The night before

Thursday, April 3, 2014
·       Apr 03 10:45 PM Kris: Hi
·       Apr 03 10:46 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 03 10:46 PM Sassy: I can’t stay up too late… I have a meet tomorrow.  : ) 
·       Apr 03 10:46 PM Kris: ok…how long….let’s set an end time…
·       Apr 03 10:47 PM Sassy: You excited? Nervous?
·       Apr 03 10:48 PM Kris: mostly excited….a little nervous but not too much….you’re very easy to talk to….so i expect it will be the same when we meet….except maybe a little nervous about “then what”?
·       Apr 03 10:48 PM Sassy: Midnight?
·       Apr 03 10:48 PM Kris: isn’t midnight too late for you?
·       Apr 03 10:49 PM Sassy: Is it okay if I hug you right off? Like meeting an old friend?
·       Apr 03 10:50 PM Kris: absolutely…and a light kiss on the cheek wouldn’t hurt either. : )
·       Apr 03 10:51 PM Sassy: Ok. I try to be very circumspect in public.
·       Apr 03 10:51 PM Sassy: If we see anyone I know, I am talking to you about donating to my projects.  : )
·       Apr 03 10:52 PM Sassy: Not very likely but good to have a story ready!
·       Apr 03 10:52 PM Kris: ok…..with the arrangement you have with your husband I kind of forgot you still have to be discreet…..and being in your “own backyard”…..is it generally safe and ok?
·       Apr 03 10:52 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 03 10:53 PM Kris: ok…I’m a prospective donor
·       Apr 03 10:54 PM Kris: how do you want to dress….did you read my email?
·       Apr 03 10:54 PM Sassy: I will have on my typical work outfit which also works for me to dash to the project meeting afterwards
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: But be comfortable
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: Doesn’t matter
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Kris: ok
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: My top buttons down the front
·       Apr 03 10:56 PM Sassy: or unbuttons, as the case may be
·       Apr 03 10:56 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 03 10:56 PM Sassy: blue silk scarf
·       Apr 03 10:57 PM Sassy: Are you going to run into you know?
·       Apr 03 10:58 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 03 10:58 PM Sassy: Would anyone you know show up at that place?
·       Apr 03 10:59 PM Kris: no…extremely unlikely…i don’t really know anyone there…except my first wife’s mother owns a condominium there…but the chances of running into her are highly unlikely. and any lie i make up on the spot would be fine in the rare event that might happen.
·       Apr 03 10:59 PM Kris: i won’t have anything to worry about that way
·       Apr 03 11:00 PM Sassy: Okay.
·       Apr 03 11:00 PM Kris: have u ever been with someone and run into someone u knew?
·       Apr 03 11:01 PM Sassy: No
·       Apr 03 11:02 PM Kris: i would think that would be a “tense moment” if it ever happened. hope it never does.
·       Apr 03 11:03 PM Kris: tell me how you got involved in the projects…and what it is you do exactly
·       Apr 03 11:04 PM Sassy: I will. Maybe tomorrow. Or the second time.
·       Apr 03 11:05 PM Sassy: Sorry to be cagey
·       Apr 03 11:05 PM Sassy: Just pretty easy to ID me from that and I like to stay anonymous awhile longer.
·       Apr 03 11:06 PM Kris: ok…no problem
·       Apr 03 11:06 PM Sassy: But thank you for asking!
·       Apr 03 11:07 PM Sassy: It’s tough because I’m used to blabbing about it to everyone all the time
·       Apr 03 11:07 PM Kris: it’s good that you have something that’s fun that your passionate about (besides sex—lol)
·       Apr 03 11:17 PM Kris: sounds like fun…do you have close friends as a result?
·       Apr 03 11:17 PM Sassy: Wouldn’t say that… but I do get to meet a lot of people
·       Apr 03 11:18 PM Sassy: And when I was sick they were incredible
·       Apr 03 11:18 PM Kris: that’s great….that they supported you…..how long were you sick for?
·       Apr 03 11:18 PM Sassy: About 9 months
·       Apr 03 11:19 PM Kris: you had chemo that whole time?
·       Apr 03 11:19 PM
Sassy: No. I had surgery, recovered for a month, then 14 weeks of chemo, then a month to recover, then radiation every damn weekday for 2.5 months. 
·       Apr 03 11:20 PM Sassy: Have you heard of an Advent calendar?
·       Apr 03 11:20 PM Kris: yes…i was raised catholic and my mother had one every year when i was a kid growing up
·       Apr 03 11:20 PM Sassy: My project peeps made me a “chemo calendar”
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: So every week, I had a present to open
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: and a different person to talk with
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: And people had a little something tangible they could do for me
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Kris: that’s so cool
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: I never heard of it before
·       Apr 03 11:22 PM Sassy: They handed this huge box full of envelopes and said, “when you’ve opened these, you’ll be done”
·       Apr 03 11:22 PM Sassy: There were 38 envelopes there
·       Apr 03 11:22 PM Kris: wow!
·       Apr 03 11:23 PM Sassy: Poems, knitted hats, lotions, teas, books, restaurant gift cards
·       Apr 03 11:23 PM Kris: did u open them on the same day each week?
·       Apr 03 11:23 PM Sassy: Yes. the night before surgery, then every week before chemo, then every Wednesday night during radiation
·       Apr 03 11:24 PM Kris: what was your usual reaction…when you opened them
·       Apr 03 11:24 PM Sassy: It depended
·       Apr 03 11:24 PM Sassy: It was mostly bowled over…
·       Apr 03 11:25 PM Sassy: especially the hand-knitted cap the night before they shaved my head
·       Apr 03 11:25 PM Kris: what was special about that?
·       Apr 03 11:26 PM Sassy: It was the perfect thing I needed, hand made, beautiful and from someone I didn’t know very well
·       Apr 03 11:27 PM Kris: did having your head shaved make you feel sad, scared, depressed….how did you feel?
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: It was AWFUL
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: my hair was my mojo
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: I had waist length dark hair
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Kris: wow!
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: I took to friends to MGH
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: They made it as easy as possible
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: and the woman cut it in stages, to show me options I could do as it grew
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: Even a mohawk!
·       Apr 03 11:30 PM Sassy: I had a wonderful long wig. That helped a lot
·       Apr 03 11:30 PM Sassy: I thought it would just cover my head but it actually managed to fool most people
·       Apr 03 11:30 PM Kris: how does a wig like that stay on?
·       Apr 03 11:31 PM Sassy: It’s made of lace and elastic, then you can tape the back and front edges
·       Apr 03 11:31 PM Sassy: They fit it to your head
·       Apr 03 11:32 PM Kris: so the elastic kind of holds it in place…and the tape secures it more…
·       Apr 03 11:32 PM Sassy: Once you have any hair at all, it will stay without the tape
·       Apr 03 11:32 PM Sassy: only when you are completely skin that I needed tape
·       Apr 03 11:35 PM Sassy: I had not realized you lose all your hair. Everywhere.  Nose, face, arms, and “down there.” 
·       Apr 03 11:35 PM Kris: wow!  well not to make light of your very serious battle with cancer…but I can relate to not having hair (at least on top)…just means lots of women “rule me out”…oh well.
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Kris: speaking of “hair”…can i ask you a personal question (i bet you can guess)….
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Kris: what do u think i’m going to ask?
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Sassy: Do I have hair down there
·       Apr 03 11:37 PM Kris: yup
·       Apr 03 11:37 PM Kris: well?
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Sassy: Yes. It’s natural. It came back in rather sparse and soft
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Sassy: You?
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: yes
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: i like natural
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: i didn’t realize until just recently that more people like clean shaved then natural these days
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Kris: guess i’m just “old school”
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: It’s all you see in p0rn
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: that or “landing strips”
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: I think it makes men look prepubescent
·       Apr 03 11:40 PM Sassy: I want hair I can play with it!
·       Apr 03 11:40 PM Kris: ok…well if you decide to play with me…you’ll have some….
·       Apr 03 11:40 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 03 11:41 PM Sassy: I enjoyed getting to know what bare feels like… very sensitive
·       Apr 03 11:41 PM Sassy: But not going to do it myself
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Kris: interesting that you hair grew back different…was that everywhere…on your head too that it was different after?
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: The chemo hair was all swirly curly
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: and very soft
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: I had been dying my hair for about 30 years…
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: had no idea what it would look like
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Kris: what’s your natural color?
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: chestnut brown
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: what was yours?
·       Apr 03 11:44 PM
Kris: “was”? LOL really hard!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 03 11:44 PM Kris: dark brown
·       Apr 03 11:44 PM Sassy: Mine came in silver.
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: Quite a shock all at once
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Kris: so you aged 20 years overnight?
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: Hubby said the wig made me look 10 years younger
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: then the new hair made me look 10 years older
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Kris: so do you dye it now?
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: no
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: I had not been to a salon in 3.5 yrs when I went today
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: I couldn’t dye it until the chemo hair grew out (it dyes green)
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: and then I sort of forgot about it
·       Apr 03 11:47 PM Sassy: Can you grab a fistful of silver hair?
·       Apr 03 11:47 PM Kris: Sure! reminds me of a crude bumper sticker i saw a couple of times on some women’s cars….it said….
·       Apr 03 11:48 PM Kris: “If you’re going to ride my ass…at least you could pull my hair!” LOL
·       Apr 03 11:48 PM Sassy: Whoa!
·       Apr 03 11:48 PM Sassy: That’s Sassy!
·       Apr 03 11:49 PM
Kris: Speaking of which…how did you get your nickname (or did you already tell me?)
·       Apr 03 11:51 PM Sassy: My old flame wanted to know if I was the Same Sassy Girl he knew in high school?
·       Apr 03 11:51 PM Sassy: He started calling me Sassy or Sass…
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: I needed a… sexy side
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: a name for the devil on my left shoulder
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: to argue with the angel on my shoulder
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: Let me be sexy, sassy, shameless
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM
Kris: i get it…makes sense. so who calls you that now?
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: Everyone online
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: I like it. It frees me
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: I can shed the demure lady and play!
·       Apr 03 11:54 PM Sassy: Do you have Good side and Bad side?
·       Apr 03 11:56 PM Kris: sort of…i think everyone does…i know what you mean when it comes to sex…but i didn’t have to wait so long as you to figure out how pleasurable it was. i started at 13
·       Apr 03 11:57 PM Sassy: I’m trying to unify them more
·       Apr 03 11:57 PM Sassy: I can’t believe what a doofus I was
·       Apr 04 12:00 AM Kris: sorry for the delay…keyboard on laptop doesn’t work right sometimes……i have something to say about your last statement….but it can wait…because in one minute we’re going to turn into pumpkins…
·       Apr 04 12:00 AM Kris: Midnight!
·       Apr 04 12:03 AMKris: i’ve got two reasons to be excited about tomorrow: 1) lunch with you, and 2) Harley being delivered. and both of those are “Bad me”…..cuz both have to be hidden from my wife…but I’m REALLY looking forward to lunch with you. going to say goodnight so you can get the rest you need.
·       Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Thanks!
·       Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Drive carefully.
·       Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Look both ways crossing the street
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Sassy: Don’t think of my chest… too much.
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Kris: LOL….ok….try not to. : )
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Sassy: Or my hands
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Kris: did you get your nails done?
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: can i kiss them?
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Hope you like bright red!
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: sounds sexy!
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: It makes me feel that way!
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: good!
·       Apr 04 12:07 AM Kris: nite nite…don’t let the bed bugs bite!
·       Apr 04 12:07 AM Sassy: sweet dreams Kris!
·       Apr 04 12:08 AM Kris: you too!….nite

