Shaved or not?

Tuesday, November 19, 2013
From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 11:17 AM
Subject: Re: Connection
Good morning Sassy,
I will get back to you with a more detailed reply later when I can get to my computer. If you think you would like to meet, I will be in your area early Friday evening. I have to pick up wifey. I would be open to meeting after work for a coffee/drink whatever. 
You can check to see if I’m wearing women’s clothes or have horns growing out of my head. Let me know a place that would be comfortable for that has a place to park and I could meet you. What do you think Sassy? Up for it?  Sounds pretty harmless to me. 
Tom
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 1:44 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
I’m at the beach place right now. Stopped by for lunch. It is beautiful here this afternoon. Not too cold but windy and incredible sunshine. Good for my vitamin D production….  Catch you later. 
Tom

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From: Sassy
To: NH Man 
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 3:56 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
Hiya Tom!   Now you’ve got me thinking about your underwear and… more.  Yum.  Boxers?  Briefs?  Boxer briefs? 
 Friday might work.  Would the [redacted] mall be okay or is that too far in town?  It has
 underground parking for pretty cheap or spots around the streets if you bring quarters.  They have a Starbucks, restaurants, food court.  What time is good? 
So envious of your beach lunch!

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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 6:28 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
Ha ha colored briefs. Why?  Does anyone really care about that?  I wear them cause they are comfortable and I get the colored ones because I don’t have wash them in bleach. Lol. 
The mall is good. I drive right past there. What time can you get there after work?  I’m off so it doesn’t matter to me. 

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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 6:37 PM
Subject: Re: Connection

Hi Sassy,
I’m home now.  Making chicken and broccoli and brown rice for dinner.  It is cooking now while I’m writing to you.
I do work in a crappy office some of the time but most of the time I’m out on the road.  I have a techie kind of job.  I’m much happier out on the road.  In the winter I’m often stuck in the office.  Pays the bills.  
I got an offer to retire early.  One years pay to go away in addition to my regular pension.  They didn’t have to ask me twice.  The only catch is they asked me to stay until July so they can do the Vulcan mind meld thing and suck my brain dry before I leave.  But after 7/1 I’m free to sail off into the sunset.
The Seacoast is kind of a hidden gem once you get off of Route 1 and head for the beach area.    I actually live further north and inland.  I just started renting the beach condo at the end of the summer.  Long story I may share with you if we ever take one of those long drives….
I don’t have one favorite day trip.  I love driving around Lake Winnipesaukee on my motorcycle.  I love the ride to Gloucester, Rockport and Magnolia on my bike too.  Lately my favorite day trip is Ogunquit and walking along Marginal Way.  There is a great breakfast place there called Amore.  I will tell you the name of my secret beach if you tell me yours…. OK I’m easy it is Parson’s Beach in Kennebunk, ME.  I never go to the south shore.  Too much to do up this way.  I used to go to the Cape but got out of the habit because of the traffic issues.
All of those foods sound great. Especially Chinese food.
I like to be pleased but I also like to return the pleasure.  I enjoy making a woman relax and let go to enjoy her orgasm without worrying about getting me off.  Plenty of time for that when it is my turn to lie back and be pleasured.  Then of course it is always fun to play together.  Different styles for different moods.  There is no one right way for anything just lots of variations on similar themes.  
The wife and I have had issues for many years.  I started to leave and planned to divorce many years ago but a sick child put that on hold and things just festered for years.  We had a blowout this spring and I made plans to file for divorce again which is why I moved out to the beach.  Yet again family drama with one of our daughters who still lives with me (and her kids) screwed it up again.  Right now I’m in Limbo- half beach – half at home.  
Wife lives in Boston but often comes to our house on weekends.  We have not had a sex life for years.  She knows I have “special friends” but I do not throw it in the family’s face.  My outside life is private.  I just say I’m going out or staying at the beach and no questions are asked.  She told me a couple of weeks ago that an open marriage was better than no marriage for her at this point in our lives.  So the jury is still out on that situation.  
Hence, I am not really looking for anything more than GOOD friends /Bennies.  Looking to fill a void in my life not make a new life.  I am not jealous in this kind of no-strings situation but I would expect fidelity in a committed relationship.  No harems for me.  I have enough trouble making time for one woman.  Besides I think it is wise to limit the number of sex partners to keep things disease free.  Don’t really need those kind of problems.  I shy away from women who are screwing multiple guys because it much too risky.  What about you?  You having sex with multiple guys?  Hope not.  Bad for your health.
Like I said earlier – I have to pick up the wife Friday night sometime in Boston if you want to have a quick meet and “feel each other out”   oooohhhh sounds good to me.  Maybe just coffee lol.
Take care,

