April 2, 2014 Wednesday (continued)
· Apr 02 11:22 PM Sassy: What should I talk about?
· Apr 02 11:22 PM Kris: what would you like to?
· Apr 02 11:22 PM Sassy: Hmmm
· Apr 02 11:23 PM Sassy: Are you barefoot?
· Apr 02 11:23 PM Kris: no…have socks on…sitting on sofa with feet up on coffee table…
· Apr 02 11:24 PM Kris: do you still have your work clothes on?
· Apr 02 11:26 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 02 11:26 PM Sassy: Plunked down here at 6 PM and haven’t budged
· Apr 02 11:26 PM Kris: where r u in your house…specifically?
· Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: I have a desk in the living room
· Apr 02 11:27 PM Kris: you’re sitting at it?
· Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: yes
· Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: on my laptop
· Apr 02 11:27 PM Kris: is the chair comfortable you’re sitting in?
· Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: I look out a glass wall – big patio doors, balcony
· Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: 5 floors up…
· Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: can see out all over
· Apr 02 11:28 PM Kris: do u really live in the city?
· Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 02 11:28 PM Kris: do u like it there?
· Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 02 11:29 PM Kris: sorry if i’m assuming too much…but if we had sex where would we have it?
· Apr 02 11:29 PM Sassy: Good question
· Apr 02 11:30 PM Kris: a detail to think about later…not now?
· Apr 02 11:30 PM Sassy: In my bed?
· Apr 02 11:30 PM Sassy: In the kitchen?
· Apr 02 11:30 PM Sassy: In a hotel?
· Apr 02 11:30 PM Kris: how could we have sex in your bed…or kitchen?
· Apr 02 11:31 PM Sassy: How big is your backseat?
· Apr 02 11:31 PM Kris: way too small…i have a “manly bike” and a “girly car”
· Apr 02 11:31 PM Sassy: Ha ha
· Apr 02 11:32 PM Kris: i like your adventurous spirit
· Apr 02 11:32 PM Sassy: I used to have a mini-van… so good for philandering!
· Apr 02 11:32 PM Sassy: But it died last year
· Apr 02 11:32 PM Kris: seriously…would it be possible to have sex at your house?
· Apr 02 11:32 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 02 11:32 PM Kris: what about your husband?
· Apr 02 11:33 PM Sassy: He goes out
· Apr 02 11:33 PM Kris: wouldn’t you worry he might come home unexpectedly?
· Apr 02 11:33 PM Sassy: No
· Apr 02 11:33 PM Kris: why?
· Apr 02 11:33 PM Sassy: Because I tell him… go away. I’ll text you when it’s safe to come back.
· Apr 02 11:34 PM Kris: so he knows what you’re doing…just not with who?
· Apr 02 11:34 PM Sassy: well not exactly what but generally what
· Apr 02 11:34 PM Kris: he knows you’re with a man?
· Apr 02 11:34 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 02 11:35 PM Kris: omg…hard for me to imagine…what keeps you married…money?
· Apr 02 11:35 PM Sassy: We are good friends, make a good team…
· Apr 02 11:35 PM Kris: you’re not hurt and angry that he rejected you sexaully?
· Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: I would rather he not have… life would be so much simpler
· Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: But what can he do?
· Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: You can’t make someone be attracted to you
· Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: I tried
· Apr 02 11:37 PM Kris: how long have u been married?
· Apr 02 11:37 PM Sassy: I was very surprised he would not help me…
· Apr 02 11:37 PM Sassy: once I figured out what a man could do to get me off
· Apr 02 11:37 PM Sassy: 17 yrs
· Apr 02 11:37 PM Kris: sorry for interrupting…keep going
· Apr 02 11:38 PM Sassy: But he can’t really function alone… he’s one of those creative types who the realities of life are beyond them
· Apr 02 11:38 PM Sassy: Needs a keeper. And I volunteered to do it.
