Visit #2 – part 4 Legal Dinner

9:00 pm Legal Seafood for dinner

We drove out to dinner, parking in the underground garage.  The elevator was broken, so we climbed the stairs to the lobby, then up another flight to the restaurant.  

We just made our 9 pm reservation.  The hostess escorted us to a booth with a view of the courtyard and left the menus.  A perky young waitress came over immediately and asked for our drink orders.  He ordered a Stella beer and I asked for iced tea.  

We sat staring at the menu.  Philip’s hand appeared under mine and stroked my hand.  The waitress returned with our glasses, and asked what anniversary we were celebrating!  I giggled and stared at Philip, wondering what he’d say.  He smiled at me and answered, “We’re high school sweethearts. I just found her after 30-something years.”  She replied, “Oh!  I would have sworn you were married!  Where are you from?”  I replied, “Here,” and Philip said, “D.C., here on business.”  She shook her head in amazement and wandered off.  

I told him I was surprised he mentioned we were sweethearts.  He said, “I hope that didn’t embarrass you.” I said, “Oh, no… that was very sweet.”  He squeezed my hand.

He told me about paella in Belgium. And the meal at the Hickory Steak House at National Harbor with an old friend.  She called him a liar in her thank you note because he didn’t admit it was a $350 dinner.  He told me about having to be in the hospital for a heart catheterization, being put on bp meds.  He asked me about my work.  
I couldn’t decide what to order.  We suggested various options to each other.  He was set on having the baked stuffed lobster, but I didn’t want to order it because it was more expensive than any entree I’d ever had in my life!  But he insisted, so we ordered soup, appetizers and lobsters.

We started with cups of the famous clam chowder with oyster crackers.  He tasted a spoonful, closed his eyes to savor it and got the most amazing smile on his face.  “That’s the stuff!” he declared.  He took another taste and declared, “This may be the best New England clam chowder I’ve ever had!”  I smiled and sipped my chowder. 

Next came the Mussels in garlic sauce and Crab dip with seafood chips.  I’m not a big fan of mussels, but I took one he offered and they were a garlicky delight!  We shared the dip and marveled at its smooth, rich taste.  


He chatted with the waitress about wines in a way that seemed to impress her.  She tried to talk him into several wines, but he ordered a glass of the Sonoma white.

At last, the main dish arrived – two 2 lb baked stuffed lobsters with scallops and shrimp!  The waitress set down the platters with a flourish!  They were incredible!  Huge!  We took photos.  The waitress came back with smaller plates – a baked potato with chives & butter for him and rice pilaf for me.  We dug in, savoring the tender lobster meat, the buttery crumbs and the other seafood mixed in.  I’d tried lobster many ways before, but never been able to afford a baked stuffed lobster, so it was a very special treat.  We talked about amazing lobster meals we’d tried over the years.  I told him about a 2.5 pounder I’d tackled on Block Island that required a hammer to get to the claw meat!  We enjoyed it, but admitted it was a little dry and a regular boiled lobster with butter might have been a better choice!  But we each finished off the entire thing!

The waitress cleared away the remains of the lobster and gave us the dessert menu.  I was totally full and could not imagine eating another morsel.  She returned quickly, and Philip ordered a McCallan’s highland scotch and a cappicino for himself.  He asked if I would share the Boston cream pie and I agreed, though I knew one bite would be all I could manage.  

The drinks came quickly, and then a surprise.  The dessert was an unorthodox Boston cream pie that looked like tiramisu, with a heart of whipped cream piped around it!  I blushed and Philip chuckled.  The waitress shrugged and said the chef was impressed with the tale of our reunion.  We took photos and nibbled at the sweet treat, continuing our banter.  

The waitress left the bill, and Philip insisted on paying. I think it was about $200 plus $42 tip.  He thought it was quite reasonable for all that food and booze!  And the very personal service from the waitress.  I asked if he had asked her to customize the dessert and he said no, but he wished he had thought of it!  


Visit #2 – part 3 In My Bed

Phil and I were kissing in the kitchen.  I unzipped his fly and stroked him, nibbled on his ear, and whispered, “I need you inside me.”  

He sighed, and pushed me away.  I half-expected him to say he didn’t want to right now.  

