The greatest pleasure

July 2, 2018 Monday

To: Reggie
From: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jul 2, 2018 at 2:03 PM
Subject: Fortune

Hiya Reggie!

Here’s my fortune. Wanna help?

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To: Sassy

From: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jul 2, 2018 at 2:06 PM
Re: Fortune

Hi Sass

Happy Monday. 

So what do people say you cannot do? 🙂
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To: Reggie
From: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jul 2, 2018 at 2:09 PM

Re: Fortune

Get me alone and I’ll show you! Mwah!


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To: Sassy

From: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jul 2, 2018 at 2:12 PM

Re: FortuneR

Can’t wait to!

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To: Reggie
From: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jul 2, 2018 at 3:19 PM

Subject: Logistics

Hiya Reggie!

How’s your Monday going? Another hot one! I am luxuriating in not being at my office! I took Hubby out for lunch at Sichuan Garden in Woburn. Ever been there?

Let’s think about Friday for a moment.

Plan A – Did you say you’re working at home? There’s a nice hotel in Bedford, set back from the road so you can park easily in secret, if it makes sense to be in the burbs. It’s only $101 so it’s a bargain compared to Kendall! They say I can check in about 2:30 pm so we could sneak more time in if you can get away. I can check in and send you the room #. I can make a reservation now to hold the cheap rate, and could cancel it up until Wednesday night.

Plan B – If you’ll be in the office, I will look into Kendall deals instead!

If you want to eat lunch first, we could meet at a restaurant but I am guessing you can’t take that much time away.

Let’s nail down some plan – we can always adjust later – so we can go back to drooling over other activities! Mwah mwah mwah mwah mwah!!

-S

Tongue, teeth, inner thigh

July 1, 2018 Sunday 

To: Reggie
From: Sassy
Sent: Sun Jul 1, 2018 at 7:28 PM
Subject: Sunday scorcher

Hiya Reggie! Happy July! Hope you stayed cool! I went out to brunch, walked a couple of blocks in the heat from parking space to restaurant and back, and that was enough! But it wasn’t humid, so it didn’t seem as bad as it might have been.

Had a fantastic brunch at Waypoint – fancy fresh donuts and breads, oysters, shrimp cocktail, then avocado and shrimp salad on a croissant! Tasty cool treats for a summer Sunday.

The rest of the day has been quiet other than shepherding a big grocery order from Wegman’s via Instacart, and making a gourmet dinner of corn on the cob and chili cheese dogs. Heh.

I have been thinking of you and next week and smiling. I looked through tumblr for ideas but figure no pressure – we’ll have enough exploring to do and firsts and can branch out later.

Have a lovely evening! The words for tonight are tongue, teeth, inner thigh! Mwah!

-S

Connect the dots

June 30, 2018 Saturday

From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Sat Jun 30, 2018 at 3:59 PM
Re: Symphony Hall thoughts

How was it? Hope you had a nice evening.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Sat Jun 30, 2018 at 4:24 PM
Re: Symphony Hall thoughts

Hiya Reggie! What’re you up to today? Hope you are having fun.

I was just thinking of you, going over our delightful conversation yesterday. I keep thinking we’ll run out of topics but the more we talk, the more I am curious about you. I thought of about 10 new questions!

Last night was fantastic! Hubby and I went to Uno’s Pizzeria on Huntington for a casual dinner, then strolled over the Symphony Hall for an evening with Andy Borowitz! It was so wonderful to be in a hall full of Democrats, to laugh and be energized by his satire! He talked for 30 minutes, was interviewed by the local PBS station journalist for 30 minutes, then took questions for 30 minutes. I was amazed at his brilliance, his sense of humor, his ability to work the crowd and answer on the fly in a kind, intense way.

I read up on his life – he went to Harvard, president of the Lampoon, then off to Hollywood to write for TV including creating “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.” Writing books, acting in movies, doing stand-up and writing for the New Yorker, now with a Facebook page he posts to EVERY DAY with biting, slapping and kicking at Trump and his evil minions. Wow.

Today is quiet. I’ve made the long trek (okay, maybe 20 feet) from my bed to my desk. Heh. So nice after the wacky week I’ve had.

I am going back to bed soon to nap… or maybe play with a toy!

Think of your hands on my chest? I should warn you I have 5 tiny round blue tattoos thanks to the Radiation Oncology Department at MGH. The technician said they look like The Earth… from very far away! They used them to position the huge radiation machine during my treatment. Maybe you can play connect the dots! Mwah!

-S

Meet #2 Dumplings and you

June 29. 2018 Friday 

From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 8:02 AM
Re: Thursday things

Hey sexy.

I will be there at 1:00. Morning is packed with meetings.

See you soon.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 11:01 AM
Subject: Happy Friday!

Hiya Reggie! What a beautiful morning! Hope your meetings are going well.

