Meet #37 Part 2 Dancing with Kris

Sunday, October 12, 2014
I woke up about 9 am, washed my face and brushed my teeth, then went to find Kris.  He was sitting on the sofa, drinking coffee, eating a banana and browsing the ads on Christian Mingles.  I ate a bowl of cereal sitting at my computer, checked my email, Facebook, blog hits… 
We caught up on news from his life and mine.  He put on the radio to his favorite station, WZLX, saying Sunday mornings they play the blues and that fits his miserable life right now!  The first song we heard actually had happy lyrics!  He started dancing around the living room!  He is so cute when he boogies!  I had to get up and join in!  We shook our groove thing, then bumped hips and then he twirled me around and took me in his arms!  We were giggling and dancing and… it was so fun!  He looked into my eyes and smiled great big and I melted.  He noted that we had not done that before.  Another milestone!  We keep finding new ways to make each other smile.  
He went off to take a shower.  I wrote to Philip, letting him know I had gotten Kris into my bed.  Ha! 
Kris took off to go watch a football game with another of his Christian ladies, “the very Catholic one.”  I told him Hubby would be away overnight on Tuesday and asked him to stay over with me.  He said he was very busy with work and still very conflicted but he would think about it.  Way to make me feel unwanted, dude. *sigh I asked him to think about it, he could even come in late, and get back to me.  He said, “Have a good week!” and was gone.  I had the feeling he had already made up his mind.  Ugh.  I know… I know… his life is a mess and I shouldn’t push. *sigh 
What a mixture this guy is! So sweet and funny and sexy.  And annoying.  I know I put up with too much but for now it is still worth it.  But I feel like the day is coming when the balance may shift.  If he doesn’t appear Tuesday, that may be it.

He texted as he left the garage. 


Kris: listen for the obnoxiously loud music…and the bike horn beeps goodbye… Alfalfa… grin 11:25 AM

Meet #37 All About Me

October 11, 2014 Saturday

I was leaving my mother’s place after a troubling visit.  She was in a lot of pain and I felt helpless about how to fix that.  I needed something good to happen.  I decided to text Kris.  I had not seen him in two weeks, and only heard from him once in that time (when I decided to swallow my pride and text him).  