Looking forward to meeting

Thursday, April 3, 2014
From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Wednesday, April 2, 2014 8:56 AM
Subject: Hi!
Good morning hot stuff!  So great talking to you and learning more about you.  
Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday! 
-S
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From: Kris
To: Sassy 
Sent: Thursday, April 3, 2014 1:33 am
Re: Hi! 
Hi Sassy,
Didn’t open this until after we chatted tonight.  Thanks for the warm and friendly good morning though!  
Really looking forward to meeting with you on Friday.  Guess with your project commitment that night there won’t be “more” going on after lunch—but we’ll see how it goes and can always plan another time for “more”–if we both feel it.  
Can chat again tomorrow night (actually–it’s already Thursday early morning as I write this–so tonight–if you like).  Wish it could be a little earlier—but I have sessions until 6:30—go to the gym usually until it closes close to 10:00—so a little after 10:00 again…if you like…Kris

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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Thursday, April 3, 2014 1:15 PM
Re: Hi! 
Hiya Kris!  Hope you got some sunshine today – so glorious!  I actually got out of the office to get my hairs cut.  First time since chemo three years ago!  Want to look my best for you tomorrow. Wondering if I have time for a manicure… hmmm.  How do you feel about nail polish?  
It would be great to talk more if you feel up to it.  Ping me  and I’ll chime in.  
Mwah!
-S
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Thursday, April 3, 2014 2:26 PM
Re: Hi! 
Hi Sassie,
Nail polish is nice…whatever is “you”—with or without is fine.  The important thing is just be yourself.  Nothing wrong with asking what I like–but don’t work too hard at “pleasing me” (well–maybe with some other things….wink).  But since you asked– I think some of those “fancy designs” they do on women’s nails theses days–with the intricate, fine lines, tiny dots, etc.–sometimes using different colors for the nails and designs–is sexy.    
I’ve been stuck inside doing paperwork all day–but it’s nice to be able to at least look outside and see it sunny for a change.  
How do you want to dress tomorrow—“very casual” (for me that would mean jeans, casual shirt, maybe hoodie, black leather jacket—pretty much what i have on in photos), —or “dressy casual” (for me that means slacks, nice shirt, sweater, etc.–pretty much what i’m wearing in photo sitting in chair).  Or we could dress up. (Although I’ve lost so much weight in the past few months that the last time I tried on my suit I looked like a little kid trying on his father’s clothes–lol.  I’ve gone from a 42 to a 38 waist in less than 3 months—and that’s getting loose now.)  
ANYHOW…let me know which way you’d like to go….doesn’t matter to me.  P F Chang’s sounds nice–but I’m assuming people dress in all different ways who go there.  Hmmm….on second thought…what comes off easiest in the back seat of a car?  Or let’s me get at “important places” easily with my hand.  JUST KIDDING (sort of).

I’ll probably want to chat later—wish I could say it won’t be so late tonight.  But it might have to be around the same time—after 10:00.  Talk to you later….smile.

Second chat with Kris – Part 2 Setting up a meet

April 2, 2014 Wednesday (continued)

·       Apr 02 11:22 PM Sassy: What should I talk about?
·       Apr 02 11:22 PM Kris: what would you like to?
·       Apr 02 11:22 PM Sassy: Hmmm
·       Apr 02 11:23 PM Sassy: Are you barefoot?
·       Apr 02 11:23 PM Kris: no…have socks on…sitting on sofa with feet up on coffee table…
·       Apr 02 11:24 PM Kris: do you still have your work clothes on?
·       Apr 02 11:26 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 11:26 PM Sassy: Plunked down here at 6 PM and haven’t budged
·       Apr 02 11:26 PM Kris: where r u in your house…specifically?
·       Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: I have a desk in the living room
·       Apr 02 11:27 PM Kris: you’re sitting at it?
·       Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: on my laptop
·       Apr 02 11:27 PM Kris: is the chair comfortable you’re sitting in?
·       Apr 02 11:27 PM Sassy: I look out a glass wall – big patio doors, balcony
·       Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: 5 floors up…
·       Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: can see out all over
·       Apr 02 11:28 PM Kris: do u really live in the city?
·       Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 11:28 PM Kris: do u like it there?
·       Apr 02 11:28 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 11:29 PM Kris: sorry if i’m assuming too much…but if we had sex where would we have it?
·       Apr 02 11:29 PM Sassy: Good question
·       Apr 02 11:30 PM Kris: a detail to think about later…not now?
·       Apr 02 11:30 PM Sassy: In my bed?
·        Apr 02 11:30 PM Sassy: In the kitchen?
·       Apr 02 11:30 PM Sassy: In a hotel?
·       Apr 02 11:30 PM Kris: how could we have sex in your bed…or kitchen?
·       Apr 02 11:31 PM Sassy: How big is your backseat?
·       Apr 02 11:31 PM Kris: way too small…i have a “manly bike” and a “girly car”
·       Apr 02 11:31 PM Sassy: Ha ha
·       Apr 02 11:32 PM Kris: i like your adventurous spirit
·       Apr 02 11:32 PM Sassy: I used to have a mini-van… so good for philandering!
·       Apr 02 11:32 PM Sassy: But it died last year
·       Apr 02 11:32 PM Kris: seriously…would it be possible to have sex at your house?
·       Apr 02 11:32 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 11:32 PM Kris: what about your husband?
·       Apr 02 11:33 PM Sassy: He goes out
·       Apr 02 11:33 PM Kris: wouldn’t you worry he might come home unexpectedly?
·       Apr 02 11:33 PM Sassy: No
·       Apr 02 11:33 PM Kris: why?
·       Apr 02 11:33 PM Sassy: Because I tell him… go away. I’ll text you when it’s safe to come back.
·       Apr 02 11:34 PM Kris: so he knows what you’re doing…just not with who?
·       Apr 02 11:34 PM Sassy: well not exactly what but generally what
·       Apr 02 11:34 PM Kris: he knows you’re with a man?
·       Apr 02 11:34 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 11:35 PM Kris: omg…hard for me to imagine…what keeps you married…money?
·       Apr 02 11:35 PM Sassy: We are good friends, make a good team…
·       Apr 02 11:35 PM Kris: you’re not hurt and angry that he rejected you sexaully?
·       Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: I would rather he not have… life would be so much simpler
·       Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: But what can he do?
·       Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: You can’t make someone be attracted to you
·       Apr 02 11:36 PM Sassy: I tried
·       Apr 02 11:37 PM Kris: how long have u been married?
·       Apr 02 11:37 PM Sassy: I was very surprised he would not help me…
·       Apr 02 11:37 PM Sassy: once I figured out what a man could do to get me off
·       Apr 02 11:37 PM Sassy: 17 yrs
·       Apr 02 11:37 PM Kris: sorry for interrupting…keep going
·       Apr 02 11:38 PM Sassy: But he can’t really function alone… he’s one of those creative types who the realities of life are beyond them
·       Apr 02 11:38 PM Sassy: Needs a keeper. And I volunteered to do it.
·       Apr 02 11:39 PM Kris: go back to what you were saying about surprised he would not help you…once you figured out what a man could do to get you off
·       Apr 02 11:43 PM Sassy: I asked him to help me wit his fingers or mouth…
·       Apr 02 11:44 PM Kris: on your clit?
·       Apr 02 11:44 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 02 11:44 PM Kris: that’s one of the first things my first wife taught me how to do…and exactly how…
·       Apr 02 11:45 PM Kris: sorry…why didn’t your husband want to do it?
·       Apr 02 11:45 PM Sassy: Do you like it or just do it to please a woman who likes it?
·       Apr 02 11:45 PM Kris: both
·       Apr 02 11:45 PM Sassy: Not clear why
·       Apr 02 11:45 PM Kris: so you asked him to?
·       Apr 02 11:46 PM Sassy: After I got back from visiting old flame
·       Apr 02 11:46 PM Sassy: I resolved to focus on Hubby, show him what I’d learned, thought he might renew his interest
·       Apr 02 11:47 PM Kris: do u remember his exact reaction…what he said?
·       Apr 02 11:48 PM Kris: does it bother you to talk about this…we don’t have to…i just find it helps me know the “real you”…so i can “get inside you” in more ways than one…sex works that way for me…
·       Apr 02 11:49 PM Sassy: Hmmm
·       Apr 02 11:49 PM Sassy: Can’t recall exactly
·       Apr 02 11:49 PM Kris: he just didn’t seem interested… and you were…what? hurt? angry? disappointed? all the above?
·       Apr 02 11:50 PM Sassy: After 10 yrs of nothing, not surprised. Sad.
·       Apr 02 11:50 PM Kris: so you had sex for how many years…before you stopped?
·       Apr 02 11:51 PM Sassy: we met online
·       Apr 02 11:51 PM Sassy: he moved here about a year later
·       Apr 02 11:52 PM Sassy: we married the following year
·       Apr 02 11:52 PM Sassy: He stopped wanting me about three years later
·       Apr 02 11:52 PM Sassy: So about 5 yrs of sex, now and then
·       Apr 02 11:53 PM Sassy: He had gained a lot of weight, made it tough
·       Apr 02 11:53 PM Kris: he came when you had sex…but you never did…that’s hard for me to imagine…although i had a “one night stand” once with a woman who came with me and said that was her first orgasm…i wasn’t sure if i believed her…but i think she was telling the truth…
·       Apr 02 11:54 PM Kris: how did his weight make it hard?
·       Apr 02 11:54 PM Sassy: He got above 500 lbs
·       Apr 02 11:54 PM Kris: wow…that’s big
·       Apr 02 11:54 PM Sassy: then had bariatric surgery, got down to 268
·       Apr 02 11:55 PM Sassy: I thought we’d start again then
·       Apr 02 11:55 PM Kris: is that the surgery where they cut out part of your stomach?
·       Apr 02 11:56 PM Sassy: He had the ruen-Y procedure where they tie off part of the stomach and reconnect things into the small intestine
·       Apr 02 11:56 PM Sassy: So you can’t eat as much, there is malabsorption etc
·       Apr 02 11:57 PM Sassy: It saved his life
·       Apr 02 11:57 PM Kris: so when he got down to 268 did you directly do anything to try and ask him to have sex with you again?
·       Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: I’ve tried everything
·       Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: lingerie, p0rn, erotica, back rubs
·       Apr 03 12:00 AM Sassy: overnights away
·       Apr 03 12:01 AM Kris: so if nothing was working…but you’re all horny because you’ve discovered how pleasurable sex is…what did you do before starting affairs/trysts with other men?
·       Apr 03 12:02 AM Sassy: Lots of cybersex with old flame
·       Apr 03 12:02 AM Sassy: wrote a lot of erotica
·       Apr 03 12:02 AM Kris: video cam?
·       Apr 03 12:02 AM Sassy: no. tried it once… eh
·       Apr 03 12:03 AM Kris: eh…meaning…didn’t like it?
·       Apr 03 12:03 AM Sassy: had tech issues – kept cutting out
·       Apr 03 12:03 AM Sassy: felt odd… performing…
·       Apr 03 12:03 AM Kris: with old flame?
·       Apr 03 12:03 AM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 03 12:03 AM Kris: so just did what…chatted?…emailed?
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: chatted, phone
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: shared porn
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Kris: was the old flame the military man?
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Kris: how did you share porn?
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Sassy: I’d email him links and we’d watch it together
·       Apr 03 12:04 AM Kris: did you masturbate?
·       Apr 03 12:05 AM Sassy: sometimes
·       Apr 03 12:05 AM Kris: did you use your fingers or a toy or vibrator?
·       Apr 03 12:05 AM Sassy: my hand
·       Apr 03 12:05 AM Sassy: haven’t used the toys
·       Apr 03 12:06 AM Kris: what toys do you have?
·       Apr 03 12:06 AM Sassy: hoping you will help me break them in
·       Apr 03 12:06 AM Kris: i would LOVE to…
·       Apr 03 12:06 AM Sassy: I have a stunt cock – this massive 9 in thing
·       Apr 03 12:06 AM Sassy: and a 4 other smaller ones
·       Apr 03 12:07 AM Kris: smaller “stunt cocks”?
·       Apr 03 12:07 AM Sassy: no… a bullet like thing and a couple of tubular thing
·       Apr 03 12:07 AM Kris: like a “dildo”
·       Apr 03 12:07 AM Sassy: and a rabbit keychain
·       Apr 03 12:08 AM Kris: i know what a rabbit is…but what’s a rabbit keychain?
·       Apr 03 12:08 AM Sassy: it’s like the rabbit only little with a metal loop for keys
·       Apr 03 12:08 AM Sassy: silly
·       Apr 03 12:08 AM Kris: do you have a rabbit?
·       Apr 03 12:08 AM Sassy: no
·       Apr 03 12:09 AM Sassy: I think if I were doing it again, I’d get a rabbit and one of those hitachi wand things. Or a Lelo
·       Apr 03 12:09 AM Kris: don’t know what any of those are…other than rabbit
·       Apr 03 12:11 AM
Sassy: Lelo link http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=GIGI-2

