Hello Sassy

Got back in town late last night and had a rather intense weekend – so haven’t been able to respond to past e-mails. Landed into a brouhaha at work. C’est la vie.

I too have been thinking about our meeting. I may be a little awkward and shy in our first encounter as well. Especially with thoughts of all that you have hinted at. I like your adventurous, sensual but always compassionate style. I am thinking of your hand on my growing tumescence as we kiss passionately.

What did you wear to work today?

-Reggie

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Re: Monday Musings

Happy Father’s Day! Hope you have a fantastic day with your friends!

I’m thinking of you and how I’d make this day special if I was close to you. Mmm…

I’m off to brunch!

-S

Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android

Good morning Reggie! Happy Friday! Hope your day is off to a grand start.

I got to fast this morning and have blood test done for routine check-ups. Whee!

Do you usually eat breakfast? I am snarfing a lovely bowl of greek yogurt with fresh blueberries and granola from Flour Bakery. Do you ever go there? It’s mostly evil bliss in terms of sugary baked goods, but they do have some innovative healthy items!

Anything fun for your weekend? We’re going to see theater tonight – Shakespeare’s “Midsummer Night’s Dream” in the park. 

Gotta go do the payroll! Maybe you can think about hiding under my desk and distracting me with your tongue. Hee!

-S

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Good afternoon, Sassy.

Suddenly, I have a tranche of work that has landed on me and I am scrambling to finish up before I head to go away for the weekend to meet a friend. 

Thanks for telling me about Midsummer Night’s Dream – we might go for it next week perhaps.

Enjoy your weekend and do write if you have a moment.

*kiss* *hug* *lick*

-R

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From: Reggie

Landed. Flight was fine. I have my kid with me. 

I never replied to your e-mail because I had to leave early yesterday for a meeting at school year-end. And then, this morning, our entire team had a meeting!  I was thinking of you. 

Question for you – are you multi-orgasmic? Do you orgasm easily? Are you loud? 🙂

Hiya Reggie!

Busy man! No worries. I know you have things to do. Fun to hear about them!

Hmmm… maybe we can fulfill a fantasy or two or more… the bathroom thing is quite easy. You can think about which makes you more comfortable… you go in and I join you 20 seconds later? Or I go in and you join me?

The key is not to stay long, so not get too crazy, but for a lovely test of the “is she THE BEST KISSER EVER?” and “Oh… I see what hugging and groping can mean!” and perhaps even some cleavage flashes… it’s excellent. Just lean against the sink or press against the wall and mmm mmm mmm. But we do not have to. We can wait. Stretch out this tasty torment.

Ah… orgasms. You are so cute when you ask direct questions. Can you cum twice? I only ask so know whether to hold back or help you over the edge with a blow job and know you can also be inside later if you like. There was a man who told me he was a “once-and-done” – I used my “mad skillz” and he was able to. It’s awesome when someone says they haven’t cum twice in 20 years and they’re exploding the second time! Oof… I am sounding like such a hussy again! Whee! If these tidbits bother you, just say and I’ll stop.

For me… it depends. One man helped me cum 7 times in two hours. Some men I had a grand time but didn’t quite make it to a physical completion. If it’s tricky, I may suggest different positions or bring in a toy to help. I aim to not fret about it much and keep practicing until we get it right. I am loud if circumstances allow. 🙂

I’m off to a community project meeting – may not reappear until later tonight.

Hope that helped rev you up! Mwah!

-S

Good afternoon Reggie! Hope your Wednesday is going well.

Welcome to the Wednesday edition of my real life mixed with sexy fantasies and what-ifs!

My boss is off the next two days, so she’s on a mission to do EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW before she goes! Heh. Just 3 more hours and I will have a quieter time for the rest of the week.

