Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Me: Good morning hot stuff! 8:05 AM
Kris: Morning! 8:06 AM
Me: I’m off to work to run a big reception. Whee! Have a terrific Tuesday! 8:06 AM
Kris: Thanks!…u have a great day too! 8:09 AM
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Me: Results! Clean! See email! 9:58 AM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 10:03 AM
Subject: Results
Here’s the email from my nurse practitioner:
Date: Tuesday, April 15, 2014, 9:37 AM
Subject: Your Results
Your STI screening tests were all fine. You have antibodies to type 1 herpes, the virus that causes cold sores. All the other tests were negative. You do not have immunity to hepatitis B so you may want to consider getting immunized. Please let me know if you have any questions.
11363 – CHLAMYDIA/N. GONORRHOEAE RNA, TMA
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
CHLAMYDIA TRACHOMATIS RNA, TMA
NOT DETECTED
NOT DETECTED 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
NEISSERIA GONORRHOEAE RNA, TMA
NOT DETECTED
NOT DETECTED 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
COMMENT (SEE BELOW) 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
This test was performed using the APTIMA COMBO2 Assay
(Gen-Probe Inc.).
The analytical performance characteristics of this
assay, when used to test SurePath specimens have
been determined by Quest Diagnostics.
36126 – RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING NON-REACTIVE
NON-REACTIVE 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
37676 – HEPATITIS B CORE AB TOTAL W/REFL IGM
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS B CORE AB TOTAL
NON-REACTIVE
NON-REACTIVE 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
499 – HEPATITIS B SURFACE ANTIBODY QL
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS B SURFACE ANTIBODY QL
NON-REACTIVE
NON-REACTIVE 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
6447 – HSV 1/2 IGG,TYPE SPECIFIC AB HERPESELECT
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HSV 1 IGG TYPE SPECIFIC AB 4.81 H
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
HSV 2 IGG TYPE SPECIFIC AB <0.90
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
Value Interpretation
—– ————–
<0.90 Negative
0.90-1.10 Equivocal
>1.10 Positive
This assay utilizes recombinant type-specific antigens
to differentiate HSV-1 from HSV-2 infections. A
positive result cannot distinguish between recent and
past infection. If recent HSV infection is suspected
but the results are negative or equivocal, the assay
should be repeated in 4-6 weeks. The performance
characteristics of the assay have not been established
for pediatric populations, immunocompromised patients,
or neonatal screening.
8472 – HEPATITIS C ANTIBODY
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS C ANTIBODY
NON-REACTIVE
NON-REACTIVE 4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
SIGNAL TO CUT-OFF 0.04 <1.00
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
* Test Performed By QUEST DIAGNOSTICS, INCORPORATED
19728 – HIV AB, HIV 1/2, EIA, WITH REFLEXES
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HIV 1/2 EIA AB SCREEN
NON-REACTIVE
NON-REACTIVE 4/11/2014 12:00 PM *
A Nonreactive HIV-1/2 antibody result does not
exclude HIV infection since the time frame for
seroconversion is variable. If acute HIV infection is
suspected, antibody retesting and nucleic acid
amplification (HIV DNA/RNA) testing is recommended.
Effective April 28, 2014, Quest Diagnostics will
discontinue the HIV-1 Western Blot confirmation and
replace it with an HIV-1/HIV-2 differentiation assay.
This assay exhibits increased sensitivity over the
HIV-1 Western Blot test and simultaneously
differentiates HIV-1 antibody reactivity from HIV-2
antibody reactivity.
* Test Performed By QUEST DIAGNOSTICS, INCORPORATED
*** END OF FINAL LAB REPORT ***
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 12:02 PM
Subject: Re: Results
Hi Sassie,
Overall that seems to be good news. I say “seems to be” because I have a few questions.
1) The summary statement is a little confusing. It starts by saying: “Your STI screening tests were all fine.” But then it immediately follows with: “You have antibodies to type 1 herpes, the virus that causes cold sores.”
Could you call and ask for a little more information about the above statement? “Cold sores” sounds “harmless” enough–but basically they’re saying you’re positive for genital herpes (which doesn’t sound “so nice”).
