Friday, May 2, 2014
Kris: Have i told u lately how sweet u r!……kind of glossed over your question “thought about what i want to do?”…. I’ll think about it. maybe look at site u sent…. u too….and tell me….have a twinge or two on me doing it in that fertile lmagination of yours…Frisky. 6:48 AM
Me: Good morning hot stuff! 7:55 AM
Kris: Good morning…off to make the donuts….just think….u only have to endure boss today….then 2 weeks off! (if i’m remembering right) 🙂 8:02 AM
Me: Hope your work goes smoothly. Boss leaves Thurs., so four more days. I am holding on to that! 8:04 AM
Kris: You too…hey….on the radio just heard about a “hookup truck”….inside of full truck trailer with poles, mirrors, beds etc that owner drives around and rents for a fee….want me to check the hourly rate? (oh yeah….forgot….the length of our meets would cost a small fortune)…. 😉 8:14 AM
Kris: Been in office all day…almost done w hated paperwork….Boss breathing down my back…..wish it were YOU breathing on me….and not on my back Ms. [my real initial and last name] (watch out…I’m closing in…just one more little slip and I’ll be there)! Gonna finally “Get on your bikes and ride!’ (Got anything else I can ride, Sassy?!?)… 😉 3:20 PM
Me: Sorry your work took so much time! Hope your ride is awesome! My Work sucked. I’m home. 3:49 PM
Kris: Still at work….may not get to ride…..sorry work sucked…..and strangely glad u can tell me….hope you’ll get that…..as u come to know “weird me”…. chat later… Big Hug! 3:54 PM
Kris: Leavin work FINALLY….get to fight fri rush hour traffic home now….whoopee….watchupto? 4:29 PM
Me: Finances for last project event – want to reimburse everyone Sunday 4:30 PM
Kris: Better u than me! gonna go get on bike. we’ll see how i do…..let you know later (hopefully alive to tell…lol)…. Wild Kris 4:34 PM
Kris: I’m on IM 9:42 PM
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· May 02 9:40 PM Kris: Hi!
· May 02 9:42 PM Sassy: Hiya!
· May 02 9:43 PM Kris: how u doing?
· May 02 9:44 PM Sassy: Great!
· May 02 9:45 PM Sassy: You?
· May 02 9:45 PM Kris: ok…worked out for 2 1/2 hours…just got home…relaxing, eating, chatting with YOU!
· May 02 9:47 PM Sassy: wow!
· May 02 9:47 PM Kris: what?
· May 02 9:51 PM Kris: is this connection slow or are you chatting with 6 lovers at the same time again…SASSY?
· May 02 9:53 PM Sassy: only five!
· May 02 9:53 PM Kris: Sexy Sassy Hussy…you there?
· May 02 9:54 PM Sassy: I am telling them all farewell so I can focus on you !
· May 02 9:54 PM Kris: only five?…you’re slipping…try to keep up!
· May 02 9:55 PM Sassy: Hee hee
· May 02 9:56 PM Sassy: You feeling tired? Or frisky?
· May 02 9:57 PM Kris: both
· May 02 9:58 PM Kris: have enegy from working out…but crashing just a little…got up at 6:00 a.m…did heavy “thinking and writing” at work in focused way until 4:30 p.m.
· May 02 9:58 PM Sassy: Did you think of my chest today?
· May 02 9:59 PM Kris: not specifically…but I thought of you all day in general…but right now that’s a nice picture to focus on…
· May 02 9:59 PM Sassy: I am thinking of your cute little butt
· May 02 9:59 PM Kris: I thought of me doing you doggy style…memory of me pounding in and out of you on the side of your bed…
· May 02 9:59 PM Kris: cute little butt?
· May 02 10:00 PM Sassy: Yes indeed!
· May 02 10:00 PM Kris: I don’t know how sexy that really is
· May 02 10:00 PM Sassy: Adore squeezing it
· May 02 10:00 PM Sassy: It REALLY IS!