I’ve been doing payroll work at home… idiot that I am. But I am done now and off to get ready to meet a nice man for lunch in my black bra and black panties and… probably should dig up something to put over them, for propriety’s sake. Ha!

2 hours… whee!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 11:35 AM

Re: Happy Friday!

You crack me up and titillate me all at once with talk of your lingerie. 

The day is beautiful and I am happily looking forward to meeting someone beautiful.

See you soon at Mary Chung’s.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 12:55 PM
Re: Happy Friday!

Hiya! I’m here. 4th booth on the left.

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MEET #2 w/ Reggie 


Dumplings and you 

I took the day off from work. So glorious not to get up early and go to the office! I still did some payroll work at home, but in my slippers!

I put on my black bra and panties, a collared golf shirt in dark blue and patterned leggings. I took a Lyft to my favorite Chinese restaurant, Mary Chung’s. I was early. They gave me a booth and I emailed Reggie to let him now I made it there and where to find me.

He waltzed in right at 1 pm! He looked around, smiled at me and strolled over to sit down. He grabbed my hand and squeezed, then sat across from me in the booth. He stared and smiled. I grinned back. We giggled.

The waitress came over – he asked for a couple more minutes to decide. He asked me what to order – I gave him suggestions. We ended up with a double bowl of the suan la chow show (spicy pork dumpling soup) for me, and dry-cooked sliced beef and green beans for him. We shared it all. I adore a man I can share food with!

He asked me if I like spicy food. I told him about growing up in a “white bread” home, where the spice rack had salt, pepper and garlic powder – and my dad didn’t like pepper! How when I moved to Boston my older sister took me under her wing for “Olympic training” to refine my palate and teach me how to eat and enjoy spicy food – Chinese, Thai, Indian. I am up to about 7/10… not the top hot dishes but past the mid-range now! He said he also didn’t grow up with much spice but has gotten himself up pretty close to the top, but not the outlandish peppery dishes.

We had a wonderful conversation! He is so interesting, and he listens and asks good questions and answers my questions. He talked about his parents, and his kid’s summer plans. He talked a little about work. We talked about fun travels we’ve been on.

We spoke of sexy things. He asked if I could meet him at a hotel next week! Woohoo! I worried all week that he really wants a friend and was not attracted to me, so I asked if he still wanted to and he pshawed and nodded dramatically! I told him my STI results came back negative so I am good to go! He grinned.

After 90 minutes, he said he had to get back to the office. He paid for lunch and we went out to the street. He looked at me longingly and said, “We can’t do anything out here.” I nodded sadly. I suggested a quick hug. He grabbed me and held me. I relished the feel of the way we fit together, the way his arms feel around me, the sexy masculine smell. He stepped back all too quickly, smiled and was gone down the street.

I summoned a Lyft home and sat in the back in a haze of memories and possibilities!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 2:33 PM
Re: Happy Friday!

Thank you ever so much for lunch!

Mwah!

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 2:45 PM

Re: Happy Friday!

Thank you! Back to meetings which I only have half of half of a mind on.

See you soon!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 2:54 PM
Re: Happy Friday!

Hmmm… I wonder what your mind is on? Hope it’s something fun? I’m probably about to make it worse. Bad Sassy.

I am wishing I had taken off my shoe and pressed my toes between your legs!

I could have gone to the bathroom, not to use the facilities but to put my fingers inside and come out and let you taste my juices! Citrusy I’ve been told.

I should’ve driven and found a space on a quiet side street and invited you to go there with me and kissed you and touched you and sucked on you!

Then I start thinking of next Friday… mmm mmm mmm.

I don’t usually get like this… there is something about you… a spark. I am so wet and revved up and it is your fault! Thank you!!!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 3:05 PM

Re: Happy Friday!

Mmmm. I am in a meeting and I just got so hard. I might have to go to the bathroom and jerk off at 3:30.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 4:11 PM
Re: Happy Friday!

Did you? Want to share what you thought about?

I am imagining helping you with that. With my hands, my mouth and maybe even my tits!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 4:19 PM

Re: Happy Friday!

I couldn’t go because someone caught me right after the meeting. I will save it for tonight and I would love to lube myself up and imagine me sliding between your tits first and then you sucking me and finally, me jacking myself and squirting on your breasts.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Fri Jun 29, 2018 at 7:02 PM

Subkject: Symphony Hall thoughts

Mmm…that can happen. Might have to take me into the shower afterwards…

I’m sitting 8 rows from the stage in Symphony Hall thinking of you.

Lunch plans

June 28, 2018 Thursday

From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Thu Jun 28, 2018 at 7:34 AM
Thursday things

Hiya Reggie! Time to make my own sunshine! 

Have a super Thursday! Mwah!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Thu Jun 28, 2018 at 7:54 AM
Re: Thursday things

Good morning Sassy!

