Here’s another wonderful edition of “Sassy Answers” where I try to answer a question from one of my sweet readers instead of brightening Phil’s day. We have a real doozy for you today!
Q. How much sex is enough?
A. I don’t know but I would like to find out!
This is a very tricky question. And I don’t know the answer.
I had sex nine times in a weekend with a boyfriend in college and still felt ready for more! Phil and I had 39 hours together the first time we reconnected and I definitely wished I had woken him up in the middle of the night more than I did.
On the other hand, I went without it for over 10 years and only missed it a couple of times a year. It is only recently, since Phil showed me how much fun it can be, that I am aching so badly. I dream of a day when my fairy tale comes true – Phil leaves his wife and asks me to come to him and we live sexily ever after! But we know those things don’t really happen.
Many people can’t believe that I subsist on having sex with Phil so infrequently. I point out that it is way more than I had before I met him! And we are in contact almost every day and have sexy chats, as you can see here. Sure, I’d like to have sex more often, but…
Several people suggest that I work on a local option. I am mostly a “one man woman” so that doesn’t feel right to me. They say I should look for “Mr. Right Now” while I am waiting to see “Mr. Right” again. Problem is, there is no “Mr. Interested!” They tell me to put myself out there. It’s not like I am turning down local offers. Literally no one in my real life has ever flirted, much less asked me out. I’ve already explained why I don’t do online dating. But I will keep looking!
How often do you think you would have to have sex before it was “enough?” Once a day and twice on Sundays? Once a week? Once a month? I know it varies a lot, and is often a major subject of tension in marriages. Several people I know are keeping a wife and a girlfriend happy, and still have time to brighten my life with a flirty email or sexy phone call! Bless them.
So speak up! How much sex is enough? Is there such a thing? Have you ever had enough sex?
With the right partner, there is NEVER enough sex! Personally with the right partner and the reality of work, family life, etc. my perfect world would be to awake to sex, get the day started right. Some flirty texts or just touch base phone calls during the day with a hint of more later and then a good night orgasm. So that would be 2x/day in a perfect world.
Thanks for the delicious answer! Though the way my life is, it sounds like a pipe dream. But what a dream!
I agree with my friend above–morning and evening sex is optimal! And for the record, I’m starting to live out the fairy tale. I hope it lasts and I know I’m one of the lucky few!
Oh, how I wish… So glad to get an update from you! And such good news! Yay! Everyone has been wondering. If you ever want to do a guest post with your news, my blog can be yours for a day. Hugs to you and A.
Tough question for sure. I feel like a woman’s libido, while of course hormonal, is also more reactive than a man’s. i.e., the more sex she has the more she wants it, the less sex she has the less she wants it.
For me, I don’t know how to even answer this cause I can’t think of a time I would turn it down.
A friend of mine had a girlfriend that he fucked basically all morning. He said after awhile he had had enough, but who knows maybe he just needed a break!