Tom
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 10:38 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
Now you’ve got me thinking about….  shaved or not shaved?  There is no absolute answer.  Both have their appeal.  I’m even intrigued by women who don’t shave their pits or have “happy trails”.  I am not attracted to hairy legs though.  Even I have my limits of kinkiness.
I stop there for lunch maybe every other day.  Not sure if I am going to keep the place or just move back home.  It was just supposed to be a winter rental until the divorce went through then I was going to move into GF’s place.  GF wanted me to get the place because it drove her crazy that I was staying at my house when wifey was there from time to time.  Even though I did not even touch her.  
Shortly after I got the place, GF bailed because of her overwhelming guilt.  Sucked for me left holding the bag.  Wifey thinks that is a regular whore house with hoards of women there 24/7.  LOL I should be so lucky but not really my thing.  I just need 1 compatible sex partner to keep me satisfied.  No need for a harem. 😉
If Friday is no good don’t worry about it.  I am down there often so we could do it another time.  No worries.  If you can make it then great.  Do you drive or are you an MBTA girl?  Would you be up for driving up to the beach sometime or do you hate driving by yourself?  What about over nighters-  is that possible for you or would it push the limits at home?  Is it possible for you to host or is hubby there all the time?  I could not host at home.  Too many kids around here.  Just could host at the beach place.  Just trying to fill in the possibilities…
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From: Sassy
To: NH Man
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013, at 11:32 PM
Subject:  Re: Connection
How fun that you’re thinking!  I am not shaved.  I lost that hair during chemo… interesting sensitivity.  It came back in soft and sparse, and I do not want to shave.  I know it’s all the rage in porn but not for me.  I’ve only been with natural unshaven men.  I like to play with the hair and not have a guy who looks prepubescent!  I never heard of a man shaving except gay men until I started learning about two years ago.  I usually shave the pits and legs, even if I do live in Boston! 
It’s fine to explore logistics, great that you think of it.   I mostly drive, do all the driving when we adventure.  I can do overnight.  Hubby does.  I haven’t hosted at home… but I have been thinking about it.  Could coordinate with when H stays out.  Are you allergic to cats? 
-S
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, November 19, 2013 11:37 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
There are cats & dogs at my house so not a problem. 
I could do 5:15. Let me know where to meet.
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Questioning NH Man