I had a delightful Thai bento box lunch at 9 Tastes with a temp who is leaving. She’s headed to London for two weeks to visit a brother diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. *sigh

I’m thinking about next Wednesday… maybe see you if the scheduling fates allow…stare and smile and laugh at this strange and wonderful situation that can add a bright space in our lives. I’m having visions of simple things…must be careful in public but perhaps a short hug to see if we can fit vertically that might transfer to horizontally? Perhaps a hand on your arm to emphasize a point? Or my thumb on the inside of your wrist rubbing little circles… hmmm. Probably should not put my fingers on your fly, slide down the zipper and sneak inside to touch skin, eh? Bad Sassy…

I hope you’ve done this before with good results so there are positive associations. Is there anything more I can do to make it easy for you? Anything else you wonder? I want to up the excitement quotient and decrease the terror as much as possible!

Mwah!

-S

HI Sassy

Delighted with your hump day e-mail with the little dose of fantasy and planning. 

*kiss*

R

Re: Wednesday waiting

Hiya Reggie!

Is it time to leave yet? 🙂 I’ve done all I can at work today, so I will write to you!

Discreet. Oh yes. That was a constant refrain in the philandering chats I used to frequent. Women say over and over, “…and he can’t even spell discreet!” Heh. However, it does not indicate much about a man, i.e. good men don’t know how to spell it, so I try to ignore it except for a little giggle, and appreciate the thought.

How high should I up my hussy quotient? Hmm… should I admit knowing that John Harvard’s has a large handicapped bathroom where two people can pop in for a brief kiss? Mull over that. 😉

As for a second meet, I know several options. More on that when it becomes important.

Random question – are you allergic to cats? It’s tough to give a man a blow job when he’s sneezing. Don’t ask me how I know!

-S

Mmm…not all soaped up yet, I see. Mouthwatering.

Hiya! Hope you’re having a marvelous Monday! I’m at the eye doctor for my annual exam, waiting for my eyes to dilate. Whee.

I’m using the time to imagine you and me. Words like alone together. Bed. Naked. Nibbling. Mmm… I’m getting ahead of myself, but they are lovely thoughts. Mmm.

More later when my eyes return to normal.

Mwah!

-S

Re: Dilated pupils

Indeed. It is the sign of accepting a mate!

Hiya! Hope you had a good evening. My eyes are finally getting back to normal!

Here’s a summary of the basics I’ve learned about cheating safely. It’s a few years old, but I think it still has a lot of good lessons. If you see things I should add, please let me know. Thanks!

-S

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Q. How can I cheat without getting caught? How can I keep my identity a secret?
A. Oooh… this is a tricky.

I am not a techie, I don’t have to worry about my husband finding out, but I do guard info about my real life and protect my man. So much depends on your particular situation, but here are some basics I’ve picked up along the way to get you started. I don’t have room to go into a lot of technical details but these are directions to explore. I hesitate to put too much, as betrayed spouses might use this info  against you, but here are a few tips.

Let’s talk about secrecy. I hear from folks who are reconnecting and taking it to the next level, so they need to hide their adventures from their spouse. I also talk with people who are meeting people from “married but looking” dating sites, and want to protect themselves and their playmates. It is tough to stay under the radar, especially long term. Your computer and your phone are the top dangers, so I’ll start there.

Feel free to add more ideas in the comments!

Technology Tips

a. DELETE, DELETE, DELETE

No matter how you are communicating, once you’ve read it? DELETE IT! Texts? Emails? FB Messages? Voicemails? DELETE! It is tempting to keep them and listen or look at them again. And lord knows, I don’t follow this advice. But if there is any chance your spouse or your kids are going to look at your phone or your computer…. DELETE!

b. Incognito browsing

Google Chrome is the browser of choice for cheaters, because it has this nifty feature called “Incognito Window” under the File tab at the upper left. You can download this browser for free and tuck it into the applications folder (not the dock!) and it won’t track your browsing history.
Definitely use a different browser from the one you use for everything else.

Other folks recommend having obscure browsers like Dolphin or Camino, that aren’t as familiar and can be hidden under bland names in the applications folder on your phone.

