No more John Harvard’s

May 14, 2019 Tuesday

From: Sassy

To: Big Fish
Sent: Tue, May 14, 2019 at 8:20 PM
Subject: No more John Harvard’s

Hiya Thad!

Hope you are having a good evening! What’s new?

Saw an article today that made me think of you – no more John Harvard’s in Harvard Square! It makes me sad to think their bathroom won’t be an option… 😉

John Harvard’s Is Closing Its Cambridge Location at the End of May

John Harvard’s will close its Cambridge location for good on May 30. / Photo courtesy of John Harvard’s

[Go to this post to read about our adventure at that restaurant the first time we met]

Outta there

March 20, 2019 Wednesday

From: Sassy

To: Thad
Sent: Mar 20, 2019 at 8:38 PM
Subject: Giving notice

Hiya Thad! How’s it going? Hope you’re hanging in.

Big news! I gave notice at work today! As of June 21, I will be outta there and off to see what “life after working” is about. Everyone asks what I plan to do? Maybe once I am gone I will have time to figure it out.

I’m a little overwhelmed at all I have to do before I go, both to transition my work and buy a new laptop, and spend all my flex dollars. Whee! 

Hope you are having good days. Mwah!



February 10, 2019 Sunday

From: Sassy
To: Thad
Sent: Feb 10, 2019 at 9:11 PM
Subject: February fresh

Hiya Thad! How are your days going? Hope you’re having some good ones.

I had my annual mammogram this week, and was wondering how your joust with the cancer cells is going.

My work continues – still hoping to retire in May or June and do other things.

My community project has been busy – had a fun fundraiser over the weekend with lots of laughter and a chunk of money for a good cause.

Still finding a few inspiring photos on Tumblr. Seems like they did the big purge and then forgot about it, so some of our favorites are getting away with posting. I hate to give them any clicks but I will until I find something else. If you have any recommendations, share!



Big Fish bait

December 19, 2018 Wednesday

From: Sassy

To: Thad
Sent: Dec 19, 2018 at 1:56 PM
Subject: Cafe sushi finally

Hiya Thad! Hope you’re having a good day!

I finally got to Cafe Sushi for lunch! It is so tasty! I smiled thinking of you.

I’m so sad and angry about Tumblr banning p0rn. I’m on the hunt for new places to find inspiring photos.

Best wishes for a wonderful rest of the year and a better 2019!


Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android

Fishy joke

October 20, 2018 Saturday

From: Sassy 

To: Thad
Sent: Oct 20, 2018 at 1:42 PM
Re: Monday melange

Hiya Thad!

Hope today is a good day! I went out to the S&S Deli for breakfast with my sister and her beau. I ogled the rowing team from GW. Heh.

Ah… cancer. YUCK. A member of my family has it too right now. He did radiation last year and is on drugs that make him very tired also. I have brunch with them every week, listen and try to offer ideas. He gets migraines, night sweats and is often very cold, and they gave him more meds for all that.

I’m so glad you are feeling okay and still have your hair. I am not a vain person, but losing my long dark hair was one of the worst parts of chemo, meant everyone knew I was sick. Ick. Thank goodness I don’t have to offer you my wig. 😉

Do the doctors offer you hope or what? Are you fighting for your life or prepping for the afterlife? I want to know what you’re dealing with… see how I can help. You still deserve smiles from a nice lady!

So sorry to hear your libido is low… it was so wonderful. It is a physical or mental decline? I don’t want to pester you with sexy stuff if it doesn’t appeal. But if your mind would still enjoy stimulation, you know I am here for ya. I can send a breast… or would you rather see food porn? I’ve tried a bunch of new restaurants.

Here’s a fishy joke for you – what do you call a tiny tuna? Microfiche!



Chaotic thoughts

October 19, 2018 Friday

From: Thad

To: Sassy
Sent: Oct 19, 2018 at 10:22 PM
Re: Monday melange

Hi Sassie

Some good days, some lousy ones

Here are answers to your questions:
I’ve got stage IV [redacted] cancer. I was diagnosed completely out of the blue. Life since then has been a fog of chaotic thoughts, feelings, emotions, etc. Anger, sorrow, tears, resignation, etc.