· May 02 10:00 PM Kris: ok…if you say so…sounds like a kid going to the petting zoo or something…
· May 02 10:01 PM Kris: which you’re REALLY good at…
· May 02 10:01 PM Kris: petting that is…
· May 02 10:01 PM Kris: and stroking…
· May 02 10:01 PM Sassy: You inspire me
· May 02 10:01 PM Kris: and other things…
· May 02 10:02 PM Sassy: I want to grab and squeeze and rub and stroke… mmmm
· May 02 10:02 PM Kris: how do I inspire you?
· May 02 10:03 PM Kris: i’m not fishing for compliments when I ask questions like that…just curious…like to understand more clearly how you’re thinking/experiencing me…
· May 02 10:03 PM Sassy: Understand
· May 02 10:04 PM Kris: so how do I inspire you?
· May 02 10:05 PM Sassy: chemistry
· May 02 10:08 PM Sassy: no clue what… just is
· May 02 10:09 PM Kris: so just “in general”…attracted?
· May 02 10:10 PM Sassy: Oh yes!
· May 02 10:10 PM Sassy: Been staring at your photo today
· May 02 10:10 PM Kris: which one?
· May 02 10:11 PM Kris: one posted on AM…or one I emailed you?
· May 02 10:11 PM Sassy: Hmmm… AM
· May 02 10:11 PM Sassy: You are smiling, in leather
· May 02 10:12 PM Kris: you like that one?
· May 02 10:14 PM Kris: it looked like you were typing something…but nothing appeared…yet…
· May 02 10:15 PM Sassy: Sorry… I am falling asleep. Like you
· May 02 10:15 PM Kris: “like you” meaning?
· May 02 10:17 PM Sassy: You said tired and frisky
· May 02 10:17 PM Kris: do you want to say good night if you’re tired…but if so…curious if you know anything further about Sunday…
· May 02 10:17 PM Sassy: I have that “blink” and then notice a minute later I never opened my eyes!
· May 02 10:17 PM Kris: I was fired by a client this week for doing that in a session…
· May 02 10:17 PM Sassy: oops
· May 02 10:18 PM Kris: and she called my Program Director to tell her that…
· May 02 10:18 PM Sassy: oh no!
· May 02 10:18 PM Sassy: You can’t say “I was thinking?”
· May 02 10:18 PM Kris: the sharp nod of the head and sudden “jump to awake” kind of gives it away…lol
· May 02 10:19 PM Kris: honesty…I don’t care…and they know that…so they only give me limited grief about anything…
· May 02 10:19 PM Sassy: geesh
· May 02 10:19 PM Kris: what?
· May 02 10:19 PM Sassy: some people should cut other people more slack
· May 02 10:20 PM Kris: I know…I could go on about this one woman…and the b.s. her accusations were…given how many endless hours I listened carefully to her…but it’s not that interesting.
· May 02 10:20 PM Kris: anyhow…know anything further about Sunday?
· May 02 10:21 PM Sassy: didn’t have a chance to think much
· May 02 10:21 PM Sassy: Work was really awful
· May 02 10:21 PM Kris: how so…tell me
· May 02 10:21 PM Sassy: and then I was looking for distractions so I could stop thinking about it
· May 02 10:21 PM Sassy: eh..
· May 02 10:21 PM Sassy: new boss decided no more OT
· May 02 10:22 PM Kris: tell me how work was awful
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: problem is, I already worked 4 hrs OT this week
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: She said I could go home
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: I was in the middle of 3 things
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: She said never mind, just go
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: Ugh
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: Half of me was furious
· May 02 10:22 PM Sassy: other half was like ‘Whee! Friday afternoon off!’
· May 02 10:23 PM Sassy: I don’t know how I can survive without OT
· May 02 10:23 PM Kris: depended on it a lot?
· May 02 10:23 PM Sassy: Yes
· May 02 10:23 PM Kris: I understand…
· May 02 10:23 PM Sassy: I barely make ends meet as it is
· May 02 10:24 PM Kris: sucks…is there a need to cut costs at the company you work for?
· May 02 10:24 PM Sassy: no
· May 02 10:24 PM Sassy: it’s just her being an bitch
· May 02 10:24 PM Sassy: penny wise, pound foolish
· May 02 10:24 PM Kris: does she give any reasons for her decisions?