· Apr 02 11:39 PM Kris: go back to what you were saying about surprised he would not help you…once you figured out what a man could do to get you off
· Apr 02 11:43 PM Sassy: I asked him to help me wit his fingers or mouth…
· Apr 02 11:44 PM Kris: on your clit?
· Apr 02 11:44 PM Sassy: yes
· Apr 02 11:44 PM Kris: that’s one of the first things my first wife taught me how to do…and exactly how…
· Apr 02 11:45 PM Kris: sorry…why didn’t your husband want to do it?
· Apr 02 11:45 PM Sassy: Do you like it or just do it to please a woman who likes it?
· Apr 02 11:45 PM Kris: both
· Apr 02 11:45 PM Sassy: Not clear why
· Apr 02 11:45 PM Kris: so you asked him to?
· Apr 02 11:46 PM Sassy: After I got back from visiting old flame
· Apr 02 11:46 PM Sassy: I resolved to focus on Hubby, show him what I’d learned, thought he might renew his interest
· Apr 02 11:47 PM Kris: do u remember his exact reaction…what he said?
· Apr 02 11:48 PM Kris: does it bother you to talk about this…we don’t have to…i just find it helps me know the “real you”…so i can “get inside you” in more ways than one…sex works that way for me…
· Apr 02 11:49 PM Sassy: Hmmm
· Apr 02 11:49 PM Sassy: Can’t recall exactly
· Apr 02 11:49 PM Kris: he just didn’t seem interested… and you were…what? hurt? angry? disappointed? all the above?
· Apr 02 11:50 PM Sassy: After 10 yrs of nothing, not surprised. Sad.
· Apr 02 11:50 PM Kris: so you had sex for how many years…before you stopped?
· Apr 02 11:51 PM Sassy: we met online
· Apr 02 11:51 PM Sassy: he moved here about a year later
· Apr 02 11:52 PM Sassy: we married the following year
· Apr 02 11:52 PM Sassy: He stopped wanting me about three years later
· Apr 02 11:52 PM Sassy: So about 5 yrs of sex, now and then
· Apr 02 11:53 PM Sassy: He had gained a lot of weight, made it tough
· Apr 02 11:53 PM Kris: he came when you had sex…but you never did…that’s hard for me to imagine…although i had a “one night stand” once with a woman who came with me and said that was her first orgasm…i wasn’t sure if i believed her…but i think she was telling the truth…
· Apr 02 11:54 PM Kris: how did his weight make it hard?
· Apr 02 11:54 PM Sassy: He got above 500 lbs
· Apr 02 11:54 PM Kris: wow…that’s big
· Apr 02 11:54 PM Sassy: then had bariatric surgery, got down to 268
· Apr 02 11:55 PM Sassy: I thought we’d start again then
· Apr 02 11:55 PM Kris: is that the surgery where they cut out part of your stomach?
· Apr 02 11:56 PM Sassy: He had the ruen-Y procedure where they tie off part of the stomach and reconnect things into the small intestine
· Apr 02 11:56 PM Sassy: So you can’t eat as much, there is malabsorption etc
· Apr 02 11:57 PM Sassy: It saved his life
· Apr 02 11:57 PM Kris: so when he got down to 268 did you directly do anything to try and ask him to have sex with you again?
· Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: I’ve tried everything
· Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: lingerie, p0rn, erotica, back rubs
· Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: overnights away
· Apr 03 12:01 AM Kris: so if nothing was working…but you’re all horny because you’ve discovered how pleasurable sex is…what did you do before starting affairs/trysts with other men?
· Apr 03 12:02 AM Sassy: Lots of cybersex with old flame
· Apr 03 12:02 AM Sassy: wrote a lot of erotica
· Apr 03 12:02 AM Kris: video cam?
· Apr 03 12:02 AM Sassy: no. tried it once… eh
· Apr 03 12:03 AM Kris: eh…meaning…didn’t like it?
· Apr 03 12:03 AM Sassy: had tech issues – kept cutting out
· Apr 03 12:03 AM Sassy: felt odd… performing…
· Apr 03 12:03 AM Kris: with old flame?