Monday, November 18, 2013
From: Sassy
To: NH Man
Sent: Monday, Nov 18, 2013, at 8:35 AM
Subject: Re: Connection 
Good morning! Happy Monday! Hope it’s a great day for you.
-S
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy 
Sent: Monday, November 18, 2013 8:44 AM
Subject: Re: Connection
Thanks Sassy. I am at work living the dream and anticipate a great day. Hope you have a spectacular day too. Tim
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From: Sassy
To: NH Man
Sent: Monday, Nov 18, 2013, at 1:21 PM
Subject: Re: Connection 
Hiya!  Thanks for your note – it made my morning! 
I can’t believe how warm it is.  I’m looking out my office window wondering why I am here and not at the beach!  Do you work in an office?  I have a corner spot in an open office with a bunch of other people.  
The NH Seacoast is a mystery to me.  Sounds like a hidden gem!  We often go on a coastal drive, looking for a beach to walk and a restaurant with a view.  I have a google map with 6 different days trips including the run up to Maine through Salisbury/Hampton/Rye/Portsmouth/Ogunquit.  I’ve discovered beautiful places in 
1) Tiverton RI 
2) Sandwich
3) Scituate
4) Gloucester/Rockport 
5) Marblehead 
It’s so fun to explore and then relax in beautiful place outside the city.  Perhaps I can show you the “secret beach” I found one day.  Do you have favorite day trip?  If I had a beach condo, I might not go anywhere else!
Do you have a favorite meal, say if I took you out for your birthday?  Lobster casserole is my all-time favorite, but I like everything from a great steak to Thai, Chinese, Vietnamese… or a traditional Irish breakfast!  
I never thought I’d be a city gal.  I grew up in a very small town that was a fish bowl for me.  I adored it then, but now relish being able to go to the grocery store without someone calling my mother to tell her I talked to the handsome cashier!   I adore the restaurants. My family has migrated here.   My mom had open heart surgery in May, and a stroke in the midst of recovery, so it’s been an interesting summer watching over her.  
Thank you very much for saying you’re a regular guy!  Do you have sex with your wife?  Does she know about your adventures?  Do you usually have one woman at a time or a harem going?  I am not a jealous person – if a man is nice to me when we’re together, I don’t think about what he does otherwise as long as he stays safe.  I like to hear stories and learn from others experiences.
I am wired to please a man, and I have learned a lot in the past fews years – read a lot of sexy blogs, watched p0rn, listened in chat rooms for cheaters – and been brave enough to say what I want matters, that certain things are not for me.  I like variety – sometimes soft and sweet and slow, other days fast and hard, different positions – and experimenting to see if I like things I haven’t tried.  I like equal time – you do stuff, I do stuff, we do stuff!  It has been tough to get to know AM men and be ready to be alone when they admit they need things to get off that I can not do, especially along the lines of exhibitionism, humiliation and pain.  Sorry!  NO!  But I am very into things that I hear many women won’t do or allow to be done, and the “regular guys” have been very happy and made me soar!  
I am thinking about meeting… what it might be like.  What’s your usual plan? 
Tell me your stories, Tom.
 -S

NH Moon Rising

November 17, 2013 Sunday
From: Sassy
To: NH Man
Sent: Sunday, Nov 17, 2013, at 12:25 PM
Subject: Connection 
Hiya Tom!  Thanks for your email address.  This is so much better than the strange AM interface. 
You are intriguing me… so many things you wrote stuck a positive note with me! A text to make your day?  I’d like to be the one to do that.  I like knowing about your life, sharing mine, sending smiles and salacious suggestions!  Visiting me, the beach, nights, weekends, Fridays… Yes!  I work 9-5, but get lots of time off, and I can do nights or weekends easily.  I know your “real life” comes first, but if there a little time for fun, food and passion… let’s take a chance.  
I go by Sassy.  That’s the fun part of me!  
-S
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Sunday, Nov 17, 2013, at 12:33 PM
Subject: re: Connection 
Ok Sassy it is. I am pleased that you are intrigued and that I’ve struck a chord with you. You have with me also. You seem like a “make lemonade with lemons” kind of person. We should try to meet before we get all caught up in the holiday chaos. Feel free to write any time. Yahoo is on my phone so it easily accessible for me. Where would you like to meet? Can’t wait to start working on that list!!!
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Sunday, Nov 17, 2013, at 1:08 PM
Subject: My little beach near sunset