· May 02 10:24 PM Sassy: She wanted to know why I worked ot
· May 02 10:24 PM Sassy: I gave her a list of the 27 things I did tu/wed/th
· May 02 10:25 PM Sassy: She was like… “I don’t see why that should take so long. Maybe we need to meet so I can help you set priorities and re-do your work style”
· May 02 10:25 PM Sassy: Yeah.. I’ve been taking care of things for 10 frickin years without you honey
· May 02 10:25 PM Sassy: and I don’t need you to micro-manage me!
· May 02 10:26 PM Kris: that’s very demeaning…I would be highly pissed off
· May 02 10:28 PM Sassy: It feels like harassment
· May 02 10:28 PM Kris: so do you think she’s going to insist on a meeting…
· May 02 10:28 PM Sassy: No. She doesn’t have any time
· May 02 10:28 PM Sassy: She has already put off the two meetings we were supposed to go to
· May 02 10:29 PM Kris: that actually happened to me today…by my big boss
· May 02 10:29 PM Kris: she had to review my documents because my regular supervisor had the day off…
· May 02 10:29 PM Kris: so when I came in this morning I went to her office and said…
· May 02 10:30 PM Kris: I know I emailed you last night and said I would try to get all my work done last night…
· May 02 10:30 PM Kris: but I had 6 sessions yesterday and my last one ended at 8:30 at night
· May 02 10:30 PM Kris: by the time I drove home to NH it was 9:45…
· May 02 10:31 PM Kris: so I’ll do them all right now…
· May 02 10:31 PM Kris: she said to me…
· May 02 10:31 PM Kris: you’ve been having a lot of issues lately…
· May 02 10:31 PM Kris: I hear about them from (my supervisor)…but maybe we need to talk…today…after you finish the paperwork…
· May 02 10:32 PM Kris: I said “sure” in a friendly, chipper way (my code for—I can handle you lady and don’t give a fuck what you say when we meet)…seriously.
· May 02 10:32 PM Kris: at the end of the day she said…forget meeting…and that was that…she won’t bring it up again…
· May 02 10:33 PM Sassy: hunh
· May 02 10:33 PM Sassy: I wish I could back this woman off
· May 02 10:33 PM Sassy: She did something every day this week to tick me off
· May 02 10:33 PM Kris: what did “hunh” mean that you wrote above?
· May 02 10:33 PM Sassy: Please please please let them can her in June
· May 02 10:34 PM Sassy: Just so interesting that you can make her stop
· May 02 10:35 PM Kris: i’m pretty friendly most of the time…but i’m a pretty “crusty old dude” and when I get ticked I get quiet and serious and look people straight in the eye and completely disagree with them and don’t pull any punches…they get intimidated and back off…you don’t know how to do that?
· May 02 10:35 PM Sassy: I do a little
· May 02 10:36 PM Sassy: I got really mad that she wouldn’t let me promote a student intern and pay them a little more. A whopping $495/yr
· May 02 10:36 PM Sassy: She went on and on about how the budget was out of whack and it was up to her to fix it (total b.s.) and she could not commit to any extra amount
· May 02 10:37 PM Sassy: Then she asked me to price out getting weekly flowers for the reception desk
· May 02 10:37 PM Sassy: I wanted to throw a vase at her
· May 02 10:37 PM Kris: i’m sorry…you’re making me laugh…
· May 02 10:38 PM Kris: I know it’s not funny
· May 02 10:39 PM Sassy: Might as well laugh
· May 02 10:39 PM Sassy: She is just such a… bean counter
· May 02 10:39 PM Sassy: doesn’t listen… dollars are more important than people
· May 02 10:39 PM Sassy: You know the type
· May 02 10:40 PM Kris: yes…sounds like she has some “power and control” issues too…
· May 02 10:40 PM Kris: has to remind you constantly who’s really in charge…
· May 02 10:40 PM Sassy: yes, very
· May 02 10:41 PM Kris: she knows best…so do it her way…doesn’t think others can contribute or that they can help her do her job better…
· May 02 10:42 PM Kris: she doesn’t understand how great leaders operate…
· May 02 10:42 PM Sassy: exactly.