If you are not browsing incognito, remember to clear your browsing history! There are apps like CCCleaner that will do it all for you.

c. Email

DO NOT USE YOUR REGULAR EMAIL! Set up a “mischief” account on another service. If you use Gmail, pop over to Yahoo to play. Though you may want to use Gmail if you can, because they don’t let on where email comes from – everything looks like it comes from Mountain View CA which can be handy if your spouse or lover is the computer savvy stalker type who is trying to track you down.

d. Delete IMs/Chats and turn off history

Be careful using Yahoo IM or Google Hang-outs. They log all conversations by default, right under the incoming mail. Turn off this feature or delete them! Your best bet is GChat or Hang-outs. It can easily be set up to be “off the record.” If you’re using FB chat, they end up in the messages folder – delete them!

e. Free calls/texts

There are a lot of apps that let you call or text for free, and it won’t show up on your bills or your phone. And you can tailor what appears when you get calls or texts, so your phone doesn’t announce calls on the screen from someone your spouse has never heard of. People recommend Google Voice or pinger.com.  Skype is easy but recognizable.  Kik is another possibility. 

f. Your own phone number

Many of the free call/text services also allow you to get your own phone number. This keeps calls off your bills and you don’t have to give your real number out! You can even type in letters and see if that number is available, so you can have a great mnemonic like XXX-6-SassyG… (don’t try to dial that).  I use Google Voice now but have tried several other services. 

If you’re meeting strangers online, it’s up to you whether your lover knows your real name or not. I try to stay incognito as long as possible.

If this is a reconnection or you do know your lover’s info, DO NOT put your lover’s real name and contact info in your contacts list. If you get busted, it’s awful. If your angry spouse can call or text your lover and use their real name when they spew invectives? ARRRGH! It’s also good to change the name regularly, so if there is a string of texts you forget to delete, there aren’t months of contact to be traced. Some pals recommend weekly change or monthly change, but set up a schedule, perhaps linked to something else in your life, so you remember. And use something ordinary where googling will get them 250,000 links and no real info.

h. Shared accounts 

Non-technology Tips

There are non-technology things to avoid as well.

– Use cash

Talk with them about when it is good or bad to be in contact.

– Start slow – set up a code

If the spouse is suspicious, you may want to set up a code, so you don’t burst right in with super sexy stuff. A bland greeting to a phone call or an initial text of “hi” can save you if the spouse is picking up the phone or IM.

If at all possible, do not cheat with someone local. Or go to local businesses with a long-distance lover. If you have to, go at off-hours or very busy times, sit in a booth or the corner away from the rest rooms, and look around for danger spots.

– Don’t hug outside

If you’re meeting, go inside the hotel or restaurant before connecting. Don’t make it easy on a following spouse or private investigator or your nosy neighbor by doing the long kiss and hug hello or good bye at your car!

– Stick to your routine

Be very careful if you vary your routine. Sudden changes that will tip off your spouse.

– New personal hygiene

– Marks/Bruises/Scratches

If you like to leave marks or play rough, be very careful leaving evidence on your lover. It can be tough to explain! Even if they aren’t sleeping with their partner, it can be easy to pop in to ask a question while you’re changing your shirt and oops!

– Computer/Phone set up

Re-arrange your home office so that your spouse can not see your computer screen without you knowing. Put your back to wall so they have to come around in your face to see the screen. Don’t leave your phone out while you’re in the shower etc.

– Ready excuses

Think of excuses a head of time. If you run into someone you know when you’re out with your secret someone, have something ready to go so you don’t flounder for who this person with you is. If someone reports seeing you somewhere, have a reason ready as to why you were there. You can usually get away with it once. Be more careful and lie low for awhile after that.

and the bottom line… if you do get busted?

DENY DENY DENY!

Unless there are naked photos of you together (DO NOT TAKE THOSE!), explain your way out of it. Lie low for about 3 weeks. And be more careful! There are a bunch of things never to say if you get caught but that is topic for another message.

Have any more ideas? Tell me!

Best of luck!

– Sassy