Tuesday, April 8, 2014
· Apr 08 10:12 PM Kris: Hi!
· Apr 08 10:18 PM Kris: u there?
Kris: On if u want to chat 🙂 10:22 PM
Me: Out picking up to be back in 15 minutes 10:24 PM
Kris: K 10:24 PM
· Apr 08 10:44 PM Sassy: Hiya! Back!
· Apr 08 10:45 PM Kris: Hi!
· Apr 08 10:45 PM Kris: how was your day?
· Apr 08 10:46 PM Sassy: Busy. You?
· Apr 08 10:46 PM Kris: same…under a lot of pressure…deadlines barely meeting…ugh!
· Apr 08 10:47 PM Kris: what were u picking up…hubby or food?
· Apr 08 10:48 PM Sassy: Hubby
· Apr 08 10:48 PM Sassy: and a hot chocolate. : )
· Apr 08 10:49 PM Kris: that a favorite?
· Apr 08 10:49 PM Sassy: I’m having a phase
· Apr 08 10:49 PM Sassy: In the summer it’s iced chai latte
· Apr 08 10:49 PM Sassy: Sometimes raspberry lime rickies
· Apr 08 10:49 PM Kris: what’s a rickie?
· Apr 08 10:50 PM Sassy: sprite, lime juice and grenadine (pomegranate syrup)
· Apr 08 10:50 PM Kris: sounds good!
· Apr 08 10:51 PM Kris: tell me something that made you laugh today
· Apr 08 10:54 PM Sassy: I was chatting with a woman who said her beau told her to stop calling him an idiot. So she was looking for synonyms!
· Apr 08 10:54 PM Sassy: We had fun rolling off twit, prat, jerk, nincompoop…
· Apr 08 10:54 PM Kris: lol
· Apr 08 10:54 PM Sassy: cathartic
· Apr 08 10:55 PM Kris: doesn’t sound like you came up with anything to make the poor idiot feel any better…
· Apr 08 10:58 PM Kris: what gets you mad…and what do you act like when it happens?
· Apr 08 10:58 PM Sassy: very very rare
· Apr 08 10:58 PM Kris: how come?
· Apr 08 10:58 PM Sassy: just not in my nature
· Apr 08 10:59 PM Kris: ok…but you must SOMETIMES…no?
· Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: I get very quiet.
· Apr 08 11:00 PM Kris: when you’re mad?
· Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: Take deep breaths.
· Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: Clean the kitchen!
· Apr 08 11:01 PM Kris: do you end up telling whoever makes you mad that you are?
· Apr 08 11:01 PM Sassy: Mostly not
· Apr 08 11:01 PM Kris: who does…make you mad sometimes…hubby?
· Apr 08 11:02 PM Sassy: not much
· Apr 08 11:02 PM Sassy: mostly my boss
· Apr 08 11:02 PM Sassy: stupid people online
· Apr 08 11:02 PM Kris: did any stupid people today make you mad?
· Apr 08 11:03 PM Sassy: nope. Very rare… usually when they’re being mean to others
· Apr 08 11:03 PM Kris: being mean live…or talking about others not there?
· Apr 08 11:03 PM Sassy: mean right there
· Apr 08 11:04 PM Kris: like calling names…saying people are stupid…like how?
· Apr 08 11:04 PM Sassy: Devaluing their opinions, not letting them talk.
· Apr 08 11:05 PM Kris: so you want people to value each other and try to be respectful?
· Apr 08 11:06 PM Sassy: respect is crucial
· Apr 08 11:06 PM Kris: one you think should be…but isn’t always?
· Apr 08 11:06 PM Sassy: People have a lot of different kinks
· Apr 08 11:06 PM Sassy: It’s important to not be all “ewww”
· Apr 08 11:07 PM Kris: i’m assuming about sexual preferences…
· Apr 08 11:07 PM Sassy: can be about almost anything
· Apr 08 11:08 PM Kris: can u give me an example
· Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: some you’d expect… over anal sex or public sex or toys
· Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: other things like how soon to have sex
· Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: or who pays for meals, hotels
· Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: or whether to talk politics
· Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: or various computer tactics
· Apr 08 11:09 PM Kris: computer tactics
· Apr 08 11:10 PM Sassy: do you delete everything or not? Is it okay to send cock shots?