· Apr 03 12:03 AM Sassy: yes
· Apr 03 12:03 AM Kris: so just did what…chatted?…emailed?
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: chatted, phone
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: shared porn
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Kris: was the old flame the military man?
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: yes
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Kris: how did you share porn?
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: I’d email him links and we’d watch it together
· Apr 03 12:04 AM Kris: did you masturbate?
· Apr 03 12:05 AM Sassy: sometimes
· Apr 03 12:05 AM Kris: did you use your fingers or a toy or vibrator?
· Apr 03 12:05 AM Sassy: my hand
· Apr 03 12:05 AM Sassy: haven’t used the toys
· Apr 03 12:06 AM Kris: what toys do you have?
· Apr 03 12:06 AM Sassy: hoping you will help me break them in
· Apr 03 12:06 AM Kris: i would LOVE to…
· Apr 03 12:06 AM Sassy: I have a stunt cock – this massive 9 in thing
· Apr 03 12:06 AM Sassy: and a 4 other smaller ones
· Apr 03 12:07 AM Kris: smaller “stunt cocks”?
· Apr 03 12:07 AM Sassy: no… a bullet like thing and a couple of tubular thing
· Apr 03 12:07 AM Kris: like a “dildo”
· Apr 03 12:07 AM Sassy: and a rabbit keychain
· Apr 03 12:08 AM Kris: i know what a rabbit is…but what’s a rabbit keychain?
· Apr 03 12:08 AM Sassy: it’s like the rabbit only little with a metal loop for keys
· Apr 03 12:08 AM Sassy: silly
· Apr 03 12:08 AM Kris: do you have a rabbit?
· Apr 03 12:08 AM Sassy: no
· Apr 03 12:09 AM Sassy: I think if I were doing it again, I’d get a rabbit and one of those hitachi wand things. Or a Lelo
· Apr 03 12:09 AM Kris: don’t know what any of those are…other than rabbit
· Apr 03 12:11 AM
Sassy: Lelo link http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=GIGI-2
· Apr 03 12:11 AM Kris: lol…i’ll check it out later…you’re funny!…but thanks…
· Apr 03 12:12 AM Kris: do you think you’d actually find it fun to try some of those things?
· Apr 03 12:12 AM Sassy: the wand is that big massager thing you can buy at any pharmacy
· Apr 03 12:12 AM Sassy: I think so, with the right guy
· Apr 03 12:12 AM Sassy: Have you played with them?
· Apr 03 12:13 AM Kris: no…but i think it would be fun to try them out
· Apr 03 12:13 AM Sassy: Yeah.
· Apr 03 12:14 AM Sassy: Was thinking to put it between us maybe
· Apr 03 12:14 AM Sassy: But I am mostly clueless
· Apr 03 12:15 AM Kris: me too…so what we’d need to do is just get to a point where we were just comfortable playing and learning and finding out what worked and what didn’t…just “being comfortable” and “not too worried about it all” helps…
· Apr 03 12:15 AM Sassy: yes
· Apr 03 12:15 AM Sassy: try… talk about it…yes? No? higher? etc.
· Apr 03 12:16 AM Sassy: try different ones… compare and contrast. Heh
· Apr 03 12:16 AM Kris: right…
· Apr 03 12:16 AM Sassy: You want them inside you?
· Apr 03 12:16 AM Sassy: Find that p-spot?
· Apr 03 12:16 AM Kris: not sure…never done that…yet
· Apr 03 12:17 AM Sassy: I tried it once with my finger
· Apr 03 12:17 AM Kris: how did it feel?
· Apr 03 12:17 AM Sassy: while I was sucking on someone… reached lower
· Apr 03 12:17 AM Sassy: pressed a finger inside him at the same pace
· Apr 03 12:18 AM Kris: i could imagine that could feel good…just never did it
· Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: Got to hear those immortal word
· Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: “I’ve never cum so hard in my life”
· Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: : )
· Apr 03 12:18 AM Kris: that’s what the guy said?
· Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: yes
· Apr 03 12:19 AM Sassy: I had read about it… he let me try
· Apr 03 12:20 AM Kris: ok…so now i’ve got a hard on…and when we’re finished chatting if i go look at my cock there will be a small flow of seminal fluid…and i don’t want to rush you…but I hope i get to fuck more than words on a screen someday…and not 3 months from now…
· Apr 03 12:20 AM Sassy: I hear you
· Apr 03 12:20 AM Sassy: I wonder if you will…
· Apr 03 12:20 AM Kris: will what?
· Apr 03 12:21 AM Sassy: Want me
· Apr 03 12:21 AM Kris: why wouldn’t i?
· Apr 03 12:21 AM Sassy: You haven’t wanted the others
· Apr 03 12:21 AM Kris: i forget what i told you…remind me
· Apr 03 12:21 AM Sassy: heh
· Apr 03 12:22 AM Kris: what did i tell you…about not wanting others?
· Apr 03 12:22 AM Sassy: You said you’ve been on AM 6 mos, met 3 women, no sex
· Apr 03 12:22 AM Sassy: Makes me wonder if you’re a chaser
· Apr 03 12:23 AM Kris: i would have had sex with 2 out of 3 of them…only 1 wanted me…the other 2 broke it off…not me…what’s a “chaser”?
· Apr 03 12:23 AM Sassy: guys who get off on the chase but don’t close the deal
· Apr 03 12:23 AM Sassy: due to guilt or whatever
· Apr 03 12:24 AM Kris: well…there’s a quick and easy way to find out…
· Apr 03 12:24 AM Sassy: life is so odd… you want 2 but they don’t, 1 wants you but you don’t?
· Apr 03 12:25 AM Kris: ok…be a little patient…i’ll explain…but try not to “go on” too much…
· Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: You don’t have to now… it’s okay
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· Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: So meeting
· Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: How do you see that?
· Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: Weekday? Weekend? Best time?
· Apr 03 12:26 AM Kris: first…what is the meeting for?
· Apr 03 12:26 AM Sassy: to see if there’s chemistry?
· Apr 03 12:27 AM Sassy: a meal… talking… then if we want… steam up the windows of my car?
· Apr 03 12:28 AM Kris: ok…the meal…talking…and if we want sex right then and there fine…but rather be in a bed someplace…at least for the first time.
· Apr 03 12:28 AM Sassy: maybe say… not sex first time… kissing… touching…
· Apr 03 12:28 AM Sassy: plan another meet soon?
· Apr 03 12:30 AM Kris: Ok…a meal…lots of talking…and if we feel like kissing/touching maybe…but i have to admit something about kissing and touching…
· Apr 03 12:30 AM Sassy: Yes?
· Apr 03 12:31 AM Kris: i’m not very good at being “romantic” with things like kissing and touching that doesn’t lead to…or is just part of…sex all the way…
· Apr 03 12:31 AM Kris: i can try to learn…but it’s just never been a big part of how i show affection…except playful hugging or very light kissing…
· Apr 03 12:32 AM Kris: but when i’m having sex i love deep kissing
· Apr 03 12:32 AM Sassy: what if the woman is a very good kisser? Like… better than anyone you’ve been with?
· Apr 03 12:33 AM Kris: then i’ll want to fuck your brains out
· Apr 03 12:33 AM Sassy: So were you thinking a meal and if that works… a hotel?
· Apr 03 12:34 AM Kris: no…i was thinking a meal…and a big tease of anticipation…planning a hotel on the next meeting…if the chemistry is there on the first…but if you grab me and kiss me…that can be part of the tease…
· Apr 03 12:35 AM Sassy: mmm
· Apr 03 12:35 AM Kris: or maybe i’ll change my mind…after you give me that kiss like i’ve never had before…but i think if I have to wait for the second meeting that would be fun…and it wouldn’t have to be a long wait…just a second time…
· Apr 03 12:36 AM Kris: what r u thinking…doesn’t have to be what i’m thinking…what do u what to do?