Hugs and kisses!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Thu Jun 28, 2018 at 1:22 PM

Re: Thursday things

Hiya Reggie! Hope you’re staying high and dry this rainy day. I’m off to see two doctors! That should be it for awhile. Whee! Wish you could give me a physical and play with my feet instead!!

So what time tomorrow? In theory, about 24 hours from now? I am so happy to see you again and have a chance to talk more. You are such an interesting man!

In theory I will be home tonight and could email a bit if you like. If not, see you tomorrow!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Thu Jun 28, 2018 at 2:54 PM
Re: Thursday things

Hi sweet Sass:

I hope your doc appointments go very well. And yes, I am drawn to feet and will love to touch them, kiss them and play with them.

Tomorrow at 1 pm? I am looking forward to seeing you soon.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Thu Jun 28, 2018 at 11:19 PM

Re: Thursday things

Hiya Hot stuff!

Hope your evening went well.

I’ll be at Mary’s at 1 pm for dumplings and you!

14 hours…not so long if I sleep through more than half of it. So happy to be off work tomorrow and have the next 6 days off!

Doctors were nice to me! I got referred to 2 more. All these random check ups. Bleh.

Three words for tonite – calm, peaceful, bliss.

Tomorrow Reggie! Sassy time!

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Switch to lunch

June 27, 2018 Wednesday
From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 8:42 AM
Subject: Wednesday wiggle

Good morning REGGIE! Mwah mwah mwah!


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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 9:20 AM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Good morning Sassy! Hugs, kisses and fondles…

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 2:07 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

I have been reading lots of articles and books over the years about polyamory and open marriage. Communication about such things becomes hard especially with someone you love and respect and who says she is an absolute monogamist but for whom you feel no sexual attraction. This has been weighing heavily, again, on my mind because (perhaps she can sense my distracted state of mind?) this has come up again quite a bit between us. So, here I am with only half my attention at work feeling like I want to be somewhere else.

Friday afternoon is still a possibility – between 1 and 3. But I have a meeting at 3:30 to go back to, unfortunately.

How is your busy week so far? Did you get most of what you wanted to do, done?

Take care…

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From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 3:06 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Hiya!

Just got back from a wonderful lunch at Border Cafe with Hubby and a gal pal. She posted to FB last week that she is 1) breaking up with her bf of 7 years, 2) Quitting her job, 3) Moving to CT, 4) to be with a new guy! Whee!

Work is coasting down to a dull roar. A lot of folks out next week so it should be quiet, thank goodness.

Sis is leaving next week for a summer with her family in Australia and NZ next, so I am listening to her barely-controlled panic about all she has to get done to be ready to go. Gonna miss her something fierce.

Sorry your home situation is weighing so heavily on you. I hope I can lighten the load, or at least listen. My favorite article from 2010 in the Boston Globe has disappeared. It was amazingly unsensational, with real people living poly lives in various configurations which seemed reasonable. These are big issues but I hope a solution is just around the corner. In the mean time, put on your best compartmentalizing cap and kvetch to me.

Can’t get a hotel from 1-3 pm. Want to meet for lunch and talk more? Or is that torture without touching? Find another day late afternoon?

I’d better get back to work – gotta do the payroll early due to the holiday next week…yippee.

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 3:40 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Let us do a late lunch and talk more. I know it is hard without touching but at least I can see you. Somewhere in Central / Harvard Sq?

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From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 4:00 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Sounds good. I relish seeing your smile and sparkling eyes.

Where is safe for you? I can eat just about anything.

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 4:02 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

You had asked me what my setup at work is like and here is a picture of me at my desk.

[photo of him sitting in an office with windows and artwork on the wall, leaning back with an arm over his head, wearing a golf shirt]
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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 4:03 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Anywhere but right near my office is safe for me! You know far more about Cambridge than I do. You pick.

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From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 4:20 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Yay! I am so excited to see you again.

Let’s see… here are four Asian choices. Remember it’s going to be wicked warm out:

1) Central – on Mass Ave
Mary Chung’s Szechuan Chinese
Thelonious Monkfish – Sushi/Thai

2) Harvard –
Cafe Sushi on Mass Ave
Le’s Vietnamese in the Garage (above John Harvard’s)

What time is good? I’m off work so I can pop out whenever.

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 4:25 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

I am excited to be seeing you too, Sassy! I hope we meet in private soon though!

Is Mary Chung’s too far for you? If not, let us go there.

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From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Wed Jun 27, 2018 at 8:56 PM
Re: Wednesday wiggle

Hiya! Home at last! Had a delightful dinner at Posto with Hubby and my favorite of his girlfriends. They don’t date anymore but we enjoy her company. She won big on Jeopardy!

I have food coma so I’m about to collapse, but had to write you first.

Thanks for the office photo! Is the front wall glass? I envy your windows. I have my own office, but I’m on an inner corridor.