· Apr 08 11:10 PM Sassy: Apple vs PC!
· Apr 08 11:10 PM Kris: omg…who cares what operating system anyone uses?
· Apr 08 11:11 PM Sassy: some people care a lot. Idiots. Jerks. Twits. PRATS!
· Apr 08 11:11 PM Kris: lol
· Apr 08 11:11 PM Kris: what’s a prat
· Apr 08 11:11 PM Sassy: But it can be whether they’d use tracking software
· Apr 08 11:11 PM Kris: tracking software for what?
· Apr 08 11:11 PM Sassy: to know where their spouse is at any given moment
· Apr 08 11:12 PM Kris: so they don’t get caught cheating?
· Apr 08 11:12 PM Sassy: right
· Apr 08 11:13 PM Kris: what’s a prat…haven’t heard that one before
· Apr 08 11:13 PM Sassy: an incompetent, stupid, or foolish person; an idiot.
· Apr 08 11:13 PM Sassy: Brits use it
· Apr 08 11:14 PM Kris: oh…an old term…i just haven’t heard it before…
· Apr 08 11:14 PM Sassy: Or Aussies, Indians… former commonwealth nation dwellers
· Apr 08 11:14 PM Kris: huh?
· Apr 08 11:14 PM Sassy: People from all over the world talk to me online
· Apr 08 11:15 PM Kris: those people use the word “prat”…is that what you’re saying?
· Apr 08 11:15 PM Sassy: yes
· Apr 08 11:15 PM Kris: oh
· Apr 08 11:15 PM Sassy: Is your wife sitting next to you?
· Apr 08 11:16 PM Kris: no…she started a new job today…worked till about 10…probably driving now…home in 45 minutes or so.
· Apr 08 11:17 PM Sassy: Aha! So I could ravage you. ; )
· Apr 08 11:17 PM Kris: ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!
· Apr 08 11:17 PM Kris: But you strike me as a girl who doesn’t like to travel too far from home…
· Apr 08 11:18 PM Sassy: Really? I’ve gone a long way to ravage a man in the past.
· Apr 08 11:18 PM Kris: Really…so you’re going to come to NH when my wife’s gone?
· Apr 08 11:19 PM Sassy: Doesn’t seem wise in terms of being inside your house with my long grey hairs and distinctive scent…
· Apr 08 11:19 PM Sassy: But I can drive places
· Apr 08 11:19 PM Sassy: I’ve even flown places!
· Apr 08 11:20 PM Kris: ok…so you’re not such a “home body”…
· Apr 08 11:20 PM Sassy: I’ve even driven to the wild frontier of NH!
· Apr 08 11:20 PM Kris: Ha!
· Apr 08 11:20 PM Sassy: Okay… the beach… not so wild. But over the border!
· Apr 08 11:21 PM Kris: yes…i know NH is almost like a foreign country to people in MA…lol
· Apr 08 11:22 PM Kris: i had a major “omg” moment at work today…could have been bad…but wasn’t…
· Apr 08 11:22 PM Sassy: That happen often?
· Apr 08 11:23 PM Kris: not like this…had to do with shopping for std testing…
· Apr 08 11:23 PM Sassy: ahem
· Apr 08 11:23 PM Kris: meaning?
· Apr 08 11:23 PM Sassy: nothing like real life and work life colliding
· Apr 08 11:24 PM Kris: right
· Apr 08 11:24 PM Kris: i was kind of stupid
· Apr 08 11:24 PM Sassy: Tough for me to believe that
· Apr 08 11:25 PM Kris: i’m usually not…but want me to tell you…i guarantee your response will be “omg”
· Apr 08 11:25 PM Sassy: Sure
· Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: ok…try to make it brief…but also wife just came home and now i’m pretending to listen to her while typing at the same time (don’t hold it against me)…
· Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: so here’s what happened…
· Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: i shopped for std testing…called some places in my insurance network…
· Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: got some info and prices…
· Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: checked out the tstd website you gave me…
· Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: decided to use the tstd website…
· Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: went online to schedule an appt for today…
· Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: online application failed for some reason…
· Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: called the website and was put on hold to talk to a counselor…
· Apr 08 11:28 PM Kris: was waiting for a counselor to answer…30 minutes.