[This is not the photo he sent but a similar one]
Rye NH Full Moon Rising Over the Ocean 
By Jay McGillicuddy
http://www.nhviewfinders.com/tag/full-moon-in-nh/
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From: Sassy 
To: NH Man
Sent: Sunday, November 17, 2013 2:43 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
Hiya Tom, 
Oh my!  What a beautiful beach photo!  Thank you for sharing.  I want to pull a “Mary Poppins” and step right into that scene.  There is something about the waves and the sand that restores my soul.  I often escape to Gloucester to stroll on Good Harbor Beach or Wingaersheek, then eat lobster.  ðŸ™‚ 
Were you raised in MA?  I started life in upstate NY but came here for school and never left.  I have traveled a lot but am never tempted to move anywhere else!  
I’m sorry to say I’ve had some bad experiences meeting AM men, so it makes me a little slow in agreeing to meet.  Let me poke around in your head for a day or two first?  I’ve run into everything – doms, subs, men who wanted to hear me um… in the bathroom, and even a man wearing ladies underwear!  More power to them, just… not my scene.  I’m not vanilla. Let’s say… butter pecan!  Whatever… just not into a lot of kink.  
Since you were so kind to share photos, here is one of me.  It’s from 2012 but I look almost the same except my hair is much longer.  After I lost it all to cancer, I have the urge never to cut it again!  
-S
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From: NH Man
To: Sassy
Sent: Sunday, Nov 17, 2013, at 8:15 PM
Subject: Re: Connection
Hi Sassy,
That beach is across the street from the house I’m renting.  Very quiet there because it is mostly private parking.  There is public access but most people go to further north instead.  I love Good Harbor Beach.  Have spent some wonderful days and nights there.
I did grow up in MA.  I had a Vespa scooter when I was 15 and would often ride into Boston and Cambridge with my buddy.  Spent my wayward youth in the Kenmore area.  Knew lots of student nurses hospitals in the area.  It was a great place to grow up in the 70’s.  Lots of clubs and fun.  I left to go to college and ended up living in New Hampshire on the Seacoast.  It is a great place to be.  I love to visit Boston but not sure I could put up with constant stream of traffic and people.  I like in small doses.
I have met some nice people at AM and a couple of losers too.  There do seem to be lots of people here with too much baggage.  We all have baggage to carry but some don’t seem to be able to leave some of the excess baggage behind.  I do try to remain upbeat.  I am a very regular guy so you need not worry too much about me chaining you up in the bathroom- unless you really wanted me to.  But you have to talk me into it.  Butter Pecan is fine with me.  I have my little kinks to but nothing too over the top.  I try not to be judgmental about what people are into but of course I have limits that I can’t cross.  I think sex is more mental than physical if you are doing it right.  You can poke around my head all you need to.  You may hear a little bit of an echo at times…
Thanks for sharing also.  Feel free to share more!
Take care,
Tom

Three mgs and two pix

November 16, 2013 Saturday
I woke up to THREE messages from the NH Man!  And the key to his photos.  I was a good girl – I read his messages first. 
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Date:  Nov 16th – 1:29am
From:  biker2013
Message:
Hi Sassy, I started to reply this morning from my phone but the AM mobile app is kind of klunky. I will try again now from my laptop…. The nicest woman ever… what else could I want???? I am happy to hear that you are healthy and whole after your ordeal. I can’t even imagine how difficult your treatment was. Stay well. I would love to come down to see you. We could meet for coffee or whatever. What kind of availability do you have? I work during most week days but usually have Fridays off. I have availability on evenings and weekends. I plan on retiring this summer which opens up lots of free time for me. Wifey lives in Boston most of the time but comes up to NH on some weekends. I come down to see her from time to time. My daughter and her children live with me so hosting here is not an option but I do have a beach condo which is nice and quiet for private getaways…. and strolls on the beach. My email is [redacted]@yahoo.com which works better for me on my phone than AM site so feel free to contact me there. Or we could use text on the phones. I look forward to getting texts. They are like nice little surprises to brighten our day. You seek a confidant. I love that. It sounds so classy. It is nice to have a confidant. I am a good listener and you will not find me to be judgmental so you can feel at ease to confide in me. Time to get to bed now. BTW what is your first name? Take care, Tom
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Date:  Nov 16th – 1:36am
From:  biker2013
Message:
LOL so much for no typos- confidante. My eyes are even worse than my spelling. Oh well, we all have some flaws 😉
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Date:  Nov 16th – 9:34am
From:  biker2013
Message:
Good morning Sassie, I suppose what I am looking for most is a really great friend friend. A really great friend who is tall and cuddly and open to passionate sex is even better. We all need enough cuddling and skin to skin time to keep us on an even keel. The sex part for me is the icing on the cake. It can’t always be the main goal. Sometimes just a text or phone call is enough to really brighten my day! However, if you happened to call and say “Please come right down and ravish me…. I really need it” of course that would make my day too. Have a good day Tom
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Interesting…. writes well.  Nice sense of humor.  I want what he wants and I like how he describes it.  Sounds down-to-earth. 
So I click open his photos.  There’s the web cam shot of his face, taken with him sitting peering into the computer.  He has white hair (Hair!) and a white beard.  A nice face.  Then there’s one of him on his motorcycle.  Hmm…. they scare me.  He should find someone who wants to ride with him.  But it is November, so with any luck, I won’t have to face that until April!   He looks good in a leather jacket and jeans… has a nice body… burly.  Yum.  
But still… do I want to go through all this again?  I decided to think about it.  Go off to Mom’s for lunch.  Look at his messages and photos again later… then decide.  I feel a little evil making him wait but… I need a little time.