Mary Chung’s it is! She has my favorite dish in the world. Have you been there? What time?

Three words for tonight… naked, smooth, soft. Mwah!

-S

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How we ended up open

June 26, 2016 Tuesday

From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 10:28 AM
Subject: Tuesday tribulations

Sass,

How are you doing? Feeling a little low today because of a rather nasty argument with the wife yesterday. I don’t think I can really call it an argument – it is more of an ongoing issue in our relationship. Unlike what you mentioned with most of the men you have met, in our case, it is me who is reluctant about intimacy with my wife – she wants it. This leads to so much conflict and makes me feel like a complete jerk seeking sex and excitement outside. I wish I could get to a place of openness. 
You mentioned that your husband stopped wanting you sexually. Did he just stop having sex altogether? You did tell me about how your old friend got you into opening yourself up for sex with others. I am curious about how your husband handled the period when you weren’t seeing others. He sounds like a reasonable person – and even though I may say it myself, I have been a good husband in all aspects but this. 
Perhaps it is only an excuse that I make for myself – but I just need multiple partners. That definitely reduces what I give to her by way of intimacy – to the point that you could call our marriage sexless based on the number of times we actually have sex. Anyway, an ongoing saga in our lives which is compounded by having a child, light of my life, in the mix.

Anyway, sorry to burden you with all this and this is not a reach out for pity!

What a lovely day. We should be in bed doing naughty things and not in corporate slavery!

-R

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 11:56 AM
Re: Tuesday tribulations

Hiya Reggie! Such a beautiful day! I made it to the bank, which took 45 minutes to do a 5 minutes of business. *sigh I am cranking out work as I have to leave about 2 pm to see a doctor. Whee!

Thank you for sharing more about your situation. I am happy to listen. I like knowing what’s going on, and perhaps being able to help. I’ll share our experience. Feel free to ask more questions.

First, I should say that Hubby and I do not fight. We don’t even have heated discussions. We talk, we disagree, we keep talking. Not sure how we manage but I am almost zero experience with “fighting” so I may not be much help with that dynamic.

My old flame is exactly like you in the “she wants it, he doesn’t” area, because she only wants missionary, in the dark, for 5 minutes, without talking. And she is a total bitch to him, so it’s tough to be yelled at all day and then cuddle up at night. I have suggested several ways he could broaden her horizons and get sex at home but it has not worked. He tried to leave once, but his adult children badgered him into going back after 6 months, and he is an honorable man at his core, so he returned. And contacted me. Heh. We met 3 times years ago, and now we talk online sometimes. He’s told me about affairs with a couple of other women, but they wander off when they realize he will never leave his wife.

As far as I know, my husband did not have sex when we weren’t. I tried everything to get him to – sent him porn and erotica, tried to start with a back rub and move on to sexier play, lost weight, dyed my hair, bribed him with gifts, asked him to help me even if he didn’t get much out of it. But he told me he was not attracted to me and he didn’t want me to touch him. *sigh I accepted that I was too old and fat for men to want me.

We went to a sex counselor at his therapist’s suggestion.  He lied three times in half an hour (he NEVER lies) about how I never initiate (EXCUSE ME?) and that I was dating other men (uh no…) and that I never made enough time (just not true – I took days off work to focus on him, took him away to fancy hotels). I determined that was not going to be of any help.

He did have intense online relationships with women far away but didn’t see them. One woman moved here to be with him, misunderstanding his intentions, thinking she’d move in with us! She was furious when she figured out that would not happen, and made our lives hell for nearly two years. Thankfully, she moved away and only maligns him online now and then. I suggested he be more open with me about his choices so I could help him avoid needy psychotic women.

Just before I met my old flame, Hubby and I began talking about him being polyamorous and whether I could deal with him dating other women. I told him I am not polyamorous and I didn’t think that was a good idea because of the stalker and a couple other women he had considered who were toxic.

After the first time I saw the old flame, I came home determined to use what I learned to get Hubby to help me sexually and get what I needed at home. I could tell him new ways to pleasure me. It worked just a little – he was mostly interested in hearing about my adventures. At that time he was exploring being bi, and started talking in bed, during foreplay, about a cute transexual he’d met and how cool that she looked like a woman but had a penis and… I lost it. I could not deal with that. So I gave up trying. I realized I could never be what turned him on and he was going to make me miserable when I got him to help me.

We agreed to keep exploring his options. I talked to our poly friends. I read up online about what makes poly work (communication!). I realized it’s not a zero-sum game. Being with someone else doesn’t take anything away from me and is in fact, is an addition if done right.

He went on OKCupid and Craigslist and solicited several of our friends without telling me. I heard about it from friends. Not a good day for him. About that time I got cancer and asked him to stop and focus on me. He said he would and he was very good to me, but he was still prowling online. Again, our friends told me they’d seen his profile. *sigh

He finds it ironic that he was searching desperately and having no luck, and I was not looking at all and the old flame appeared for me. We are unusual in the poly community in not having sex – most people have their primary and secondaries and are having sex with them all.