·       Apr 03 12:11 AM Kris: lol…i’ll check it out later…you’re funny!…but thanks…
·       Apr 03 12:12 AM Kris: do you think you’d actually find it fun to try some of those things?
·       Apr 03 12:12 AM Sassy: the wand is that big massager thing you can buy at any pharmacy
·       Apr 03 12:12 AM Sassy: I think so, with the right guy
·       Apr 03 12:12 AM Sassy: Have you played with them?
·       Apr 03 12:13 AM Kris: no…but i think it would be fun to try them out
·       Apr 03 12:13 AM Sassy: Yeah.
·       Apr 03 12:14 AM Sassy: Was thinking to put it between us maybe
·       Apr 03 12:14 AM Sassy: But I am mostly clueless
·       Apr 03 12:15 AM Kris: me too…so what we’d need to do is just get to a point where we were just comfortable playing and learning and finding out what worked and what didn’t…just “being comfortable” and “not too worried about it all” helps…
·       Apr 03 12:15 AM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 03 12:15 AM Sassy: try… talk about it…yes? No? higher? etc.
·       Apr 03 12:16 AM Sassy: try different ones… compare and contrast. Heh
·       Apr 03 12:16 AM Kris: right…
·       Apr 03 12:16 AM Sassy: You want them inside you?
·       Apr 03 12:16 AM Sassy: Find that p-spot?
·       Apr 03 12:16 AM Kris: not sure…never done that…yet
·       Apr 03 12:17 AM Sassy: I tried it once with my finger
·       Apr 03 12:17 AM Kris: how did it feel?
·       Apr 03 12:17 AM Sassy: while I was sucking on someone… reached lower
·       Apr 03 12:17 AM Sassy: pressed a finger inside him at the same pace
·       Apr 03 12:18 AM Kris: i could imagine that could feel good…just never did it
·       Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: Got to hear those immortal word
·       Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: “I’ve never cum so hard in my life”
·       Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy:  : ) 
·       Apr 03 12:18 AM Kris: that’s what the guy said?
·       Apr 03 12:18 AM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 03 12:19 AM Sassy: I had read about it… he let me try
·       Apr 03 12:20 AM Kris: ok…so now i’ve got a hard on…and when we’re finished chatting if i go look at my cock there will be a small flow of seminal fluid…and i don’t want to rush you…but I hope i get to fuck more than words on a screen someday…and not 3 months from now…
·       Apr 03 12:20 AM Sassy: I hear you
·       Apr 03 12:20 AM Sassy: I wonder if you will…
·       Apr 03 12:20 AM Kris: will what?
·       Apr 03 12:21 AM Sassy: Want me
·       Apr 03 12:21 AM Kris: why wouldn’t i?
·       Apr 03 12:21 AM Sassy: You haven’t wanted the others
·       Apr 03 12:21 AM Kris: i forget what i told you…remind me
·       Apr 03 12:21 AM Sassy: heh
·       Apr 03 12:22 AM Kris: what did i tell you…about not wanting others?
·       Apr 03 12:22 AM Sassy: You said you’ve been on AM  6 mos, met 3 women, no sex
·       Apr 03 12:22 AM Sassy: Makes me wonder if you’re a chaser
·       Apr 03 12:23 AM Kris: i would have had sex with 2 out of 3 of them…only 1 wanted me…the other 2 broke it off…not me…what’s a “chaser”?
·       Apr 03 12:23 AM Sassy: guys who get off on the chase but don’t close the deal
·       Apr 03 12:23 AM Sassy: due to guilt or whatever
·       Apr 03 12:24 AM Kris: well…there’s a quick and easy way to find out…
·       Apr 03 12:24 AM Sassy: life is so odd… you want 2 but they don’t, 1 wants you but you don’t?
·       Apr 03 12:25 AM Kris: ok…be a little patient…i’ll explain…but try not to “go on” too much…
·       Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: You don’t have to now… it’s okay
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·       Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: So meeting
·       Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: How do you see that?
·       Apr 03 12:25 AM Sassy: Weekday?  Weekend? Best time?
·       Apr 03 12:26 AM Kris: first…what is the meeting for?
·       Apr 03 12:26 AM Sassy: to see if there’s chemistry?
·       Apr 03 12:27 AM Sassy: a meal… talking… then if we want… steam up the windows of my car?
·       Apr 03 12:28 AM Kris: ok…the meal…talking…and if we want sex right then and there fine…but rather be in a bed someplace…at least for the first time.
·       Apr 03 12:28 AM Sassy: maybe say… not sex first time… kissing… touching…
·       Apr 03 12:28 AM Sassy: plan another meet soon?
·       Apr 03 12:30 AM Kris: Ok…a meal…lots of talking…and if we feel like kissing/touching maybe…but i have to admit something about kissing and touching…
·       Apr 03 12:30 AM Sassy: Yes?
·       Apr 03 12:31 AM Kris: i’m not very good at being “romantic” with things like kissing and touching that doesn’t lead to…or is just part of…sex all the way…
·       Apr 03 12:31 AM Kris: i can try to learn…but it’s just never been a big part of how i show affection…except playful hugging or very light kissing…
·        Apr 03 12:32 AM Kris: but when i’m having sex i love deep kissing
·       Apr 03 12:32 AM Sassy: what if the woman is a very good kisser? Like… better than anyone you’ve been with?
·       Apr 03 12:33 AM Kris: then i’ll want to fuck your brains out
·       Apr 03 12:33 AM Sassy: So were you thinking a meal and if that works… a hotel?
·       Apr 03 12:34 AM Kris: no…i was thinking a meal…and a big tease of anticipation…planning a hotel on the next meeting…if the chemistry is there on the first…but if you grab me and kiss me…that can be part of the tease…
·       Apr 03 12:35 AM Sassy: mmm
·       Apr 03 12:35 AM Kris: or maybe i’ll change my mind…after you give me that kiss like i’ve never had before…but i think if I have to wait for the second meeting that would be fun…and it wouldn’t have to be a long wait…just a second time…
·       Apr 03 12:36 AM Kris: what r u thinking…doesn’t have to be what i’m thinking…what do u what to do?
·       Apr 03 12:37 AM Sassy: Thinking
·       Apr 03 12:38 AM Sassy: I think we’re mostly thinking the same
·       Apr 03 12:38 AM Sassy: Worth a look
·       Apr 03 12:38 AM Sassy: talking
·       Apr 03 12:39 AM Kris: and?
·       Apr 03 12:39 AM Sassy: you’ll tell me if you want more
·       Apr 03 12:40 AM Kris: and if i do…you’re ready to go?
·       Apr 03 12:40 AM Sassy: If I feel it too
·       Apr 03 12:40 AM Kris: GOOD ANSWER!!!!!
·       Apr 03 12:41 AM Kris: ok…back to when/where, etc.
·       Apr 03 12:41 AM  Sassy: : )
·       Apr 03 12:44 AM Kris: you work 9 to what?…M-F?
·       Apr 03 12:44 AM Sassy: Yes. tomorrow night? Friday lunch? Monday?
·       Apr 03 12:45 AM Sassy: Thursday lunch?
·       Apr 03 12:46 AM Kris: I could do tomorrow night…a little later…but wouldn’t be able to do more than eat and talk…which would be ok…then we could do more if we felt it… on Friday…
·       Apr 03 12:47 AM Kris: or lunch on Friday with more time left for…maybe we’ll want to do more than talk…but i don’t want that experience “rushed”…especially the first time…
·       Apr 03 12:48 AM Sassy: I am off work Friday
·       Apr 03 12:48 AM Sassy: And Monday
·       Apr 03 12:49 AM Kris: i’m off Friday…just have to take delivery of my new bike at noon at the storage shed i’m hiding it from my wife in…could be an exciting day of “hiding things”…on Friday…
·       Apr 03 12:50 AM Sassy: Do you know this area at all?
·       Apr 03 12:51 AM Kris: generally…but i have a GPS in my car so if i have an address i’d be fine…
·        Apr 03 12:51 AM Kris: what restaurant do you like?
·       Apr 03 12:51 AM Sassy: When are we talking now?
·       Apr 03 12:51 AM Kris: 1:30-2:00
·       Apr 03 12:52 AM Sassy: Friday?
·       Apr 03 12:52 AM Kris: yes…but now that i think of it…better make it 2:00
·       Apr 03 12:53 AM Sassy: Okay
·       Apr 03 12:53 AM Kris: where…you choose a restaurant you really like…
·       Apr 03 12:55 AM Sassy: Could you deal with PF Chang’s?
·       Apr 03 12:55 AM Sassy: There’s one in the mall
·       Apr 03 12:55 AM Sassy: So easy parking underground
·       Apr 03 12:56 AM Kris: i assume it’s chinese food?
·       Apr 03 12:56 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 03 12:56 AM Kris: sounds good…sure…do you have an address…or i can just google it
·       Apr 03 12:57 AM Sassy: [detailed instructions]
·       Apr 03 1:01 AM Kris: i just googled it…i’ll find it…
·       Apr 03 1:01 AM Sassy: Let me give you a Sassy phone number
·       Apr 03 1:01 AM Sassy: in case
·       Apr 03 1:01 AM Kris: k
·       Apr 03 1:01 AM
Kris: here’s mine: [xxx-xxx-xxxx]
·       Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: [xxx-xxx-xxxx]
·       Apr 03 1:02 AM Kris: thanks!
·       Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: That’s a google voice number
·       Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: It will ask your name the first time you call
·       Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: then ask me to approve answering
·       Apr 03 1:02 AM Sassy: so connection takes a few seconds
·       Apr 03 1:03 AM Kris: k
·       Apr 03 1:03 AM Sassy: I think it shows are a CA number
·       Apr 03 1:04 AM Kris: k…but all i need to do is give my name…and wait…
·       Apr 03 1:04 AM Sassy: right
·       Apr 03 1:04 AM Sassy: can you test it now or no?
·       Apr 03 1:05 AM Kris: yes…doing it right now…can’t wait to hear your voice!  