· Apr 08 11:28 PM Kris: elevator music is playing…with an occasional “thank you for calling testing for stds”…then more elevator music…
· Apr 08 11:29 PM Kris: while i’m waiting i’m sitting in my car…ready to go into a home for a 3:30 meeting.
· Apr 08 11:29 PM Kris: now i’ve been on hold for about 45 minutes…
· Apr 08 11:29 PM Kris: so i make a really stupid decsion…
· Apr 08 11:30 PM Kris: i decide to stay on…put the volume on really low…and go into my meeting still on hold…elevator music playing…
· Apr 08 11:30 PM Kris: say I’m trying to buy something and don’t want to miss having them pick up…
· Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: they are very close to me…very flexible…don’t care…laugh and say fine…
· Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: elevator music playing softly as we talk…
· Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: all of a sudden there a small voice that starts to say…
· Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: thank you for calling the testing for stds…
· Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: i freak out and shut off the phone…
· Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: they didn’t hear it…
· Apr 08 11:32 PM Sassy: phew
· Apr 08 11:32 PM Kris: and now you say…
· Apr 08 11:32 PM Kris: you idiot would fit (except you’re too nice)…
· Apr 08 11:33 PM Sassy: I’m sorry… that must have been nerve-wracking!
· Apr 08 11:33 PM Kris: REALLY…THAT’S IT…NOT “HOW DUMB CAN YOU BE!!!!!!!!!!!!
· Apr 08 11:34 PM Kris: I like you
· Apr 08 11:35 PM Sassy: I put myself in your shoes
· Apr 08 11:37 PM Kris: you’re really sweet…I REALLY like you…anyhow…i called back…made an appt…gave them my pee and blood…will send you results on Thursday when I get them…if I’m not clean I’ve been carrying something for 25 years…since that’s the last time i had sex with anyone but my wife…it’s the truth.
· Apr 08 11:38 PM Sassy: Or she’s been having more fun than you think.
· Apr 08 11:38 PM Kris: lol…i know 100% NO…
· Apr 08 11:38 PM Sassy: But I hope this gives you peace of mind in one way
· Apr 08 11:38 PM Sassy: And I can give it to you in another
· Apr 08 11:39 PM Kris: i did it for you…i’m not concerned about having anything…but it wasn’t fair to ask you to “just believe me”…
· Apr 08 11:40 PM Kris: it will put my mind at ease when you get yours though…you’re right…hopefully you don’t have anything…
· Apr 08 11:42 PM Sassy: Indeed
· Apr 08 11:43 PM Sassy: I am trying not to think about it until I have to think about it
· Apr 08 11:44 PM Kris: understood…but the fact that you’re willing to do it means you’re not just “sticking your head in the sand” either…which I respect you for.
· Apr 08 11:45 PM Sassy: It will be good to know
· Apr 08 11:45 PM Kris: exactly
· Apr 08 11:45 PM Sassy: I had a couple of tests done in December
· Apr 08 11:45 PM Kris: for what?
· Apr 08 11:46 PM Sassy: Chlamydia and Gonnorhea
· Apr 08 11:46 PM Kris: assuming they were negative?
· Apr 08 11:46 PM Sassy: yes
· Apr 08 11:47 PM Kris: so that’s two out of 8 on the full panel
· Apr 08 11:47 PM Sassy: they told me to wait on the others due to various incubation protocols
· Apr 08 11:47 PM Kris: been long enough now to work?
· Apr 08 11:47 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 08 11:47 PM Sassy: could have done it in early March
· Apr 08 11:48 PM Kris: have you been tested before…in the past?
