January 1, 2013
Happy New Year!
I am feeling a little better this morning – regrouping, taking stock of where I am and trying to figure out where I am going. I feel done with Ashley Madison but don’t see a clear alternative. Here’s a quick summary of my contacts since I joined AM in mid-September:
- 10 men contacted me that I replied to
- 6 Met
- 3 Had sex with (2 good, one bad)
- 8 Gone
- 2 Still talking (Mr Truck and Panties Man)
Month Met Status Comments
September
#1 No Gone Guilt king, stood me up
The Lawyer Once Gone Regular guy, so sweet, too busy to cheat
Dancing Man Once Gone Regular guy, One and done without a word
Panties Man Once Active Kinky, sweet, too busy to cheat
The Professor Once Gone Vanilla, erudite, lunch and silence
October
Mr Truck No Active Email king, porn king, kinky
November
Speedy Once Gone Selfish, shorter, thinner, one and done
Period Man No Gone Too many periods!
December
SmoothGuy No Gone Nice guy, said he won’t cheat
Volt Once Gone Great guy, generous, guilty
Why would someone be on AM if they aren’t ready to play?
Good question, Dik. I have two theories.
1) They like the idea, the fantasy… but when it gets real, they can’t deal.
2) They don’t want to play with me. Which seems more likely when their profile is still on AM weeks or months later.
I would have say your experiences have paralleled mine.
Interestingly, my #1 (not from AM however) just sent an email “checking in” for the new year. I ask myself “why now”? He left the picture after meeting for lunch once and with a similar “I hope you find what you are looking for” message.
On a more uplifting note, my final AM contact and I are a thing for a year and a half. We consider ourselves lucky.
Good to know it’s not just me, ISOV. The men do get back in touch, and at the oddest moments! Great to hear you’ve found a longer-term man! Gives me hope.
When you think of how many guys you dated until you found someone you wanted to marry then those numbers actually look pretty good. We get way to anxious on AM about failure. I sounds corny but failure does really mean you are one step closer to finding the right person.
I’d count yourself a success. And just think of all the blogging material those guys gave you! You should be thankful! 🙂
Very good point Ryan! Thanks for the pep talk. It’s tempting to say, “I wish I could’ve avoided that one, or that one,” but I have enjoyed getting to know each man and learned something that makes me more fun with the next one!
“these are the memories that make me a wealthy soul…”
Bob Seger (Traveling Man)