 He called me and we talked for a few minutes.  He’s nice.  And he has a great voice.  🙂 


Second chat with Kris – PART I History

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

·       Apr 02 10:28 PM Kris: i’m here
·       Apr 02 10:29 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 02 10:29 PM Kris: Hi!
·       Apr 02 10:29 PM Kris: sorry it’s a little late…just came from the gym
·       Apr 02 10:29 PM Sassy: No worries. How are you this fine evening?
·       Apr 02 10:30 PM Kris: good!…you?
·       Apr 02 10:30 PM Sassy: Great! Did you think about my chest some more?
·       Apr 02 10:30 PM Kris: yes…stop teasing me
·       Apr 02 10:30 PM Kris: just kidding
·       Apr 02 10:31 PM Sassy: Do you think about touching me?
·       Apr 02 10:31 PM Kris: yes
·       Apr 02 10:31 PM Sassy: tasting me?
·       Apr 02 10:31 PM Kris: yes
·       Apr 02 10:31 PM Sassy: letting your cock get lost between them?
·       Apr 02 10:32 PM Kris: between what?
·       Apr 02 10:32 PM Sassy: my right breast and my left breast
·       Apr 02 10:32 PM Kris: yes…and a “variation” on that theme…
·       Apr 02 10:33 PM Sassy: what?
·       Apr 02 10:33 PM Kris: my balls between your breasts while you suck on my cock
·       Apr 02 10:34 PM Sassy: Mmmm… yum
·       Apr 02 10:35 PM Sassy: I like the way you think
·       Apr 02 10:35 PM Sassy: Where are you now?
·       Apr 02 10:35 PM Kris: at home
·       Apr 02 10:35 PM Sassy: be specific
·       Apr 02 10:36 PM Kris: i’m sitting in the tv room…my wife is sitting to my right…she just handed me her cell phone with a picture that made her laugh…it had a picture of bananas with a sign that said “boneless bananas: 69 cents”…
·       Apr 02 10:36 PM Sassy: Oh my.
·       Apr 02 10:37 PM Kris: what?
·       Apr 02 10:37 PM Sassy: She’s right there? Sassy waves!
·       Apr 02 10:37 PM Kris: yes…she right here
·       Apr 02 10:38 PM Kris: do you want me to tell you why i can do this…or do you know…i forget if i told you
·       Apr 02 10:38 PM Sassy: Do what?
·       Apr 02 10:38 PM Kris: sit right next to her and chat with you
·       Apr 02 10:38 PM Sassy: No… why?
·       Apr 02 10:39 PM Kris: she thinks i’m working…either teaching an online class or communicating with people at my full-time job…i’m on the computer all the time…and she trusts me completely…and so far has no reason not to…i’m hoping you’re going to change that soon…
·       Apr 02 10:40 PM Sassy: I adore it when you answer my question before i ask it. Description: )
·       Apr 02 10:40 PM Kris: what were you going to ask?
·       Apr 02 10:40 PM Sassy: What does she think you’re doing?
·       Apr 02 10:40 PM Kris: oh
·       Apr 02 10:40 PM Sassy: What do you have on?
·       Apr 02 10:41 PM Kris: don’t know…haven’t been paying attention…waith a minute…
·       Apr 02 10:42 PM Kris: chicago pd…just asked my wife if she’s watching it…she said “a little’…you can put something else on…
·       Apr 02 10:42 PM Kris: we both sit here side by side “in our own worlds” with the tv on…barely paying attention to it…
·       Apr 02 10:43 PM Kris: sounds thrillling doesn’t it…did i put you to sleep yet?
·       Apr 02 10:43 PM Sassy: No… I meant clothing. Hee!
·       Apr 02 10:43 PM Kris: omg…now i feel like an idiot
·       Apr 02 10:43 PM Kris: still want to know?
·       Apr 02 10:44 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 02 10:44 PM Sassy: trying to envision… “context” you
·       Apr 02 10:45 PM Kris: jeans, casual blue shirt, grey “hoodie” (same one under my leather jacket in my photos)…pretty much what i wear all day…even to meetings…because it makes them feel more comfortable and relaxed…when i’m in their homes…
·       Apr 02 10:45 PM Kris: what r u wearing?
·       Apr 02 10:46 PM Sassy: work clothes
·       Apr 02 10:46 PM Kris: describe
·       Apr 02 10:47 PM Sassy: black long shirt, dark blue slacks, silk scarf, white bra, neon blue undies, black sock and clogs!
·       Apr 02 10:47 PM Kris: sounds sexy/business casual…
·       Apr 02 10:48 PM Kris: i thought of a question today i wanted to ask you
·       Apr 02 10:48 PM Sassy: Ok
·       Apr 02 10:49 PM Kris: when you talked about the affair you had with the childhood boyfriend /military man…
·       Apr 02 10:49 PM Kris: you said “he made sure i had fun…which i’d never experienced before…”…or something along those lines…what did you mean?
·       Apr 02 10:52 PM Sassy: In my past men had their fun and didn’t pay much attention to me
·       Apr 02 10:52 PM Sassy: I played along, waited for it to be over
·       Apr 02 10:52 PM Kris: r u talking about sex?
·       Apr 02 10:52 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 02 10:53 PM Kris: NO man worked to see that you had pleasure during sex?
·       Apr 02 10:53 PM Sassy: nope
·       Apr 02 10:53 PM Kris: not even your husband…EVER?
·       Apr 02 10:53 PM Sassy: nope
·       Apr 02 10:53 PM Kris: omg
·       Apr 02 10:54 PM Sassy: I didn’t get what all the fuss was about, why women liked it
·       Apr 02 10:54 PM Kris: more than half my pleasure is seeing you get off…i can’t imagine it some other way
·       Apr 02 10:54 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 02 10:55 PM Sassy: Military man asked me what I wanted… I was like.. hunh?
·       Apr 02 10:55 PM Sassy: Pitiful
·       Apr 02 10:55 PM Kris: sorry…but that made me laugh
·       Apr 02 10:55 PM Kris: so how did he help you figure it out?
·       Apr 02 10:56 PM Sassy: He tried things, asked questions, paid a lot of attention to my reactions…
·       Apr 02 10:56 PM Sassy: He made me cum first thing… stunning
·       Apr 02 10:56 PM Kris: what do you mean “first thing”
·       Apr 02 10:57 PM Sassy: hotel door closes… big hug, serious kissing, then he dropped to his knees
·       Apr 02 10:57 PM Sassy: hottest moment of my life
·       Apr 02 10:57 PM Kris: licked your clit?
·       Apr 02 10:57 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 02 10:58 PM Sassy: fingers inside me…
·       Apr 02 10:58 PM Sassy: BOOM
·       Apr 02 10:58 PM Kris: you came…standing up?
·       Apr 02 10:58 PM Sassy: yup
·       Apr 02 10:58 PM Kris: then what?
·       Apr 02 10:58 PM Sassy: He stripped me and said nice things about my body
·       Apr 02 10:59 PM Sassy: I stared at him and thought… wow… I get to look at this beautiful man!
·       Apr 02 10:59 PM Sassy: Then it dawned on me
·       Apr 02 10:59 PM Sassy: I get to TOUCH this man!
·        Apr 02 11:00 PM Sassy: He apologized… said he had planned to go slow but he just HAD TO BE INSIDE ME!
·       Apr 02 11:00 PM Sassy: He’d been wanting to since he was 16…
·       Apr 02 11:00 PM Sassy: So there was some very hot, fast sex
·       Apr 02 11:01 PM Sassy: And I was like… mmm… I think I get what this is supposed to be like and I ADORE IT!
·       Apr 02 11:01 PM Kris: so nothing before was like that at all…not even a little?
·       Apr 02 11:02 PM Sassy: nope
·       Apr 02 11:03 PM Sassy: There was one guy I talked to on the phone in the very early days of the internet… lying on my bed… I was 34 yrs old
·       Apr 02 11:03 PM Sassy: Had not been on a date in 8 yrs
·       Apr 02 11:03 PM Sassy: This kid from Ontario got talking and I got this funny flushed feeling
·       Apr 02 11:04 PM Sassy: I went to look it up and the symptoms told me it was my first orgasm!
·       Apr 02 11:04 PM Kris: LOL…”symptoms”? …you make it sound like a disease
·       Apr 02 11:04 PM Sassy: So that guy has forever been “The O Man” in my mind
·       Apr 02 11:04 PM Sassy: For Ontario. Ahem.
·       Apr 02 11:05 PM Kris: were you touching yourself when you had that orgasm?
·       Apr 02 11:05 PM Sassy: No
·       Apr 02 11:06 PM Sassy: My imagination is very powerful
·       Apr 02 11:06 PM Kris: meaning?
·       Apr 02 11:06 PM Sassy: I can think about sexy things and my body reacts
·       Apr 02 11:07 PM Kris: to the point of orgasm?
·       Apr 02 11:07 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 11:07 PM Kris: be specific…what do you imagine?
·       Apr 02 11:07 PM Sassy: I run a whole scenario…
·       Apr 02 11:07 PM Sassy: imagine a man with me
·       Apr 02 11:07 PM Sassy: and what we’d do
·       Apr 02 11:08 PM Kris: here’s my chance to “be taught” what you like…keep going…tell me your fantasy
·       Apr 02 11:08 PM Sassy: How old were you when you first had sex?
·       Apr 02 11:08 PM Kris: 17
·       Apr 02 11:08 PM Kris: but started masturbating at 13
·       Apr 02 11:09 PM Sassy: Was it with someone you were dating?
·       Apr 02 11:10 PM Kris: it was one of my best friend’s “fuck buddy/girlfriends”…he knew I was a virgin and he asked her to fuck me…want more of the details?
·       Apr 02 11:11 PM Sassy: Sure! Was it good?
·       Apr 02 11:11 PM Kris: not the first time…but later it became unbelievable…i ended up marrying her…my first wife…
·       Apr 02 11:14 PM Sassy: So you had only been with her when you married?
·       Apr 02 11:14 PM
Kris: my first wife taught me pretty much everything i know about sex…she was “insatiable”…(and completely unfaithful for all two years of our short marriage)…i don’t think i’ll ever get fucked the way my first wife fucked me…but then i was only 17 and she was 15…but she knew how to do it…and did it all the time…with lots of men…even when we were married…i didn’t find out about lots of them until after we were divorced…some were close friends…and that pissed me off a little…sorry…dribbling on here
·       Apr 02 11:15 PM Kris: no…i fucked other girls/women besides her before we married
·       Apr 02 11:15 PM Sassy: Interesting!
·       Apr 02 11:15 PM Kris: in what way?
·       Apr 02 11:15 PM Sassy: Never heard a story quite like yours
·       Apr 02 11:16 PM Sassy: Did she settle down?
·       Apr 02 11:16 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 02 11:16 PM Sassy: Get married again, have kids, be mundane?
·       Apr 02 11:17 PM Kris: i got her pregnant when she was 16…
·       Apr 02 11:17 PM Kris: i was 18…
·       Apr 02 11:17 PM Kris: her father wanted to have me arrested for statutory rape because i was a legal adult and she was a minor…
·       Apr 02 11:17 PM Kris: it was before Roe v. Wade and abortion was still illegal in the U.S.
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: her parents were very rich
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: so they flew her to London where abortion was legal
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: and aborted the baby.
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: it was a boy
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: then after that
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: her parents wanted to get rid of her
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: so they let us get married
·       Apr 02 11:18 PM Kris: and we moved out West
·       Apr 02 11:19 PM Kris: 2 years later she got pregnant again
·       Apr 02 11:19 PM Kris: she wanted to abort it
·       Apr 02 11:19 PM Kris: i said no
·       Apr 02 11:19 PM Kris: that’s my oldest daughter…who is in her 40s
·       Apr 02 11:19 PM Kris: i’ll stop now…your turn
·       Apr 02 11:20 PM Kris: sex was always her “drug of choice”…
·       Apr 02 11:20 PM Kris: she married again…several times…but never really “settled down”
·       Apr 02 11:21 PM Kris: she died of an overdose of prescription drugs and alcohol when she was in her 40s
·       Apr 02 11:21 PM Sassy: Wow
·       Apr 02 11:21 PM Kris: sorry…i kept going…your turn
·       Apr 02 11:21 PM Sassy: Please don’t be sorry…
·       Apr 02 11:21 PM Kris: ok…don’t want to do all the talking…want to listen too…
 TO BE CONTINUED!  