· May 02 10:42 PM Sassy: I try really hard to empower my interns. Teach them.
· May 02 10:42 PM Kris: every great leader goes out of their way to practice humility by constantly recognizing the value and contributions of everyone around them…
· May 02 10:43 PM Sassy: make them smarter and let them run with it
· May 02 10:43 PM Kris: trust people…even if they make mistakes…which they will…we all do…
· May 02 10:43 PM Sassy: I’ve had this problem before… with women bosses
· May 02 10:43 PM Kris: not with men bosses?
· May 02 10:43 PM Sassy: I am “too smart”
· May 02 10:44 PM Sassy: No… men seem to realize they can harness my talents to make them look good… and that I will listen to them and try to help
· May 02 10:44 PM Sassy: Women feel threatended
· May 02 10:44 PM Kris: i’m trying to harness your talents…
· May 02 10:45 PM Sassy: Oh?
· May 02 10:46 PM Kris: yes…your considerable sexy Sassy talents…in bed.
· May 02 10:46 PM Sassy: aha!
· May 02 10:46 PM Kris: thought you would have gotten that…but it was an abrupt interruption to your serious venting…sorry…
· May 02 10:47 PM Sassy: no no… I was teasing you…
· May 02 10:47 PM Kris: go on with venting…
· May 02 10:47 PM Sassy: to see what you’d say.
· May 02 10:47 PM Kris: ok…got me!
· May 02 10:47 PM Sassy: Need to stop thinking about work. Relax.
· May 02 10:48 PM Sassy: Get laid!
· May 02 10:48 PM Kris: ok…but I feel better to know you can actually get ticked off…no one can be “calm” ALL the time…just isn’t possible…too much crap in the world!
· May 02 10:48 PM Kris: Get laid!…good idea!
· May 02 10:48 PM Sassy: So Sunday… I will run out of my meeting at 6 PM and…
· May 02 10:49 PM Kris: I’ll fuck your brains out (or try)…
· May 02 10:49 PM Sassy: mmmm
· May 02 10:49 PM Kris: mmmm as in “sounds good”?
· May 02 10:49 PM Sassy: oh yeah
· May 02 10:49 PM Kris: I was thinking of getting greedy and asking you to brunch before your meeting…
· May 02 10:50 PM Sassy: oh my
· May 02 10:50 PM Kris: what?
· May 02 10:50 PM Sassy: It’s nice to be wanted
· May 02 10:50 PM Kris: of course!
· May 02 10:51 PM Kris: only issue is money…
· May 02 10:51 PM Kris: if I have to get a room doing both might be a bit much…
· May 02 10:51 PM Kris: but if yours is available…no problem…
· May 02 10:52 PM Kris: assume you haven’t had a chance to talk to Hubby yet about it…
· May 02 10:52 PM Sassy: no.
· May 02 10:53 PM Kris: I hate having money be a factor…especially when I want to spend more time with you.
· May 02 10:53 PM Sassy: I understand completely
· May 02 10:54 PM Kris: if we didn’t spend money eating out…is there something else to do just to be together…before your meeting…I can’t really think of anything…sharing a meal is so much fun…
· May 02 10:57 PM Kris: you falling asleep on me?
· May 02 10:57 PM Sassy: No… trying to think of something
· May 02 10:57 PM Sassy: was thinking outside but it’s supposed to rain
· May 02 10:57 PM Kris: right
· May 02 10:58 PM Sassy: Did you get on the bike today?
· May 02 10:58 PM Kris: do you have a preference for where we meet…or you don’t care…your place or hotel…doesn’t matter?
· May 02 10:59 PM Kris: no…I didn’t get on bike today
· May 02 10:59 PM Sassy: My place is fine. Just a little delicate about having H be gone again so soon
· May 02 10:59 PM Sassy: I desperately wanted to go to Gloucester today
· May 02 11:00 PM Sassy: but he was all “just want to be home”
· May 02 11:00 PM Kris: you wanted him to go with you?
· May 02 11:00 PM Sassy: yes
· May 02 11:00 PM Kris: what would you do?