· Apr 08 11:48 PM Sassy: yes
· Apr 08 11:48 PM Sassy: once after a fling and the other for insurance
· Apr 08 11:48 PM Kris: every need to be treated for anything?
· Apr 08 11:48 PM Sassy: no
· Apr 08 11:48 PM Kris: that’s good
· Apr 08 11:49 PM Kris: short of hiv i think the others are all treatable…not 100% sure…haven’t really needed to think about it much…until now.
· Apr 08 11:49 PM Sassy: even HIV is treatable these days. Not curable…
· Apr 08 11:50 PM Kris: yes…but i meant curable…gone…
· Apr 08 11:51 PM Kris: i asked today about why they didn’t test for HPV and another one i had on my list…
· Apr 08 11:51 PM Kris: got answers…
· Apr 08 11:51 PM Kris: no blood test for HPV…
· Apr 08 11:51 PM Sassy: in men
· Apr 08 11:52 PM Kris: i don’t know…maybe not…usually what women are tested for via pap smear…right?
· Apr 08 11:52 PM Sassy: my nurse said they do a pap smear and only test for HPV if the pap is abnormal in certain directions
· Apr 08 11:53 PM Kris: oh…
· Apr 08 11:53 PM Sassy: what about the other test?
· Apr 08 11:54 PM Kris: i’m probably going to misspell it…but it’s the one called something like trichomonmasis…
· Apr 08 11:54 PM Sassy: yes
· Apr 08 11:54 PM Kris: talked to a nurse on the phone about it at a clinic today
· Apr 08 11:54 PM Kris: she said it will present as a greenish discharge…that has a strong smell like a fish (lovely!)
· Apr 08 11:55 PM Kris: discharge from penis…maybe in urine…
· Apr 08 11:55 PM Kris: or woman’s vagina…yuck!
· Apr 08 11:55 PM Sassy: I think I’d notice that
· Apr 08 11:55 PM Kris: when I go down there i’m not looking for “fish and chips” thank you very much!
· Apr 08 11:55 PM Sassy: Heh
· Apr 08 11:56 PM Sassy: Did they ask you why you wanted to be tested?
· Apr 08 11:56 PM Sassy: Or any sexual history questions?
· Apr 08 11:56 PM Kris: not the tstd.org counselor…but a nurse at the public health dept. in Manchester asked me…
· Apr 08 11:56 PM Kris: it was on the phone…she asked…
· Apr 08 11:57 PM Kris: are you concerned about having been exposed to something…
· Apr 08 11:57 PM Kris: i said…no…
· Apr 08 11:57 PM Sassy: that’s subtle
· Apr 08 11:58 PM Kris: someone asked me to do it that i’m thinking of being in a relationship with (simple truth is less complicated than lying—-these are health professionals after all)
· Apr 08 11:58 PM Sassy: Did you pay for it on your credit card?
· Apr 08 11:59 PM Kris: yes…i thought about shopping for a clinic that i could pay through my insurance…but higher risk of getting caught if bills come in the mail…
· Apr 08 11:59 PM Sassy: W doesn’t see credit card bill?
· Apr 08 11:59 PM Kris: no…i do all the finances…
· Apr 08 11:59 PM Sassy: Nice
· Apr 09 12:00 AM Kris: sort of…it’s just “one more thing to do”…but means I “get away with stuff” easily…
· Apr 09 12:00 AM Sassy: Phew
· Apr 09 12:01 AM Kris: why phew
· Apr 09 12:01 AM Sassy: So you don’t have to worry about it from that angle
· Apr 09 12:01 AM Kris: right
· Apr 09 12:01 AM Sassy: So you can do AM, this stuff, lunch etc.
· Apr 09 12:02 AM Kris: what do you mean?
· Apr 09 12:02 AM Sassy: charge stuff and she won’t see
· Apr 09 12:02 AM Kris: yes
· Apr 09 12:03 AM Sassy: Once I charged a hotel and the guy gave me cash because his W goes over all the bills
· Apr 09 12:03 AM Kris: yeah…that would be tough…
· Apr 09 12:04 AM Sassy: Several of my pals can’t cheat because they can’t figure out how to finance it
· Apr 09 12:04 AM Kris: pals?