First Chat with Kris

Tuesday April 1, 2014

·       Apr 01 2:56 PM Sassy: Hiya
·       Apr 01 2:56 PM Kris: Hi!…that was fast!
·       Apr 01 2:57 PM Sassy: Thanks for your email!
·       Apr 01 2:57 PM Sassy: I didn’t get your message at yahoo, so I thought I’d try this.
·       Apr 01 2:57 PM Kris: because i sent it to the wrong email address…just resent it to the correct one
·       Apr 01 2:59 PM Sassy: I got it!
·       Apr 01 3:00 PM Kris: well…we’re already “doing it” (chatting that is)…wink…
·       Apr 01 3:00 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 01 3:00 PM Sassy: I hope the first message didn’t go to a nun in Peoria…
·       Apr 01 3:01 PM Kris: LOL….can I “fast track” this just a little to tell you a little about myself?
·       Apr 01 3:01 PM Sassy: Sure! Or do you want to wait until tonight? I can be around after 8…
·       Apr 01 3:03 PM Kris: ok…let’s do tonight…just one thing about myself (hope this doesn’t turn you off)….my full-time job is a therapist…..i do a lot of “in home therapy”….working with families in their homes…i have a session in 25 minutes….sitting in my car on my laptop….can we chat after 8:00 tonight?
·       Apr 01 3:03 PM Sassy: Ha! I guessed something like that… you were holding a book in one of the photos.
·       Apr 01 3:04 PM Sassy: Sounds good. Ping me tonight?
·       Apr 01 3:04 PM Kris: Later… 

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·       Apr 01 8:07 PM Kris: Hi
·       Apr 01 8:07 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 01 8:07 PM Kris: surprised you’re still talking to me
·       Apr 01 8:08 PM Sassy: Awww… why?
·       Apr 01 8:08 PM Kris: read my email…with my “crazy past” i talked about?
·       Apr 01 8:08 PM Sassy: Sounds like you’ve got some great stories.
·       Apr 01 8:08 PM Kris: ok…so you’re not freaked out?
·       Apr 01 8:09 PM Sassy: Nope.
·       Apr 01 8:09 PM Kris: ok
·       Apr 01 8:09 PM Kris: how late do u usually stay up?
·       Apr 01 8:09 PM Sassy: Midnight or so… you?
·       Apr 01 8:09 PM Kris: about the same….
·       Apr 01 8:10 PM Kris: reason i ask….
·       Apr 01 8:10 PM Kris: i’m either going to chat now with you and then workout at the gym…
·       Apr 01 8:10 PM Kris: or workout first and talk to you later….if you’d be up
·       Apr 01 8:10 PM Sassy: Either way is fine.
·       Apr 01 8:11 PM Kris: would 10:30 be too late….or i could cut my workout short…I REALLY want to chat with you
·       Apr 01 8:11 PM Sassy: I may have to go out for a few minutes around 10ish, not sure
·       Apr 01 8:11 PM Sassy: 10:30 is fine. If I end up going up, I’ll leave a note here.
·       Apr 01 8:12 PM Sassy: Catch up when I get back.
·       Apr 01 8:12 PM Kris: k…..i’ll check back….10:30 at the latest…..
·       Apr 01 8:13 PM Sassy: Don’t think about my chest.  ; ) 
·       Apr 01 8:13 PM Kris: OMG

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·       Apr 01 10:22 PM Kris: Hi
·       Apr 01 10:22 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 01 10:23 PM Kris: did u already step out?
·       Apr 01 10:23 PM Sassy: no.
·       Apr 01 10:23 PM Kris: need to?
·       Apr 01 10:23 PM Sassy: don’t know. Waiting for Hubby to call… or he may get a ride.
·       Apr 01 10:24 PM Kris: may need to pick him up?
·       Apr 01 10:24 PM Sassy: Yup
·       Apr 01 10:24 PM Kris: when he gets home do you have to stop chatting?
·       Apr 01 10:24 PM Sassy: No
·       Apr 01 10:24 PM Kris: you messed up my workout
·       Apr 01 10:25 PM Sassy: Oh?
·       Apr 01 10:25 PM Kris: i couldn’t stop thinking about imaginary boobs i was told not to think about
·       Apr 01 10:25 PM
Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 01 10:26 PM Kris: truthfully…i love big breasts
·       Apr 01 10:26 PM Sassy: Shall I send a photo and really mess with you?
·       Apr 01 10:26 PM Sassy: Or you want to wait…
·       Apr 01 10:27 PM Kris: just of your face….and if i’m going to wait….does that mean we have a future…..you’re a combination of relaxed and “let’s get on with it”…
·       Apr 01 10:27 PM Kris: which i like and makes me laugh…and a little impatient and curious all at the same time
·       Apr 01 10:28 PM Sassy: I am not an email queen, but I like to know a little bit first.
·       Apr 01 10:29 PM Kris: ok….let’s get on with what you need to know….because at a minimum i’m dying to treat you to dinner…if nothing else….ask away…
·       Apr 01 10:31 PM Sassy: Crap. Hubby just called. Argh! Can we re-start about 11 pm?
·       Apr 01 10:31 PM Kris: yup….later
·       Apr 01 10:32 PM Sassy: I’ll send two photos, since you were so good to post five on AM!
·       Apr 01 10:32 PM Kris: k
·       Apr 01 10:34 PM Sassy: If you’re still interested, I’ll ping you when I get back.
·       Apr 01 10:35 PM Kris: i’ll be here…definitely
·       Apr 01 10:35 PM Sassy: Back soon!