A NH man writes!

November 14, 2013

So… I’m twitchy.  It’s been over two months since my meet with The Lawyer in early September.  And I am getting really twitchy.   Sure, I’ve kept busy with some delightful men online and a couple of delicious blow jobs in my car, but damn it – I need more!

I am doubting whether I can find what I want on Ashley Madison… so far I’ve had 14 first meets, and one second meet a year later!  And a bunch of email kings.  Guilt kings.  Doms, subs, the guy in ladies underwear, and the one who wanted to listen to me take a shit!  Whee!  And I haven’t heard from anyone lately anyway.  I need to do something different but I don’t know what.   Where can I find a man to have sex with long-term??

So of course, after weeks of silence on AM, I got a short note on a Thursday afternoon.  I read it on my phone during a late lunch.

Date:  Nov 14th – 2:10pm
From:  biker2013
Message:
Hello Sassy! Interested in the “finding what’s missing” part you talked about. The search is half the fun but I will know what’s missing when I find it. Interested in searching together? You might like it. I’m a cuddly touchy feelee kinda guy. No stress or drama from me. Just FWB but the friend part is imortant to me. Take care, Tom
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Hunh… another guy named Tom.  Not a free wink or a favorite… a real message!  And he read my profile – quoted from it.  A couple of typos.  What does “biker” mean?  Trail bike?  Motorcycle?

But it’s enough to make me go look at his profile.  If he spent money, I should at least read his profile. 

  • He says 59… probably 62 or so.  Whatever.  Fine. 
  • He’s says New Hampshire.  Hunh.  I haven’t met an AM man from there.  And along the seacoast!  Nice.  It’s not that far from Boston.  Maybe an hour?  
  • 6″ 240 pounds.  “Full sized.”  Sounds great! 
  • Limits: Anything Goes.  Okay… much better than all those “Undecided” dudes. 
  • He clicked 6 checkboxes.  None of them about sex.   No text.  Huh.  Well… as Riff Dog would say, “Nothing to object to!” 
It certainly made me curious to learn more.  I thought about him all afternoon, then wrote him back just before I left work.  

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Date:  Nov 14th – 5:02pm
From:  Sassy
Message:
Hiya Tom! How are you this fine evening? Thanks for your message!  I’d adore exploring with you. I’ve been told I’m the nicest woman ever, a great communicator, very discreet, no drama… looking for fun and passion and a confidante. Is that you? If you’re ready to hug a big, tall woman, here I am! Would you pop down here to see me? I’m an office manager. I help run a community project in my spare time.  I’ve been married 17 years, no kids, two cats. We’re great friends, but no sex for years, so cuddly sounds really good to me. I beat cancer two years ago. I’m whole and healthy now, but want to live life to the fullest! What else can I tell you that would make you want to join in the fun? Tell me more about you? What sort of fun do you have in mind? Let’s figure out if we can find something great together. -Sassy
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Date:  Nov 14th – 5:09pm
From:  biker2013
Message:
Thanks for writing back. On the road now will get back to you over the weekend. Interested in getting to know you soon.
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He wrote right back!  I adore that!  Yay!  I was riding in the car when it arrived… read it sitting at a stoplight while Hubby talked about what to pick up for supper.

But he doesn’t have time to reply properly?  What? Why did you message me if you’re on the road?  I am hot to trot and…. grrr… now I have to wait until the weekend?!  Ugh.  I decided this called for a polite answer and nothing more.  Harrumph.

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Date:  Nov 14th – 5:53pm
From:  Sassy
Message:
Great! Safe travels!