGH! 1:37 PM

Me: Running late – just got to Mom’s. It’s okay. Whatever you need to do. 1:40 PM

Kris: Is me working at your apt “something/better than nothing”….or should i just stay home and work? Do something another time when I’m free? Help me out – have a preference! trouble making decisions lately…losing my mind! 1:46 PM

Me: If you can focus alone, stay home. Don’t waste time driving 1:52 PM

Kris: Ok. sorry. don’t know yet but if I’m free, do u have plans for tomorrow? 1:54 PM

Me: Busy tomorrow. Sorry 1:56 PM

Kris: Ok…enjoy! 1:58 PM

Me: @ The 99 with Mom in Woburn…reminds me of you! 2:31 PM

Kris: 🙂 2:32 PM

Me: You getting stuff done? 3:28 PM

Kris: Yes…slowly, but chuggin away. been home “sweatin bullets”….gonna drive somewhere with a/c & wi-fi, keep working 3:32 PM

Me: Hiya! How goes? Hope you’re being productive. 🙂 7:35 PM

Kris: Yup.  sitting in McDonald’s just to get out of house and into a/c.  cranking out work.  OMG it’s torture…am really behind…but getting caught up. 7:39 PM

Me: Yay! Sounds good. 7:40 PM

Kris: 🙂 7:41 PM

Me: You get lots done? Feel calmer? 12:23 AM

Kris: Yes…feel little better…still more to do…tomorrow. 1:51 AM


Inside out

Saturday, September 6, 2014
10:05am Hiya Handsome!

[he posted a sexy photo of him running on the beach]
10:05am Phil 
Morning!
Nothing handsome about that sweaty, scruffy looking dude


10:07am
You look kissable to me!

10:17am Phil 
Those whiskers would burn your thighs
 
10:32am   
Mmmm…yes please!

10:47am Phil 
Ha ha!

2:45pm
Great lunch with Mom at The Ninety-Nine.  She had the fish & chips and ate their fried chicken! 


6:55pm 
We had a wild thunderstorm!

I adore it when the storm goes through and the temperature sinks from 89 to 73 in less than 15 minutes! Buh bye 90s!

9:32pm Phil
[photo of Fred and a younger woman smiling]
9:32pm Phil 
Fred and her daughter. Two pretty ladies

9:32pm
Wow!  Great photo!
 
9:49pm Phil 
Both stunning

9:51pm   
So she is cool with her children seeing you?

9:59pm Phil 
Yeah! Kids are good. Their Mom is happy and they are good with that

I’ve known them all their lives. The daughter is a pistol

11:46pm Phil 

Crazy I know.

Fred had a relish tray laid out, steaks ready for the grill, met me with a drink in a “leave nothing to the imagination” negligee and then turned me inside out. Wow!

12:06am
oooh… lucky man!

Alfalfa Appears Again

Carl Switzer as Alfalfa 
in the 1930’s “Our Gang” movie shorts

Friday, September 5, 2014

Kris: wife’s lawyer didn’t show yesterday, so I met with “case manager” alone. called lawyer who said those court meetings are “waste of my time…u and I can settle this without wasting time driving to courthouse (disdains “system” and been doing it for 38 years). wife is talking about maybe accepting legal separation and maybe thinking about reconciliation…still hates my guts.  still sends vitriolic texts occasionally.  but “small crack in her armor”.  meeting with pastor went well…she asked about stds.  told her about testing and results.  she did not ask more about you.  other than “did u have sex on the boat”.  to which I replied “Does that really matter?” and she dropped it. hope your day is going well.  gonna b a hot one.  b thankful u r not in my car without a/c!   😉  Evil Alfalfa  9:10 AM
Kris: so when do I get to take u on bike ride? if I evah find my lost moral compass a day may come of a final goodbye.  not trying to “blackmail” u.  just facing reality.  SO? (I hear that whining “Ohhhh…I don’t know.  I’m frightened.). Ok.  so I’ll go real slow.  for a short ride. How bout u drive and meet me someplace near Gloucester tomorrow after u drop off mom? Short ride on bike, sight see in your AIR CONDITIONED CAR.  dinner (dutch).   Blackmailing Alfalfa 9:46 AM
Kris: how’s your day been? almost free! 3:06 PM
Kris: not like u to not give short reply.  busy?  something wrong?  u can tell me.  it’s me.  Kris…remember? 😉 4:37 PM
Me: Hiya! Thanks for the update. Crazy day in the office. I’d adore going to Gloucester with you, but Hubby has the car tomorrow after I get back from Mom’s. He is going to a big party with his lady and doesn’t know when he’ll get back. Can you pick me up in your car? Or some other plan? 4:38 PM
Kris: not sure.  may have acted prematurely.  let me get back to you later tonight.  gotta run.  be gone for few hours. talk later. Hug & Kiss 4:41 PM
Kris: got a lot of work. depends how much I can get done by tomorrow afternoon.  later gator 4:42 PM
Me: Sure. I’m flexible. You’re welcome to work tonight and/or tomorrow in the a/c comfort of my living room if you like. Mwah! 4:45 PM

Kris: had a wife shopping dinner date.  heading home. will try to get done in time to pick you up tomorrow.  what time will u get home from lunch with mom? 12:32 AM



Chinese Happy Hour

Thursday, September 4, 2014

9:28 pm
Hiya kid!  Good day?

We had a delicious dinner at PF Chang’s!  They have delightful Happy Hour specials.

 Hubby’s House-made Soda – GINGER BEER (A non-alcoholic delight. Fresh ginger and lemon juice mixed with pure cane sugar) and 
my STRAWBERRY CUCUMBER LIMEADE – Fresh strawberries muddled with shredded cucumber and hand-squeezed lime juice. So refreshing!
 Happy hour dim sum – dynamite shrimp and spicy green beans 
 Happy hour dim sum – hot & sour soup, pork dumplings
and egg rolls

Desserts! BANANA SPRING ROLLS – Six warm, crispy bites of banana served with coconut-pineapple ice cream and drizzled with caramel and vanilla sauces and 
CHOCOLATE RASPBERRY WONTONS – Handmade, warm and crispy wontons with a creamy chocolate- raspberry filling, dusted with powdered sugar, served with chocolate and raspberry sauces, fresh raspberries and mint