2:56 pm Me
Hiya hot stuff!  How it going with you this rainy day?
There was no answer.  *sigh  I had to assume he was busy working, as he always is on a Saturday, and not listening to his phone.  Or perhaps he is on a date with one of the “good Christian women” he’s been finding on Christian Mingles?  *sigh 
I ran errands and went home.  I considered taking a nap, but ended up sitting at my desk, working on my blog.  
Finally, I got an answer!  
5:21 pm Kris
Started really rainy then turned out nice, went for ride. back home. time to make the donuts (work) AGAIN. Arrrggghhh!
5:22 pm Me 
Wanna work on my sofa?  Hubby’s off to a party. 
5:33 pm Kris
Nor sure – only if the demure lady could keep Sassy at bay. really not fair to u….what u really want is sex. I understand but can’t do
[Great!  He’s in the “no sex” loop again.  Grrr…. ]
5:34 pm Me
I want your company.  I want to know what’s up with you.
6:06 pm Kris
by time I got there, work only and have to leave by 11:00 am tomorrow if spent nite. not much time to talk
6:07 pm Me
Whatever you think.  You know I take what I can get.  🙂
6:31 pm Kris
u make me feel guilty and bad. u deserve better. won’t be able to do any real talking, just work till midnite. need to park bike inside. eta 7:45 if u want me to
6:34 pm Me
Come on down!  I have soup!  And grapes.  🙂
6:48 pm Kris
k
7:36 pm Kris
eta 8:30
8:34 pm Kris 
here 
His motorcycle and the music he had on were so loud, I heard him passing in front of my condo building five floors up with the windows closed!  Ha!  I was already in the elevator when he texted that he’d arrived, and opened to garage door before he had a chance to get off the bike!  He rolled into my parking space, dismounted and gave me a long hug.  I resigned myself to that being most of our physical contact.  
He took off the leathers and stowed them, grabbed his laptop and we went to the elevator.  He asked about my mother.  There was another couple in the elevator, so we just chatted along. 
We went inside and he set right up on the coffee table, plugging in his laptop.  He forgets to eat, so I always have snacks on hand to tempt him.  I handed him a bag of Cheetos crunchy cheese doodles to munch on, then offered him a choice of soups, and he picked the Progresso Italian Wedding soup.  I warmed it up for him in the microwave.  I offered him a soda or water  and he asked for coffee.  I pulled his mug and instant coffee down from the top shelf and fixed that in the microwave.  I turned on his favorite radio station. He sat on the sofa, working along, happily munching and slurping soup and coffee. 
I sat at my desk, working on my blog and typing bon mot, chatting with the lovely cheating ladies online on a Saturday night from all over the U.S. and Canada!  I wrote to Philip, asking him how to get Kris into my arms.  I told him I was thinking of taking off my sweater.  He said that would get his attention!  
Kris would look up every now and then, tell me some news from his life.  I’d listen, ask a couple of questions, then go quiet to encourage him to finish his work.  
Hubby got home about 11:15 pm and ordered a pizza.  We helped him finish it off. 
Finally midnight rolled around and he had to stop work.  I went over to sit next to him on the sofa.  He asked if I wanted to get a room!  Like…right now!  Wow… his definition of “no sex” is fascinating!  I thought about it, but decided it was a bad idea.  I said it wasn’t worth the money.  That it was late and we should save our pennies for a time when we could make the best use of it.  I felt like an idiot for turning down a chance to sleep with him wrapped around me, but it didn’t seem right with him so conflicted.  He put his head in my lap and we listened to music and talked. 
He told me stories of his Christian ladies.  He has said goodbye to “the little old lady who lived in a shoe” and is tied up with 20 different children.  She is fun but he can’t see inserting himself into that life.  
He also decided not to continue romancing the motorcycle mama, but asked to stay her friends and ride with her sometimes.  She thought that was a great idea!  He said he didn’t think he has ever had a female friend to just have fun with, and this could be a fun new thing for him. 
He told me about discussing sex with another of his ladies.  I got the answer to who had been occupying his time.  He told me he had seen her three times this week, including lunch today.  They have kissed and hugged in a sexy way but nothing more, though they are talking about having sex before marriage as a good way to know if they’re compatible.  She cheated on her husband, and is living with the man she was cheating with but wants to get away from him.  So now she is looking to cheat on him with Kris!  I told him not to expect fidelity from this one.  And she confirms what I had told him to expect – not all these women are going to be demure, holy people, just as he is not completely that way.  
He told me he had told her about me.  I asked what he’d said.  He explained that we’d had an affair that ended his marriage, that he had been “trying to say goodbye but couldn’t because I am the nicest woman he has ever met and put up with all his crap.”  He said he had admitted to having had sex with me less than two weeks ago, and that’s why he needs to stop, so he can say with integrity that he is not having sex with anyone else.  
I told him we did not have sex two weeks ago.  He looked startled.  I said, “You got a very sassy blow job in Rhode Island.  Which was fun for me.  But there was no sex.”  
He looked even more startled.  “So you got… no action.”  
“Right.”  
“Didn’t we do something in the morning?” 
“Nope.”  
“You paid for everything and got…nothing.”  I stared back. It looked as if he had not realized how that all turned out.  He did get how unfair that was.  I could see the changes in his face as he processed that.  I was thinking, “You worked Saturday night and wrote email to your wife in the morning,” but I decided not to say it – he had already gotten the message.  I was pleased that I managed to find a way to stick up for myself without being whiny or mean. 
“I did get two wonderful meals holding your hand, and a walk on the pier at sunset, and lying in your lap on the beach…” I listed the beautiful memories I had of our time in RI.   “Those are things I can not do with Hubby.”  He nodded and returned to the topic of telling his new lady about me, saying he was being careful.  
I asked him to be sure not to give away personal info about me and he told me not to worry – he has learned from his mistakes.  He told me he thought he had ticked her off – he read me her texts and his… he had been texting her while sitting on my couch!  There is no end to daggers he sticks in me… the attention he pays to other things while he’s with me… women and work and… grrrr!  Too busy to talk to me but plenty of time to text her?!  That was it… I had to get away from him before I told him off.  
I got up to go to bed and turned to kiss him gently on the forehead.  He grabbed me, kissing me hard.  I melted!  I am so starved to be touched!  I put his hand on my breast.  He pulled me back down and started tracing his finger down into my pants. I got up and went to talk to Hubby, asking him if he could stay up another hour or so, so Kris and I could have some bedroom time.  It’s not unusual for him to be up this late or later.  He agreed cheerfully, said he would kill more monsters in his video game! 
So at 1:30 am I took Kris by the hand and led him to my bedroom, closing the door.  We sprawled on the bed and he went right to work on my clit!  He pushed me and pushed me, but it was not happening.  I took off my sweater and bra, and his mouth landed on my right nipple, sucking and biting.  Still not happening. 
I did something I rarely do… I forgot about him, about making noises or moving to please him.  I went quiet and went away in my mind to a total fantasy – a camp fire, a man getting me to undress in front of our friends, showing them my body and what happens when he touches different parts!  I don’t know where that came from… and I am not an exhibitionist, but it set me off.  So naughty… that did it!  I soared!  
I asked if he’d like me to take care of him now?  He said no… tonight was all about me.  I realized it was to give me something for the missed opportunity in RI, but in a way that he could still tell his lady he had not had sex with me.  He went back to playing with my breast and rubbing my clit again but I stopped him…. too sensitive and getting sore.  It was 3 am by then, time to stop taking advantage of Hubby’s generosity.  So I kissed Kris hard one more time and sent him off to the sofa.  I drifted off to sleep smiling.  *sigh 

