That day

September 8, 2016 Thursday
From: Usual Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 6:16 AM
Re: Connection
My eyes are light blue.  
     My real name is is not Jim but you can whisper that or anything in my ear!  I’m glad you are not put off by my job. When I tell people about some of the cases we get, they say “I saw that on TV!” I think they get their ideas from our case files!
     Anyway, we lost our office manager a few months ago and her replacement was a disaster! You sound like someone we would have hired! 
     I’m going to New York today for some 9/11 Memorial stuff. I’m back on Sunday but I’ll have my phone with me . I don’t want to miss any of your messages!!
     Do you like foot massages? I like giving them! I love working right up the calves and thighs as well! 

XO
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From: Usual Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 8:20 AM
Re: Connection
Hi Sassy,

     I’m at my desk top.  I really prefer this to typing on my phone.  And I’ve had my coffee so I’m more awake!  I was disappointed that I didn’t hear back from you last night.  I thought maybe once you knew I was a cop you might be turned off.  There’s a lot of people who don’t like us these days!  
     I was stoked when I got your message this morning.  I thought about you yesterday, as well.  I’m starting to wonder what you look like.  What color are your eyes, is your hair light or dark?  Is it long or short?  Sometimes I can look at people at tell if they’re generally happy people or not so happy.  I think if I saw you I could tell right away that you’re one of the happy people!  I’m the anomaly.  Some people say I’m intimidating but I’m really a teddy bear that loves to have a good time!
    It’s freezing in the office here which makes me want to ask you how you’d like to be warmed up if you were cold?  I would probably begin with some vigorous hugging before using some other techniques to get your heart racing!  Do you like have your neck kissed?  XXOO
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From: Sassy
To: Usual Man
Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 11:04 AM
Re: Connection
Good morning!  
Woohoo!  This feels like a big step.  I know it’s silly but… here we are.  In private email.  Mmm… I could send you sexy gifs.  😉
I am definitely real.  Are you still running into fem bots on AM?
Have a great day!  Mwah!
-S
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From: Usual Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 11:15 AM
Re: Connection
Hi Sass,
     Not too many bots anymore! I just delete the ones from out of town. California, Australia, D.C. Etc. If this works out with you I’ll delete my profile.
     I’d love to see your pictures. I only have a couple but I could take a few. You could tell me what poses you’d like to see!! No Speedo’s!! Ha ha!
     You didn’t answer my question about massages! Lol!
     Don’t work too hard! I’m picturing me hugging you from behind with my arms around your chest!! XXOOO!!
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From: Sassy
To: Usual Man
Sent: Thursday, September 8, 2016 11:06 PM
Subject: That day
Hiya hot stuff, 
Wow!  Three messages!  So wonderful to have so many of your words.  