He strolled into my bedroom, stripping off his clothes.  I stood staring as his gorgeous body was revealed.  Once again, I was struck with wonder that I get to see his body, and then it hits me that I can touch him and every nerve in my body lights up!  

He sprawled across the foot of my bed on his back and grinned at me, looking down his body then back at me.  I marveled at the sight on him on my bed.  I know it’s considered tactless to mess around with someone in your own bed, but it seemed completely natural to see him there.  I had imagined it so many times! 

suddenly realized I was supposed to move.  I tossed off my clothes and climbed up his body, kneeling between his legs and putting my mouth on the instep of his right foot, nibbling my way up his thigh.  I tried to remember what he had described wanting in our chats.  I blew on his skin, and he trembled.  I took him in my mouth, twisting him up and inside as deep I could, sucking gently.  He moaned softly.  I stroked his balls with my other hand.  He propped himself up on his elbows and watched me as I bobbed up and down.  He moaned again and whispered,  “This is a sight… amazing to watch a beautiful woman suck my cock.”  I grinned and sucked him further down my throat.  He started to roll his hips, rising up to fuck my mouth.  

I had every intention of taking him all the way with my mouth and hand, but he grabbed me, saying, “I can’t wait… have to be inside you,” and pressed me down on my stomach, pulled my ass up and pulled me onto his cock in one swift movement.  He pounded in and out of me while I gasped, moaned and clawed the covers.  I tried to take in every sensation, but it was so hot… so good, that I quickly stopped thinking and rode wave after wave of heat as my brain shut off and my body took over.  

“Damn, girl… you were made for me…so hot… so wet..so tight,” he murmured in awe, punctuating each word with another thrust.  I shifted back to get him deeper inside me.  I should have been telling him something, but my breathing was coming in little gasps my head thrashed back and forth, and no words were available.  I started shaking all over, and made a low sound… he held my hips and filled me, moaning and trembling himself.  We collapsed.  

We twisted around and he put his head on my pillow.  I put my head on his chest, listening to his heart pound, stroking his shoulder and down his arm.  We cuddled and talked about the rest of the evening.  I really wanted to skip dinner but he was intent on ending the lives of another pair of lobsters.  

He got up to go to the bathroom.  I watched him clean up… such a handsome man!  I dragged myself out of the bed and wrapped my arms around him from behind, looking at us in the mirror.  Our smiles could have brightened the city for a year!  He turned, swatted me on the ass and went to get dressed.  

I took my turn in the bathroom then put on my black bra and the special top with the dark blue velvet and gold coins, showing off a little cleavage.  I mechanically added underwear, knee highs, dark slacks and shoes, then went out to the living room, where Philip was talking to my cat again.  He whistled when he saw me and wrapped his arms around me, feeling the top as he rubbed my back.  

We bundled up and headed out for dinner.  


Visit #2 – part 2 Connection

Eight Hours with Phil


5:35 pm Philip arrived!  


I was sitting on the arm of a couch in the lower lobby of the hotel, glancing nervously out the floor-to-ceiling windows.  I saw him striding purposely over from the parking garage!  

He hid behind a pole in the hotel parking area and peeked at me.  Big smile! I ran out to meet him.  Quick hug.  He let go quickly, aware that anyone could be watching.  We walked casually but quickly to my car inside the garage.  He asked if it was new?  Heh.  No.  He complained about the cold.  It was wicked cold outside.  We settled in to the car – me in the driver’s seat and him on the passenger side.  I offered to warm him up, and we collided for a deep kiss.  Oh… it always feels like where I belong!  We kissed for a long time, lips pressing desperately together, tongues dueling.  I moaned softly, rubbed one hand over his legs, and mussed his hair with the other.  He stroked my back and squeezed my breast.  He pulled away and said, “You better drive!” 

He had on soft old jeans, a maroon sweater, a blue-striped white dress shirt, and a chocolate brown leather bomber jacket.
5:40 pm Headed to Boston
I told him to reach behind me to grab a box of Pretzel crackers, and a container with two kinds of cheese and sliced pepperoni. He had talked about how his wife never has any snacks for him after a long day.  So I was determined to do better.  