Based on what I’ve read (which I haven’t had to really do that much of before), you’re positive for one of the two types of viruses (type 1) that causes genital herpes. Trying to understand how “serious” this is is a little confusing. “Cold sores” doesn’t sound too serious–but “outbreaks” of it seem to vary in degree. It can be contracted through oral, anal, or vaginal sex–and wearing a condom apparently doesn’t guarantee not contracting it. While contact with a person having symptoms (“outbreak” of cold sores) seems to increase risk of transmission–it can be transmitted through the skin of an “a-symptomatic” person with the virus. Here is a CDC website address you could cut and paste into your browser to read more about genital herpes–and the type 1 and type 2 viruses that cause it:
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm
2) Another question I have is: Were you tested for syphylis? I don’t see that on the list of your results. Could you ask about that?
3) And finally, could you get clarification about this statement under HIV:
“A Nonreactive HIV-1/2 antibody result does not exclude HIV infection since the time frame for seroconversion is variable. If acute HIV infection is
suspected, antibody retesting and nucleic acid amplification (HIV DNA/RNA) testing is recommended.”
I hope you don’t take this as me not being positive and hopeful. I just want to know exactly what risks i’m taking–and hopefully you would too.
So if you wouldn’t mind calling and getting a brief consult with the nurse about the above—I would really appreciate it.
I REALLY want to chat with you about these test results. Would 10:30 tonight be a possibility to chat?
They make “cold sores” sound rather “harmless.” But the reality is they’re talking about genital herpes–which scares me a little. But I want to talk to you about it. I think you should be tested for syphilis if you haven’t been. The “really big one” (HIV) seems to be fine—but I’d still like clarification about my question above.
I want our relationship to continue to be what I feel it has been so far—open, direct and honest. Otherwise, at least for me, it won’t work.
If we can’t chat tonight—maybe tomorrow night.
Kris
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Kris: Great news on most…especially “biggie” (hiv). Have some questions…read my email. Would like to chat soon about (or even meet to talk)…Kris 12:13 PM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:10 PM
re: Results
Hi Kris,
Thanks for your email. The way you approach this is wonderful!
Here are my answers:
1) Herpes
I have had cold sores all my life. They are the HS 1 virus. I have not had an outbreak in a long time, and I get notice long before they break the skin, and have never transmitted them. I am very careful to avoid contact when they are active. I have medicine that clears them up, usually about 7-10 days. I have never had genital herpes (HS 2 virus) symptoms.
I also believe you need to have a predisposition to it, as people like my husband who was kissing me all the time, never got it. And in my family, two of us had it and three didn’t, which would’ve been very hard to explain if skin contact alone transmitted it.
Finally, I believe they have mostly stopped testing for it, because over 90% of the population tests positive and it is not considered serious, so you are unlikely to find another woman without it.
2) Syphilis
I was tested. The results are listed as
RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING
You can google that and it says “test for syphilis.”
3) HIV
Science doesn’t know how long it takes HIV antibodies to show up in the blood. I’ve heard 6 weeks to 6 months. So they’re saying “You don’t have any antibodies right now” but I could have had sex without a condom last weekend and that wouldn’t show up. So this says at one point in time I didn’t have HIV antibodies but they can’t guarantee that is the case now.
I am glad to talk more. I want you to have peace of mind. I am running this big reception which usually wears me out, but I will try to stay up to talk tonight. If not, tomorrow for sure.
-S
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Me: Hiya! Email read. Replied. Off to the reception. We’ll talk. Have a fun meeting! 1:17 PM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:24 PM
Re: Results
I want to say that if you find any of this too scary, I understand. I’ll be sad but I don’t want to worry you. I want you to have fun. And if you can’t with me, I will wish you the best of luck and be any help I can in helping you find someone you can adore.
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:51 PM
Re: Results
Hi Sassy,
Well–looks like you’ve already “done your homework”–a long time ago–and don’t need to consult with anyone. Your answers satisfy my curiosity and make sense.
I didn’t mean that I thought that “skin contact alone” could transmit HS-1. I based it on a statement on the CDC site–which I interpreted to mean that “under the right conditions” (probably meaning skin that was compromised in some way, a sore, cut, something like that)–that it could be transmitted. Not something as harmless as “intact-skin to intact-skin” contact.
Thanks for pointing out the test for syphilis–and explaining what the HIV qualifier meant.
If you’re too tired to chat later no problem. Because of how direct and clear you are here–all my questions have been answered. You have once again come through with “flying colors” on being direct, clear, honest and to the point. Which I SO like about you. And I still don’t know whether to believe how you manage to be so positive–finding ways to compliment and find good in what I say and do.