Stage IV means it had already spread before it was diagnosed, and so it is inoperable, they tell me. I’m taking hormone therapy, and feeling ok right now. Still have all my hair! Main side-effect is being tired all the time. And, oh, the treatment takes a toll on my libido. Total drag!

Glad to hear from you, if you still want to drop me a note.



Fish Telepathy

October 8, 2018 Monday

From: Sassy

To: Thad
Sent: Oct 8, 2018 at 10:46 PM
Subject: Monday melange

Hiya Thad! 

I am trying my telepathy skills… PLEASE SIGN IN TO YOUR MISCHIEF EMAIL DUDE! Heh…

Hope you had a good day. I had planned to go off on an adventure to Maine, but the gross weather made me revise that. We ended up having an upscale Chinese lunch at Beijing in Lexington and joining the crowds at Wilson Farm to get some farm fresh goodies.

I’ve spent a few naughty minutes scrolling through Tumblr. Are you still up to look at some sexy shenanigans? The steroids they gave me during chemo made my body crap but my mind was the sexiest it’s ever been!

Hugs with groping and an ear nibble!


Sitting with Big Fish

October 7, 2018 Sunday

From: Sassy

To: Thad
Sent: Oct 7, 2018 at 2:37 AM
Re: September secrets

Hiya Thad,

Wonderful to hear from you, even if your news is not so good. Wow…wish I could sit beside you and take your hand and listen to your stories. If you’d like that and can see any way to do it safely, let me know.

Please feel free to write and vent or ask for distractions or whatever! I spent 11 months in cancer treatment and know some of what you’re coping with. I like to think I could help, either by commiseration or talking of other things.

I thought of you this week – a friend was traveling in your old stomping grounds and posted photos.

Please keep me in the loop? I will keep thinking of you and hoping for good days!


Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android


From: Sassy

To: Thad
Sent: Oct 7, 2018 at 9:18 PM

Subject: Sunday songs

Hiya Thad! Hope you had a good Sunday. I had a quiet day at home with a lovely omelette, watching the premier of the first female “Doctor Who” on BBC America, and a glorious nap.

I’ve been thinking about you… remembering a certain bathroom. Mmm…

I am so curious about what’s going on with you. I want to ask a lot of questions but am trying not to be nosy. If you don’t mind, let me know and I will launch into my inquiry.

Hugs with gentle groping!


Hold his hand

October 7, 2018 Sunday
1:05 PM Sassy
Hiya kid! Watching the football?
1:06 PM Phil
Hey there! Sure am
1:17 PM Sassy
We’re waiting to watch the new “Doctor Who” premiere with the first female doctor.
It starts at 1:45 pm

Hubby figured out this new Sling thing, where you can get cable channels for cheap streaming online!

1:18 PM Phil
Ahhh, enjoy!
1:19 PM Sassy
You alone?
1:19 PM Phil
1:21 PM Sassy
Got beers? snacks?
1:22 PM Phil
Got beer. Avoid snacks unless it’s veggies
1:22 PM Sassy
1:23 PM Phil
Inside with the AC
It’s a little sticky out for them
1:27 PM Sassy
It’s rather warm and humid here too.

Remember The Big Fish? The guy I met who works where I do?
He emailed to tell me he’s got Stage IV cancer. *sigh

1:28 PM Phil
Oh my, sorry the hear that
Fucking suck ass disease
1:29 PM Sassy
I offered to help… hope he’ll let me somehow.
1:30 PM Phil
I hope he does
1:31 PM Sassy
We never did much… but kept talking.
Hope my experiences could help.
He was supposed to have a hip replacement but instead they found cancer. So he’s not only in treatment, he still can’t walk. Ugh.
It sounded like he thought it would make me run away but you know me… makes me want to run there and hold his hand.
1:34 PM Phil
Oh geez. Bad to worse
Whatever comfort you can provide will be appreciated, I’m sure
1:36 PM Sassy
You were so good to me when I was ill.
My body was crap but you kept my mind in fabulous shape!
1:37 PM Phil
It costs nothing to care and be good to people.
Easier when you already cared
1:39 PM Sassy
You have off tomorrow?
1:48 PM Phil
I do!
2:21 PM Phil
How bout you? my team playing well today!
2:22 PM Sassy
Yes, got the holiday off. Yay!
2:23 PM Phil

6:35 PM Sassy
Ordered delivery from Beantown Taqueria – their beef nachos and pozole soup are so tasty!