Here’s another wonderful edition of “Sassy Answers” where I try to answer a question from one of my sweet readers instead of brightening Phil’s day. We have a real doozy for you today!
Q. How much sex is enough?
A. I don’t know but I would like to find out!
This is a very tricky question. And I don’t know the answer.
I had sex nine times in a weekend with a boyfriend in college and still felt ready for more! Phil and I had 39 hours together the first time we reconnected and I definitely wished I had woken him up in the middle of the night more than I did.
On the other hand, I went without it for over 10 years and only missed it a couple of times a year. It is only recently, since Phil showed me how much fun it can be, that I am aching so badly. I dream of a day when my fairy tale comes true – Phil leaves his wife and asks me to come to him and we live sexily ever after! But we know those things don’t really happen.
Many people can’t believe that I subsist on having sex with Phil so infrequently. I point out that it is way more than I had before I met him! And we are in contact almost every day and have sexy chats, as you can see here. Sure, I’d like to have sex more often, but…
Several people suggest that I work on a local option. I am mostly a “one man woman” so that doesn’t feel right to me. They say I should look for “Mr. Right Now” while I am waiting to see “Mr. Right” again. Problem is, there is no “Mr. Interested!” They tell me to put myself out there. It’s not like I am turning down local offers. Literally no one in my real life has ever flirted, much less asked me out. I’ve already explained why I don’t do online dating. But I will keep looking!
How often do you think you would have to have sex before it was “enough?” Once a day and twice on Sundays? Once a week? Once a month? I know it varies a lot, and is often a major subject of tension in marriages. Several people I know are keeping a wife and a girlfriend happy, and still have time to brighten my life with a flirty email or sexy phone call! Bless them.
So speak up! How much sex is enough? Is there such a thing? Have you ever had enough sex?