Sorry I was off the grid.  Today was my birthday, so I slept late, let my sister spoil me at lunch, heard from a bunch of friends all afternoon, and then Hubby took me out for supper and here I am!  Your messages made it extra-special.  I feel like a teenager – “a man is writing to me!  Whee!”  Thank you.  
Light blue eyes eh?  Hope I get to stare into them… and wink!  I don’t know any police people so I am not put off – I have nothing to go by.  I look forward to learning more.  Sorry to hear about your office manager – hope they improve over time.  I like to think my combination of organizational skills and nice personality make me ideal for my job.  
Hope the trip to NYC goes well.  What will you be doing?  Hard to believe it’s been 15 years since 9/11/01.  I hope that day can start to be “history” that we learn from, and stop to remember, but not the gaping wound it’s been. Amazing to see the new buildings and the great things being done in memory of those who died.  Where were you on the day? 
Here’s my 9/11 story.  I had a broken foot, so I was taking a cab to work downtown, got in late, receptionist said, “Did you hear a plane hit the World Trade Center?”  She was always saying odd things.  I waved and wondered how that could be worth bringing up.  I sat at my desk and my husband called, “Come home right now!”  WTF?  I just got there.  He started babbling about the end of the world and planes out of Boston… I told him I would check on things and get back to him.  I tried CNN, NY Times, Boston Globe… nothing was working.  Hmmm… weird.  Reuters?  It worked.  Holy crap.  Not an accident… now the Pentagon?  WHAT?  My boss came in to ask me to “use that internet thing” to tell her what was happening.  I told her what I knew… and we saw the tower fall… looked out the window at the airport, sitting in a big office tower.  I had never seen fear on her face but there it was.  She said she was going to see the big boss.  This work place NEVER closed… I mean never… not during Hurricane Gloria, not during winter storms… the boss came down and said the mayor had ordered an evacuation and we were closing at 11 am!  Wow!  
I hobbled to the curb… no cabs.  Argh.  Then one pulled up to drop someone off and I hopped in.  The guy said no, he was going home to hug his kids.  I pointed at my foot, said I could not get home without him, I’d give him a huge tip… please?!  He took me home.  He was Lebanese, very worried about how people might be mean to him.  I said there are a lot of good people in the world and maybe this will bring them out.  
Hubby and I were glued to the TV.  I kept thinking if I kept watching it would start to make sense?  It never has.  We got on the internet, helped our friends in NYC find each other, helped friends stuck all over connect to their families.  About 6 pm our minister called, said she was opening the church for anyone who wanted to pray and sing and hug… could we come?  We went… there ended up being over 100 of us… church people, neighbors, strangers from out of town stuck here… it was a powerful gathering. Reminded me there are good people.  
I’ve read a lot about that day, watched the documentary made by the French brothers on PBS, visited the sites… I ran the memorial observations at work the next two years.   Always searching for the why… feeling the pain so deep.  Then I saw a one-act play called “Happy 9/11.”  It was a radical thing.. about celebrating that we survived, that there has not been another event like it, that we can remember and grow.   It helped me gain some perspective.  Hope that doesn’t sound too wacky!  
Three other stories that move me: 
1) My favorite celebrity story is from Yo Yo Ma, the cellist.  He was stuck in Phoenix, ended up taking a bus home to Boston.  He got out at every stop, set up his cello and played. People listened and hugged him, and gave him quarters and dollar bills.  
2) The other story I heard much later was about Danny Lewin, the head of Akamai, the big computer company, an Israeli-American and probably the first guy the terrorists killed on one of the planes headed to tower.  A steward from American Airlines texted, said they had killed the guy in seat #9B for trying to interfere, and that was his seat.  Everyone who knew him said they weren’t surprised he would’ve tried to do something.  
3) My real estate agent was coming home from Europe that day, got grounded in Canada.  She organized a bus to bring 40 people home to Boston and they were some of the last people to get across the border.  She’s a “make it happen” lady!  
Sorry… I get carried away on this topic!  Tell me your stories if you can.  
I do like foot massages… the chemo unit at Mass General had a massage therapist on staff who would do it during infusions.  Such a treat!  I am rather ticklish, so it takes a certain finesse… but moving up sounds delightful!  I like doing them too… send me a photo of your naked feet?  I’ll send you my best feature.  
My eyes are bright blue.  My hair is silver and long and soft.  Lots to grab while we’re… um… mmm… geez… I get lost in thought sometimes.  People call me “Smiley” sometimes… I do look happy most of the time!  My sister says every person “wears a shirt” that you can see if you really look.  She says mine reads, “Tell me and I will fix it!”  Ha!  I am a big, buxom, curvy gal.  Teddy bear eh?  That sounds great!  
I like colder spaces.  My co-workers complain and grab sweaters, but it has to be very cold before I notice.  I do like to have a man stand behind me… maybe in front of a mirror so I can see you, cuddle up nice and close so I can… ah.. feel my effect on your body while you wrap your arms around me and fill your hands with my chest!  Very interesting that you were thinking the same sort of thing!!
I’d better stop before this turns into a novel… if you’ve read this far, thanks, and sleep well!  Be safe in the big city.  
-Sassy


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Emailing Usual Man

September 7, 2016 Wednesday
Ashley Madison messages
Date: Sep 7th – 9:02am
From: Usual_Man02110
Message
Just to be on the safe side I created a new email address.  If you’d still like to send me a message use [redacted]. Thanks. XO
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Date: Sep 7th – 10:39am
From: Sassy
Message

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Good morning! Wow! Thanks! I sent a test message over there. If that works, we can de-camp from here and play over there! Mwah! -Sassy