Kissing you there

October 8, 2014 Wednesday
Me: Hiya hairy chest man! Mom is better! I’m outside! Walking! Believe it or not! 1:52 PM
Kris: glad to hear mom’s better…and you’re outside walking!  (you’re funny…LOL!)  🙂 2:54 PM
Me: I’ve been out every day this week, have a keen sense of “won’t be able to much longer!” How’re you doing? Put your finger behind your ear. Think of me kissing you there! 3:18 PM


Free hugs

October 7, 2014 Tuesday
Me: Hiya hot stuff! You behaving? 7:53 PM
Kris: No – up to no good…was thinking of u today.  thought maybe u were trying to wean yourself from me. 😉 8:57 PM
Me: I’ve been missing you awful bad but trying not to be a pest. I thought you’d found someone better to play with. What sort of mischief? 8:59 PM
Kris: Dating numerous women…no sex.  long bike rides.  dinners…fleeting moments of escape from feelings of loss of wife…kids all hate me.  lonliness.  so dating numerous women is “temporary distraction”…affair covenant still on between us.  I’ll tell u if I have sex with someone…not yet.  like to wait till married.  HAH!.  I’M SO MESSED UP!!!!  9:10 PM
Me: So same as usual? 😉 There are free hugs here for you. 9:13 PM
Kris: something should change.  but doesn’t seem to 9:15 PM
Me: Too true. Things getting worse here. But hearing from you makes me smile. 9:22 PM
Kris: how getting worse for u? 9:25 PM
Me: Mom is a mess… severe pain from spinal compression fracture. And boss is attacking another colleague.  Had a bad cold all weekend but it is easing. Have that “stop the world, I need to get off and sit awhile” feeling. 9:50 PM
Kris: sorry to hear…know the feeling 9:55 PM
Me: I do escape into memories of RI and you, when it gets bad. 🙂 10:20 PM


Sneezy knows

Friday, October 3, 2014

I don’t know why Sneezy keeps writing to me if all I do is make him sneeze when we’re together.  It’s so sad – he is the nicest, politest man!  Maybe he has some new allergy meds?  He checked in again this week.  It took me awhile to figure out how to respond, but I decided to tell it like it is.  