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·       Apr 01 11:04 PM Sassy: I’m baaaack!
·       Apr 01 11:04 PM Sassy: You still talking to me?
·       Apr 01 11:05 PM Kris: Hi, Yes—definitely… you’re pretty and your breasts…..well…..i’d just want to get lost in them in a number of ways….some of which you’ve instructed me about…. : )
·       Apr 01 11:06 PM Sassy: Ha ha… Alright!
·       Apr 01 11:07 PM Kris: So i know that everything has to happen in it’s own time….but…..
·       Apr 01 11:07 PM Kris: i appreciate that you said you’re not an email queen….
·       Apr 01 11:07 PM Sassy: I know guys worry about that.
·       Apr 01 11:08 PM Kris: i chatted for hours on end with a woman for 3 months…we had lunch…she said she wanted to be my lover…..then suddenly broke it off…..???????????
·       Apr 01 11:08 PM Sassy: Oh no! I’m sorry.
·       Apr 01 11:09 PM Kris: u don’t seem like you need 3 months of chatting….do u?
·       Apr 01 11:09 PM Sassy: Nope
·       Apr 01 11:09 PM Kris: so not to be impatient…but what are you curious about?
·       Apr 01 11:10 PM Sassy: I don’t have a specific list of questions
·       Apr 01 11:10 PM Sassy: Just want to get to know you a bit
·       Apr 01 11:11 PM Kris: ok…so a random question or two….
·       Apr 01 11:11 PM Sassy: I did want to say that I don’t drink alcohol. I’m allergic
·       Apr 01 11:12 PM Kris: really? never heard of that before! wish I was….would have saved me and a lot of other people a lot of pain (bad joke)
·       Apr 01 11:12 PM Sassy: I hear ya
·       Apr 01 11:13 PM Kris: ok…so i have some serious questions…some of which have pissed some women off….ready?
·       Apr 01 11:13 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 01 11:14 PM Kris: the two things that seem to bug me the most are “What exactly is the nature of what we’re doing?” Does this woman want more than one lover at a time…or just one at a time…and can I trust her to tell me the truth?…that’s the first one… and the second one is….
·       Apr 01 11:14 PM Kris: STDs
·       Apr 01 11:16 PM  Sassy: Interesting questions.
·       Apr 01 11:17 PM Kris: care to comment further?
·       Apr 01 11:17 PM Sassy: Thinking…
·       Apr 01 11:18 PM Sassy: Do you want a woman seeing only you?
·       Apr 01 11:19 PM Sassy: Had advantages in terms of safety but heightens the attachment risk
·       Apr 01 11:20 PM Kris: not necessarily…but if she’s not…that immediately raises the issue of STDs…i can handle a woman who wants to see more than me….but the issue of STDs is real….and needs to addressed responsibly….
·       Apr 01 11:20 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 01 11:20 PM Sassy: exclusivity lowers the STD risk but raises the risk of emotional intensity if she is focused on you
·       Apr 01 11:22 PM Sassy: For the record, I like to stick to one guy.
·       Apr 01 11:22 PM Sassy: I want someone I like
·       Apr 01 11:22 PM Sassy: and I’d prefer to stay off AM for a while
·       Apr 01 11:23 PM Kris: why would you like to stay off AM for a while?
·       Apr 01 11:23 PM Sassy: Prowling is tough
·       Apr 01 11:23 PM Sassy: nerve-wracking
·       Apr 01 11:23 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 01 11:23 PM Kris: in what way?
·       Apr 01 11:25 PM Sassy: Trying to figure out if the guy is a creep or nice, trying to convince him I’m nice… putting a lot in and then silence… it’s a roller coaster
·       Apr 01 11:25 PM Kris: ok…here’s the thing…
·       Apr 01 11:25 PM Kris: you ARE nice….
·       Apr 01 11:26 PM Kris: but you may not want to get “too serious”…which is fine
·       Apr 01 11:26 PM Kris: so you may want to have a few lovers at once…
·       Apr 01 11:26 PM Kris: to “spread the emotional intensity around” a little…as you put it (never thought of it that way before)
·       Apr 01 11:26 PM Sassy: Yes.
·       Apr 01 11:27 PM Sassy: I get that by having online pals far away
·       Apr 01 11:27 PM Kris: meaning you have erotic chatting and so forth?
·       Apr 01 11:28 PM Sassy: Sometimes
·       Apr 01 11:28 PM Kris: but not physical lovers at the same time?….i’m not judging….i can handle it….it’s just that…..here’s the thing……
·       Apr 01 11:29 PM Kris: if we’re going to lie to our spouses….why wouldn’t we lie to the people we’re cheating on them with too?…it bugs me….
·       Apr 01 11:29 PM Sassy: I don’t lie to my spouse.
·       Apr 01 11:29 PM Kris: does your husband know you’re having sex with other men?
·       Apr 01 11:29 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 01 11:30 PM Kris: oh…my wife doesn’t and i can’t let her…
·       Apr 01 11:30 PM Sassy: Of course
·       Apr 01 11:30 PM Sassy: My situation is very rare
·       Apr 01 11:30 PM Kris: which is?
·       Apr 01 11:30 PM Sassy: That I don’t have to hide from H
·       Apr 01 11:31 PM Sassy: He does his thing and I do mine
·       Apr 01 11:31 PM Sassy: I don’t share details
·       Apr 01 11:31 PM Sassy: He doesn’t know names etc.
·       Apr 01 11:31 PM Kris: does he have lovers too?
·       Apr 01 11:31 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 01 11:31 PM Sassy: He is usually dating a couple of women at a time
·       Apr 01 11:32 PM Kris: is that your real preference also?
·       Apr 01 11:32 PM Sassy: No. I find having one local man is enough
·       Apr 01 11:33 PM Sassy: But I am not possessive
·       Apr 01 11:33 PM Sassy: or jealous
·       Apr 01 11:33 PM Sassy: If you are nice to me, see me now and then, I don’t think about what you do otherwise
·       Apr 01 11:33 PM Sassy: As long as you are safe
·       Apr 01 11:34 PM Sassy: If you are just starting out, you may want to play the field, yes?
·       Apr 01 11:34 PM Kris: that’s the thing…i can wear a condom but if i go down on any woman i can contract an std….unless i used an “oral dam”…which would completely ruin the fun of it….
·       Apr 01 11:35 PM Kris: no…i don’t want to play the field….don’t have the time or emotional energy…not that big a “player”….
·       Apr 01 11:35 PM Sassy: As for truth… it is best
·       Apr 01 11:35 PM Sassy: I can be “the one you talk to”
·       Apr 01 11:36 PM Sassy: you can relax… not filter… be yourself
·       Apr 01 11:36 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 01 11:36 PM Kris: by truth is best?
·       Apr 01 11:36 PM Kris: i think leaving some things unsaid is best sometimes…like the arrangement you have with your husband.
·       Apr 01 11:36 PM Sassy: You have to lie to your wife, but there is no reason to lie to me
·       Apr 01 11:37 PM Sassy: Sure… omit if you like
·       Apr 01 11:37 PM Kris: you’re too nice
·       Apr 01 11:37 PM Sassy: Heh
·       Apr 01 11:37 PM Sassy: But you don’t have to waste mental energy wondering what you can say or not say, if you’ll offend me…
·       Apr 01 11:38 PM Sassy: Just tell me you are not a Yankees fan
·       Apr 01 11:38 PM Kris: LOL
·       Apr 01 11:40 PM Sassy: Did I answer your questions?
·       Apr 01 11:41 PM Kris: yes…having trouble with my keyboard…sorry for the delay….you didn’t even scold me for asking a question twice…most women get “highly pissed off”….like
·       Apr 01 11:42 PM Kris: like…”how dare you insinuate i’m not telling the truth”…instead of just answering the question….which you did…..that’s why you’re too nice (but I like you for it)
·       Apr 01 11:42 PM Sassy: My impression, is that most men do not tell the truth
·       Apr 01 11:43 PM Sassy: I try not to bet my life on it
·       Apr 01 11:43 PM Sassy: But at a certain point…
·       Apr 01 11:43 PM Sassy: I have to get over that and have fun.
·       Apr 01 11:44 PM Kris: remember when you asked me what fantasies i had?
·       Apr 01 11:44 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 01 11:44 PM Kris: i thought of one that isn’t directly about sex…but about a “kind of lover”…
·       Apr 01 11:44 PM Kris: you already told me you could be it….
·       Apr 01 11:45 PM Kris: know what it is?
·       Apr 01 11:45 PM Sassy:  What?
·       Apr 01 11:45 PM Kris: someone i could actually tell the truth to…who wouldn’t freak out and could handle it…. hard to find….
·       Apr 01 11:46 PM Sassy: Are you the same?
·       Apr 01 11:46 PM Kris: doesn’t mean I want to “unload crap” on someone…but just to not have to hide and work so hard at “editing” all the time…
·       Apr 01 11:46 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 01 11:46 PM Sassy: Will I freak you out?
·       Apr 01 11:47 PM Kris: i highly doubt it…but i’d like to see you try….remember….i’ve “seen a few things” in my day…..try me…
·       Apr 01 11:47 PM Sassy: How did you find AM?
·       Apr 01 11:48 PM Kris: i can’t remember…probably through a porn site…
·       Apr 01 11:48 PM Kris: you?
·       Apr 01 11:49 PM Sassy: I found a sexy blog written by a man about his AM adventures
·       Apr 01 11:49 PM Kris: so how long have you been on AM?
·       Apr 01 11:50 PM Sassy: Let me back up a little further
·       Apr 01 11:50 PM Kris: k
·       Apr 01 11:50 PM Sassy: In August 2010 I got email from the first boy who ever kissed me.
·       Apr 01 11:51 PM Sassy: We dated for 3 weeks when I was 14 and he was 16, which amounted to sitting together at lunch and kissing in the choir room at church
·       Apr 01 11:51 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 01 11:51 PM Sassy: He broke up with me and I was crushed.
 Apr 01 11:52 PM Sassy: So 37 years later he writes to me
·       Apr 01 11:52 PM Sassy: I remember his name and that he broke my heart.
·       Apr 01 11:52 PM Sassy: Not much else.
·       Apr 01 11:52 PM Kris: this is a great story…keep going..
·       Apr 01 11:53 PM Sassy: He apologizes, says he has thought of me over the years whenever he um… well… you know, was alone… and he’s never felt the chemistry we had and he wants to see if it still burns
·       Apr 01 11:54 PM Sassy: I’ve never cheated. He’s never cheated. I am not 14 anymore.
·       Apr 01 11:54 PM Kris: this was only 4 years ago?
·       Apr 01 11:54 PM Sassy: I figure we’ll talk, it will be fun… he will never touch a curvy old married lady
·       Apr 01 11:55 PM Sassy: He tells me stories about that sassy teenager…
·       Apr 01 11:55 PM Sassy: our first kiss
·       Apr 01 11:56 PM Sassy: invites me to D.C. to have dinner and see what happens
·       Apr 01 11:56 PM Sassy: I tell Hubby in that “can you believe this?” way
·       Apr 01 11:56 PM Sassy: and he says, “Go… have fun.”
·       Apr 01 11:57 PM Sassy: So I did.
·       Apr 01 11:58 PM Sassy: He surprised me. He wanted me.
·       Apr 01 11:58 PM Kris: ah…the crux of it all… being wanted..
·       Apr 01 11:58 PM Sassy: The chemistry was nuclear.
·       Apr 01 11:59 PM Sassy: And he made sure I had fun… which no man had ever done.
·       Apr 01 11:59 PM Kris: how did he make sure you had fun?
·       Apr 01 11:59 PM Kris: you can tell me at the end of the story…keep going…
·       Apr 01 11:59 PM Sassy: So… he’s military. Miles away.  Married.
·       Apr 02 12:01 AM Sassy: Lots of emotion.
·       Apr 02 12:01 AM Sassy: So eventually he says, “You need a local option.”
·       Apr 02 12:02 AM Sassy: I cannot imagine being a success at online dating.
·       Apr 02 12:02 AM Sassy: But I have a lot of friends on AM
·       Apr 02 12:02 AM Sassy: I’ve even helped them with their profiles
·       Apr 02 12:02 AM Sassy: But I am sure no man will want me… old, curvy…
 Apr 02 12:03 AM Kris: you underestimate how much most men “think with another head”…
·       Apr 02 12:04 AM Sassy: So one rainy night in Sept. 2012, when both Hubby and my military man have forgotten my birthday, a woman friend online tells me to go on AM
·       Apr 02 12:04 AM Kris: sorry….keep going….
·       Apr 02 12:04 AM Sassy: Make a profile. Enjoy the attention
·       Apr 02 12:04 AM Sassy: I bet her that no one will contact me
·       Apr 02 12:05 AM Sassy: She takes the bet and helps me write a profile, then calls in a couple guys she has dated to fine tune it and I posted it
·       Apr 02 12:05 AM Sassy: So I’ve been on and off since then
·       Apr 02 12:06 AM Sassy: Sorry for the long answer!
·       Apr 02 12:06 AM Kris: no…i like it….so how many lovers besides your military man have you had in the past 2 years?
·       Apr 02 12:06 AM Sassy: How long have you been on AM?
·       Apr 02 12:07 AM Kris: about 6 months
·       Apr 02 12:08 AM Sassy: Have you met anyone?
·       Apr 02 12:08 AM Kris: yes….had several dates with 3 different women…no sex with any though….
·       Apr 02 12:10 AM Kris: lunches…dinners…even treated one to the Boston Holiday Pops Concert at Symphony Hall….then dinner after….she wanted to be my lover….but wasn’t really my type…..couldn’t do it….
·       Apr 02 12:11 AM Kris: the “chemistry/connection” thing…besides just “sex”…it’s all kind of hard to figure out…..you?
·       Apr 02 12:13 AM Sassy: I’ve talked to a couple dozen guys…
·       Apr 02 12:13 AM Kris: how many lovers you’ve had really isn’t important…just curious…as you described some “encounters” with some men…
·       Apr 02 12:13 AM Sassy: met 16
·       Apr 02 12:14 AM Kris: that you’ve had sex with?
·       Apr 02 12:14 AM Sassy: nooo
·       Apr 02 12:14 AM Sassy: about half of them.
·       Apr 02 12:14 AM Sassy: I went a bit nuts when I first started
·       Apr 02 12:15 AM Sassy: But I got attacked in July
·       Apr 02 12:15 AM Kris: i appreciate you telling me the truth about this…since you don’t really have to…..but are…..
·       Apr 02 12:16 AM Kris: attacked????????
·       Apr 02 12:16 AM Sassy: Yeah
·       Apr 02 12:16 AM Kris: what happened?
·       Apr 02 12:16 AM Sassy: Law of averages caught up with me I suppose
·       Apr 02 12:16 AM Kris: do you mind telling me what happened?
 Apr 02 12:17 AM Sassy: Guy was very rough
·       Apr 02 12:17 AM Sassy: Started with a vibrator
·       Apr 02 12:18 AM Kris: innocent enough…then what?
·       Apr 02 12:18 AM Sassy: he was very violent with it, made me bleed
·       Apr 02 12:18 AM Kris: OMG!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 02 12:18 AM Sassy: I protested, so he got even rougher with his hands
·       Apr 02 12:19 AM Sassy: I started to try to get away
·       Apr 02 12:19 AM Sassy: so he kind of… sat on me
·       Apr 02 12:19 AM Sassy: bit me. I told him it was not my thing.  To stop.
·       Apr 02 12:20 AM Sassy: then he raped me
·       Apr 02 12:20 AM Kris: omg… i’m so sorry…..
·       Apr 02 12:21 AM Kris: r u ok right now?
·       Apr 02 12:21 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 12:21 AM Sassy: I had good people to talk to
·       Apr 02 12:21 AM Kris: how long ago was that
·       Apr 02 12:22 AM Sassy: July
·       Apr 02 12:22 AM Sassy: I’ve only been with one man since then
·       Apr 02 12:23 AM Sassy: I finally decided that jerk was not going to keep me on the shelf
·       Apr 02 12:23 AM Kris: i was going to ask how you managed to get back on AM after that
·       Apr 02 12:23 AM Sassy: I changed the way I interact
·       Apr 02 12:23 AM Kris: how?
·       Apr 02 12:24 AM Sassy: No private first meets
·       Apr 02 12:24 AM Sassy: and take a little more time talking to the guy first
·       Apr 02 12:24 AM Kris: so you had sex with men the first time you met them in person–after just meeting them a little through AM?
·       Apr 02 12:25 AM Sassy: At first I did
·       Apr 02 12:25 AM Kris: can i go back to before all this a little….and ask about your marriage?
·       Apr 02 12:25 AM Sassy: Sure.
·       Apr 02 12:25 AM Sassy: Sorry… I usually try to stay light and fun
Apr 02 12:26 AM Sassy: Not lay out all this first night out!
·       Apr 02 12:26 AM Kris: is this the first night out?
·       Apr 02 12:27 AM Sassy: Well… you know, the first time we’ve talked
·       Apr 02 12:27 AM Kris: gotcha….
·       Apr 02 12:27 AM Sassy: But it seems to be the answer to what you’re asking
·       Apr 02 12:27 AM Sassy: You were going to ask something when I started talking about July?
·       Apr 02 12:28 AM Sassy: i appreciate you telling me the truth about this…since you don’t really have to…but are…..
·       Apr 02 12:28 AM Kris: i appreciate everything you’ve told me…..lots of women won’t do that….for me it “connects me” with you….in ways “just fun” can’t…back to my other question…
·       Apr 02 12:29 AM Sassy: marriage?
·       Apr 02 12:29 AM Kris: if at any point you don’t want to answer a question…or want to change the subject…please tell me…yes…marriage….
·       Apr 02 12:29 AM Kris: why did you stop having sex with your husband?
·       Apr 02 12:30 AM Sassy: He told me I was not attractive anymore and pushed me away
·       Apr 02 12:30 AM Kris: ouch…how sad…how long ago was that?
·       Apr 02 12:30 AM Sassy: 1999
·       Apr 02 12:30 AM Kris: did he start having affairs with other women?
·       Apr 02 12:31 AM Sassy: no. not until about… hmmm…let’s see… Feb. 2013
·       Apr 02 12:31 AM Kris: how do you know…did he tell you?
·       Apr 02 12:31 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 12:31 AM Kris: did you tell him about yours?
·       Apr 02 12:31 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 02 12:32 AM Sassy: He wanted to start while I was ill but I asked him not to
·       Apr 02 12:32 AM Sassy: He went on OKCupid anyway
·       Apr 02 12:32 AM Kris: that’s so different from my experience…have a hard time imagining it…my wife would divorce me and I don’t think i would want to live with her.
·       Apr 02 12:33 AM Kris: speaking of you being ill…
·       Apr 02 12:33 AM Kris: i wanted to say i’m glad you beat cancer.
·       Apr 02 12:33 AM Sassy: Thanks!
·       Apr 02 12:33 AM Sassy: I was very lucky
·       Apr 02 12:33 AM Kris: how so?
 Apr 02 12:33 AM Sassy: I was rather random about mammograms
·       Apr 02 12:33 AM Sassy: no cancer in my family, they hurt etc.
·       Apr 02 12:34 AM Sassy: So I tended to let them go
·       Apr 02 12:34 AM Sassy: Old flame got on me about it
·       Apr 02 12:34 AM Sassy: Talked me into catching up
·       Apr 02 12:34 AM Sassy: At exactly the right moment to catch a tiny tumor
·       Apr 02 12:35 AM Sassy: So… caught it early, had access to MGH Women’s Cancer team
·       Apr 02 12:35 AM Sassy: was able to work the entire time except surgery days or chemo day
·       Apr 02 12:36 AM Kris: so is it completely gone?
·       Apr 02 12:36 AM Sassy: Yup
·       Apr 02 12:36 AM Kris: GREAT!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 02 12:36 AM Sassy: Yep
·       Apr 02 12:37 AM Sassy: I try hard not be about that…
·       Apr 02 12:37 AM Sassy: went to the doctor a lot, over it… moving on
·       Apr 02 12:37 AM Sassy: don’t wear any pink. : ) 
·       Apr 02 12:38 AM Kris: Besides keeping you here…it would seem from one of the pictures you sent some “great assets” have been preserved…mind if i change the subject to your sexy emails/messages to me?
·       Apr 02 12:38 AM Sassy: I fought hard for those… get to show them off in a demure way, right?
·       Apr 02 12:39 AM Kris: right!
·       Apr 02 12:39 AM Sassy: Sure —emails. what?
·       Apr 02 12:40 AM Kris: i liked your descriptions of what you’d like and want during sex…besides just turning me on…..it’s part of what i’m hoping for…the “teaching me”….”i’ll teach you” part of communicating what you like and want….turns me on….just FYI…..smile
·       Apr 02 12:40 AM Sassy: Trying to make sure you know my style…
·       Apr 02 12:41 AM Kris: it helps…sounds like you like a variety of things…and depends on your mood of the moment too…is that right?
·       Apr 02 12:41 AM Sassy: that I don’t waste your time if you’re looking for something else
·       Apr 02 12:41 AM Sassy: Yes.
·       Apr 02 12:42 AM Sassy: Seems like a lot of men are used to wives who want the same thing, in the dark, quick
·       Apr 02 12:42 AM Sassy: I am not that
·       Apr 02 12:43 AM Kris: ok…here’s that “can i talk to you” part…about sex with my wife…don’t have to though…but about why it will be different….
·       Apr 02 12:43 AM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 02 12:44 AM Kris: first…does it bother you that i still have sex regularly with my wife?
 Apr 02 12:44 AM Sassy: no
·       Apr 02 12:44 AM Kris: and actually…it’s not “bad”
·       Apr 02 12:44 AM Kris: but it is pretty much “the same”
·       Apr 02 12:45 AM Sassy: Are you hitting the “if I am ever going to get to try other stuff, I need to do it now” point?
·       Apr 02 12:45 AM Kris: no….actually it’s not about trying other stuff…it’s more about “with someone different”…let me tell you a little more about what i mean.
·       Apr 02 12:45 AM Sassy: ok
·       Apr 02 12:46 AM Kris: remember i said i had a 3 month chatting relationship with a woman?
·       Apr 02 12:46 AM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 02 12:46 AM Kris: she kept insisting….
·       Apr 02 12:47 AM Kris: that everything we might do had to be completely different than what i did with my wife…as if it were some kind of “competition” for “good sex” or something….
·       Apr 02 12:48 AM Kris: I kept trying to tell her….
·       Apr 02 12:48 AM Kris: the MAIN thing that will be different is YOU…
·       Apr 02 12:49 AM Kris: she didn’t get it….
·       Apr 02 12:49 AM Kris: “technique” is all well and good…
·       Apr 02 12:50 AM Sassy: Trying to fathom… so not what I am like
·       Apr 02 12:51 AM Kris: but it’s about the person too…their passion…personality…all of it/you.
·       Apr 02 12:51 AM Sassy: I want you to have a confidante
·       Apr 02 12:51 AM Sassy: I want you to feel good
·       Apr 02 12:51 AM Sassy: Passion
·       Apr 02 12:52 AM Sassy: Pleasure
·       Apr 02 12:52 AM Sassy: Fun
·       Apr 02 12:52 AM Sassy: Laughs
·       Apr 02 12:52 AM Sassy: I want you not to get caught
·       Apr 02 12:52 AM Sassy: Other than that… can’t imagine imposing rules or competing or controlling much.
·       Apr 02 12:53 AM Kris: ok… pretty much nailed it….sorry for getting “too heavy”….i really want to have fun too.
·       Apr 02 12:54 AM Sassy: So are you a Yankees fan?
·       Apr 02 12:54 AM Kris: LOL…no…but
·       Apr 02 12:55 AM Kris: i’m not a big baseball fan in general…like football better…
·       Apr 02 12:55 AM Sassy: S’okay
·       Apr 02 12:55 AM Kris: lol
Apr 02 12:55 AM Sassy: Should I let you get to bed?
·       Apr 02 12:56 AM Kris: i’m ok…but it makes sense to go
·       Apr 02 12:56 AM Sassy: Freaked out yet?
·       Apr 02 12:57 AM Kris: no….appreciate your honesty…frankness…humor…pretty face….and big tits (sorry)
·       Apr 02 12:58 AM Sassy: Ha ha
·       Apr 02 12:58 AM Kris: nite…hope to talk to you again soon.
·       Apr 02 12:59 AM Sassy: Want to try tomorrow night?
·       Apr 02 12:59 AM Kris: yes…hold on so i can tell you about when….
·       Apr 02 1:01 AM Kris: realistically…i have a late session…then to the gym after…is 10:00 too late?
·       Apr 02 1:01 AM Sassy: Nope. Fine.
·       Apr 02 1:01 AM Kris: what time do you have to be at work?
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Sassy: 9 am. You?
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Kris: hope you get enough sleep tonite.
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM
Kris: same…9
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Sassy: I’ll be fine
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Kris: k….nite
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Sassy: Mwah!
·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Sassy: Sweet sexy dreams!