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SWITCHING TO EMAIL
From: Sassy
To: Usual Man
Sent: Wednesday, September 7, 2016 10:38 AM
Subject: Connection
Tap… tap… tap…. is this on?  Just checking to be sure it’s you before I launch into anything more… interesting.  
-S
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From: Usual Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Wednesday, September 7, 2016 11:24 AM
Re: Connection
Awesome! This will work better I think! 
I’m in my car. I’ll hit you back up when I get to my desk. XO
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From: Usual Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Wednesday, September 7, 2016 11:54 AM
Re: Connection
Hi Sassy,
     I’m back at my office but I’m in and out most of the rest of the day.  Heading out for lunch soon.  I love getting your messages.  
I haven’t had any success on AM.  I’ve only shared four or five messages and then I don’t hear back.  Anyway, you sound like a lot of fun.  
You don’t have to worry about me being an axe murderer.  The pay is awful! Lol.  
I’m actually a cop in Boston. I’m able to leave it in the office when I leave though. I have a lot of funny stories from the old days that I hope will make you laugh.  I don’t have any psych issues or a dark past.  I’ve never hurt anyone or been in trouble or anything.  
If you’d like to meet me you’d be the safest woman in town!  I love to laugh out loud and I’d love to sit and listen to your stories over a drink or dinner.  Then maybe check you for ticks! Lol.
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From: Sassy
To: Usual Man
Sent: Wednesday, September 7, 2016 11:58 PM
Subject: Connection
Hiya!  Hope life is treating you well. I thought a lot about you today, and smiled.
What first name would you like me to use? Doesn’t matter, just wonder what you’d like me to whisper in your ear when… mmm…where was I?  Oh yeah. I will stay Sassy… hope that’s okay?  Not about you, so much as who else might see.  I have the fake email, don’t use my actual cell number, don’t say where I work or live exactly… try to stay under cover.  I mean… under the covers!  I do share more in person. Once I trust you. 
Sorry to hear the women of AM have not recognized your potential.  I do hope we can have fun!  
A cop.  Wow. I used to watch a lot of CSI, Law & Order, Law & Order: SVU, NCIS.  Your job is just like that, right?  🙂  Ha ha.  I bet you have some great stories.  I could not do that work.  I am so glad you can! So good that it doesn’t wreck you.  
What color are your eyes? 
-S


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The Usual Man

September 6, 2016 Tuesday
Ashley Madison messages

Date: Sep 6th – 8:28pm

From: Sassy

Message

Hiya, How’re you this chilly summer Sunday? Thank you for your nice message! It’s so great to read about a nice man…you intrigued me, so here I am responding. 
Three quick questions –
What’s your favorite food for a special birthday dinner? 
What brings you to AM now? 
How did you hear about it? 
(I’m curious as well as Sassy!) 
I’m on AM because Hubby and I are great friends, but haven’t had sex in a long time. And I beat cancer five years ago. I’m whole and healthy, and want to live life to the fullest! 
Men say I am an awesome kisser, a great communicator, very discreet, no drama, super-nice… looking for fun and passion and a confidante. Is that you? 
Feel free to ask me whatever you like to see if we click, and tell me more about you. Hugs with groping. 
-Sassy
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Date: Sep 6th – 9:49pm
From: Usual_Man02110

Message
Hi Sassy,

I’m here because my wife has lost all interest in any intimacy. No hugging, kissing, etc. I’m looking for someone fun and sensual.

I love all kinds of restaurants. The company is more important than the food. I like steak, Italian, French, Sushi, Chinese or maybe Indian.

I’m told I’m a great kisser so I love being physical.

Do you like being spontaneous? Do you like being touched by a guy who wants to give you goosebumps! Then we might be a good fit. Thank for your message. I hope to hear back from you.

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Date: Sep 6th – 9:57pm
From: Usual_Man02110

Message
There’s never enough room in one message! My wife and I are just roommates now and I’m not ready to give up on passion and sexuality. I have one kid left at home and don’t want to leave right now.

I’m a good listener and I love being sensual and sexual. I love how you ended your message with “hugs and groping!”

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Date: Sep 6th – 10:01pm
From: Sassy

Message
Hiya! Great to hear back so quickly. Thanks!

You had me drooling with all those cuisines… I hope we get to try some together.

I tell good stories, which I hope makes me good company. I’d adore listening to yours and stroking your wrist with my thumb.

Want to say something about your work? I’m that efficient office manager no one notices, who takes care of the admin details so the staff can focus on their work.

Sorry to hear you are in the same boat I am with a room mate spouse. I am desperate for the basics of touching, tasting… and something different each time… maybe you can fix that if you take a shine to me.

Three more quick questions:
If I could take you to a concert, any time in history, what would you choose?
How old were you when you first had sex?
Have you always lived in MA?

Hugs with groping, and an ear nibble. Just because. – Sassy

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Date: Sep 6th – 10:02pm
From: Usual_Man02110

Message
I just noticed that you asked how I was doing on Sunday! I just got this on Tuesday night! I don’t think the message service is what it could be. If you want I’ll give you the email I use for AM.

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Date: Sep 6th – 10:12pm
From: Usual_Man02110

Message
I wasn’t expecting to hear back so quickly!