· Apr 03 12:37 AM Sassy: Thinking
· Apr 03 12:38 AM Sassy: I think we’re mostly thinking the same
· Apr 03 12:38 AM Sassy: Worth a look
· Apr 03 12:38 AM Sassy: talking
· Apr 03 12:39 AM Kris: and?
· Apr 03 12:39 AM Sassy: you’ll tell me if you want more
· Apr 03 12:40 AM Kris: and if i do…you’re ready to go?
· Apr 03 12:40 AM Sassy: If I feel it too
· Apr 03 12:40 AM Kris: GOOD ANSWER!!!!!
· Apr 03 12:41 AM Kris: ok…back to when/where, etc.
· Apr 03 12:41 AM Sassy: : )
· Apr 03 12:44 AM Kris: you work 9 to what?…M-F?
· Apr 03 12:44 AM Sassy: Yes. tomorrow night? Friday lunch? Monday?
· Apr 03 12:45 AM Sassy: Thursday lunch?
· Apr 03 12:46 AM Kris: I could do tomorrow night…a little later…but wouldn’t be able to do more than eat and talk…which would be ok…then we could do more if we felt it… on Friday…
· Apr 03 12:47 AM Kris: or lunch on Friday with more time left for…maybe we’ll want to do more than talk…but i don’t want that experience “rushed”…especially the first time…
· Apr 03 12:48 AM Sassy: I am off work Friday
· Apr 03 12:48 AM Sassy: And Monday
· Apr 03 12:49 AM Kris: i’m off Friday…just have to take delivery of my new bike at noon at the storage shed i’m hiding it from my wife in…could be an exciting day of “hiding things”…on Friday…
· Apr 03 12:50 AM Sassy: Do you know this area at all?
· Apr 03 12:51 AM Kris: generally…but i have a GPS in my car so if i have an address i’d be fine…
· Apr 03 12:51 AM Kris: what restaurant do you like?
· Apr 03 12:51 AM Sassy: When are we talking now?
· Apr 03 12:51 AM Kris: 1:30-2:00
· Apr 03 12:52 AM Sassy: Friday?
· Apr 03 12:52 AM Kris: yes…but now that i think of it…better make it 2:00
· Apr 03 12:53 AM Sassy: Okay
· Apr 03 12:53 AM Kris: where…you choose a restaurant you really like…
· Apr 03 12:55 AM Sassy: Could you deal with PF Chang’s?
· Apr 03 12:55 AM Sassy: There’s one in the mall
· Apr 03 12:55 AM Sassy: So easy parking underground
· Apr 03 12:56 AM Kris: i assume it’s chinese food?
· Apr 03 12:56 AM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 03 12:56 AM Kris: sounds good…sure…do you have an address…or i can just google it
· Apr 03 12:57 AM Sassy: [detailed instructions]
· Apr 03 1:01 AM Kris: i just googled it…i’ll find it…
· Apr 03 1:01 AM Sassy: Let me give you a Sassy phone number
· Apr 03 1:01 AM Sassy: in case
· Apr 03 1:01 AM Kris: k
· Apr 03 1:01 AM
Kris: here’s mine: [xxx-xxx-xxxx]
· Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: [xxx-xxx-xxxx]
· Apr 03 1:02 AM Kris: thanks!
· Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: That’s a google voice number
· Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: It will ask your name the first time you call
· Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: then ask me to approve answering
· Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: so connection takes a few seconds
· Apr 03 1:03 AM Kris: k
· Apr 03 1:03 AM Sassy: I think it shows are a CA number
· Apr 03 1:04 AM Kris: k…but all i need to do is give my name…and wait…
· Apr 03 1:04 AM Sassy: right
· Apr 03 1:04 AM Sassy: can you test it now or no?
· Apr 03 1:05 AM Kris: yes…doing it right now…can’t wait to hear your voice!