·       Apr 02 1:02 AM Kris: same to you!


Getting to know Kris

Tuesday, April 1, 2014
From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Apr 1, 2014 8:55 AM
Message: 
Hi Sassy (is “Sassy” really your name?),
What I’d like to do even more than email is IM/chat with you.  My Yahoo Messenger IM username is:  amfreespirit77.  If you don’t have Yahoo Messenger it’s a free download.  It would let us get to know each other with more immediate “give and take.”  Everyone has different “levels of comfort” and “speeds of getting to know someone.”  Eventually–I like to meet personally–preferably for lunch or dinner where we have a few hours of time to get to know each other.  Let me know your comfort level.  If you’re available to IM/chat—I have some time tonight after 8:00pm—if you’d like to and are free then.  Looking forward to getting to know you….[his first name].
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Apr 1, 2014 9:33 AM
Subject: A connection
Hiya Kris, 
It will be great to talk to you in real time!  And get away from AM!  I don’t like them taking your money!  
Thanks again for your long note!  It is so fun learning about you.  I’m not usually so verbose, but your initial message inspired me to use up every single letter of AM’s 2000 character limit!  And to move along quickly… not be coy and make you write 65 messages before we get to what matters! 
Wow!   You have moved around.  Want to say why?  I feel downright stationary having lived in only two places since I left college.  
Glad to know you have a cat, so I know you’re not allergic.  
Are you a newbie to affairs?  Doesn’t matter either way, just curious.  
So glad you can cover your tracks.  The last thing either of us needs is your angry wife making our lives hell.  
Thank you very much for your frank answer about your fantasy!  The demure lady side of me balks at saying so, but Sassy screams I REALLY LIKE SEX A LOT!  🙂   When men ask what I want, it’s tough to answer because it varies so much!  My short answer is… “I like men.  And sex.”  Some days a back rub seems like heaven.  Other days I want to be shoved face down on the bed and fucked until I am screaming and sweating.  Most days, I want a conversation… hours long, punctuated by a kiss… a touch…. laughing… sucking… more talking… moaning… soaring… Can you help me with that? 
 I crave the basics – holding hands, a back rub, kissing, being touched by a man who knows what a G-spot is and how to find it with his fingers while he’s licking my clit.  I want a man who knows a breast is more than a nipple and uses his hands and mouth over the entire surface.  I want different positions – doggie, deck chair, side by side, me riding… I dream about shower shenanigans.  I am willing to “teach” and “be taught” as the AM boxes say. 
I don’t know what “wild” or “kinky” is anymore.  I used to think anything but missionary in the mostly dark was kinky.  Now almost everything seems “normal” to me.  I have to laugh when men ask, with great care…. “Would you do… doggie?”  Heh.  Of course!  “Would you… you know… touch me?”  “Could we leave the lights on?”  That makes me so sad that the woman in their life has made that seem exotic.  And challenges me to grab them and suck every chance I get!  
Toys… I have a box of five!  A friend talked me into buying them when Amazon had a sale, and I thought they’d enhance things with a man.  But I haven’t had a chance.  Would you explore with me? 
Yikes… what a hussy I am today.  Hope I haven’t been too forward.  Life is short.  🙂 
Looking forward to this evening!  
-Sassy
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Apr 1, 2014 2:37 PM 
Re: A connection
Hi Sassy,
I moved around a lot for different reasons.  When I was younger it was because my wife and I were hard-core “hippies.”  Lived in communes out West, all over New England, “group houses”–sex and drugs (mostly hallucinogens–pot, hash, acid, etc…no smack, coke, meth or hard stuff like that) and rock ‘n roll.  
Later–I moved because of work.  I don’t drink because I’m a recovered alcoholic.  Last drink I had was January 1993–and I hope to die sober.  You can drink if you like–doesn’t bother or tempt me at all.  If I pick up again I’ll either be dead or in jail (been in jail–not going back there).  I was a “very scary man” back then–separated from wife 2X, lots of “bad ass” behavior–and did some jail time for 3 DUIs.  
Which leads to whether I’ve had affairs before.   Both times when I was separated from my wife I had affairs with women.  But mostly the women were “drinking buddies”–and partying and drinking at the worst, bad-ass bars in town was our main “entertainment.”  We fucked too–but it was almost “secondary” to drinking (if that makes any sense).
I haven’t been with anyone but my wife in 25 years…so this will be completely different than those “affairs” in the past.  Today I’m a gentle, good, and sober man.  BUT—there’s still that “bad boy who’s wild” who wants to come out and play.  (Oh yeah–then there’s the brand new $33,000 Harley I’m having delivered to a storage shed on Friday–because my wife doesn’t know about THAT yet.  I’ve told a few people about it–and they’ve all said the same thing.  “You’re a fool and a dead man.”  Oh well—there’s that “bad boy” again.)  Call it a mid-life crisis–or whatever you want.  Just want to express some of it in bed with a woman who loves sex.
 By the way–all your descriptions of sex sound like great variety!—-and a lot of fun!  Honestly—I’ll be a little nervous if we get there— but I have a feeling you’ll “put me at ease” very quickly.
Well–if all that “over-self-disclosure” didn’t scare the hell out of you….chat with you later…
Kris
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From: Sassy
To: Kris 
Sent: Apr 1, 2014 10:33 PM
Subject: The black
Here’s my famous cleavage.  🙂 
[photo – you know the one!] 
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Apr 1, 2014 10:34 PM
Subject: Opening night