He told me stories about his adventures in the military.   I talked but I can’t remember about what.  

7:20 pm We arrived at my place.  

He pressed me against the wall of the elevator and kissed me!  We went in and I showed him the view.  He said it was spectacular.  I beamed.  He said even with all my descriptions, he had not expected the view.  

Hubby arrived and I introduced them.  They shook hands.  I had told Philip that Hubby was cool with us, but I got the feeling he didn’t believe it.  So Hubby had suggested a quick meet.  There was a magic moment out on the balcony with Hubby cuddled close on one side and Philip on the other, trying to keep me warm and chatting.  It was so bitterly cold, couldn’t stay out there long.  They went into Hubby’s office and I went to the bathroom to give them a few minutes alone.  We chatted some more, and I walked Hubby out into the hallway.  As I hugged him good-bye, he whispered, “You didn’t tell me he was gorgeous.  Have fun!”  

Philip was leaning over, talking to my old cat lounging on my desk.  He’d been very feeble but raised his head and purred.  It was so sweet.  I was impressed that Philip took the time to pay attention to him.  Philip looked up and said, “He was really nice to me,” in a rather astonished way.  I smiled.  
I gave Philip the university t-shirt.  Figured it was a little thing, but something he could use and remember this trip.  He looked like a little kid as he opened the bag and dug it out.  He liked it!  It fit!  He wandered around looking at each room, asking about various items.

We went to the kitchen and he leaned against the sink.  I leaned against him.  We hugged and I marveled as usual about how well we fit together.  I rubbed his back and nuzzled his neck, breathing in his scent, noting all the places our bodies were touching.  I could not wait anymore.  I kissed him.  He shoved his tongue in my mouth and I returned the favor, thinking of other parts of his body I’d like to have in my mouth.  He wrapped an arm around me, and used his other hand to guide my hand between his legs.  He was already solid as a rock.  I rubbed him outside his jeans, then unzipped his fly and worked my fingers inside his clothes to touch his most sensitive skin.  He closed his eyes, his head fell back and he let out a sexy growl as I stroked him.  He squeezed my ass and whispered, “Oh yeah, girl, this is…mmmm…what I….ah..been too long,” and I smiled, knowing I had disrupted his ability to speak already.  I nibbled on his ear, twirled my tongue inside it, made a slight sucking sound that made him gasp, and whispered, “I need you inside me.”  

Sassy Answers – Liebster Award (blogs I adore)

It’s time once again for an exiting post from the “Sassy Answers” pile!  This is my chance to talk directly to you, my dear readers.  I have something extra special for you today, with info about amazing other blogs and a big announcement!  
Q.  What other blogs do you read? 

A.  Check out my blog roll (the list over on there on the right >>>>)

These are the other blogs that I recommend!  The blogger slept with me paid me impressed me in some way.  Please check them out!  Click!


It’s hard for me to believe that I started blogging just over three months ago.  And in that short time, this blog has had over 5,000 hits, and become been accepted as part of the incredible fabric that makes up the beautiful tapestry of the sexy blog world.  And now my blog has won an award!  


Sally Field’s Oscar Acceptance Speech “You like me!’ 

The fabulous Ryan Beaumont of The Ashley Madison Adventures of a Regular Guy Gone Bad
has awarded me a Liebster Blog Award.  It’s got a German word in it, so that makes it super sexy, right?


According to the lovely Lainey at Lainey’s Life Lessons: Near as I can tell, the Liebster Blog Award is more of an attempt to increase readership of smaller blogs, specifically those blogs with less than 200 followers. “Liebster” is a German word that means dearest or favorite.  So here is how this whole award thing works:

Rule #1 Link back to the person that gave you the award.


The Ashley Madison Adventures of a Regular Guy Gone Bad
http://regularguygonebad.blogspot.com/

Ryan Beaumont is a disciple of the infamous Riff Dog, and is still posting!  He tells us about his adventures meeting women from a “married but looking” web site, with a musical theme and easy recipes thrown in to keep us from starving in between!  He is charming with a wonderful Southern twang, sweetly funny and also tells his wife’s story in a unique way.  He keeps trying to get me to come back to D.C. for some reason…and I am very tempted!