Eventually, he met a nice woman from the edge of our community. She is sane, employed, with two young children and married. They are open. He talked with me about being open. I agreed he could do it. She seemed like someone who could help me take care of him, be an asset rather than a drain on our lives etc. That worked out very well for two years. He saw her every Tuesday for lunch and sex, went to parties with her and took trips. We had dinner with her and her husband sometimes. That was my ideal. It was odd at first but I quickly saw the benefits. He was happier, I was less burdened, and he had someone to see movies with or go to parties I didn’t want to attend. She would also explore threesomes and bdsm and kink parties.

Unfortunately after the election, she freaked out. She started to panic that people would find out that she was living an unorthodox life and she’d lose her kids and she decided to become “normal.” They are still friends but she only hugs him at a party now and then. We miss her a lot.

He has been searching again but things have happened with his health that make that tricky now. More on that later if necessary.

Finally, I must say that you wanting multiple partners is not sick or abnormal. It is normal, it is healthy. No one should be expected to get everything they need from one person, any more than they should just have one friend or eat the same food every day. Please try to stop beating yourself up about that and move to finding a viable way to deal with it, which you seem to well on the way to doing!

It would be better if you can find a way to satisfy your wife, even if you think of me while doing it. Or talk with her to get a “don’t ask, don’t tell” or open arrangement, or realize it is not healthy for your son or you to continue and leave. But I know all those things seem impossible and have their downsides.

This is one of the rare moments I feel some guilt, especially in taking your time from your son, but I tell myself I’m probably taking your work time not family time, and that you would be out here with someone else if it wasn’t me, and I like to think I can be better and safer for you than most women, so I keep at it.

Sorry this got so long… I hope some of it helps and doesn’t scare you away. There is a lot more but I will stop here and see if you have specific questions now that I’ve set the scene.

We should be out on a blanket in nature in a hidden glen, where you could feel the sun on your back while your cock is buried deep inside me!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 12:37 PM

Re: Tuesday tribulations

Sass

You are such a dear. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences – reading it and knowing you makes it easier to deal with what seems like the “abnormality” of my own situation. The hardest part for me has been to be open about my desires without hurting her – and that is probably a recurring theme. I feel that I love her in a very asexual way and hearing that breaks her apart and makes her feel very low about herself. Thanks again for sharing your story and that of your husband.

Yes, I would love to be outdoors in this sun with you riding me, my cock buried deep inside your pussy.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 12:59 PM
Re: Tuesday tribulations

Reggie – I am marveling about the distance we have traveled from strangers to here. I hope it can be a plus for us in many ways.

I can empathize with your wife. I remember feeling like I had my life set up as I wanted it – finally found someone and got married at 37 and was rolling along in a normal life and never having to date again or be alone… and BANG. The love of my life tells me I am not sexy. So no more sex for me. Okay. I can deal with that. Wasn’t that much fun anyway. I accepted it but I remember so clearly being so sad and feeling ugly. And wondering when everything else was going to explode. I made a promise to take care of him and I knew I would never find anyone else, and I didn’t want to be alone, and we have a lot of fun and function well and… I adjusted.

When he realized I was hearing “you are not attractive” he changed it to “you are not attractive to me.” Which is slightly better. He made it clear it was not me, it was him. And encouraged me to find someone else. I could not imagine any man wanting me, so I didn’t do that. But he was good to “take the blame.”

It made him sad too, but he could not control the fact that I didn’t set him off anymore.
As Bonnie Rait sings, “I can’t make you love me if you don’t…”

Maybe it can help if you make it clear it’s you, not her?

Is your wife from abroad? Or seriously religious? Either might make it extra-tough for her to understand the different lifestyle you need, even though you and I know it is quite common. When I look around a room, I know statistically about 40% of the people there are “stepping out” or have, and it’s more if you asked them if they’re having sex with their spouse.

Maybe you should talk her old flames into contacting her? Heh.

I hope someday you may feel comfortable talking with Hubby… he is smart and thoughtful and kind, and might have other ideas or experiences. And it can be one of those, “And then I met her husband!” moments that you should do…because you can. 🙂

Sorry to go on… I have thought a lot about this topic and there are so many little facts that might help or not but can help you understand it from a woman’s view, and help you know me and understand why I will gladly suck on you! And not just any man… but sexy you!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 2:44 PM

Re: Tuesday tribulations

You have been remarkably easy to talk to for me. You are, as I said at first, a very compassionate person – so thank you for opening the space for friendship in addition to the anticipatory sex.

You are giving me the language to express my needs better. It has been layered with so much guilt because of the pain that she has shown about this. I have also had to deal with getting caught in an affair (a coworker) – this was 11 years ago. It has never been the same because in my marriage, my role has naturally taken on that of an offender and hers, as a victim.