As far as this being “scary”—see my reply to your other email on that one.
Kris
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 2:19 PM
re: Results
Hi Sassie!
There’s some small level of risk in my mind knowing that you have the HS-1 virus. It’s something I need to weigh a little. I think the risk is very minimal that you would transmit it to me–and the fact that you are very aware of it, know when it’s coming on, and take steps to treat yourself and protect others is HUGE for me. The truth is, I’m probably more at risk riding a motorcycle than having sex with you and contracting HS-1 (which even if I did contract it– isn’t going to kill me–which a bike very easily can if not handled properly). My greater concern would be the “longer term implications” of possibly “getting caught” by contracting something there would be “no plausible explanation” for—-which I think you know what I mean by. But, again, I understand the risk is very minimal.
Your offer to help me find someone else is sweet—but I would never take you up on that. I might just get to a point of “giving up” and just accepting my “boring” life—-which actually isn’t that bad compared to what seems to drive a lot of people to AM and similar sites. But I haven’t “counted us out” based on this. I may be able to decide in advance—-or if you’d be willing to “take me for another test drive”—maybe that would be the only way for me to really know.
If I “shut down”—-it won’t be a surprise—-if you could handle that if it happened.
Apart from that—there are two other things that I would need from you:
1) That I can really get you off—and that you receive as much pleasure as you give me. If I can’t—-you don’t get to have all the “power fun” (I listen very carefully too. Remember what you said to me after you got me off: “Power”—which is VERY true about sex. My wife and I used to watch this “raunchy series”– forget the name of it. She got the series video at a library. It was about politics and a reporter’s quest to “get the dirt” on politicians. She was a pretty, ambitious young woman who screwed one prominent senator regularly just so he would feed her inside stories. So basically–she was an “inside scoop” whore: “You can fuck me senator–but then give me an exclusive story to help my career.” At one point the senator said to her: “Everything is about sex–except sex–which is about power.” That’s kind of an exaggeration–but psychologically it’s at least part of what “gets us off”—knowing we have the “power” to get someone else off.
2) I could use some help with expenses sometimes–like on rooms–or whatever you can do. I don’t agree that men should always pay for everything. I think most women “want their cake and eat it too.” They don’t want men to be “chauvinist pigs”—-they want equal pay for equal work—–they want equal power in general—-but I don’t see too many “rushing to pick up the tabs” at lunches.
So if: 1) I don’t freak out over you having HS-1,
2) You seriously cum–and tell me what I need to do to make it happen for you, and
3) You can help with at least some expenses on occasion—I will probably only want to know one more thing—
When and where is the next time I can try to get my brains fucked out by you—and you by me—-and this time “the whole nine yards”.
So am I a little worried? Maybe. I don’t know—-yet. Willing to hang around a little longer to find out?
Still frisky,
Kris
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Kris: Sent two emails….you’ll love the directness of my reply about “scary”. (so when do i get to meet these horny chicks you’re setting me up with)? 2:22 PM
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Kris: I’m almost home….pulling off the highway…had to say this….couldn’t wait….u are one of the kindest, sweetest women i’ve ever met….so you are both “sweet & sassy sauce”….power nap when i get home…online mtg…bed right after….up at 3:30am to do some work …no chatting tonight…..trying to find words….just, well…..thank you…..sweet dreams Sassy. 6:08 PM
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• Apr 15 8:52 PM Kris: Hi, I’m being really bad….like a student texting during class instead of paying attention. I’m listening to the presenter for work as I type this. I’m glad to be part of it—but it’s starting out “a little slow”…rather be chatting with you…but have to “restrain/control” myself. Read my last text message (if you didn’t)—you are SO SWEET….I just can’t get over it.
• Apr 15 8:54 PM Sassy: Naughty man.
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Kris: omg…..my heart is pounding and i don’t know what to do….i can’t stay on here with you right now….did you read my texts/emails?
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Sassy: Yes. There’s plenty of time tomorrow. Go do your thing.
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Kris: are we still good for now?
• Apr 15 8:57 PM Sassy: Sure
• Apr 15 8:57 PM Kris: ok….i have to pull myself away…..talk to you tomorrow….nite sweet Sassy!
• Apr 15 8:58 PM Sassy: Nite nite