Rule #2 Choose deserving bloggers and alert them to their award winning status.

Here’s my list of beloved blogs deserving of the Liebster Award!

1) Both Hands Please
http://bothhandsplease.blogspot.com/

bhp, a fabulously hot Aussie, is a stand-out in the “man who lets you inside his head” genre.  He doesn’t post often, but serves up an incredible mix of links to art, music, books, photos and stories.  HOT!  Be sure to read his multi-part “ins and outs” friendship story.  I have read them so many times the pages are frayed around the edges.  There is something wonderful about men down under!

2) Buckle Up -It’s Going to be a Bumpy Ride
http://buckleupitsgoingtobeabumpyride.blogspot.com/

Wave Rider takes us along on the roller coaster of her affair with that guy.  It’s bumpy but funny, sweet, serious and sexy in a way that touches me every time she posts because she understands the joys and challenges of a long distance relationship.

3) Internal Pathways to Contention
http://internalpathways.blogspot.com/

W is another marvelous-looking man who lets you inside his head.  He loves music, motorcycles, cars and beautiful women and has a way of writing about them that makes them interesting whether they’re your thing or not.  He poignantly struggles with a lot of the same issues many of us face, and I keep tuning in to see how he is doing, and views of his beautiful body to help me make it though my day.  

Give out the award to 5 blogs, 
I’ve only been at this a short time, and most of the blogs I read have already been nominated, so I am only sharing three today.

Rule #3 Post the award on your blog and share the fun.
It took me awhile to figure this out, but I’ve done it!

These blogs have already been nominated but they are sooooo worth your time!

Confessions of an Adulteress

Luna is an interesting woman with a beautiful body and a sense of humor who writes about her deepest emotions and adventures with men.  She comments on other blogs and was a big help to me as I got started.  Her posts are brief, and I’ve read the entire blog.  She told me she studied creative writing with Jonathan Carroll and it shows!

My Secret Life

Naughty Kitty posts about her affairs but also whatever else is on her mind from cookie recipes to office politics to current wacky news stories.  She posts amazing fantasies, and is often thinking what I’m thinking from a different angle.  She was also very sweet to mention my blog in her Liebster award post.

There are four other blogs I adored that have disappeared recently.  I wish I could send you to read them cover to cover.  But I will say a big thank you to Ms. I, Liam, Holly and Adam for sharing so much while they could and hope life is treating them well.  

There… that ought to keep you reading and smiling for quite awhile!
Any blogs you’d recommend?

Sassy Answers – How a Good Girl Goes Blog

In celebration of having made almost 150 posts (Good gracious, Philip and I talk a lot!) and collecting over 5,000 hits (holy cow!) – it’s time for an exciting edition of “Sassy Answers!”

A curious reader asked me:

Q.  How did you get to be a sexy blogger?

How do I parse that sentence?  How did I get to be a sexy person who blogs?  Or how did I get to be a blogger about sexy stuff?  I like it both ways!

A.  “How a good girl goes blog”

Step 1 is having an amazing story to tell after Phil found me.  Heating up old flames is interesting!  And it made me interested in sex again, and in some ways, for the first time ever.

Step 2 is being inspired by other bloggers.  This means jumping ahead a bit, but there’s a great trail of sexy blogs that brought me here and it’s time that I shared them with you.  I am sending my love to these amazing bloggers. With a hug.  And some groping!  Mmm…

Here’s the story of my travels through the blog world on my way here.

November 2004

1) Livejournal

I started a random personal blog in 2004 on LiveJournal.com.  My sister convinced me it was a great way to see what my friends are thinking, and share my thoughts.  I never found my voice there… but I bumbled along doing restaurant reviews, trip reports and comments about various TV shows.  My sister and about 100 friends post there.  They share stories of their lives – travel, day-to-day frustrations, politics, recipes, party invites, dating woes, and interesting stuff they find on the internet.

August 2010 

2) Jonathan Carroll
http://www.jonathancarroll.com/blog/index.php

Several people on my LJ friends list posted items from this amazing writer.  His blog is snippets from other writers and his own – poems, quotes from books, and musing on lost love.  I’d always found them “too deep” but soon after Phil found me, they began to make sense to me in a new way.  You’ve seen the poem “P.S.” and there will be more I could not resist sending to Phil.  He posts wonderful photos and quotes to Facebook as well.  Like him!