My wife is an extremely intelligent person – very well read and rational. She is from abroad but (like me) not religious at all. While she is notionally aware of polyamory and open marriages, she does not want to entertain the concept. For her, it is quite clear that there is emotional and physical intimacy in a marriage or it is not a marriage for her. At some point, she was, however, talking to an old boyfriend of hers – unfortunately, he is based far away and there is no way for her to meet him.

I am thinking now of my cock in your mouth..mmmm..Sass – can’t wait!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 5:28 PM

Re: Tuesday tribulations

Hiya Reggie!

I’m home, enjoying the afternoon breeze! The weather is so perfect. Hope you get out and about tonight.

The endocrinologist was nice to me today! I went to Mike’s Pastry as my reward – they have a cannoli with a florentine shell and almond macaroon cookies that rock my world! I try not to indulge often but today was the day.

I wonder who you’ve been dealing with that I seem so nice.. I am super-nice but I would hope you have others who are nice to you! It is a real bonus that we can talk.

You are a human being. You shouldn’t have to keep “paying” for an offense 11 years ago. Wait… you had sex with a co-worker? BAD! (just kidding. Stuff happens). Tell me sometime how you got caught so I can help keep other folks from doing it.

I wonder what your wife thinks being open would mean… why she is against it other than she wants you all to herself and believes that is the only way. She can’t have you so I don’t see why it would hurt her any further if you get what you need. I figure if I love my husband, I want him to be happy, and if it is not with me, then whatever. But I know that is a radical idea for many women.

My goodness.. we’ve tackled some big, deep concepts today! A big hug to you for grappling with all this.

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 5:38 PM

Re: Tuesday tribulations

Happy to hear that your Dr visit went well.

Personally, I am a big fan of Flour Bakery and have not taken to the cannolis from Mike’s. I am glad you indulged and enjoyed.

How I got caught? She called my wife because she figured out that I was not leaving my wife for her! Oh, was there some drama. It was a bit of a typhoon and it is a wonder that I don’t have war wounds from then.

Your thoughts are radical to most women. And men. Monogamy, especially one that is based on the idea of romantic love is only a 200 year old concept but has entrenched itself so firmly in people’s heads. Bitter and acrimonious divorces are the fallout of this and it is something I have been trying to avoid.

God, I need a fuck!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Tue Jun 26, 2018 at 6:31 PM

Re: Tuesday tribulations

Where are you? I am trying to picture your surroundings… I am sitting at my desk in our living room, looking out the big balcony windows, with Hubby sitting on the couch perpendicular to me about 6 feet away. I have on an old nightshirt and cotton panties.

Ah Flour Bakery. They have tasty treats! What tempts you there?

Holy shit… she called your wife? That is LOW. I can not fathom what would make a woman think that was a good thing to do. YUCK! Did you stop any contact with her? That is tough to protect yourself against.

I may not have helped much today, but I hope to help on the fucking front soon… mwah!

-S

Lingerie and toys

June 25, 2018 Monday

From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 11:13 AM
Subject: New week

Hi Sassy

How are you doing, sexy? How is the new week looking for you? I may be able to meet you this Friday if you are available but I can confirm only later in the week, unfortunately.

-R

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 1:39 PM
Re: New week

Hiya Reggie! How’s it going for my favorite handsome man? Hope your week is off to a grand start!

This week is nutty! Work has calmed down a lot, but I usually have two or three appointments or activities in any given week on the personal side, but this week I have NINE!

– More catching up with doctors (three appointments), 

– going to the bank to do paperwork because our community group has a new treasurer 7/1,

– talking with my broker for the annual review of my accounts (I inherited him from my mother, along with her money),

– cleaners coming in to make my place cleaner, and

– seeing Andy Borowitz performance – are you familiar with his razor sharp wit on political topics for the New Yorker?

I have Friday off from work and have penciled you in. Fingers crossed that it works, but if not, we’ll figure something else out! I am very interested in meeting you again. I am thinking about it… a lot.

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 2:12 PM
Re: New week

Do your three appointments include one with Dr. AMY? I am hoping we can make Friday work too. Just the thought of it gets me all excited and hard.

Yes, I am familiar with Andy Borowitz’s writing but only barely.The performance should be fun.

Meet you soon!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 2:32 PM
Re: New week

Ha! I adore it when you take my concept and run with it! Dr AMy has exactly what I need! We may have to schedule several visits, so we can take try different “treatments.” Let’s try to take our time this time, lessen the pressure, even though it feels urgent to do ALL THE THINGS right away!

I have to see the endocrinologist, podiatrist and my regular doctor. It’s mostly perfunctory but they get cranky when I don’t come in regularly. I am lucky to have such good doctors, so I try to keep them happy. Once you’ve had cancer they make you do all these tests to make sure it’s not coming back. Whee.