If I could do a concert at any time I would do Bruce Springsteen back in the early 80’s or Garth Brooks 10 years ago.

I grew up in New York but moved here long ago.

I first had sex with a girl the same age as me when I was 18. It was quick and not remarkable. I’m much more experienced now and I really enjoy pleasing a woman. I would love to sit next to a woman at dinner and gently stroke the inside of her thighs while we laugh at nothing in particular!

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Date: Sep 6th – 11:03pm
From: Sassy

Message
Hiya! It’s so fun to get your messages. Thank you for answering my questions. It helps a lot to convince me you are not an axe murderer. 

Go ahead and give me your mischief email… I will write to you tomorrow over there, if you assure me that you know how to keep it away from the eyes of your wife or family. AM’s interface is not great but apparently I don’t know what day it is! Can’t blame them for that. I did start writing tonight. 
The Boss in concert eh? A friend was at his event in Virginia last night! Have you ever seen him? I’m more of a small back room in a bar folk concert gal. Saw my all-time favorite recently, David Wilcox.  He’s that great combo of virtuoso guitarist, storyteller and songwriter. 
I’m also from NY, upstate. Came here for college and stayed. 
I had sex at 17 with my high school sweetheart. It was… dull. We had no clue, couldn’t figure out why the grown-ups liked it. I’ve learned a lot since then and enjoy rocking a man’s world. What is at the top of your list for what you want to do first, or most, if I get you alone? 
I can’t leave my husband. I made promises to him and I’ll stick to that. But I need a respite now and then, you know? I don’t have children. Hubby has two cats and they are plenty of work and don’t require saving for college. 🙂 Do you have pets? 
Have you thought about when you could get away to play? Lunches? Late afternoons? An evening here or there? I am pretty flexible time-wise. 
I adore hugging… taking you in with all my senses…groping your back side while we do… and kissing too! -Sassy

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Date: Sep 6th – 11:18pm
From: Usual_Man02110

Message
I can assure you that nobody will see anything you write except me! My confidential email [redacted]. There’s a lot of bogus profiles on here so I hope you’re for real! 

I love those small live music joints. Wilcox sounds good but I’m not too familiar with him. 
If we were alone I’d start on your neck and explore my way down slowly. Brushing my hands on you gently! Trying to build anticipation! I’ll leave the rest for another time. No pets but I like dogs. I’m really flexible as well time wise.

Under one to get over the other

September 5, 2016 Monday

What’s the old saying?  “The best way to get over one is to get under another?”  That seems rather crass but perhaps there is some truth to it?

I didn’t want to do something stupid on the rebound, but I definitely needed something to help me stop thinking about the Big Fish.  Fourteen hours after he wrote to send me away, a message from Ashley Madison gave me another option!

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From Ashley Madison

Sep 5th – 12:46pm
From: Usual_Man02110

Message

Hi, I’ll tell you a little about me. I believe in treating a woman the way she should be treated like holding doors open, holding the umbrella over her even though I’ll get wet…you get the picture. I’m easy going and I get along well with most people. I’m married and can’t leave my marriage so I’m absolutely discrete. I have a master’s degree and I read the NY Times and the Wall Street Journal regularly to get some kind of balance. I live in and work in Boston. I hope I’ve piqued your interest!
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Okay… the profile name.  Most men are trying to be unusual or sexy but this guy is “usual.”  Interesting.  The Boston downtown zip code.  Probably means he doesn’t live or work there.  Heh.  Doesn’t matter.  Quite a good choice.  
A nice message!  Fascinating how he got across a lot of hints about his personality in one paragraph.  Strange that he mentions NYC newspapers. Can’t spell discreet.  But lots of guys can’t!  
I looked at his profile.  
Age 56.  (likely a little older) But very close to my age.  Good.  
6’4″ tall and 240 pounds… mmm… I like that!  
Married.  Good. 
Non-smoker.  Good. 
Limits: Anything Goes.  Okay… way better than “Undecided!”  
He didn’t write anything, just checked the boxes AM provides.  Bleh.  The boxes he checked were mostly fine except for “one-night stands.”  But that’s a guy thing that gives them a way out so whatever.  I met most of what he was looking for except “physical fitness.”  I am in shape… if your count round as a shape! Of course he’d want someone fit if you asked him to list his ideal. 
He seemed worth an answer.  But I wanted to think about it.  Not rush.  See if his words stuck with me overnight.  Sleep on it, as they say.  So I waited until the next day to decide if I’d reply.