· Apr 09 12:04 AM Sassy: online buddies
· Apr 09 12:04 AM Kris: because they can’t afford it…but can’t hide it?
· Apr 09 12:04 AM Sassy: can’t hide it
· Apr 09 12:05 AM Sassy: We talk about mischief phones
· Apr 09 12:05 AM Sassy: stockpiling small amounts of cash here and there
· Apr 09 12:05 AM Sassy: gift credit cards
· Apr 09 12:07 AM Sassy: Did you get to ride the motorcycle yet?
· Apr 09 12:08 AM Kris: glad i don’t have to deal with all that…but sometime want to talk with you about us…and money…but not now cuz i’m tired…and i have to get up really early for meetings tomorrow…so if there’s something else…had this all typed…so will send then answer question about bike?
· Apr 09 12:08 AM Sassy: Ok
· Apr 09 12:08 AM Kris: answer about bike…not yet…have a question for you about bike…
· Apr 09 12:10 AM Kris: does the thought of being on bike make you nervous…because of safety?
· Apr 09 12:10 AM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 09 12:11 AM Kris: ok…so i’ll use my considerable therapy skills to treat you like one of my clients who has “anxiety with agoraphobia”…
· Apr 09 12:11 AM Sassy: Oh great
· Apr 09 12:11 AM Kris: it’s a technique called “gradual exposure”…
· Apr 09 12:11 AM Kris: so how does this sound…
· Apr 09 12:11 AM Sassy: I won’t think about it until I have to think about it.
· Apr 09 12:12 AM Kris: to begin with…i’ll ask you to just sit on the back of it…with your favorite music playing through the four external speakers…
· Apr 09 12:12 AM Kris: and to really “sweeten” it for you…
· Apr 09 12:12 AM Kris: i’ll ask you to grope me while we’re sitting on it…
· Apr 09 12:12 AM Sassy: oooh
· Apr 09 12:13 AM Kris: no riding…just sitting on it…
· Apr 09 12:13 AM Kris: baby steps… : )
· Apr 09 12:13 AM Kris: “gradual exposure/desensitization”…to overcome fear…
· Apr 09 12:14 AM Kris: maybe you can use that technique for whatever “wild moves” you have planned for me in bed
· Apr 09 12:16 AM Sassy: hmmmm
· Apr 09 12:17 AM Kris: hmmm?
· Apr 09 12:17 AM Sassy: thinking
· Apr 09 12:17 AM Sassy: got a little lost mulling over… you… in bed… me…
· Apr 09 12:17 AM Kris: lost in what way?
· Apr 09 12:18 AM Sassy: in my mind… fantasizing
· Apr 09 12:19 AM Kris: ok…just when i thought it was safe to go…tell me…
· Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: Sleep is more important
· Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: Plenty of time later
· Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: I probably won’t be online tomorrow night
· Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: It’s a busy project night with an after party
· Apr 09 12:20 AM Kris: won’t be able to chat?
· Apr 09 12:20 AM Sassy: right
· Apr 09 12:20 AM Kris: what’s the party like?
· Apr 09 12:20 AM Sassy: take over the top floor of a restaurant
· Apr 09 12:21 AM Kris: with project people?
· Apr 09 12:21 AM Sassy: yes
· Apr 09 12:22 AM Kris: ok…sounds “different”…fun…
· Apr 09 12:22 AM Kris: did u read my email…
· Apr 09 12:22 AM Sassy: remind me to show you a photo tomorrow
· Apr 09 12:22 AM Sassy: or Th, from the party
· Apr 09 12:22 AM Kris: ok
· Apr 09 12:23 AM Sassy: Can you go now?
· Apr 09 12:23 AM Kris: meaning say good nite?
· Apr 09 12:24 AM Sassy: Yes and yes
· Apr 09 12:24 AM Kris: yes…nite sexy Sassy.
· Apr 09 12:24 AM Sassy: Mwah! Sweet sexy dreams Kris!