Here I am dressed up to go out about two years ago.  Look the same, just long hair now. 

Kris Kringle

Monday, March 31, 2014 
I didn’t hear from “Santa Claus” later on Saturday.  Or Sunday.  Or early Monday.  I started to give up.  How could I be the only one who was so excited and felt this great sense of urgency? 
I told the folks in chat how excited I was by this guy that looked like Santa Claus, and asked them to think good thoughts.  They told me I could NOT nickname him Santa.  Ha!  I asked if “Kris Kringle” could work and they allowed as how, if I mostly used Kris, that would be fine.  So here we are.  
Finally, late-afternoon Monday I got another message from AM saying he had written.  Hooray!  I logged in to read it! 
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From: Kris 
To: Sassy 
Monday, Mar 31, 2014 1:46 pm 
Message:
Hi Sassy, 
Wow! That’s the most detailed reply ever (which I liked!) To answer your questions: 
1) Lived in NH for over 10 years. Mostly lived in New England with some spells in the West and Midwest.  Age 19 married my 16-y.o. girlfriend. Moved out west for a few years then back. Wife got pregnant but shortly after that she divorced me. I remarried to wife of 30+ years. 
2) I have grown children, grandchildren, 1 cat, some fish. 
3) Mostly “something at home, WANT SOMETHING ELSE.” Probably looking to have an affair due to “boredom” and my most recent “mid-life crisis.” I want to “cut loose and act a little wild” (without getting in trouble or hurting anyone). So I stopped listening to classical music–and listen to classic rock. The brand new Harley I just bought (which my wife doesn’t know about yet) cost $33k–more than I’ve ever paid for a car. These are signs of a man having a mid-life crisis (or lost his mind–take your pick). 
4) Communicate in all ways: email, text, IM/chat, phone—whatever you like. I DEFINITELY know how to cover my tracks!!!! 
5) Don’t know if you’d call this a “fantasy”—or just “what I’m hoping for.” I’m hoping for A WOMAN WHO REALLY LIKES SEX A LOT. I envy women’s ability to have multiple orgasms. Men have to “wait” after they get off. I have great stamina and self-control. So unless we decided otherwise (on occasion)–usually I’d want you to get off first. But even after I cum I’d be happy to “keep working on you”—if you want more. I’m hoping you would—because I’m ready “to play as long as you like.” Speaking of “playing”—have any toys you like to use? 
Like to talk more–if you’d like. (“Hugs with groping” made me laugh–which is a good thing!)

Kris

A New Man from NH

Saturday, March 29, 2014

So… it gets to be a month since I’ve seen the NH Man… and he shows no sign of wanting to meet again.  It seems fair to give up after a month?  I am getting really frustrated!  I need to be touched!  But I don’t want to put myself out there again.

Then Ashley Madison sends me an email mid-afternoon.  A man has written me a message.  They say that whether the guy “winked” or “made you a favorite” or wrote an actual message.  But they don’t tell you what or show you the message.  Of course, I have to log in to see it.  They used to send the message but now it’s all about the clicks.

I’ve been getting a lot of these emails, but no actual messages.  I dutifully go look at the guy’s profile anyway and… I dunno.  No one interests me.  They don’t write enough for me to tell.  Or they write way too much about role playing and one-night stands.  Or there are 10 typos in the three sentences they wrote.  *sigh

The email shows the stats from his profile and a photo.  His profile name is fine – something like FreeSpirit77.  Doesn’t mean much, but it’s way better than the Best69-4U or BigSchlongUdig guys.

I stare at the photo.  It’s a color photo of the back of a man steering a boat.  Not a cropped photo with his arm around a woman barely cut out or a strange selfie with a mask photoshopped over his eyes, but a great photo of a man and a body of water on a beautiful day!  I am not into boating but he has nice shoulders.

I read that over the stats:

Age: 62
Location: [Small Town], New Hampshire, United States
Height: 5’10” (178cm)
Weight: 190 lbs (86kg) – A few extra pounds
My Limits Are: Something Long Term
Status: Attached Male seeking Females
Gender: Male

Ethnicity: Caucasian (white)

Hmm… 62.  That’s about the same age as the NH Man.  Age doesn’t mean much to me, except that I’ve had good luck with older men.  It probably means he is a couple years older, at least.

Another NH Man?  Never heard of the town.  I check Google Maps for the location.  It’s about an hour away.  That sounds perfect.  Not the coast but near the big highways.  He probably lives somewhere around there.  Most men pick the swankiest town near where they live, so they don’t give away their true location, and sound better than they are.

Hmmm… I ask for men 6’0.  He’s close…

190 pounds?  That seems skinny to me.

Something long term?  Nice.  Please let it be true!  Men think women want to see that so they say it no matter what their real goals are.

Attached.  Good.  I don’t deal with single men.  They have odd expectations.

And he is male.  I like those!

Ethnicity: White… fine.  Whatever.  Most of the men on AM are.

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So… definitely worth a look.  I logged on to AM and read his profile.

No checkboxes!  Yay!  He wrote three complete paragraphs with no typos!  He sounded wonderful.  It had me smiling and nodding, even giggled a bit.  It went something like this:

Preferences and encounters I am open to:
I like most of the check boxes. (Not all–I’m not into pain, and you’ll never see me in your underwear. Hope you have a sense of humor.) I’m an unselfish lover and good listener to what you like and want. I’m open to many things–but only what my partner’s interested in and comfortable with. I have high stamina. Your sexual pleasure and satisfaction are very important to me. Let’s get to know each other a little. If we’re a good match–the sex will be good.
What really turns me on:
I need to like you as a person to enjoy you in intimate ways. I want to get to know you. The main thing is just be yourself. If we like each other–we like each other. If we don’t–well, we keep looking.
What I am looking for:
“The thrill is gone”–so looking for a woman to get some of it back with. Not looking to change my situation or hurt anyone. I’m an intelligent, fun-loving, down-to-earth, man looking for a woman who’s fun to be with, easy to talk to, has a good sense of humor, and is looking to get some “lost passion” back in her life. To see what I look like ask for for the Key to my Private Showcase. We could meet for drinks, a cup of coffee, or even lunch or dinner (my treat)–just to see if there’s a spark there or not. Don’t feel we need to like EVERYTHING the same–and we may just not have time. But if time allows–I enjoy boating, downhill skiing, working out, camping, music, museums, arts, motorcycle, concerts, some sports, theater, shows, eating out–a wide variety of things. Don’t drink but am fine with a social drinker. Prefer a non-smoker–but as long as I don’t have to “practically smoke it with you” in an enclosed area–I can live with it. (Here’s where I show my flexibility–and where you need a sense of humor.)

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Wow.  I like this guy!  And I could be the woman he describes.  Interesting how he gives a woman clear indication of what he wants, what can happen, what he’s like.  I was eager to read his first message to me. 
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5:06 pm via AM 
Message:
Hi, Your profile sounds very appealing–both your description of your personality and alluring physical features. I’m a little older than you (8 years to be exact). But don’t count me out based on that. I have a GREAT PASSION for life, LOTS of energy, LOTS of STAMINA in bed–and workout regularly to stay fit. I’m just a little shorter than you say you prefer (5’10”)–but I’m in great shape for my age. I’m giving you my Key for access to my Showcase so you can see what I look like. I like eating at a variety of restaurants–plus enjoy doing many other things as well. Contact me if interested in getting to know me a little. I’d love to treat you to lunch or dinner–just to see if there’s that important “chemistry” needed to move forward. No pressure and no expectations–just a friendly, low-key lunch or dinner. Although I live in southern NH–I work in MA M-F. Traveling to your area  is easy for me. My name is: [redacted]
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Wow!  What a great message!  I wanted to write back!  I wanted to know more!  He sounds so… real.  I don’t usually start with a longer message, but he made me want to use every single letter of the 2,000 characters AM will allow.  
I noticed he had already given me access to his photo.  There was a great one of his smile!  It made me feel like he would be a lot of fun.  And make my day better.  He had white hair and beard and looked like… a skinny Santa Claus!  Ho ho ho!

I set about crafting a message with random questions to learn more about him, and a few more tidbits about me.  
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6:52 pm via AM
Message:
Hiya [first name redacted], 
Thanks for getting in touch!  How are you this murky afternoon?  You brightened my day with your great smile and wonderful words.  I adore your profile without the checkboxes.  Thank you for your kind offer of a meal.  Please talk to me just a bit more before I decide?  Here’s five quick questions: 
1) Have you always lived in NH?  I was raised in upstate NY, came here for college and stayed. 
2) Do you have kids?  Pets?  I don’t have children but am owed by two cats.  
3) What brings you to AM?  Are you the “nothing at home, need something” type?  Or “something at home, need something else?”  Or “more more more!”  
4) iPhone or Android?  I’m Apple with my computers, Android on the smartphone.  I can email, text, chat, calls… whatever works best.  Tell me you know how to cover your tracks? 
5) Say more about your sexual wishes.  A favorite fantasy?  I’ve run into the man wearing panties, the dom, sub… even a man who wanted to listen to me in the bathroom! Nice men but I could not help them.  I am not vanilla… let’s say butter pecan?  I want variety, exploration, equal shares of you do things, I do things, we do  things. I read a lot of sexy and watch videos and want to experiment!  No pain beyond a gentle bite or a slight spank.  Men say I am the best kisser ever, but you’ll have to decide.  
Here’s more about me:
I’ve been told I’m the nicest woman ever, a great sense of humor, discreet, no drama… just looking for fun and passion and a confidante. Is that you?  Age doesn’t matter to me.  If you’re ready to hug a big, tall woman, I’m fine with your height. Thanks for saying you can get down here.  I’m an office manager. I help run a community project in my spare time.  Hubby and I are great friends, but no sex. I beat cancer three years ago. I’m whole and healthy now, but want to live life to the fullest! 
What else would you like to know?  I want to be sure I don’t waste your time.  
Hugs with groping! 
-Sassy
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And now I wait… will he write back?!  Please please please…