March 2011 

A friend of a friend is particularly good at pointing out things I should see.  On this fateful day, she sent us to look at a Tumblr page with a collection of photos called

3)  “Sex is not the enemy
http://sexisnottheenemy.tumblr.com/

I admit I was not going to click on the link.  She said it was NOT SAFE FOR WORK.  And I was not a fan of sexy photos online.  Usually skinny women with odd wax jobs screwing over-muscled  men in some bizarre position.  But I noticed there were a lot of positive comments.  So I clicked.  And spent the next hour SMILING!

It’s a series of photos and quotes designed to make sex look like fun.  There are people smiling and doing all manner of sexy things.  I like it because

  • It makes me SMILE every time I go there.  It’s about FUN.
  • It’s quick to look at.  They post a pretty photo or a short text every few days.
  • Diversity – It gives you a chance to see people of all kinds being proud of their bodies – male, female, thin, chubby, white, black, Asian and who knows, straight, gay, lesbians, bi, alone, couples, multiples, young, old, with toys…
  • Ideas:  Positions.  Toys.  Learning A LOT.  Found photos to share with Phil to keep things fresh.  
  • Your body is okay, my body is okay- It helped me understand that my body can be sexy even if I don’t look like I did when I was 14.  Because all body types are celebrated! 
  • Sex is okay – For those of us raised without much info about sex, taught that our bodies should be hidden, sex is somehow dirty, urges should be suppressed, and that people who are different are bad, it’s refreshing to see such joy!
So I popped in there every few days and smiled.  I usually click something fun, enjoy looking and then forget about it.  But I found myself drawn to this site over and over to see the lastest photos.

I even took a big leap and forwarded the link to other friends, explaining that I don’t usually send sexy stuff, but this site is different.  No one replied so I didn’t know if they looked or not.

I don’t know how Tumblr works, but I figured out that someone was surfing the net and pulling together photos from a bunch of other sites.  I began to notice that many of the photos I liked came from one source.  So I went to look at that blog.

Early November 2011

4)  Dick-N-Jane.com 
http://www.dick-n-jane.com/
This site is written by a married couple, Dick and Jane, who work and have kids and try to have sex now and then in creative ways.  It is tasteful and humorous, and includes:
a) Photo blog, with incredible photos of couples.  They post a lot, and often on a theme.  
b) Sex blog of their adventures, 
c) Reviews of sex toys (including why you’d want them and what they do), 
d) Ask Us (with answers by experts), 
e) Fantasy box where they post ideas for each other
Part of their sex blog has posts called “Hot or not?” which is .gifs (5 second moving pictures) of sex on a theme.  There’ve been 5 of them.  They’re a tease but some of them are, well… HOT!   And you get to vote on which ones you think are hot.  I know you love voting!
I shared various links with Phil.  It has taught me A LOT.  I finally understand what toys are for!
In November 2011, they were named #11 on Rori’s “Top 100 sex bloggers” list.  And they posted the entire list!  
Like a kid in a very sexy eye-candy store, I clicked through a bunch of those blogs.  All are interesting, but most are not for me.   I had great fun reading a little bit here and there, to see if it’s my thing, and if not – click on the next one!  Also, many bloggers have a “blog roll” down the right side of the page with the other blogs they read, usually in the same vein as their blog.  So I checked out the other blogs they like.  Part of me reads for an interesting story, the other part weighs whether I’d like to try it.  I learned a lot!  
I ended up finding one blog that made me want to start at the beginning and read the entire thing:
Thanksgiving weekend 2011
5)  Ashley & Me
This is the gold standard of “inside a man’s head” blogs.  He was #5 on Rori’s list of the top 100 bloggers in 2011.  I read it from start to finish over Thanksgiving weekend.

It was written by “Riff Dog,” a music exec in CA, who wrote about his adventures meeting women from a “married but looking” web site.  And he helped men market themselves on that web site, then make women happy after they met.