· May 02 11:00 PM Sassy: drive to the beach, walk around, go eat lobster
· May 02 11:01 PM Kris: I was waiting for “eat lobster”…lol
· May 02 11:01 PM Sassy: heh
· May 02 11:01 PM Kris: what’s “heh”
· May 02 11:01 PM Sassy: You know me already!
· May 02 11:01 PM Kris: i’m catching on
· May 02 11:01 PM Sassy: I just wanted to get out of town
· May 02 11:01 PM Sassy: stop thinking about work
· May 02 11:02 PM Kris: I’ve been fantasizing about taking you for rides…both on the boat (which you seem ok with)…and on the bike (which you’re not)…but…
· May 02 11:03 PM Kris: I was thinking how much you’d enjoy a ride along the coast…
· May 02 11:03 PM Kris: or maybe someplace like the Kangamangus Highway through the White Mountains.
· May 02 11:03 PM Kris: been there before?
· May 02 11:03 PM Sassy: not in a long time
· May 02 11:04 PM Kris: if you were going to go for a boat ride…where would you like to go?…Charles River?…Cape?…lake in NH?
· May 02 11:06 PM Kris: launch from Essex…to Wingaersheek…down Annisquaum…out to Gloucester Harbor?
· May 02 11:07 PM Sassy: that’s the place I know..
· May 02 11:07 PM Sassy: or Lake W in NH. But I would let you choose
· May 02 11:07 PM Kris: Winnipesaukee?
· May 02 11:07 PM Sassy: yes. They have lobster omelets up there
· May 02 11:07 PM Kris: no…YOU choose…I’ve literally been to ALL of them…many times.
· May 02 11:10 PM Sassy: Puzzling over that… Have to figure out when I have more brain
· May 02 11:11 PM Kris: no problem…it’s a ways off…Sunday’s more “imminent”…question…
· May 02 11:11 PM Kris: why is being at your place so close together in time “delicate” with H
· May 02 11:12 PM Sassy: He trends to agoraphobia
· May 02 11:13 PM Sassy: Tough for him to be out in public alone
· May 02 11:13 PM Sassy: I suggested he go to the movies
· May 02 11:13 PM Sassy: or plan something with one of his ladies
· May 02 11:13 PM Kris: are you using “agoraphobia” as a serious diagnosis (it’s what the client who just fired me has)…or just a “general manner of speaking”…
· May 02 11:14 PM Sassy: he has severe social phobia
· May 02 11:14 PM Kris: does he go to therapy to try to deal with it better?
· May 02 11:14 PM Sassy: yes
· May 02 11:15 PM Kris: has it helped?
· May 02 11:15 PM Sassy: no
· May 02 11:15 PM Kris: he should do what my client did to me…fire his therapist and find another one…unless you think it wouldn’t make any difference…
· May 02 11:15 PM Sassy: but it varies a lot
· May 02 11:16 PM Kris: how does it vary?
· May 02 11:16 PM Sassy: Some days he’s good – goes out to a coffee house, camps out, works on his projects
· May 02 11:16 PM Sassy: other days he stays in bed. and that can go on for a week or so at a time… can’t get him outside at all
· May 02 11:17 PM Kris: what mode does he seem to be in right now?
· May 02 11:17 PM Sassy: marginal
· May 02 11:18 PM Kris: do you think he was just being a little lazy today…as opposed to “agoraphobic”?
· May 02 11:18 PM Sassy: He made a real push to work on a project… go out 4 days in a row
· May 02 11:18 PM Sassy: no. He is not lazy
· May 02 11:19 PM Kris: I didn’t mean lazy in general…just tired and not feeling like doing anything today
· May 02 11:19 PM Sassy: He worries about people looking at him, being mean to him
· May 02 11:19 PM Sassy: making comments about how fat he is
· May 02 11:19 PM Kris: do people do that?
· May 02 11:19 PM Sassy: yes. All the time
· May 02 11:20 PM Kris: what!?!