Should I feel bad for getting you excited at work? I am in the #sorryNOTsorry category. I am squirming in my desk chair! It makes my insides woggle to know you are hard and my mind spins off so many ways I could make use of that! Are you familiar with the term “hot dogging” where you slide up and down my slit so it looks like a hot dog sliding into a bun? Oh man… If you ever need to concentrate, be sure to say and I will try to behave.

I survived listening to the broker for 30 minutes. He is so gung-ho! He used to be in the Coast Guard, and has that enforced upbeat nature of a salesman too. But my account does well so I nod a lot and keep going.

Mwah!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 2:36 PM
Re: New week

I was not familiar with the term “hot dogging” but I like the idea a lot. I like slapping the clit or rubbing it with the tip of my cock. My foreskin is tight and does not go back all the way – just so you know – but it does not come in the way of my (or in my experience, her) pleasure at all.

Wondering what you will taste like.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 2:37 PM

Subject: Lingerie

Hiya! When you say “lingerie” what does that word mean? Sexy bras and panties? or babydoll nighties? or leather? what?

I found a fun catalogue – take a look and tell me what appeals? Colors? styles? Or show me photos you like from elsewhere? I usually can’t find anything in my size in a store but with the internet the choices widen!

https://www.barenecessities.com/Plus-Size-Sexy-Lingerie_catalog_nxs,158.htm?cm_mmc=GLSR_NonBrand-_-US-NB-DSA-Lingerie-_-Lingerie:%20Core-_-_bc81b1ae-916d-42a2-87b7-fba9cf9fc47e&source=GoogleA&Term=&cmp=NA&kclid=bc81b1ae-916d-42a2-87b7-fba9cf9fc47e&gclid=Cj0KCQjw37fZBRD3ARIsAJihSr2kC3ltXlcf1Fq7TtYhg688JCctJRXEPc2AoOtdodANd9Tv1C2BkU4aAnvCEALw_wcB

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 2:42 PM

Re: Lingerie

I will have to find a discreet meeting room to find something. I love lacy bras and panties in general.

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 3:44 PM

Re: Lingerie

Took a peek and loved the lace baby dolls.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 3:47 PM

Re: Lingerie

Oooh… those are slinky. Thanks for the input. I may have to invest in one. Hope looking was fun!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 7:54 PM

Re: Lingerie

I like how sexed up you are making me feel. I want to run my hands all over your body. I like it that you are so sex positive. I am hopeful about Friday!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 8:41 PM

Re: Lingerie

Oh my… sexed up. What a fine phrase.

Your mention of lace reminded of something I bought long ago… I don’t remember ever wearing it. I dug into the back of my closet and found LACE! Black lace. See-through. See the things you get me to do?! Maybe I will be brave enough to wear it for you someday.

Life is short. You only live once. Sex is healthy and normal and fun!! And you make me want to be positive with you!

Four words for tonight… tight. hot. wet. deep.

Mwah!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 8:42 PM

Re: Lingerie

I want to feel that wetness with my fingers, my tongue, my cock

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 8:45 PM

Re: Lingerie

Yes please. 😉

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 8:46 PM

Re: Lingerie

Oh you naughty thing!

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 8:52 PM

Re: Lingerie

You betcha!

Do you like it when a woman talks dirty to you, while you are tasting or touching?

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 8:54 PM

Re: Lingerie

Yes, I do. I would love it if you did.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 9:10 PM

Re: Lingerie

I have to get into a certain… zone. But when I do… you’ll know. The wild girl comes out and the words flow.

Here’s a 4-minute video of a woman talking… not exactly my style but hot!

https://xhamster.com/videos/sexy-hot-milf-talks-filth-1161786

Oh… and here’s a quick hotdogging gif

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at  9:13 PM

Re: Lingerie

Can’t hear the video right now.

The hotdogging gif is sexy. I like play like that. Lots of massage oil or lube. Lots of body fluids 😉
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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at  9:32 PM

Re: Lingerie

How often do you masturbate?

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 9:37 PM

Re: Lingerie

Four/five times a week. You?

I’m not into using my hands, but I get going with my toys.

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at  9:38 PM

Re: Lingerie

Exactly the same. Sometimes I am turned on and I might masturbate twice on the same day.

What kind of toys do you have? Will they be part of our play?

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 9:45 PM

Subject: Toys

I have a bunch of toys, but two are favorites right now. We can certainly paw through my entire collection if you like. Do you have any? Have you played with them before?

1) Gigi 


2) Big Silver bullet

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at  9:46 PM

Re: Toys

I don’t have any toys with me. But I like cock rings.

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 9:49 PM

Subject: Toys

Ah… I’ve seen those in blog articles and catalogues but never in person. 

What do they do for you?

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at  10:06 PM

Re: Toys

My NYC lover has one of these she keeps for me 😉 They hold your erection for longer. It also gets me really turgid and hard. 

