WrySmile wishes

October 23, 2017 Monday

from: Sassy
to: WrySmile
date: Mon, Oct 23, 2017 at 11:24 AM
subject: Re: Not goodbye

Hiya D! Hope your week is off to a grand start! Is there anything new going on with you?

You are the sweetest man… I so appreciate the offer to listen and be a friend. That is special. I don’t know if I can keep up my end of that, but let’s try. You are so smart and interesting and fun!

Thanks for asking about Hubby, and reminding me to check at the effects on me. He is back off the ledge, but still precarious. I am having to focus on him even more than usual. And it is getting to me more than usual.

I also appreciate your making the situation clear about us being in the friend zone. It may be useful to have a friend who understands a bit of the Ashley Madison dynamics etc. among his many experiences.

I hope things will calm down soon for me and I can get back to some fun conversations with you in my regular cheerful way!



from: WrySmile
to: Sassy
date: Mon, Oct 23, 2017 at 9:28 PM
subject: Re: Not goodbye


As I think you know, I’m just that kind of guy. I wish I had more friends I could share with, be mutually supportive with… and share secrets with without being judged. Married dating, dating websites, even sex fantasies and practices; my wife is terrific, but I certainly could never talk to her about these.

Here’s one that I can’t tell anyone else: I made a great dating connection with a woman in Quincy; everything seemed to click. Based on emails we would have been great together and we both wanted it to happen. We were about to meet, and…

I felt that I had to tell her that I love my wife. Boom! She called it off and cut me off. She said I had made her very sad.

Do you have a suggestion? Should I have waited until we met to tell her? Waited until I’d had a chance to grow on her? If it were me, I would have been furious to have this popped on me after we’d made a connection. I’m horny, but I’m not horny enough to do that. Especially not to someone I liked.

Was there anything else I could have done that would have been honest yet might have given us a chance?

Well, we’d both had gotten our hopes too high and now we’re both unhappy about it.

You asked about my Monday; it was annoying. It’s annoying to be ignored, but it’s infuriating to be ignored when you’re the only person in the room who truly understands the problem. I squirmed through a 45-minute discussion of something that should have taken 5-10 minutes.

Let’s stay in touch and keep trying to meet. Good luck in restoring (something like) normalcy to your life.


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