· May 02 11:20 PM Sassy: Every thing from a waitress saying “You said DIET COKE. right?” when he orders a coke
· May 02 11:20 PM Sassy: to kids walking by him on the beach saying “lay off the donuts buddy”
· May 02 11:21 PM Kris: kids actually say that ????????
· May 02 11:21 PM Sassy: Yes
· May 02 11:21 PM Sassy: ruined a beautiful walk one day last October
· May 02 11:21 PM Kris: omg…that’s awful!
· May 02 11:21 PM Sassy: I went and told their parents
· May 02 11:21 PM Kris: what did the parents do?
· May 02 11:22 PM Sassy: I don’t know. They listened… told me I must have misunderstood
· May 02 11:22 PM Kris: if my kids did something like that I’d march them right over to your house and make them apologize…and there’d be more coming to them after that.
· May 02 11:23 PM Kris: yeah right!…misunderstood…huh!
· May 02 11:23 PM Kris: do people make comments to you about your weight?
· May 02 11:24 PM Sassy: sometimes but not like that
· May 02 11:24 PM Kris: is your H still very overweight…more so than you?
· May 02 11:25 PM Sassy: he’s back up over 400
· May 02 11:25 PM Kris: what was he down to?
· May 02 11:25 PM Sassy: 250s. He was over 500 when he had the surgery
· May 02 11:26 PM Kris: it sounds like the surgery doesn’t guarantee being able to keep it off…
· May 02 11:26 PM Sassy: not at all but it saved his life… gave him another chance
· May 02 11:27 PM Kris: is he putting his life back at risk…he’s getting way up there…
· May 02 11:27 PM Sassy: still oddly healthy… blood sugars fine, no high bp or cholesterol
· May 02 11:28 PM Kris: those things were really bad before…but ok for now?
· May 02 11:28 PM Sassy: yes
· May 02 11:28 PM Kris: is there any diabetes?
· May 02 11:28 PM Sassy: no
· May 02 11:29 PM Kris: that’s good…that seems to be a risk for being overweight
· May 02 11:29 PM Sassy: I will try to nail down a plan for Sunday early tomorrow
· May 02 11:30 PM Kris: ok…if not…we’ll get a room…
· May 02 11:30 PM Sassy: see if here is an option
· May 02 11:30 PM Kris: still want to think about maybe meeting before too…unless i’m too much…and you need a break…lol
· May 02 11:31 PM Sassy: I may have meeting prep to do. Tried to finish today but people owe me receipts… hope they appear tomorrow
· May 02 11:31 PM Kris: k…you can let me know…
· May 02 11:32 PM Sassy: You are usually the one with the great ideas
· May 02 11:32 PM Kris: not fishing…but what do you mean?
· May 02 11:33 PM Sassy: you have put together some really fun dates!
· May 02 11:33 PM Kris: k…glad you think so (I thought we weren’t supposed to use the word “dates”)…teasing
· May 02 11:34 PM Sassy: figs are better
· May 02 11:34 PM Kris: but they’re a little more elaborate than what I sense you’re used to in terms of “pure meets”…
· May 02 11:34 PM Kris: mine are “convoluted” with “extra curricular” activities…
· May 02 11:35 PM Sassy: Yours are soooo much better
· May 02 11:35 PM Kris: think so?
· May 02 11:38 PM Kris: but sometimes “getting right down to business” will help prevent losing focus too…like how sometimes lot of foreplay is fun and builds tension…or can cause things to “go limp” (taken several ways)…what are your thoughts on the matter…sexy Sassy?
· May 02 11:39 PM Kris: how you doing over there…tired?
· May 02 11:40 PM Sassy: yeah… fading… sorry
· May 02 11:40 PM Kris: how bout we say goodnight…maybe chat tomorrow night?
· May 02 11:41 PM Sassy: Sounds good. Text during the day if you think of a bright plan?
· May 02 11:41 PM Kris: bright plan for Sunday?
· May 02 11:42 PM Sassy: Yes
· May 02 11:42 PM Kris: k…and let me know asap re your place or not…and have sweet dreams…I really like you…
· May 02 11:42 PM Sassy: awww… thanks. Will do. Mwah!
· May 02 11:43 PM Kris: Mwah! Nite!