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From: Sneezy
To: Sassy
Sent: Monday, September 29, 2014 9:41 AM
Subject: Hello
How are you Sassy? Still going strong in NH?
Hope you are well.
G
Sent from Yahoo Mail for iPad

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From: Sassy
To: Sneezy
Subject: Re: Hello 
Sent: Thu, Oct 2, 2014 1:57:58 AM 
Hiya George!  How are you dear man?  I hope your October is off to a grand start.  Can’t believe it’s been a year since we started talking.  and we’re still talking.  Nice! 
I am carrying on with “Kris.”  We got away for an overnight to RI last weekend.  He is a mess going through a divorce, missing his family, but manages to make me smile anyway.  
You having any luck?  Hope so! 
-S 
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From: Sneezy
To: Sassy
Subject: re: Hello
Sent: Fri Oct 3, 2014 8:37 PM
Hello Sassy-
Happy you are still in the groove w/ NH man.
Nothing going on here. Maybe I need to change my pic?
I am suspicious that AM has some phony profiles just to have us exhaust fees.
Just out of hospital after issues with a routine test. Chances are 2/1000. 
Wish I could be so lucky on line!
Keep the faith,

G


Meet #36 Part 2 Beach Day

Sunday, September 28, 2014
I woke up about 5 am but managed to go back to sleep until around 9 am.  I was really frisky but could not interest Kris in any play.  He was mired in thinking about and then writing an email response to a nasty text from his wife.  I told him to tell her he is not available to her anymore to listen to her woes.  But he insisted on spending over an hour crafting a response to each of her points.  Ugh.  I told him we really needed to leave by 11 am.  At 10:55 am he jumped into the shower, dressed, tossed his stuff into the bag and we were able to leave at 11:15 am.  
Why do I have to hang around while he works and writes to his wife?  Cuddling with him is good but feeling less and less worth all the hassle.
We drove over to Bristol and were too late to get a seat on the deck at Quito’s.  Argh! We ended up inside, which was cooler but felt claustrophobic tucked into a corner.  The waitress did not speak to us for 25 minutes!  Kris finally got up and went to fetch her.  I had the flight of chowders, sharing with Kris.  He ordered this delicious spinach salad with bacon, cheese, pecans, cranberries and pears!  I nibbled bits of that.  He got the little neck clams in garlic and oil.  I had an odd version of paella – covered in spicy red sauce!  

I went off to the bathroom and asked him to get the bill and a take-out box.  He did it!  We paid and took off.  He wanted a blanket so he could sleep at the beach, and had found a consignment shop and called to check that they were open!  We went over there.  He ended up with Queen size blue sheets, which he can use later, because the blankets were too expensive.  
I drove back through Bristol, showed him the America3 America’s Cup boat, then went over the Mount Hope Bridge and back up 24 to 77 to Little Compton.  I told him about my last dinner with Philip at Evelyn’s Drive-In.  We stopped at Walker’s farm stand.  I got a chocolate chip cookie and their fresh lemonade. He got a carrot cake cupcake and hot coffee.  We sat at a table to nosh.  I braved their porto-potty!  It was clean but about 105 degrees inside.  I had terrible diarrhea so I was glad to rid myself of that! 

We drove on to South Beach.  It was so beautiful!  And crowded!  

We went for a stroll, got our feet wet then camped out on the sheet so he could have a 20-minute nap.  I put my head on his hip and closed my eyes too.  We got up at 4 pm, went to the car to clean off my feet then headed out.  His troubles weighed heavily on his mind, so he was quiet.  I patted his leg and tried to balance letting him think with distracting him.  
The traffic was heavy but rolled along.  I made it to my place at 5:45 pm!  My brother-in-law called asking me to get sparkling ciders.  So I dropped Kris off to get his motorcycle from the garage, dashed to the grocery store for 3 bottles and dashed to Sis’ house, arriving about 6:25 pm for dinner with my cousins! 

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I got home about 9 and texted Kris.

Me: Finally home. Hope you’ve made it also. Delicious lamb dinner and good conversation with Sis and the family. Thanks again for the cuddles and all the rest! Mwah! 9:15 PM