I wish it was a book I could hand you.  I wish I could tell you to read it all.  But as with many sex blogs, it is gone.  He managed to last longer than most – nearly 4 years in a world were 4-6 months seems average.  Damn, that man could write.  He was funny and smart and entertaining and very sexy.  And a sweet man underneath all his adventures.  (Don’t tell him I said that!) 

He also explained how to make yourself attractive in a personals ad, and did research on what works and what doesn’t.  And he was hysterical responding to comments!  He snarked back and forth with other bloggers.  He made me cringe now and then, but it was educational.  It was mostly about him trying to fulfill his fantasies and please a woman.  He gave me ways to increase my confidence and to understand what men want. 
He was like the pivot for a synchronized skating team – he supported other bloggers and everything revolved around him.  Several bloggers got their start because of him and many men owe their dating success to using his techniques, so he’s a bit of a hero.  It was a wonderful community of support for people cheating on their spouses who can’t talk to anyone in their “real lives.”  He coined several terms used by other bloggers.

Riff made me want to fuck him.  I wanted to comment on his blog.  And tell the amazing story of Philip and me.  And the best way to do that was to start my own blog.  So you can thank him or blame him for that!  

December 2011

So after a week of trying out various blog names in my head and googling to be sure no one else had thought of it, I sat down one magical December afternoon, poked around blogspot.com and… here I am!

Schweitzer knew

From Jonathan Carroll’s Facebook post 
At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.

Albert Schweitzer

Visit #2 – part 1 Getting there

December 15, 2010

It doesn’t sound very romantic, but I prepped for this day like a general planning a major battle.  Despite my upcoming cancer battle, most of my attention for weeks focused on dreaming about what it might be like to see him again, and trying to make our time together fabulous!  I read about restaurants online, asked friends for recommendations and decimated lobsters all over town to find the right place.  I ended up making a reservation at a local chain I’ve tried but in a location I had never visited.  It fit Phil’s criteria – chowder, lobster, liquor – plus it had a private area with high booths so we’d be less likely to be seen.  It was too expensive, but I planned to help out with the cost.

I made up a detailed schedule.  I looked at maps – calculated drive times, parking places, meeting spots.  I used this visit as an excuse to clean up my place – had it cleaned by a pro team, and de-cluttered as I had not done in years.  I got my hair done.  I had the car cleaned inside and out.  I bought a simple gift and snacks.  I prepped my husband and sister to help me.  I took two days off from work.  I prayed for good weather!  I fretted about how I was going to share my life with him in less than 8 hours, when he’d had parts of three days to entertain me!

The day dawned clear and bitterly cold.  No snow!  Yay!  I was so nervous and excited I thought I would burst out of my skin!  All the details and driving and what he would be like kept me on edge all morning.  I just wanted to see him, to touch him, to hear him laugh…when you have a long distance relationship, the basics become so precious!

I fretted about whether to say, “I love you.”  I wanted to be able to say it in person… but decided not to worry about it, to let it out if it seemed right.  Even though there was the possibility, with his new post, that I would not see him again for years and might not even be able to communicate.

I arranged for my husband to borrow my sister’s car, and to stay overnight with a friend.  So we left home mid-afternoon and started the plan in motion.  I left him at my sister’s and headed out.  The theory was to pick Phil up, drive to my place, meet my husband briefly, have an hour alone, then go for a late dinner, maybe visit my office, then drive him back.  My first challenge was to find the meeting place.  I hate driving alone.  I went a little early so I would be there before it was completely dark.  I found our designated spot, and discovered it was right next to a fancy hotel!  I had somewhere warm and interesting to wait.

TEXT 

4:55 pm “At the hotel lobby. Lots of free parking.”
I went inside the hotel to use the restroom, checked out the gift store and the upper lobby, then sat in the lower lobby.  I got up to pace.  Then sat some more,  and paced some more.

TEXTS

5:10 pm Phil: “Leaving now. Be there in a couple”
5:10 pm “Hooray!”

5:17 pm FB msg to Betsey “
How did your day go? I made it, waiting impatiently for Philip! More later…”

I was so nervous… felt like I could not wait one more moment.  I kept taking deep breaths… reading Facebook on my phone… pacing… arrgggh!