I have toyed with the idea of getting the blue pills prescribed. We are all getting on in years, aren’t we?

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From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at 10:18 PM

Subject: Toys

Sounds awesome!

I convinced the Northerner to try the blue pills. He wanted to but was scared to ask his doctor. I told him it’s a normal thing, a lot of guys do it etc. And he did it! It definitely has its pros and cons but he enjoys the effects on his stamina. If you want to try it and your health allows, I am happy to help you test it.

We are getting older… thank goodness. And better! As certain youthful things pass, I find it makes me more creative and appreciative.

Have I told you lately that you are so fun to talk with? I marvel at how we can go on and on. I adore learning about you and sharing myself.

Remember… tight. hot. wet. deep.

I’d better get to sleep – have to be at the bank at 8:45 am. Whee!

Mwah!

-S

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From: Reggie

To: Sassy
Sent: Mon Jun 25, 2018 at  10:20 PM

Re: Toys

I might take you up on a test run of the pills.

I love chatting with you too. It is such a large part of what turns me on about you.

Sleep tight baby.

Complete fantasy

June 24, 2018 Sunday

From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Sun Jun 24, 2018 at 11:04 AM
Subject: Sunday shade
Hiya Reggie!

Home from breakfast with the gang! We had a grand time at The Neighborhood in Union Square in Somerville. They make the most tasty Cream of Wheat with cinnamon. We sat out under their grape arbor and gloried in the wonders of a summer morning.

Now I’m home, wishing you could pop by. Ha. I know, complete fantasy. But what a delicious one! The balcony door is open, the breezes blowing in… and I am imagining lots of fun ways to spend a Sunday afternoon with you. Mostly involving my bed! And your hands and mouth. And my hands and mouth and chest! And some lower areas…mmm

Hope you’re having fun! Mwah!

-S

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From: Reggie
To: Sassy

Sent: Sun Jun 24, 2018 at 6:40 PM
Re: Sunday shade

Hi Sassy

Finally found a little window to read your e-mails. It has been quite an intense weekend of entertaining and adventuring with our visitor. We were out in Walden Pond, Harvard Square and all over Boston in the last 3 days. We even managed to squeeze in a last long bike ride before I dropped him off at the airport in the late afternoon.

I am thinking of you now, in this lovely rain. In bed, exploring and getting to know each other. Touching your body and finding what turns you on. My fingers exploring. My tongue too. And feeling your touches and licks all over me. Oh, I want you soon, baby.

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From: Sassy
To: Reggie
Sent: Sun Jun 24, 2018 at 7:15 PM
Re: Sunday shade

Hiya Reggie!! Thank you for your message. Wonderful to hear about your weekend. I find that having visitors is a special chance to see my place through new eyes and appreciate it. My parents used to send people to see me and I got very good at giving tours. Their interests varied so greatly – from the museums to the Cheers bar! HA!

Glad you got back home before the rains started. 

I heard from IRC friends I had not heard from in ages today! I helped test messenger programs, looking for an alternative to Yahoo Messenger which is going away July 17. So many cheaters used it. It’s tough to find something that will work on the sly, on both iOS and Android, allow text and photos, and not stick out if someone picks up their phone. It’s too funny that I am helping in this search but I seem to be more tech savvy that most, which is super sad since I am not all that savvy!

I am so glad that thoughts of me can inspire you, give you some space to think sexy stuff. You inspired me to have a lovely time in bed this afternoon with a toy and Tumblr… thinking of you. Looking at people enjoying sex and wondering if it will be like that for us. My legs spread wide as I buzzed my clit and wondered what you will do with an “open woman” who will enjoy having you look and touch. I’ve been trying to imagine how it will go when that door closes and we are alone at last… can’t quite get it into focus yet, but luckily any number of scenarios will be fantastic!

Now I am munching on Thai food, doing laundry and paying bills, being a good girl. Hope you will help me be BAD SASSY in the best way soon.

Have a lovely evening. Mwah!

-S

Big sassy gal

June 23, 2018 Saturday

From: Sassy

To: Reggie
Sent: Sat Jun 23, 2018 at 10:08 AM

Good morning Reggie! Hope your Saturday is off to a super start!

I fell asleep at 6:30 last night! Oops! Didn’t wake up until after midnight. I thought I’d stay up and no… went back to bed for another 6 hours! Must’ve needed it.

I’ve made it from my bed to my desk, looking out over a gray morning. No big plans today – laundry, watering plants, picking up a bit. Tomorrow I have breakfast with my older sister, her beau and my niece!

So I should have lots of time to think about undressing you, if you like that, and exploring the skin I expose with my hands and mouth… and helping you feel better than you have felt in a long while!

Here’s a sexy gif to brighten your day. 


 I hope you’re psyched for a big sassy gal! Mwah!

-S