Meet #36 Rhode Island Roads

Saturday, September 27, 2014
Me: Good morning! It’s a beautiful morning and I am smiling because… I get to be with you! And show you beautiful places! I will pay. You paid for last weekend – I will get this. 7:36 AM
Me: I have taken care of everything. We have a 4:30 pm reservation at The Boat House (latest available) and a hotel reservation at the Comfort Inn in Warwick. Finding a hotel was a bear! Must be “something going on down there.” 7:40 AM
Me: My plan is dinner, strolling around there at sunset, hotel tonight. Then tomorrow – lunch in Bristol on the water, drive to Little Compton, South Beach for a little while, stop by the candy outlet. I need to be home by 5:00 pm – sister hosting dinner for NC cousin. Any questions? So excited! 7:44 AM
Kris: Wow! Thank u! Tell the truth about the bike.  “just couldn’t deal with it.  one weekend of terror was enough? (You can wait till I see u to answer. I expect a typical “really long pause” while u think to yourself, “How do I say this in a nice way?”).  Back to work.  ugh! 7:48 AM
Me: I want to drive this time! And I want you to relax and not worry about me or money… look at the wonderful scenery or my boobs and get a real break! So finish that work and come here! I’m off to Mom’s! 9:43 AM
Me: Oh! Please bring your GPS if possible. 🙂 9:44 AM
Kris: ok.  I have to go borrow money from my mother first.  hate it.  will do as much work as I can…but will have some left to finish later…but hopefully not too much.  thanks for treating.  will bring gps.  see u at 2 10:35 AM
Me: ETA? trying to gauge when to leave my Mom’s. 1:29 PM
Kris: here 1:49 PM
Me: Shoot! I’m just leaving Mom’s. Be there in 20 min. 1:52 PM
Kris: no problem.  going to Dunkin Donuts to wait…ping when home…take your time.  I’m early once in a hundred times.  don’t want to make a habit if it.   ;). Alfalfa 1:55 PM
Me: 🙂 1:55 PM
Me: Almost home. Meet me at the garage? 2:11 PM
Kris: k 2:13 PM
Me: Here 2:19 PM
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Kris met me here at 2:15 pm.  He was actually early today!  I drove my car and we took off down Rte 93 to 24 so I could show him my favorite spots in RI.  We made a quick pit stop in Mansfield at a Dunkin Donuts/convenience store, then another quick stop at the Sky Beverage General Store in Fall River to get Jelly Belly jelly beans!  I adore their movie popcorn flavor.  We rolled into the Boat House Restaurant at 4:31 pm for a 4:30 reservation.  Whee! 
We had a fantastic bay front window table away from the bar… the best seat I’ve ever had there!  We had a server named Crystal who was lovely and helpful.  
He had the clam chowder, shared the mixed local field greens salad with me, then tried the fisherman’s stew and finished with cup of black coffee and the pistachio gelato.  I had the Hall of Fame corn chowder, the mixed field greens, the baked stuffed lobster (the stuffing was gloppy and inedible but the lobster was the sweetest I’ve had in a long time).  I finished with a hot chocolate and the mixed berry sorbet.  Here’s the view of Mount Hope Bay from our table: 

We strolled out the pier and watched the sunset.  It was such a beautiful night!  The Boat House looked so cool from the water.  Of course, my phone camera died just as I would have taken a photo!  Grrr… 
I drove over to Warwick (about 30 minutes away).  He spent the entire time talking on the phone!  I should have been miffed but it was fascinating to hear his part of the discussion.  I got to where we were going but could not find the hotel! I had to stop and admit I was lost and get him to hang up and help me.  Ugh.  We found the Comfort Inn near the airport. It is next to the Bertucci’s but set back from the street. 
Unfortunately, their computer system was down and they were trying to check people in by hand, and not keeping track of which rooms they had assigned.  I’ve never seen anything like this!  It felt like a plot to keep me out of his arms.  A trio of college kids came back the 5th time saying they had been given keys to rooms that already had people in them!  I waited forever to check in – like 45 minutes!  We were given a room with someone in it.  Ugh.  We went back down to get another room.  That worked.  We were in #352, which was quite nice!  
I went to get ice.  He settled in to finish his work, while I sprawled on the bed and read my phone, chatted on IRC for a bit.  Two of my favorite pals were around.  I munched on a Ritter whole hazelnut chocolate bar.  Kris dug into the Jelly Belly jelly beans.  
He came over once to cuddle about 10 pm, but I made him get up pretty quickly and continue. 
He finally got done working about 12:10 am and crawled into bed.  He played with my clit for awhile, then I got out all the toys and did a combo of toys in his ass and on his balls while I sucked on him!  Whee!  
I am a little miffed that I get a few minutes of the same old clit flicking, and he gets a very special sassy BJ with toys.  Ah well… 
I feel asleep about 1:15 am with him wrapped around me.  So good…